McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Mar 2, 2019 21:20:46 GMT -6
If MH gives a bitch $50, I am going to be all "who's that woman Harpo?" on his ass.
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richard
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Post by richard on Mar 2, 2019 21:21:33 GMT -6
OP, 400 FB friends doesn't seem like a crazy number to me. You really don't know (or couldn't figure out relatively easily) how your husband knows many of those? At least like "hometown," "college," or "work." This woman is really a complete unknown?
That's kind of odd to me - unless he's truly FB friends with a bunch of random strangers and that's even weirder to me. Where is he meeting these people?
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richard
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Post by richard on Mar 2, 2019 21:24:09 GMT -6
OP, 400 FB friends doesn't seem like a crazy number to me. You really don't know (or couldn't figure out relatively easily) how your husband knows many of those? At least like "hometown," "college," or "work." This woman is really a complete unknown? That's kind of odd to me - unless he's truly FB friends with a bunch of random strangers and that's even weirder to me. Where is he meeting these people? As soon as I posted this, I realized that I am FB friends with some people who would appear to be random strangers to MH...from here. Lol.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 2, 2019 21:24:49 GMT -6
You are a very strong woman. Shit, I can tell that just from being on this forum. However, not everyone is as strong and assertive. When you’re vulnerable you tend to question things that are so obvious to others. H and I are about 6ish months out from a very rough patch. When shit was going left the first thing I secured was money. Anything else can happen but money makes the world go round. Like let me be pissed and not have to worry about cash. I was hotly mad and I’m telling you I knew exactly what my liquid cash was , what was in the bank and what was in other places. If we learn anything here is that you don’t really know anyone. We want to believe the best of our spouses but people do shady things and we have to protect ourself as much as we can. I do that with my cash. I don’t know if you or anyone else recall an argument we had here about SAHMs stashing away “just in case” money or what my mother called “mattress money”, but I tell you what even though I got flamed for doing that, I was so fucking thankful I did. Because you’re right, money makes the world go round and whether we like it or not it’s a fact of life. So, yes, I get what you’re saying.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Mar 2, 2019 21:27:13 GMT -6
Also if you don't owe me as the wife anything then I sure don't have to put respect on your name. You can be dumb bitch, hoe, skank, thot, thotiana, boomerang pussy, throwback pussy, right next to him being Groupon dick, dirty dick, community dick, etc.
I'll make a nickname up. Trifling Tina, Ratchet Rhonda, jump off Jessica, sidewalk Sally, door knob Denise
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2019 21:28:45 GMT -6
H and I are about 6ish months out from a very rough patch. When shit was going left the first thing I secured was money. Anything else can happen but money makes the world go round. Like let me be pissed and not have to worry about cash. I was hotly mad and I’m telling you I knew exactly what my liquid cash was , what was in the bank and what was in other places. If we learn anything here is that you don’t really know anyone. We want to believe the best of our spouses but people do shady things and we have to protect ourself as much as we can. I do that with my cash. I don’t know if you or anyone else recall an argument we had here about SAHMs stashing away “just in case” money or what my mother called “mattress money”, but I tell you what even though I got flamed for doing that, I was so fucking thankful I did. Because you’re right, money makes the world go round and whether we like it or not it’s a fact of life. So, yes, I get what you’re saying. I SaH, our accounts are all linked. I’m secure in my relationship, but I am always team #trustnobitch. If things go sideways, I’ll feel good about leaving if I need too. It’s only smart to make sure you have options and money is the easiest way to do that.
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Post by veganontuesdays on Mar 2, 2019 21:28:47 GMT -6
Also if you don't owe me as the wife anything then I sure don't have to put respect on your name. You can be dumb bitch, hoe, skank, thot, thotiana, boomerang pussy, throwback pussy, right next to him being Groupon dick, dirty dick, community dick, etc. I'll make a nickname up. Trifling Tina, Ratchet Rhonda, jump off Jessica, sidewalk Sally, door knob Denise I'm in tears.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Mar 2, 2019 21:29:14 GMT -6
PO is right. You can tell Mr Light man your H gave a bitch 50k and you can't pay your bill.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 2, 2019 21:35:57 GMT -6
I don’t know if you or anyone else recall an argument we had here about SAHMs stashing away “just in case” money or what my mother called “mattress money”, but I tell you what even though I got flamed for doing that, I was so fucking thankful I did. Because you’re right, money makes the world go round and whether we like it or not it’s a fact of life. So, yes, I get what you’re saying. Even working mothers. I seee a lot of people post “my psychos essentially daycare” and I’m like stash even 60$ a check. Biweekly that’s still over 1500 a year. That’s enough to dash real quick if something goes left. $20 here, $10 here for years paid for groceries for the 3 months I was suddenly on my own. I dare someone to flame me for that shit now.
