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Post by Kida on Sept 12, 2019 9:04:41 GMT -6
Along the lines of children spitting out food, we are in the process of getting dd to eat better. Idk what happened but she went from a baby who would eat literally anything and everything that you put in front of her, to a toddler that would tell you how scared she was of a green bean . Around 18 months, she just shut it down and would eat basically nothing except chicken, bread of some kind, peanut butter, bananas and yogurt. The struggle is real. Anyways, last week I decided that I have had enough of this nonsense and she needs to at least try what I'm cooking for dinner. So it started with chicken casserole, mashed potatoes, and peas. She cried, and screamed, and travailed, and rendered her clothes and shivered at the dinner table saying she was so cold while she huddled under a dish towel. I told her she wasn't getting up until she ate a pea. Then I bargained. I was like just eat it and I'll paint your nails, just bite it and you can ride on the golf cart with your aunt, etc etc. Finally, I was like, just lick it. Just lick the pea and you can be done. So she licked the first vegetable in over a year. Every since it has been about the same with her licking one veggie; I got her to bite a green bean twice with the promise that she could spit it out if she just bit it once. This is going to get better right? RIGHT??
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Post by Kida on Sept 12, 2019 9:13:21 GMT -6
So tomorrow is my kid's first picture day ever. Do kids dress up for these? Our school gave a little hand out with suggestions on what to wear. I sent her in a little cotton sundress and sent clothes for the teacher to change her into afterwards. Most parents did this I believe because the teacher was ready for it.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 12, 2019 9:18:40 GMT -6
Kida, eating vegetables is a struggle for us too, although my kid eats a lot of fruit so I try not to stress about it. Does she like any other fruits besides bananas? Will she let you mix some into her yogurt? My kid loves seeing the color change in his yogurt or oatmeal by mixing in berries. Does she like pasta? We make a lot of pesto loaded with veggies. We generally subscribe to the division of responsibility method but I am still in the phase of hoping it will pay off some day.
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Post by Kida on Sept 12, 2019 9:25:57 GMT -6
Kida , eating vegetables is a struggle for us too, although my kid eats a lot of fruit so I try not to stress about it. Does she like any other fruits besides bananas? Will she let you mix some into her yogurt? My kid loves seeing the color change in his yogurt or oatmeal by mixing in berries. Does she like pasta? We make a lot of pesto loaded with veggies. We generally subscribe to the division of responsibility method but I am still in the phase of hoping it will pay off some day. Not really. I can get her to eat some fruit pouches sometimes, depending on the day I guess lol. We give her a daily vitamin just to be on the safe side. She will eat Popsicles made out of pureed fruit and juice but that's about it. I also hope it passes eventually. What is the division of responsibility method?
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Post by Kida on Sept 12, 2019 9:27:22 GMT -6
I just keep introducing her to things and hope one day it sticks.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 12, 2019 9:43:00 GMT -6
Kida , eating vegetables is a struggle for us too, although my kid eats a lot of fruit so I try not to stress about it. Does she like any other fruits besides bananas? Will she let you mix some into her yogurt? My kid loves seeing the color change in his yogurt or oatmeal by mixing in berries. Does she like pasta? We make a lot of pesto loaded with veggies. We generally subscribe to the division of responsibility method but I am still in the phase of hoping it will pay off some day. Not really. I can get her to eat some fruit pouches sometimes, depending on the day I guess lol. We give her a daily vitamin just to be on the safe side. She will eat Popsicles made out of pureed fruit and juice but that's about it. I also hope it passes eventually. What is the division of responsibility method? You decide what and when to serve the food and the kid decides what and how much of it to eat. So we cook and serve a balanced meal and try to expose him to different foods but then it's pretty hands off after that. It can be a bit nerve-wrecking but also it takes the pressure off knowing that you're not responsible for what goes into their mouth and it eliminates any power struggles at meal times. I do try to encourage him to try things in a playful ways and sometimes it works and most of the times it doesn't, but when he complains about what's served or not wanting to eat at all, I tell him he doesn't have to eat it and it's nice for both of us knowing that he doesn't have that power to hold over me. I am going to ask the pediatrician about starting vitamins.
