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Post by jt2378 on Sept 12, 2019 20:48:09 GMT -6
I was pretty strict with the sugar for D1 but I cringe now at some of the shit D2 has had by 2 years old. It’s sooooo much harder to keep the second away from things when the first is obsessed in sugary junk ugh.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 12, 2019 21:09:23 GMT -6
I see a lot of recommendations for giving desserts/treats with dinner. We are not a dessert family so we don’t do this yet but I’ve been thinking about it. I also read something recently about letting kids have as much sugary snack as they want at certain snack times and that supposedly helps them obsess less. I think they probably eat a shit ton at first but then the novelty wears off and they moderate, at least in theory.
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Post by ambiguousmango on Sept 12, 2019 21:25:50 GMT -6
piratecat that is really interesting. I was pretty strict about sugar up to about two but I have recently become more lax. As I mentioned earlier I will often convince my kid to eat more of something healthy with a bribe of a single Annie's Gummy after dinner. I don't know how long a single gummy will tempt him but it works for now.
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Post by cmb on Sept 13, 2019 4:11:48 GMT -6
We don’t do sugar and my kids are still super picky— we don’t keep treats in the house, period, because both DH and I will pig out on them with minimal control. I honestly don’t care, and neither does my pediatrician. I was the kid who ate everything as a child, always ate what was in front of me, and am now extremely picky. DH lived off hot dogs for years and eats anything. 🤷🏼♀️
DS1 lives off chicken nuggets, PBJ, veggie sticks, carrots, and apples.
DS2 eats bread, frozen chicken nuggets (precooked kind), pancakes, fruit pouches, lara bars, non-dairy yogurt, veggie sticks, and noodles.
As long as my pediatrician isn’t concerned, we’ll KOKO (he’s one of the best in the area and has found underlying issues with both boys other pediatricians have missed, so I’m trusting him on this)
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Post by piratecat on Sept 13, 2019 6:36:07 GMT -6
piratecat that is really interesting. I was pretty strict about sugar up to about two but I have recently become more lax. As I mentioned earlier I will often convince my kid to eat more of something healthy with a bribe of a single Annie's Gummy after dinner. I don't know how long a single gummy will tempt him but it works for now. Keep doing it if it works! My kid wasn't a fan of Annie's gummy when he tried it.
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Post by Lakes on Sept 13, 2019 9:19:39 GMT -6
I see a lot of recommendations for giving desserts/treats with dinner. We are not a dessert family so we don’t do this yet but I’ve been thinking about it. I also read something recently about letting kids have as much sugary snack as they want at certain snack times and that supposedly helps them obsess less. I think they probably eat a shit ton at first but then the novelty wears off and they moderate, at least in theory. There is truth to this! I’m sure it’s kid dependent too. We don’t keep sweets in the house but I’ve never restricted ds at parties. Sometimes he’ll hammer the dessert hard but most of the time he won’t finish his cupcake or cake. We do a lot of “listen to your body” stuff too. The last time he had a cupcake and informed me that the sugar gave him a headache and he didn’t want to eat it all. Dd is more of a bottomless pit in general. Not sure if it’s the age or if she’s just more of a sweet tooth than ds.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 13, 2019 9:37:37 GMT -6
I see a lot of recommendations for giving desserts/treats with dinner. We are not a dessert family so we don’t do this yet but I’ve been thinking about it. I also read something recently about letting kids have as much sugary snack as they want at certain snack times and that supposedly helps them obsess less. I think they probably eat a shit ton at first but then the novelty wears off and they moderate, at least in theory. There is truth to this! I’m sure it’s kid dependent too. We don’t keep sweets in the house but I’ve never restricted ds at parties. Sometimes he’ll hammer the dessert hard but most of the time he won’t finish his cupcake or cake. We do a lot of “listen to your body” stuff too. The last time he had a cupcake and informed me that the sugar gave him a headache and he didn’t want to eat it all. Dd is more of a bottomless pit in general. Not sure if it’s the age or if she’s just more of a sweet tooth than ds. Yea it does make some sense to me that at least part of the obsession comes from the restriction and scarcity. We are trying to balance sweets being a special treat we eat sometimes but also not make a big deal out of it, which I find kind of tricky, and we are working on the whole "listening to your body" thing. I think this will be his first Halloween trick or treating so I'm wondering how he'll do with all the candy.
