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Post by jt2378 on Jan 7, 2020 19:01:37 GMT -6
Happy New Year friends! It’s been quiet around these parts. How is everyone?
Same old here, just battling constant sickness with the girls, I hate wishing away time but this sucks every winter. We are just getting over some crazy high fever virus.
What’s going on with you all?
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Post by ttcbabyj on Jan 7, 2020 21:49:45 GMT -6
We moved into a new place (a tiny apartment), until our forever home is built. The front door lever opens all locks (bottom and top) when it’s turned. DD was riding her tricycle in the hallway and I was in the other bathroom putting some towels away. Next thing I hear DD crying for me. I walk to her room and she’s not in there so I’m walk back toward our room past the front door and I hear her OUTSIDE. I freaked out she had turned the lever and was outside. I heard the ring camera jingle, but I ignored it because we are in a moderately high traffic area in the complex. I watched her on the ring video and she was outside for 26 seconds and I just lost it. I cried so hard and long, while ordering those lever locks on Amazon. A couple of days later, DD walks toward the front door and she looks back at me and says, “mommy, I need keys.” 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️😂😂
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Post by jt2378 on Jan 8, 2020 6:27:42 GMT -6
Shit I’m sorry ttcbabyj, how terrifying! Thank god she is ok! Kids man....
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Post by billyhorrible on Jan 8, 2020 10:01:29 GMT -6
ttcbabyj we were in a third floor walk up apartment when my first was born, and that kid almost made it down the hall and to the stairs more than once. It's terrifying. I'm telling y'all, the non-mobile kid stage was the best.
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Post by billyhorrible on Jan 8, 2020 10:04:55 GMT -6
I've been back at work for over a week now, but my oldest just started back at school yesterday. It's so nice to have a quiet house, but of course work ramped up yesterday right when I should have been able to enjoy it! (I shouldn't complain, I'm thankful it was slow while he was home)
The 4yo came into our bed at some point last night, which isn't usually a huge deal, except last night he was totally restless and not sleeping so DH and I did not sleep. And instead of sleeping till 6:30 like he normally does, he was up at 5:30. We're all dragging today. An 8am meeting this morning does not help.
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Post by sheilathetank on Jan 8, 2020 10:18:13 GMT -6
We moved into a new place (a tiny apartment), until our forever home is built. The front door lever opens all locks (bottom and top) when it’s turned. DD was riding her tricycle in the hallway and I was in the other bathroom putting some towels away. Next thing I hear DD crying for me. I walk to her room and she’s not in there so I’m walk back toward our room past the front door and I hear her OUTSIDE. I freaked out she had turned the lever and was outside. I heard the ring camera jingle, but I ignored it because we are in a moderately high traffic area in the complex. I watched her on the ring video and she was outside for 26 seconds and I just lost it. I cried so hard and long, while ordering those lever locks on Amazon. A couple of days later, DD walks toward the front door and she looks back at me and says, “mommy, I need keys.” 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️😂😂 Yikes! I'm glad you found her right away!
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Post by sheilathetank on Jan 8, 2020 10:22:09 GMT -6
We survived the holidays. Everything is put away and our house looks so bare. I'm ok with it. Getting back into a routine has been very challenging and DD is testing all the boundaries. Much yelling and crying as a result.
I managed to paint the baby's room over break. It came out really well and the rug i ordered to go in there looks great. Its a small room but I still have to put the decals on the wall, which wouldn't be a problem except MH put all the baby furniture in the second the paint dried. I like his enthusiasm, but we've still got time so I don't see what the rush is about.
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Post by jt2378 on Jan 8, 2020 11:00:11 GMT -6
sheilathetank, I hear you, our house seems bare too but in a good way, lol. Yay for getting the baby's room situated. I forget, are you team green? How are you feeling?
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Post by ttcbabyj on Jan 8, 2020 11:36:33 GMT -6
ttcbabyj we were in a third floor walk up apartment when my first was born, and that kid almost made it down the hall and to the stairs more than once. It's terrifying. I'm telling y'all, the non-mobile kid stage was the best. I’m like this mobile and thinking stage is really something. When she first started to walk she was just content with walking. 🤷🏽♀️
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Post by sheilathetank on Jan 8, 2020 11:55:18 GMT -6
sheilathetank , I hear you, our house seems bare too but in a good way, lol. Yay for getting the baby's room situated. I forget, are you team green? How are you feeling? Yes I'm team green this time. I'm feeling pretty good, but I swear this pregnancy is surreal. I've been really chill about the whole thing and I don't think it's hit me that i'm going to have an actual second baby. The only times i really think about it though are when DD is being especially difficult and I'm like WTAF am I doing even considering another?!