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Jesslfar
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Post by Jesslfar on Mar 2, 2019 21:36:15 GMT -6
We don’t all stash money just in case? No way was I flaming that.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 2, 2019 21:38:05 GMT -6
We don’t all stash money just in case? No way was I flaming that. If I remember some even called it stealing.
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Cher
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Post by Cher on Mar 2, 2019 21:39:32 GMT -6
It’s a lie to say that I am sober right now I am not. 50k is so much money to be handing over all Willy nilly with no input from your spouse. I hadn’t even fully digested the amount at hand but fuckk I got a little bit and I just said on Friday that MH can invest without clearing it with me and I’d still be fighting over a $50k investment to a massage therapist. Say what now.
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Jesslfar
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Post by Jesslfar on Mar 2, 2019 21:41:49 GMT -6
We don’t all stash money just in case? No way was I flaming that. If I remember some even called it stealing. Nope. That is my money too. I have photocopies of all our accounts, birth certificates etc stashed along with money and I regularly check all accounts and I am in no way suspicious or thinking of leaving. I do need to be able to pay for a month of rent and food and get into the money if things went bad. It would be stealing if it were not my husband. Half of what’s his is mine.
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Post by Cher on Mar 2, 2019 21:44:12 GMT -6
I don’t care if you’re sliding up in DMs because it’s my bday or I went on vacation or whatever. I have random dudes from college that do that. Some of them are married or whatever. I see them and I’ll tell you right now they’re not doing it because they just really want to wish me a happy bday in private message.
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brux
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Post by brux on Mar 2, 2019 21:45:14 GMT -6
Also if you don't owe me as the wife anything then I sure don't have to put respect on your name. You can be dumb bitch, hoe, skank, thot, thotiana, boomerang pussy, throwback pussy, right next to him being Groupon dick, dirty dick, community dick, etc. I'll make a nickname up. Trifling Tina, Ratchet Rhonda, jump off Jessica, sidewalk Sally, door knob Denise Individual skank owes me as an individual nothing. But individual skank knows at a minimum dude is married. And she owes society at large a duty not to fuck with a relationship.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 2, 2019 21:55:32 GMT -6
Also if you don't owe me as the wife anything then I sure don't have to put respect on your name. You can be dumb bitch, hoe, skank, thot, thotiana, boomerang pussy, throwback pussy, right next to him being Groupon dick, dirty dick, community dick, etc. I'll make a nickname up. Trifling Tina, Ratchet Rhonda, jump off Jessica, sidewalk Sally, door knob Denise Individual skank owes me as an individual nothing. But individual skank knows at a minimum dude is married. And she owes society at large a duty not to fuck with a relationship. I agree. But, even tho I wanted to contact the bitch and let south side Chicago Shan out, I had to be grown and put that energy into the real dickhead here. I’m kinda of a klassy lady but let me tell you I was dusting those brass knuckles off, but I came to my senses.
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Jesslfar
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Post by Jesslfar on Mar 2, 2019 21:59:36 GMT -6
Also if you don't owe me as the wife anything then I sure don't have to put respect on your name. You can be dumb bitch, hoe, skank, thot, thotiana, boomerang pussy, throwback pussy, right next to him being Groupon dick, dirty dick, community dick, etc. I'll make a nickname up. Trifling Tina, Ratchet Rhonda, jump off Jessica, sidewalk Sally, door knob Denise Individual skank owes me as an individual nothing. But individual skank knows at a minimum dude is married. And she owes society at large a duty not to fuck with a relationship. Individual skank should have a conscious and not fuck with taken men. Individual skank who is going to accept $50k from a married man is next level. I would not be expecting said skank to not default or ask for more money for anything else knowing full well she is screwing OP and H financially for years.
