Why does it have to be Monday already?

[mwhip]

wedding Evie used to tell me I was a mean mommy. We talked about how words can be hurtful and she wouldn't like it if someone talked to her like that. It was a phase that passed and she hasn't said it in awhile.

I think they pick up on things other kids say and say them to see what kind of reaction they get.

[chrisy01]

E had her 1 year appointment today. She got 6 shots. She’s 2’ 5.25” (53%) and 20lb 15.1oz (68%). She apparently has a big head, she’s in the 72 percentile.

LO has 2 weeks of school left but it’s pretty much a day care.

Work is crazy, M1 is still acting like I’m not leaving. I only have 8 shifts left before I leave. I just keep doing what he asks me to do.

Also it was over a 100 today. I was not well prepared for it. So hot.

[flamingo]

wedding  I think I've only gotten the 'mean mom' comment maybe once? B is generally pretty sweet. Saying something like "you're a bully" or similar would flat out not be tolerated. In that instance I would turn the TV off immediately, say "we do not speak like that in our family" and he'd get sent to his room. Zero negotiation, and he'd need to apologize. 

I think there's a time and a place for ignoring certain behaviors, and I agree with mwhip that kids test out different expressions, etc. to get a reaction. With that said, my H and I prioritize being respectful of others (especially adults) so that would not fly in our house.  

[nam2013]

Jun 11, 2019 6:40:12 GMT -6 flamingo said:

wedding  I think I've only gotten the 'mean mom' comment maybe once? B is generally pretty sweet. Saying something like "you're a bully" or similar would flat out not be tolerated. In that instance I would turn the TV off immediately, say "we do not speak like that in our family" and he'd get sent to his room. Zero negotiation, and he'd need to apologize. 

I think there's a time and a place for ignoring certain behaviors, and I agree with mwhip that kids test out different expressions, etc. to get a reaction. With that said, my H and I prioritize being respectful of others (especially adults) so that would not fly in our house.  

+1. Ds is sweet natured too. Not saying it never happens, but also a 0-tolerance approach when it does. We teach him it’s okay to disagree, to be angry or to be frustrated, but this is not the way to deal with it. Last week his approach the showing his frustration was to yell at me ‘you smell your own underwear’ which stunned me and made me laugh so hard, his anger faded.

ETA because ds is sweet natured, I might not fully grasp what your dealing with. Not trying to come of as a sancty mommy.

[vino]

Jun 11, 2019 6:40:12 GMT -6 flamingo said:

wedding  I think I've only gotten the 'mean mom' comment maybe once? B is generally pretty sweet. Saying something like "you're a bully" or similar would flat out not be tolerated. In that instance I would turn the TV off immediately, say "we do not speak like that in our family" and he'd get sent to his room. Zero negotiation, and he'd need to apologize. 

I think there's a time and a place for ignoring certain behaviors, and I agree with mwhip that kids test out different expressions, etc. to get a reaction. With that said, my H and I prioritize being respectful of others (especially adults) so that would not fly in our house.  

+1 to this
Kindness and respect are the number one priorities in our house, mean words are not tolerated.

[jewels]

wedding We do a lot of what I think mwhip said. We turn it around on him. How would you feel if we said XYZ to you? And he usually pretty quickly gets it and apologizes.

He has been a lot moodier lately. Funny, all of his friends' parents say the same thing and we all decided that they are understanding a big change is coming (Kindergarten).

[klong11]

Didn't someone hear mention that cyclical chart, where basically until they are 6/6.5 they are in a downward slide personality/mood wise and then it will go up. Am I making this up? Maybe I'm making it up. I could have sworn there was a chart like that.

[trtlcrzy]

When the girls are mad they both tell me “I’ll never be your best mommy ever again”. I tell them that’s fine because they were never my mommy. I don’t think the extent of bullies that H knows is from “Llama Llama and the bully goat” and hasn’t used that towards me or MH.