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Post by Kida on Sept 12, 2019 9:51:35 GMT -6
Not really. I can get her to eat some fruit pouches sometimes, depending on the day I guess lol. We give her a daily vitamin just to be on the safe side. She will eat Popsicles made out of pureed fruit and juice but that's about it. I also hope it passes eventually. What is the division of responsibility method? You decide what and when to serve the food and the kid decides what and how much of it to eat. So we cook and serve a balanced meal and try to expose him to different foods but then it's pretty hands off after that. It can be a bit nerve-wrecking but also it takes the pressure off knowing that you're not responsible for what goes into their mouth and it eliminates any power struggles at meal times. I do try to encourage him to try things in a playful ways and sometimes it works and most of the times it doesn't, but when he complains about what's served or not wanting to eat at all, I tell him he doesn't have to eat it and it's nice for both of us knowing that he doesn't have that power to hold over me. I am going to ask the pediatrician about starting vitamins. My pedi said it doesn't matter either way about the vitamins, that as long as I'm giving her the dose the bottle recommends (one gummy/day) if she doesn't need it, she will just pee them out. So I just do it as a just in case/makes me feel better thing. I kind of do that, but not fully. When she starts freaking out about not wanting to eat whatever, I tell her she doesn't have to, that's fine. But when she asks for something like the phone or tv, I tell her not until she eats, rinse repeat. I do make her sit at the table with us, but I usually (always) cave after dinner and make her some chicken fries or fish sticks or peanut butter sandwich, something I know she'll eat. My pedi told me that I could basically starve her out and she would eventually eat what I put in front of her, but I haven't had the heart to go all in just yet.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 12, 2019 10:01:00 GMT -6
You decide what and when to serve the food and the kid decides what and how much of it to eat. So we cook and serve a balanced meal and try to expose him to different foods but then it's pretty hands off after that. It can be a bit nerve-wrecking but also it takes the pressure off knowing that you're not responsible for what goes into their mouth and it eliminates any power struggles at meal times. I do try to encourage him to try things in a playful ways and sometimes it works and most of the times it doesn't, but when he complains about what's served or not wanting to eat at all, I tell him he doesn't have to eat it and it's nice for both of us knowing that he doesn't have that power to hold over me. I am going to ask the pediatrician about starting vitamins. My pedi said it doesn't matter either way about the vitamins, that as long as I'm giving her the dose the bottle recommends (one gummy/day) if she doesn't need it, she will just pee them out. So I just do it as a just in case/makes me feel better thing. I kind of do that, but not fully. When she starts freaking out about not wanting to eat whatever, I tell her she doesn't have to, that's fine. But when she asks for something like the phone or tv, I tell her not until she eats, rinse repeat. I do make her sit at the table with us, but I usually (always) cave after dinner and make her some chicken fries or fish sticks or peanut butter sandwich, something I know she'll eat. My pedi told me that I could basically starve her out and she would eventually eat what I put in front of her, but I haven't had the heart to go all in just yet. Yep, he has to sit with us and hang out for a bit even if he doesn't eat. But typically he'll announce that he doesn't want to eat dinner, I tell him he doesn't have to eat but I'd like him to sit at the table, then he yells "I WANT TO EAT DINNER". We try to put at least something out that we know he will eat, so sometimes he just eats fruit or just rice. I do feel like it is getting a little better and after he stuffs his face with just the hamburger bun he'll eat a little bit of the burger or whatever. But after dinner the kitchen is closed and he takes that seriously.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 12, 2019 10:01:51 GMT -6
Kida , the vegetable struggle is here too (two DD's ages 2 and 5). The 2 year old was a joy and would eat anything until recently and now they are both balking at veggies and being giant PITAs at dinner. I would say though, try as hard as you can not to cave and make something else. They then know they don't have to eat what is served and it becomes expected and DNW to make separate dinners. I will occasionally if I specifically know its something they will not eat or is too spicy or something but for the most part being consistent with same dinners and making them sit at the dinner at dinnertime (which you said you are already doing) is all you can really do. I know its nerve wracking but try not to stress too much.
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Post by Kida on Sept 12, 2019 10:14:57 GMT -6
I might start closing the kitchen after dinner. It will be hard on me, but I worry the most about H. He is a major softy when it comes to dd. He didn't want me to make her try that pea because she had been sick a week before that, he thought it would be too hard on her making her cry lol. But he does unite with me, it will just be hard on him lol.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 12, 2019 10:28:27 GMT -6
I might start closing the kitchen after dinner. It will be hard on me, but I worry the most about H. He is a major softy when it comes to dd. He didn't want me to make her try that pea because she had been sick a week before that, he thought it would be too hard on her making her cry lol. But he does unite with me, it will just be hard on him lol. If she likes bread I would probably at least start out by serving some bread with your meals so you know that she will eat something and then maybe you and your H won't feel as bad about closing the kitchen.