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Post by jt2378 on Jan 8, 2020 13:24:53 GMT -6
sheilathetank , I hear you, our house seems bare too but in a good way, lol. Yay for getting the baby's room situated. I forget, are you team green? How are you feeling? Yes I'm team green this time. I'm feeling pretty good, but I swear this pregnancy is surreal. I've been really chill about the whole thing and I don't think it's hit me that i'm going to have an actual second baby. The only times i really think about it though are when DD is being especially difficult and I'm like WTAF am I doing even considering another?! I was thinking how your pregnancy seems like its flying right by but didn't want to say it because I know sometimes it doesn't feel that way to you at all when you are in the thick of it. Glad to hear you are feeling well.
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Post by cmb on Jan 8, 2020 17:42:54 GMT -6
sheilathetank , I hear you, our house seems bare too but in a good way, lol. Yay for getting the baby's room situated. I forget, are you team green? How are you feeling? Yes I'm team green this time. I'm feeling pretty good, but I swear this pregnancy is surreal. I've been really chill about the whole thing and I don't think it's hit me that i'm going to have an actual second baby. The only times i really think about it though are when DD is being especially difficult and I'm like WTAF am I doing even considering another?! I still feel this way...
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Post by sheilathetank on Jan 8, 2020 17:45:47 GMT -6
Yes I'm team green this time. I'm feeling pretty good, but I swear this pregnancy is surreal. I've been really chill about the whole thing and I don't think it's hit me that i'm going to have an actual second baby. The only times i really think about it though are when DD is being especially difficult and I'm like WTAF am I doing even considering another?! I still feel this way... Don't you have a 4 month old?? 😂😂😂
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Post by addymac on Jan 8, 2020 18:32:32 GMT -6
Sorry ladies I’ve been stuck mostly in the Royals thread all day. And ya know, working. Just same old same old here. Sleep is annoying, trying to train again, blah blah blah. N had a fever virus for the last week but he’s finally better minus a cough. I’m boring. I got new sneakers for work and I’m obsessed. I wish I could buy another pair for regular life but I’m on a no spend on unnecessary things right now. I’m going on vacation in FL in February with friends and need to save money for that. sheilathetank how far along are you??
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Post by ttcbabyj on Jan 8, 2020 19:10:41 GMT -6
sheilathetank I definitely know the feeling of being scared going from one to two. DH keeps trying to assure me that future DS could be totally different from DD and DD has time to mature more.
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Post by cmb on Jan 8, 2020 19:13:51 GMT -6
Don't you have a 4 month old?? 😂😂😂 Almost! 😂 I’ve felt this way since I was pregnant with DS2 🙈😅
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Jan 9, 2020 10:03:52 GMT -6
The baby was up every two hours last night. Dh asked if I got any sleep... I wanted to stab him. How does he sleep through the baby crying and me getting in/out of bed?
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Post by billyhorrible on Jan 9, 2020 11:18:22 GMT -6
The baby was up every two hours last night. Dh asked if I got any sleep... I wanted to stab him. How does he sleep through the baby crying and me getting in/out of bed? [br Lol. I can't remember where we were because life was so a foggy sleepless blur at the time, but DH was bragging to someone about our firstborn sleeping through the night and I looked at him like he had 3 heads. "No dear, you're the only one sleeping through the night in our home."
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Post by sheilathetank on Jan 9, 2020 11:25:29 GMT -6
Sorry ladies I’ve been stuck mostly in the Royals thread all day. And ya know, working. Just same old same old here. Sleep is annoying, trying to train again, blah blah blah. N had a fever virus for the last week but he’s finally better minus a cough. I’m boring. I got new sneakers for work and I’m obsessed. I wish I could buy another pair for regular life but I’m on a no spend on unnecessary things right now. I’m going on vacation in FL in February with friends and need to save money for that. sheilathetank how far along are you?? 26 weeks. We just switched to biweekly OB appointments and I had an oh shit moment. So yeah, I guess this is happening now. lol
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Post by sheilathetank on Jan 9, 2020 11:26:32 GMT -6
The baby was up every two hours last night. Dh asked if I got any sleep... I wanted to stab him. How does he sleep through the baby crying and me getting in/out of bed? step 1. wake up YH step 2. Hand him the baby step 3. Get back into bed step 4. sleep
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 13, 2020 9:36:49 GMT -6
The baby was up every two hours last night. Dh asked if I got any sleep... I wanted to stab him. How does he sleep through the baby crying and me getting in/out of bed?
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Post by sheilathetank on Jan 13, 2020 9:45:17 GMT -6
Anyone have any advice for dealing with sibling jealousy/anger. DD spent most of Saturday furious with me. Apparently I "ruined everything" when I turned her light on that morning??
I think this is directly related to the new baby. The OB advised that I shouldn't pick up DD unless necessary. Since she's 4 this shouldn't be a problem, but you would have thought I told DD I would never hug her again.
