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Post by trtlcrzy on Jan 15, 2020 9:53:41 GMT -6
I’m one of five girls. The idea of having a 14 year old girl scares the living shit out of me. I’m one of 4 girls, that’s funny how we have so much in common. My parents didn’t do a great job at raising us (dysfunctional hardly touches it) so I’m hoping I do better and my girls are much more well adjusted people.
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Post by Radley on Jan 15, 2020 10:32:54 GMT -6
I’m one of five girls. The idea of having a 14 year old girl scares the living shit out of me. I’m one of 4 girls, that’s funny how we have so much in common. My parents didn’t do a great job at raising us (dysfunctional hardly touches it) so I’m hoping I do better and my girls are much more well adjusted people. Oh that is funny. I had an Destructive father, and very very dysfunctional family. My mom did her best, but it really wasn’t a very good childhood. Most of us cane out okay though. I try my best to have a healthy dynamic for the boys. It always takes me a minute when the boys get upset by H and I bantering or even having a disagreement because I wouldn’t have even batted an eye at it as a kid. That would have been a good day. So I get that desire to have the kids well adjusted!
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Post by sdlaura on Jan 15, 2020 12:14:49 GMT -6
trtlcrzy and Radley I'm sorry to hear about how you grew up. From my very limited exposure to both of you on the internet, I can confidently say that you're the type of people who are giving your kids good lives/examples. My Dad grew up in a super dysfunctional family and my family was/is ridiculously stable. He's a great example of being able to do a 180 from whatever your example was growing up.
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Post by willow on Jan 15, 2020 13:58:30 GMT -6
hangry in my experience, baby and toddler girls are easier. I hear that boys are easier when they get older. Also same on the high number kids. I only know a couple people IRL with 4 kids and not that many with 3. Literally everyone who has talked to me about this that has had both girls and boys has said the same. Boys get easier as they get older, girls do not. I always feel a little on the offensive about it because I was, in teenage girl terms, a very easy going and chill/well behaved kid so I'm like really? Teenage girls are that horrible? But also, there is this whole expectation society puts on teen girls and man, being a 13 year old girl is just terrible. I don't wish it upon anyone. Not just the hormones but the way they are treated and dealt with as whole, it is a really shitty time. BUUUUUT that is a whole other soapbox soooo anyway. lol.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jan 15, 2020 15:05:32 GMT -6
trtlcrzy and Radley I'm sorry to hear about how you grew up. From my very limited exposure to both of you on the internet, I can confidently say that you're the type of people who are giving your kids good lives/examples. My Dad grew up in a super dysfunctional family and my family was/is ridiculously stable. He's a great example of being able to do a 180 from whatever your example was growing up. Thank you. My parents are both alcoholics and while I still drink on occasion I very rarely get drunk. I feel like I basically watched my parents and decided that I should do the opposite. Plus, I think as a society it’s know better, do better about a lot of things (I.e. spanking).
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Post by sdlaura on Jan 15, 2020 15:22:36 GMT -6
willow I’m actually less worried about my interactions with a teenage girl than I am about what you mentioned - navigating societal expectations and that sort of thing. Like my coworker’s 16 year old girl tried to stop eating because she was worried she was getting too tall. Just a random example, but something (Body image) that would probably be less of an issue for a boy.
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Post by Radley on Jan 15, 2020 18:49:39 GMT -6
trtlcrzy and Radley I'm sorry to hear about how you grew up. From my very limited exposure to both of you on the internet, I can confidently say that you're the type of people who are giving your kids good lives/examples. My Dad grew up in a super dysfunctional family and my family was/is ridiculously stable. He's a great example of being able to do a 180 from whatever your example was growing up. Aw thank you, I appreciate that!
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Post by txaggie08 on Jan 17, 2020 12:56:03 GMT -6
I had my anatomy scan yesterday and everything looked good! Baby wasn't being very cooperative, so we didn't get to see the face, but the tech was able to get all the measurements she needed for the scan. Luckily, my doctor does a bonus 3D US around 28 weeks if you pay your bill on time, so we get another chance.
I feel so relieved to have that done and it's always fun to see baby - even if it's mostly arms and legs.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Feb 12, 2020 9:51:01 GMT -6
I’m waiting to be called back for my ultrasound now. Baby has been moving a ton this morning so hopefully it chills enough to get all the pics.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Feb 12, 2020 11:22:08 GMT -6
It’s a girl! Everything looked great on the ultrasound.
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Post by Radley on Feb 12, 2020 11:29:56 GMT -6
It’s a girl! Everything looked great on the ultrasound. Whoooo hooo!!! Yay!!! You have two boys right?
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Post by trtlcrzy on Feb 12, 2020 11:35:18 GMT -6
It’s a girl! Everything looked great on the ultrasound. Whoooo hooo!!! Yay!!! You have two boys right? Nope, 2 girls
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Post by Radley on Feb 12, 2020 11:39:59 GMT -6
Whoooo hooo!!! Yay!!! You have two boys right? Nope, 2 girls Durn. I thought it was you. Musta been someone else. Either way! YAY!!
