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Post by pobre on Mar 2, 2019 22:51:34 GMT -6
You’ve spoken about this before, it was just dump the motherfucker before. I feel it’s the same energy but a different outcome here. I do think there’s been good advice I just feel like these threads in general take a life of their own that doesn’t do OP any good at some point. I think I get what you’re saying. Like the shoulda woulda coulda ain’t helping. The “I would of done this” kinda of pours salt in the wound. Or am I off? Yes exactly. I’m not mad at it and I think that it comes naturally and from a good/protective place.
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Post by McBenny on Mar 2, 2019 22:59:24 GMT -6
I think I get what you’re saying. Like the shoulda woulda coulda ain’t helping. The “I would of done this” kinda of pours salt in the wound. Or am I off? Yes exactly. I’m not mad at it and I think that it comes naturally and from a good/protective place. I see what you're saying. They do take a turn and veer off topic. Not really helpful to OP.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 2, 2019 23:02:12 GMT -6
I think I get what you’re saying. Like the shoulda woulda coulda ain’t helping. The “I would of done this” kinda of pours salt in the wound. Or am I off? Yes exactly. I’m not mad at it and I think that it comes naturally and from a good/protective place. Ok, yes. I get it. That’s where I’ve been coming from since the beginning but big words and all. It really is one of those things where you think you would know exactly what you’d do, be smart, logical and what not until..... Yes, I’m not college educated nor do I have a fancy career, but I consider myself very smart and a take no shit kind of person. 6 months ago I would have been in this thread nodding along with the “I’d do this” shit. If you told me I’d forgive my H for having an affair I’d tell you that you were nuts. No way. But here I am. In the thick of it. I seriously can not even explain it if I could. Logic is one thing, but throw in emotions and it’s a cluster fuck. ETA: BUT, I really couldn’t see myself ignoring 50k. I mean.
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Post by readyornot on Mar 2, 2019 23:03:45 GMT -6
Also if you don't owe me as the wife anything then I sure don't have to put respect on your name. You can be dumb bitch, hoe, skank, thot, thotiana, boomerang pussy, throwback pussy, right next to him being Groupon dick, dirty dick, community dick, etc. I'll make a nickname up. Trifling Tina, Ratchet Rhonda, jump off Jessica, sidewalk Sally, door knob Denise I love you, this is everything 🤣
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 2, 2019 23:07:16 GMT -6
Have we talked about sidewalk sally? She’s a repeat offender. And aggressive.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 2, 2019 23:07:48 GMT -6
But this is not the thread for that. My apologies. #drunk
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Post by auburn on Mar 2, 2019 23:08:17 GMT -6
Ratchet Rhonda killed me.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 2, 2019 23:10:32 GMT -6
Mine is karaoke Kathy. Bitch was on video singing my favorite song. It’s RUINED.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 2, 2019 23:27:04 GMT -6
This was Cher’s favorite thread today. Husband is shady. Can I send you a cake, OP? I liked this at first but I keep coming back to it. It sounds like you’re saying it’s entertaining. I really hope I’m wrong because I’d hate to think someone else’s demise is entertaining.
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Post by Cher on Mar 2, 2019 23:35:59 GMT -6
This was Cher’s favorite thread today. Husband is shady. Can I send you a cake, OP? I liked this at first but I keep coming back to it. It sounds like you’re saying it’s entertaining. I really hope I’m wrong because I’d hate to think someone else’s demise isn’t entertaining. Brux has been next to me all day so it’s not entertaining. It’s because I have spent a lot of today coming back to this. That’s the first paragraph. The second and third are saying he’s shady and she wants to do something to make her feel better.
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Post by brux on Mar 2, 2019 23:36:47 GMT -6
This was Cher’s favorite thread today. Husband is shady. Can I send you a cake, OP? I liked this at first but I keep coming back to it. It sounds like you’re saying it’s entertaining. I really hope I’m wrong because I’d hate to think someone else’s demise isn’t entertaining. nope. Not one bit. I mean, I’m not a monster and I’ve always come down hard on cheating partners. And cheaters. Ain’t no fan ever and always.
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Post by pobre on Mar 2, 2019 23:40:29 GMT -6
I liked this at first but I keep coming back to it. It sounds like you’re saying it’s entertaining. I really hope I’m wrong because I’d hate to think someone else’s demise isn’t entertaining. Brux has been next to me all day so it’s not entertaining. It’s because I have spent a lot of today coming back to this. That’s the first paragraph. The second and third are saying he’s shady and she wants to do something to make her feel better. Eh. You came after me for fun in this thread. I took the same feelings as shanado. I don’t like the turn this took. Who says the thread where someone speaks on cheating is their favorite?
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Post by pobre on Mar 2, 2019 23:45:19 GMT -6
I’m out of this convo. I don’t like how it went.
OP, good luck, I hope you can have an honest conversation. If not, get savage.
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Post by Cher on Mar 2, 2019 23:45:51 GMT -6
Brux has been next to me all day so it’s not entertaining. It’s because I have spent a lot of today coming back to this. That’s the first paragraph. The second and third are saying he’s shady and she wants to do something to make her feel better. Eh. You came after me for fun in this thread. I took the same feelings as shanado. I don’t like the turn this took. Who says the thread where someone speaks on cheating is their favorite? I came after you got saying it’s an echo chamber. Not fun. I don’t know the turn it took. I also don’t see the echo chamber. I also don’t see Brux being amused by it. Brux has long history of having an issue with cheating, this is long documented. She would never enjoy it.