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Post by addymac on Jan 13, 2020 10:10:49 GMT -6
The baby was up every two hours last night. Dh asked if I got any sleep... I wanted to stab him. How does he sleep through the baby crying and me getting in/out of bed?
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 13, 2020 10:58:33 GMT -6
Anyone have any advice for dealing with sibling jealousy/anger. DD spent most of Saturday furious with me. Apparently I "ruined everything" when I turned her light on that morning?? I think this is directly related to the new baby. The OB advised that I shouldn't pick up DD unless necessary. Since she's 4 this shouldn't be a problem, but you would have thought I told DD I would never hug her again. I just made sure to spend one on one time with my oldest and made it a super big deal. Even if it was just a board game or a book, etc. Let her pick out what y'all do and make sure she knows she has all of your undivided interest for this 15 minutes, or however long it is. My daughter also liked to help at the time, so she would grab the diaper or the paci for the baby, so she was involved and my little helper.
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Post by billyhorrible on Jan 13, 2020 11:37:12 GMT -6
Anyone have any advice for dealing with sibling jealousy/anger. DD spent most of Saturday furious with me. Apparently I "ruined everything" when I turned her light on that morning?? I think this is directly related to the new baby. The OB advised that I shouldn't pick up DD unless necessary. Since she's 4 this shouldn't be a problem, but you would have thought I told DD I would never hug her again. Don't blame any of your limitations on being pregnant. That way there's no premature resentment. Just reframe. "You're 4 now, such a big girl! Like mommy! And big girls don't get carried." (One of my mom friends with a 4 year old told her son that 2020 was the year of no more uppies, so I'm using that with my kid too. You can tell her it's a nationwide thing 😉) The only other thing we did before my second was born (other than reading books- I recommend Julian the baby of the world for older sisters), was have my older son help us prepare for the new baby. My big thing was that we would never take anything from him. We had him go through his old toys and books to determine what the new baby could have. Yes, even toys that he hadn't played with in almost 2 years. Because I knew the second he saw the new baby playing with them, he'd want to play with them again. This helped him feel like he wasn't being replaced or supplanted, but he got to decide what he wanted and what he was over.
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Post by billyhorrible on Jan 13, 2020 11:39:37 GMT -6
sheilathetank - but also, I'm not pregnant and get accused regularly of ruining the life of my 4 year old. Last night when I told him he couldn't have another glass of water after kicking his over he informed me he hated me and didn't want me in the family anymore. So you know, just 4 year old nonsense.
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Jan 13, 2020 14:28:53 GMT -6
sheilathetank that is so my 5 and 4 year olds on a daily basis. The 5yo spent a good portion of yesterday mumbling about me basically being the worst.
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Post by sheilathetank on Jan 13, 2020 15:09:16 GMT -6
I meant to say almost 4. She turns 4 in a month, so she's practically there. lildiamondeyes, and billyhorrible, Is 4 just an angrier 3 year old? Because my god! I tried playing with her and giving her a ton of attention over christmas break but she didn't want to play with me. I think I screwed things up because I've very much been not a playing parent, that's MH forte. I'll read, color, cuddle, craft, and take you wherever, but I'm awful at pretend play. I have the attention span of 2 seconds when we do it. It also doesn't help that I'm always doing the wrong thing when I do try to play. lol. So far the only thing that has affected her personally is removing the glider from her room to put in the baby's room. I did point out to her that the glider was mine and not hers. I thought she got over it, but maybe not?
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Post by sheilathetank on Jan 13, 2020 15:20:52 GMT -6
I admit I have no fucking idea how to navigate this. I was an only and would have KILLED for a sibling. We had no kids in the neighborhood and other than seeing my cousins at family events or the kids at school it was really lonely. My mom was also a single parent who worked 6 days a week so when she was home she was too exhausted to engage in play.
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Post by billyhorrible on Jan 13, 2020 15:25:57 GMT -6
sheilathetank she's 3? Oh friend, I have good news for you. 3 is the worst and it ramps up right before 4, but 4 is definitely easier overall. You are almost there! And you definitely didn't screw things up. I'm the same as you. I love "doing things" with my kids, but I hate pretend play. I don't want to do stupid voices or think up things to say, but I spent 30 minutes coloring with my 4 year old yesterday. Coloring and crafts I can do! And despite my husband being the "play pretend" parent, I'm the favorite. My other trick is that once the baby came, I used the carrier a lot and we went out and did things my older son liked. Like those paint your own pottery places, or the "mommy movie mornings", or children's museums or the library. We'd go out in the morning, and in the afternoon I'd pull a craft off pinterest or the dollar spot or Michaels for us to do so I was always "playing" with him on my terms, things i didn't mind (and lugging baby #2 around like a purse, which is easy in those early days where there's a lot of sleeping - I kept him in preschool 3 days a week so he could be with his friends and I could have days where I could just hang at home with the baby)
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