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Post by Kida on Sept 12, 2019 10:35:59 GMT -6
I might start closing the kitchen after dinner. It will be hard on me, but I worry the most about H. He is a major softy when it comes to dd. He didn't want me to make her try that pea because she had been sick a week before that, he thought it would be too hard on her making her cry lol. But he does unite with me, it will just be hard on him lol. If she likes bread I would probably at least start out by serving some bread with your meals so you know that she will eat something and then maybe you and your H won't feel as bad about closing the kitchen. That's a good idea that I actually hadn't thought of. We don't really eat alot of bread with meals, but I could start incorporating some rolls or something.
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Post by tgrimes on Sept 12, 2019 12:08:12 GMT -6
If she likes bread I would probably at least start out by serving some bread with your meals so you know that she will eat something and then maybe you and your H won't feel as bad about closing the kitchen. That's a good idea that I actually hadn't thought of. We don't really eat alot of bread with meals, but I could start incorporating some rolls or something. When my daughter was a toddler she went through a phase where she'd only eat certain things. So I'd always make sure she had at least 1 thing on her plate that I knew she'd like/eat. Yogurt, bread, etc. I'd encourage her to try all the food just once. Sometimes she'd eat it and sometimes she wouldn't.
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Post by ambiguousmango on Sept 12, 2019 13:38:44 GMT -6
Hello hope you don't mind if I just jump in.
We are also in the picky food phase. We have started giving choices and it has made it slightly better. So do you want broccoli or carrots etc. This makes him feel a little bit more in control and I feel like he eats more of whatever he picks. We also do the you don't have to eat it but then you can't have ____. (For us this is a single gummy after dinner)
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Post by piratecat on Sept 12, 2019 14:48:38 GMT -6
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Post by ambiguousmango on Sept 12, 2019 15:03:06 GMT -6
Thank you! I am usually a lurker but I have been trying to be more active.
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Post by gingy on Sept 12, 2019 15:39:21 GMT -6
I think she was 26/27 at the doctor yesterday. But she's 3 ft tall. String bean. He's short too, only 33" at his last appointment a few months ago, although I feel like he's gotten taller since then and I don't have to cuff his pants. I should measure him. This is DS. We had his well check yesterday and he was 33" and 25 lb. Little peanut. His pedi isn't remotely concerned about growth and eating, tho. I think yogurt is his only consistent source of fat and protein. He'd live on grapes if I let him.
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 12, 2019 17:02:30 GMT -6
So DD decided tonight she no longer likes Mac and cheese. So we're down to 4? Foods. So we're obviously killing it at this picky eater thing.
We do the division of responsibility. We choose what to serve and when and she decides what to eat and how much. If she doesn't eat and says she hungry at bedtime I tell her that she should have eaten her dinner. Rinse and repeat. Its a battle of wills. But like I'm not feeding her chocolate 24/7 like she wants. #sorrynotsorry
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Post by piratecat on Sept 12, 2019 17:46:29 GMT -6
So DD decided tonight she no longer likes Mac and cheese. So we're down to 4? Foods. So we're obviously killing it at this picky eater thing. We do the division of responsibility. We choose what to serve and when and she decides what to eat and how much. If she doesn't eat and says she hungry at bedtime I tell her that she should have eaten her dinner. Rinse and repeat. Its a battle of wills. But like I'm not feeding her chocolate 24/7 like she wants. #sorrynotsorry Ugh, what kid doesnβt like Mac and cheese? What are her 4 foods?