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Post by readyornot on Mar 2, 2019 22:06:29 GMT -6
shan-ah-doo :::pointy eye thing to everything you've said in this thread:: & much love, dear❤
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pobre
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Post by pobre on Mar 2, 2019 22:16:42 GMT -6
I find these threads to be the true echo chambers and circle jerks of this place.
OP, I would really think about what I wanted out of all of this before I confronted or made decisions. I agree with PPs that he sounds like he’s into some shady shit. You don’t have to make any decisions now. Plan for the worst, hope for the best.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2019 22:23:16 GMT -6
I find these threads to be the true echo chambers and circle jerks of this place. OP, I would really think about what I wanted out of all of this before I confronted or made decisions. I agree with PPs that he sounds like he’s into some shady shit. You don’t have to make any decisions now. Plan for the worst, hope for the best. I’m confused to the circle jerk and echo chamber comment. Seems like there are a few different views on how one would proceed with this situation.
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Post by pobre on Mar 2, 2019 22:26:06 GMT -6
I find these threads to be the true echo chambers and circle jerks of this place. OP, I would really think about what I wanted out of all of this before I confronted or made decisions. I agree with PPs that he sounds like he’s into some shady shit. You don’t have to make any decisions now. Plan for the worst, hope for the best. I’m confused to the circle jerk and echo chamber comment. Seems like there are a few different views on how one would proceed with this situation. Noted.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 2, 2019 22:26:36 GMT -6
I don’t care if you’re sliding up in DMs because it’s my bday or I went on vacation or whatever. I have random dudes from college that do that. Some of them are married or whatever. I see them and I’ll tell you right now they’re not doing it because they just really want to wish me a happy bday in private message. I shit you not every old flame I accepted on fb promptly messaged me asking to hook up. Literally within a day.
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Post by Cher on Mar 2, 2019 22:27:08 GMT -6
I’m confused to the circle jerk and echo chamber comment. Seems like there are a few different views on how one would proceed with this situation. Noted. Yo Pobre come throuuuugh with that dissenting opinion.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2019 22:28:12 GMT -6
I don’t care if you’re sliding up in DMs because it’s my bday or I went on vacation or whatever. I have random dudes from college that do that. Some of them are married or whatever. I see them and I’ll tell you right now they’re not doing it because they just really want to wish me a happy bday in private message. Yeah. Happy birthday can be written on the wall for everyone to see. No DMs needed.
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pobre
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Post by pobre on Mar 2, 2019 22:29:41 GMT -6
Yo Pobre come throuuuugh with that dissenting opinion. I already stated my opinion on the thread and issue at hand, idk what else there is to share? It’s how I read the thread.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Mar 2, 2019 22:41:19 GMT -6
Echo chamber? I mean I guess that's true. Most people will be on the anti getting cheated on bench.
I'm assuming.
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pobre
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Post by pobre on Mar 2, 2019 22:46:24 GMT -6
Echo chamber? I mean I guess that's true. Most people will be on the anti getting cheated on bench. I'm assuming. You’ve spoken about this before, it was just dump the motherfucker before. I feel it’s the same energy but a different outcome here. I do think there’s been good advice I just feel like these threads in general take a life of their own that doesn’t do OP any good at some point.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 2, 2019 22:47:25 GMT -6
I’m kinda embarrassed to admit that I don’t know what echo chambers mean.
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Post by shan-ah-doo on Mar 2, 2019 22:49:24 GMT -6
Echo chamber? I mean I guess that's true. Most people will be on the anti getting cheated on bench. I'm assuming. You’ve spoken about this before, it was just dump the motherfucker before. I feel it’s the same energy but a different outcome here. I do think there’s been good advice I just feel like these threads in general take a life of their own that doesn’t do OP any good at some point. I think I get what you’re saying. Like the shoulda woulda coulda ain’t helping. The “I would of done this” kinda of pours salt in the wound. Or am I off?
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pobre
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Post by pobre on Mar 2, 2019 22:49:46 GMT -6
I know everyone wants to take offense to my comment but it really wasn’t directed at anyone in particular.
This situation is just so situational and a lot of the advice is so specific and shit gets magnified. That’s really all I meant.
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