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 13, 2019 12:02:44 GMT -6
I see a lot of recommendations for giving desserts/treats with dinner. We are not a dessert family so we don’t do this yet but I’ve been thinking about it. I also read something recently about letting kids have as much sugary snack as they want at certain snack times and that supposedly helps them obsess less. I think they probably eat a shit ton at first but then the novelty wears off and they moderate, at least in theory. we've started giving dessert at dinner more. It's like 3 jelly beans, or a mini oreo, or a couple chocolate chips. And that's her dessert. There is no more dessert. She still takes a few bites of dinner, but it's greatly cut down on the whining for something sweet and the negotiating for her to eat a few bites more.
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Post by Lakes on Sept 13, 2019 12:13:11 GMT -6
Insurance called. Physical appointment made. Surgery scheduled. If all goes well, dd will have her eye surgery on October 18.
We are no where near our deductible so that bill will not be pretty 😬
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 13, 2019 13:14:07 GMT -6
As a former picky kid, I'm really against the starve out method. Realistically, your kid won't only ready chicken nuggets when they're 20. Or before that. And as long as doctors aren't worried, there's really no reason to make dinner a big deal. I know this is easier said than done. I definitely hate when DD won't eat, but it's a me thing, not a her thing, if that makes sense. I'm not out making a million meals, but she can always have a pb&j after dinner/instead of if she wants. Lol Kida DD will sometimes lick things too. I'm glad you shared that because I've been very wtf am I doing about it 😂 My problem is that even if I give DD what she asks for, she still won't eat it most times and then claim hungry. But if I gave her a spoonful of nutella she'd eat it right up. I don't mind kid food, but it has to be somewhat healthy.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 13, 2019 13:21:44 GMT -6
My problem is that even if I give DD what she asks for, she still won't eat it most times and then claim hungry. But if I gave her a spoonful of nutella she'd eat it right up. I don't mind kid food, but it has to be somewhat healthy. Very fair! Yeah if literally all DD would eat is a chocolate bar then I'd be lolno. I'm thinking more of the people who refuse to even offer fruit/sandwich/whatever. I won't offer an alternative but I'm also not serving some obscure and fancy adult meal with only things he's never had before and demanding that he eat it or starve. I make sure there is at least one thing I know he likes and he can have as much of one thing as he wants, even if he doesn't eat any other part of the meal like I would like. On a related note, I was/am a slow eater and I have memories of being left alone at the dinner table to finish my meal while the rest of my family moved onto the living room (open to the dining room so it's not like I was totally left alone) to watch TV and not feeling great about it, so I do always stay with my kid as he finishes his meal but my gosh it's painful sometimes.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 13, 2019 13:26:47 GMT -6
Like, we put whatever we're eating on DD's plate and if she eats it, awesome. If not, then it's fine and we make sure she gets a pouch, Cheerios, sandwich, whatever so she's full when she goes to bed. This is also largely selfish. Hungry kids wake up 😂 if she refused all that and only wanted ice cream then yeah she'd just go to bed and I'd get wine. The fun stuff is when she suddenly does like something and eats it all. And by all, I mean mine 😠 My kid went through a phase where he would hardly eat dinner, regardless of what was offered, but would eat a ton for breakfast and taper down from there. I was always super worried that he would wake up from being hungry but he has gone to bed plenty of times without eating anything and it doesn't seem to affect his sleep. I think sometimes they really just aren't hungry and don't want/have to eat. Kids are just weird.