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Post by danib on Feb 12, 2020 12:10:09 GMT -6
Durn. I thought it was you. Musta been someone else. Either way! YAY!! I have 2 boys already (having a 3rd). Me and trtlcrzy are opposites lol.
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Post by twopeas on Feb 21, 2020 17:52:43 GMT -6
I think I'm the last to have had my anatomy scan. It was today! We got to see baby wiggling around for about 45 mins! Add me to team BLUE! DS wanted a little brother so he is pretty excited! My Dr did mention that she noticed funneling of my cervix, which could be pressure from baby (he was curled up right over it and his back was pressing on it), a contraction (already!?) or that my cervix is prematurely shortening. I have to go back Monday for another transvaginal US to measure it again and if it has shortened anymore they'll refer to me a high risk MFM specialist. In the meantime, no sex or heavy lifting or high activity. So basically be a bump on a log this weekend, lol. Good thing it's supposed to be a rainy next couple of days! I'm trying not to worry but I have a feeling this will be a long weekend of waiting. 😬😵 Here is a pic of my boy!
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Post by aries on Feb 21, 2020 19:07:13 GMT -6
twopeas congrats!! Love the pic. How did your DS do at the ultrasound?! That’s awesome he’s pumped that you are having a boy. My son keeps telling me I’m having a girl and keeps talking about his sister (I’m team green). I said okay but if it’s actually a boy that’s okay right? Haha I’m hoping he won’t be devastated if it’s a boy.
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Post by twopeas on Feb 21, 2020 19:39:48 GMT -6
twopeas congrats!! Love the pic. How did your DS do at the ultrasound?! That’s awesome he’s pumped that you are having a boy. My son keeps telling me I’m having a girl and keeps talking about his sister (I’m team green). I said okay but if it’s actually a boy that’s okay right? Haha I’m hoping he won’t be devastated if it’s a boy. He actually ended up not coming with us. It was pajama day at his daycare and he didn't want to miss it. He also told me, "I don't like doctors" when I reminded him last night, lol. So that worked out just fine! Ds talked about a little sister for weeks and weeks, up until about 2 weeks ago when he switched to little brother. He knew/talked about me being pregnant early on before we even told him so I thought maybe he'd be on to something with the sister thing, but alas... I'm sure your son will adapt juuuust fine if your new baby ends up being a boy! They'll be best friends!
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Post by trtlcrzy on Feb 21, 2020 21:59:44 GMT -6
Congrats twopeas! I hope your cervix behaves.
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Post by aries on Feb 22, 2020 7:59:49 GMT -6
twopeas congrats!! Love the pic. How did your DS do at the ultrasound?! That’s awesome he’s pumped that you are having a boy. My son keeps telling me I’m having a girl and keeps talking about his sister (I’m team green). I said okay but if it’s actually a boy that’s okay right? Haha I’m hoping he won’t be devastated if it’s a boy. He actually ended up not coming with us. It was pajama day at his daycare and he didn't want to miss it. He also told me, "I don't like doctors" when I reminded him last night, lol. So that worked out just fine! Ds talked about a little sister for weeks and weeks, up until about 2 weeks ago when he switched to little brother. He knew/talked about me being pregnant early on before we even told him so I thought maybe he'd be on to something with the sister thing, but alas... I'm sure your son will adapt juuuust fine if your new baby ends up being a boy! They'll be best friends! hahaha exactly! He doesn't really get to pick so he will have to accept whatever it is (and I know eventually he'll just be happy to have someone to play with regardless of their sex). They always say that kids are so intuitive and just know these kind of things so I feel his insistence that it's a girl has me even convinced it is. But interesting that your DS was the same way about it being a girl and now had changed his prediction, and was right. and my DS would have chosen pajama day over coming to the ultrasound too!
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Post by willow on Feb 22, 2020 18:07:38 GMT -6
He actually ended up not coming with us. It was pajama day at his daycare and he didn't want to miss it. He also told me, "I don't like doctors" when I reminded him last night, lol. So that worked out just fine! Ds talked about a little sister for weeks and weeks, up until about 2 weeks ago when he switched to little brother. He knew/talked about me being pregnant early on before we even told him so I thought maybe he'd be on to something with the sister thing, but alas... I'm sure your son will adapt juuuust fine if your new baby ends up being a boy! They'll be best friends! hahaha exactly! He doesn't really get to pick so he will have to accept whatever it is (and I know eventually he'll just be happy to have someone to play with regardless of their sex). They always say that kids are so intuitive and just know these kind of things so I feel his insistence that it's a girl has me even convinced it is. But interesting that your DS was the same way about it being a girl and now had changed his prediction, and was right. and my DS would have chosen pajama day over coming to the ultrasound too! My son insisted it was a baby brother and a baby sister and would not budge on that. It took him a few weeks to accept that it was two brothers lol.
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