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Post by pobre on Mar 3, 2019 0:02:56 GMT -6
Eh. You came after me for fun in this thread. I took the same feelings as shanado. I don’t like the turn this took. Who says the thread where someone speaks on cheating is their favorite? I came after you got saying it’s an echo chamber. Not fun. I don’t know the turn it took. I also don’t see the echo chamber. I also don’t see Brux being amused by it. Brux has long history of having an issue with cheating, this is long documented. She would never enjoy it. Ok! I said nothing about Brux, nor did She say someone’s personal tragedy is my favorite. Idk, i’m just reading what y’all are writing...
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Post by readyornot on Mar 3, 2019 0:11:21 GMT -6
Mine is karaoke Kathy. Bitch was on video singing my favorite song. It’s RUINED. The girl I (finally) caught Ex with, her last name rhymes with rusty, so I refer to her as "that Krusty Rusty bitch" 100% of the time. No sorries. Except I am sorry it's not really appropriate info for this thread
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Post by Cher on Mar 3, 2019 0:21:13 GMT -6
I came after you got saying it’s an echo chamber. Not fun. I don’t know the turn it took. I also don’t see the echo chamber. I also don’t see Brux being amused by it. Brux has long history of having an issue with cheating, this is long documented. She would never enjoy it. Ok! I said nothing about Brux, nor did She say someone’s personal tragedy is my favorite. Idk, i’m just reading what y’all are writing...
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 3, 2019 0:51:24 GMT -6
Ok! I said nothing about Brux, nor did She say someone’s personal tragedy is my favorite. Idk, i’m just reading what y’all are writing... Oh dear? Foe? Doe?
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Post by brux on Mar 3, 2019 0:58:51 GMT -6
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 3, 2019 1:03:13 GMT -6
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Post by Cher on Mar 3, 2019 1:30:47 GMT -6
I’m in Canada. This is my life now.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 3, 2019 2:17:33 GMT -6
I’m in Canada. This is my life now. I was ah-boot to say eh, but I didn’t want to be cliche. Soorry.
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Post by Pistol on Mar 3, 2019 6:11:54 GMT -6
*whispers does don’t have antlers...*
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Post by suspiciouswife on Mar 3, 2019 7:05:51 GMT -6
So you said you guys have gone to therapy, has none of this come up? Can I ask what initially got you guys going to therapy? I’m fine with you telling me to mind my own business tho. It has come up in the past but we’ve never gone on a consistent basis because it’s hard to get childcare and there are limited appointments when we are available. We started going at the suggestion of my therapist who from hearing my issues thought that we could use some work on communication. We’ve mostly been working on that, some struggles with job loss, the relationship my husband has with his family and how it impacts our marriage. We did talk about the issues I have with his drinking and drug use as well as the sex very briefly but the suggestions were very brief and we didn’t delve into these red flag issues.
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Post by pobre on Mar 3, 2019 7:06:05 GMT -6
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Post by suspiciouswife on Mar 3, 2019 7:28:06 GMT -6
For me: I wouldn’t need a thread if I saw my husband offering up cash and co-signing. I’d just not. So all these red flags. I wouldn’t need to gather more evidence. Screenshot that conversation or take a take a picture with my phone and peace out. I’m serious about financial shit. You are a very strong woman. Shit, I can tell that just from being on this forum. However, not everyone is as strong and assertive. When you’re vulnerable you tend to question things that are so obvious to others. Thank you for saying this shan-ah-doo 🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊 you are such a strong person from your posting and I am not like that at all. I can be assertive and strong when it comes to my job but with my marriage I am not. I mostly manage the finances and our savings so I have a lot of cash that is accessible to me so I’m not worried for my immediate future. I’m very much struggling with confronting him so hence me hiding at work. My life as I know it could blow up over this and I am afraid of the possible outcomes.
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Post by maybe on Mar 3, 2019 7:49:09 GMT -6
You are a very strong woman. Shit, I can tell that just from being on this forum. However, not everyone is as strong and assertive. When you’re vulnerable you tend to question things that are so obvious to others. Thank you for saying this shan-ah-doo 🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊 you are such a strong person from your posting and I am not like that at all. I can be assertive and strong when it comes to my job but with my marriage I am not. I mostly manage the finances and our savings so I have a lot of cash that is accessible to me so I’m not worried for my immediate future. I’m very much struggling with confronting him so hence me hiding at work. My life as I know it could blow up over this and I am afraid of the possible outcomes. That’s all normal. You sound much stronger than you are giving yourself credit for. None of us have walked in your specific shoes. Follow your gut.
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Post by suspiciouswife on Mar 3, 2019 7:56:04 GMT -6
I’m at work on a break thinking like WTF why would he ever think that was ok to offer up money. We once had a really bad fight, he wanted to buy a third car ( we couldn’t afford and a used Porsche) I went to work and he sent me a message he was going to look at it. He then messaged me and said he bought it. I was so livid, he was ‘joking’ around because he wanted to get back at me. I told him messing up our finances is a divorcable situation in my books.
I just don’t even know where to start, we talk and it goes bad, do I kick him out? Like what do I do? I’m pretty sure he suspects I looked at his phone last night.
I’m very happy that a lot of you have great marriages and can give me perspective on things but it’s not super easy for someone in my position to have a good perspective on things because things have been so twisted for so long. To be honest it’s all become mostly normal to me.
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Post by maybe on Mar 3, 2019 8:12:00 GMT -6
From what you have said about your finances and the way you manage them and watch them, the $50k offer sounds like a lot of shit talking to me. Would he even have access to that amount of money to give away if you manage most of it?
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Post by bazi on Mar 3, 2019 8:23:44 GMT -6
From what you have said about your finances and the way you manage them and watch them, the $50k offer sounds like a lot of shit talking to me. Would he even have access to that amount of money to give away if you manage most of it? This was my thought too, unless you are in a very $$$$ financial situation. Maybe that was just bullshit and an excuse to talk to this chick.
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