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 13, 2019 13:27:27 GMT -6
Like, we put whatever we're eating on DD's plate and if she eats it, awesome. If not, then it's fine and we make sure she gets a pouch, Cheerios, sandwich, whatever so she's full when she goes to bed. This is also largely selfish. Hungry kids wake up 😂 if she refused all that and only wanted ice cream then yeah she'd just go to bed and I'd get wine. The fun stuff is when she suddenly does like something and eats it all. And by all, I mean mine 😠 My kid went through a phase where he would hardly eat dinner, regardless of what was offered, but would eat a ton for breakfast and taper down from there. I was always super worried that he would wake up from being hungry but he has gone to bed plenty of times without eating anything and it doesn't seem to affect his sleep. I think sometimes they really just aren't hungry and don't want/have to eat. Kids are just weird. This is common in toddlers where they front load their calories for the day and barely eat anything at dinner.
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Post by Kida on Sept 13, 2019 14:27:23 GMT -6
Very fair! Yeah if literally all DD would eat is a chocolate bar then I'd be lolno. I'm thinking more of the people who refuse to even offer fruit/sandwich/whatever. I won't offer an alternative but I'm also not serving some obscure and fancy adult meal with only things he's never had before and demanding that he eat it or starve. I make sure there is at least one thing I know he likes and he can have as much of one thing as he wants, even if he doesn't eat any other part of the meal like I would like. On a related note, I was/am a slow eater and I have memories of being left alone at the dinner table to finish my meal while the rest of my family moved onto the living room (open to the dining room so it's not like I was totally left alone) to watch TV and not feeling great about it, so I do always stay with my kid as he finishes his meal but my gosh it's painful sometimes. Dd can't get up until she eats at least a little, but I stay with her too.
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Post by Kida on Sept 13, 2019 14:29:45 GMT -6
I try to make it the least tramatic as possible lol.
On another note, I need to know who taught my kid the phrase, "this ain't fair!" They're fired lol.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 13, 2019 15:09:41 GMT -6
My kid went through a phase where he would hardly eat dinner, regardless of what was offered, but would eat a ton for breakfast and taper down from there. I was always super worried that he would wake up from being hungry but he has gone to bed plenty of times without eating anything and it doesn't seem to affect his sleep. I think sometimes they really just aren't hungry and don't want/have to eat. Kids are just weird. This is common in toddlers where they front load their calories for the day and barely eat anything at dinner. Exactly this. Another thing, I remember my pedi saying once “if everything she eats in a day equals one good meal, all is well”. My kids go through phases where they graze all day and then don’t want dinner or don’t eat much during the day and then eat good dinners. Kids being inconsistent?!! Never! Lol
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Post by ambiguousmango on Sept 13, 2019 19:12:42 GMT -6
On a not food related topic my child started talking like a robot today and it was both creepy and hilarious. I didn't even think he really knew what a robot was but apparently he does.
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Post by Lakes on Sept 13, 2019 19:28:54 GMT -6
On a not food related topic my child started talking like a robot today and it was both creepy and hilarious. I didn't even think he really knew what a robot was but apparently he does. One of mine does a perfect evil villain laugh. It caught me off guard the first time. Guess we’re preparing for world domination over here.
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Post by ambiguousmango on Sept 13, 2019 19:55:02 GMT -6
Lakes omg yes! I also love that when he gets frustrated by my H he will use his first name. So sometimes he will be like "daddy.. Daddy! .. H's NAME!!!" I have to try really hard not to laugh when he does that.
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Post by Kida on Sept 13, 2019 20:36:55 GMT -6
Lakes omg yes! I also love that when he gets frustrated by my H he will use his first name. So sometimes he will be like "daddy.. Daddy! .. H's NAME!!!" I have to try really hard not to laugh when he does that. Dd does the same thing lol
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Post by cmb on Sept 14, 2019 6:11:20 GMT -6
Update on DS1’s thyroid trial- after the fiasco of the pedi endo’s counteracting one another, I called 2 weeks ago about getting another draw because I noticed his hair had drastically thinned (like, by a 3rd), hadn’t grown at all since he had it cut in July, and most importantly, he wasn’t making it all day without a nap anymore and instead taking 3 hour naps.