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 12, 2019 17:50:27 GMT -6
So DD decided tonight she no longer likes Mac and cheese. So we're down to 4? Foods. So we're obviously killing it at this picky eater thing. We do the division of responsibility. We choose what to serve and when and she decides what to eat and how much. If she doesn't eat and says she hungry at bedtime I tell her that she should have eaten her dinner. Rinse and repeat. Its a battle of wills. But like I'm not feeding her chocolate 24/7 like she wants. #sorrynotsorry Ugh, what kid doesnβt like Mac and cheese? What are her 4 foods? Grilled cheese with white cheese (found out it has to be white cheese when we went away early this week. π‘) Ramen McDonald's chicken nuggets English muffins dipped in nutella Everything else is a crapshoot as to whether she will eat it or not.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 12, 2019 17:52:26 GMT -6
So DD decided tonight she no longer likes Mac and cheese. So we're down to 4? Foods. So we're obviously killing it at this picky eater thing. We do the division of responsibility. We choose what to serve and when and she decides what to eat and how much. If she doesn't eat and says she hungry at bedtime I tell her that she should have eaten her dinner. Rinse and repeat. Its a battle of wills. But like I'm not feeding her chocolate 24/7 like she wants. #sorrynotsorry Ugh, what kid doesnβt like Mac and cheese? What are her 4 foods? My older one didnβt for the longest time and now recently decided it is not only edible but actually good π
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Post by piratecat on Sept 12, 2019 18:03:51 GMT -6
Ugh, what kid doesnβt like Mac and cheese? What are her 4 foods? Grilled cheese with white cheese (found out it has to be white cheese when we went away early this week. π‘) Ramen McDonald's chicken nuggets English muffins dipped in nutella Everything else is a crapshoot as to whether she will eat it or not. Oh man that sounds rough. Side note, I found a chocolate peanut butter at Target that is tasty (to me) and much lower in sugar than Nutella.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 12, 2019 18:05:41 GMT -6
Ugh, what kid doesnβt like Mac and cheese? What are her 4 foods? My older one didnβt for the longest time and now recently decided it is not only edible but actually good π My kid associates eating out with Mac and cheese now. Thankfully heβs not picky and will eat any and all Mac and cheese, at least for now.
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Post by ambiguousmango on Sept 12, 2019 18:17:33 GMT -6
I'm sorry to all with the food struggles. We are probably a little more strict on the eat what is presented or don't eat. However we have been lucky enough to not have problems with gaining weight or anything so I understand we are fortunate in that regard. (However I am terrified of the teenage years when he will eat me out of house and home π¬)
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 12, 2019 19:30:12 GMT -6
Grilled cheese with white cheese (found out it has to be white cheese when we went away early this week. π‘) Ramen McDonald's chicken nuggets English muffins dipped in nutella Everything else is a crapshoot as to whether she will eat it or not. Oh man that sounds rough. Side note, I found a chocolate peanut butter at Target that is tasty (to me) and much lower in sugar than Nutella. I'll look into this. I kept DD away from sugar for her whole first year hoping that it would pave the way to healthy eating. Jokes on me though, because all this kid wants is sugar.
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Post by Kida on Sept 12, 2019 19:37:43 GMT -6
So DD decided tonight she no longer likes Mac and cheese. So we're down to 4? Foods. So we're obviously killing it at this picky eater thing. We do the division of responsibility. We choose what to serve and when and she decides what to eat and how much. If she doesn't eat and says she hungry at bedtime I tell her that she should have eaten her dinner. Rinse and repeat. Its a battle of wills. But like I'm not feeding her chocolate 24/7 like she wants. #sorrynotsorry Ugh, what kid doesnβt like Mac and cheese? What are her 4 foods? My dd lol.
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Post by Kida on Sept 12, 2019 19:39:55 GMT -6
Ugh, what kid doesnβt like Mac and cheese? What are her 4 foods? Grilled cheese with white cheese (found out it has to be white cheese when we went away early this week. π‘) Ramen McDonald's chicken nuggets English muffins dipped in nutella Everything else is a crapshoot as to whether she will eat it or not. Dd eats nuggets, chicken noodle double noodle soup, peanut butter, bread, sometimes bananas and the list isn't growing lol.
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Post by Kida on Sept 12, 2019 19:42:25 GMT -6
Oh man that sounds rough. Side note, I found a chocolate peanut butter at Target that is tasty (to me) and much lower in sugar than Nutella. I'll look into this. I kept DD away from sugar for her whole first year hoping that it would pave the way to healthy eating. Jokes on me though, because all this kid wants is sugar. Same same. Pretty sure we have the same kid.
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 12, 2019 19:47:04 GMT -6
Grilled cheese with white cheese (found out it has to be white cheese when we went away early this week. π‘) Ramen McDonald's chicken nuggets English muffins dipped in nutella Everything else is a crapshoot as to whether she will eat it or not. Dd eats nuggets, chicken noodle double noodle soup, peanut butter, bread, sometimes bananas and the list isn't growing lol. Yes! Ours is somehow shrinking. But her list of junk and sugary snacks she'll gladly eat is a mile long. Girl, no.
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Post by Kida on Sept 12, 2019 19:56:43 GMT -6
Dd eats nuggets, chicken noodle double noodle soup, peanut butter, bread, sometimes bananas and the list isn't growing lol. Yes! Ours is somehow shrinking. But her list of junk and sugary snacks she'll gladly eat is a mile long. Girl, no. I know your life well lol
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