He officially failed the trial and is now back on synthroid. He’s been back on the pills for a week and a half, and I swear his hair has grown an inch since then. He’s also back to not needing a nap and able to stay up all day without falling asleep. DH isn’t thrilled, but he’s definitely a happier child in the last week
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Post by Kida on Sept 14, 2019 7:49:37 GMT -6
Update on DS1’s thyroid trial- after the fiasco of the pedi endo’s counteracting one another, I called 2 weeks ago about getting another draw because I noticed his hair had drastically thinned (like, by a 3rd), hadn’t grown at all since he had it cut in July, and most importantly, he wasn’t making it all day without a nap anymore and instead taking 3 hour naps. He officially failed the trial and is now back on synthroid. He’s been back on the pills for a week and a half, and I swear his hair has grown an inch since then. He’s also back to not needing a nap and able to stay up all day without falling asleep. DH isn’t thrilled, but he’s definitely a happier child in the last week I didn't see the back story, but I'm so glad that you were able to advocate for your son and stay on top of his health needs. Good job, Mama. I'm glad his meds are helping and he's feeling better.
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 14, 2019 9:12:17 GMT -6
Lakes omg yes! I also love that when he gets frustrated by my H he will use his first name. So sometimes he will be like "daddy.. Daddy! .. H's NAME!!!" I have to try really hard not to laugh when he does that. DD will start with Daddy then move onto "Hun" and then finally "Hs name". When she first started calling him Hun I died laughing.
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 14, 2019 9:13:51 GMT -6
Update on DS1’s thyroid trial- after the fiasco of the pedi endo’s counteracting one another, I called 2 weeks ago about getting another draw because I noticed his hair had drastically thinned (like, by a 3rd), hadn’t grown at all since he had it cut in July, and most importantly, he wasn’t making it all day without a nap anymore and instead taking 3 hour naps. He officially failed the trial and is now back on synthroid. He’s been back on the pills for a week and a half, and I swear his hair has grown an inch since then. He’s also back to not needing a nap and able to stay up all day without falling asleep. DH isn’t thrilled, but he’s definitely a happier child in the last week Even though it sucks that he failed the trial, I'm glad he's back on the meds he obviously needs. Why is YH not thrilled? Because of the meds or lack of naps?
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Post by Kida on Sept 14, 2019 9:27:48 GMT -6
Lakes omg yes! I also love that when he gets frustrated by my H he will use his first name. So sometimes he will be like "daddy.. Daddy! .. H's NAME!!!" I have to try really hard not to laugh when he does that. DD will start with Daddy then move onto "Hun" and then finally "Hs name". When she first started calling him Hun I died laughing. Omg this is adorable!
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Post by cmb on Sept 14, 2019 10:49:51 GMT -6
Update on DS1’s thyroid trial- after the fiasco of the pedi endo’s counteracting one another, I called 2 weeks ago about getting another draw because I noticed his hair had drastically thinned (like, by a 3rd), hadn’t grown at all since he had it cut in July, and most importantly, he wasn’t making it all day without a nap anymore and instead taking 3 hour naps. He officially failed the trial and is now back on synthroid. He’s been back on the pills for a week and a half, and I swear his hair has grown an inch since then. He’s also back to not needing a nap and able to stay up all day without falling asleep. DH isn’t thrilled, but he’s definitely a happier child in the last week Even though it sucks that he failed the trial, I'm glad he's back on the meds he obviously needs. Why is YH not thrilled? Because of the meds or lack of naps? Because he’s now subjected to lifelong meds 😪 He keeps making the argument of “what if he doesn’t have insurance or they stop making it?
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 14, 2019 11:36:54 GMT -6
I’m glad he is doing better again on the meds cmb but I’m sorry for the worry and stress of it all. I hope he continues to thrive.
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Post by Lakes on Sept 14, 2019 15:07:09 GMT -6
cmb I’m sorry he failed the trial but I’m glad he’s feeling better back on the meds.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 16, 2019 6:45:17 GMT -6
My kid is the worst room-sharer and I'm sick and so tired today.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 16, 2019 10:08:55 GMT -6
We are working on using calm voices to ask for things, etc. but my H gets so frustrated with him for "being rude" and I'm like but he's two..........
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