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Post by dashook on Feb 9, 2019 19:29:43 GMT -6
Hahahahaha! I saw this and thought of you dashook. Yasss 😂
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 10, 2019 3:52:29 GMT -6
I've been up for the past hour. H woke me up coming into our room to get something and I probably would've fallen back asleep except then he went into the bathroom to shave (who does that at 2am??). So I got a drink, peed, and came back to bed but was still struggling to sleep when I heard him get the dog and leave the house. WTF. I know it's probably because he can't sleep so he's going to play Pokemon Go, but still. For starters, at this stage in pregnancy, why would you leave your wife at home alone with the kids in the middle of the night? Secondly, given the sketchy people who have shown up at our house in the middle of the night, specifically car thieves recently, why would you not at least leave the dog to bark and wake us up if someone showed up? Now I'm wide awake and irritated.
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Post by strawberrykiki on Feb 10, 2019 4:32:21 GMT -6
thelittleredm I would be super pissed. You don’t leave without saying something.
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Post by notagoddess on Feb 10, 2019 8:13:43 GMT -6
6 hours of close together contractions and then they completely stopped I am so disappointed! I got really hyped up to have my baby.
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Post by dashook on Feb 10, 2019 8:13:52 GMT -6
thelittleredm our husbands have to be having a contest to see who can get the most eye rolls/head shakes from JF19. Get it together, dudes!
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Post by dashook on Feb 10, 2019 8:14:31 GMT -6
Aww notagoddess that is a huge let down! Soon, mama...soon.
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Post by dashook on Feb 10, 2019 8:19:12 GMT -6
Last night was rough. V wouldn’t fall asleep until 12:30 (I made MH take him and do the rocking from like 11:45 so I got a short nap I guess). Then he slept really restlessly for about 4 hours so I barely slept because I had to keep waking up to replace the paci or jiggle him a little.
That was followed by two 1.5 hour-ish stretches. Not a lot of sleep. I have a headache this morning.
I’m worried he no longer likes sleeping in bed with me, hence the restlessness. If that’s the case then we have run out of places where he likes to sleep. Wtf kid?
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 10, 2019 9:09:11 GMT -6
notagoddess , Hugs lady. That would be incredibly disappointing. If nothing else, at least all that time contacting probably helped make some progress that you won't have to make later. dashook, Oh that's rough. Hopefully his restless behavior has nothing to do with sleeping with you. Maybe just poor sleeping because of a growth spurt? Well, I'm still irritated he left but I called him and asked where he was and why it wasn't a good idea for him to just leave, especially without saying anything. Apparently, it never crossed his mind to be a bad thing. But he was up because of PTSD nightmares and it's hard for him to stay in the house at that hour after them so I'll forgive it. It still took him like, 20 minutes to get home. I was wide awake so he came home to me on the couch watching The Bachelor, eating a slice of cheesecake, and sipping on pineapple juice. We were up for almost another hour before either of us could get back to sleep and of course, the kids were up less than 2 hours after that. Naps will be had today. Zzzzzzzzzz
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Post by TashaLa on Feb 10, 2019 9:48:02 GMT -6
@notagodess Bummer! I was hoping your silence meant things were moving along! Hopefully soon!!! thelittleredmThat’s frustrating and scary. I can see him needed an outlet, but communication would’ve helped. AFM- what do we do when these little beings have diaper rashes? S has 2 really raw spots on either side of her butt that just won’t quit! It’s so painful when I wipe her. So today we’re doing lots of fresh air (I forgot how far baby poo can squirt!) wipes with water on washcloths only, trying to figure out which cream, paste, ointment works best for her... am I missing something? I just feel awful!
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 10, 2019 9:50:40 GMT -6
@tashla, DS2 still gets really bad diaper rashes. We alternate the Desitin Max with turmeric mixed into coconut oil and it usually clears up faster than with just one treatment option.
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 10, 2019 10:17:04 GMT -6
@amc, I definitely think how he responds to it is worse since we aren't sleeping in the same room right now so I'm not right there when he wakes up to help calm him down a bit.
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Post by k on Feb 10, 2019 10:36:52 GMT -6
@tashla, DS2 still gets really bad diaper rashes. We alternate the Desitin Max with turmeric mixed into coconut oil and it usually clears up faster than with just one treatment option. Turmeric?! Never heard that one before. Doesn’t it stain?!
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Post by k on Feb 10, 2019 10:39:29 GMT -6
TashaLa is it raised at all? If so, could be yeast. Lotrimin and then triple paste on top. We also use water wipes only during bad rashes. baking soda bath soaks and aquafor barrier at each diaper change once the rash has cleared up.
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Post by cch on Feb 10, 2019 11:01:48 GMT -6
thelittleredm I’m shocked that your husband would leave you motn with children and not say a word. I’d be super frustrated too- hell, I’m frustrated for you! I hope he doesn’t make a habit of it and gives you a good explanation! Hugs notagoddess That’s such a bummer. Sorry lady. You’re so close! dashook We didn’t get much sleep last night either. I’m beat. Sending sleepy dust your way. Hopefully we’ll be able to get some much needed longer stretches of sleep soon. TashaLa poor girl! We haven’t had our first diaper rash yet but I remember doing lots of airing out when E got a newborn rash. I’ve heard good things able triple paste too. I also used Desitin with DD1 and it seemed to at least half the time. Hope it clears up soon! We are home! Came home yesterday around noon. A turned 3 days old at 7:14 this morning. My milk is in and my boobs are massive and rock hard! They started leaking when I got out of the shower earlier and I just pumped a little over an oz on each side after also nursing A about 6x in the last 12 hours l. She has been nursing like a champ but cluster feeding and had a TT so it’s painful but we’re working hard at it and will probably have the TT revised next week.
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 10, 2019 12:04:15 GMT -6
@tashla, DS2 still gets really bad diaper rashes. We alternate the Desitin Max with turmeric mixed into coconut oil and it usually clears up faster than with just one treatment option. Turmeric?! Never heard that one before. Doesn’t it stain?! So, it does a bit. We're always careful about making sure the diaper is fully on the spot. And generally, we only use it at home so we don't have to worry about putting clothes over it besides already stained onesies.
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Post by TashaLa on Feb 10, 2019 12:46:25 GMT -6
Thanks for the tips ladies! k not raised, but so raw. I’ll keep yeast in mind for if it changes though! thelittleredm hmmm... I’ll keep turmeric in mind cch welcome home!!!
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Post by redhead610 on Feb 10, 2019 12:55:40 GMT -6
We used triple paste on ds3 and it cleared the diaper rash up. We usually use a&d ay other times, but all 3 boys always had terrible diaper rash at about 1 week old. With ds2 we ended up buying adult diaper rash cream (next to the Depends in stores) and that worked really well.
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Post by dashook on Feb 10, 2019 14:15:38 GMT -6
TashaLa are you using disposable diapers? You might want to try switching brands. No personal experience but I have a lot of friends who have said their LOs got rashes with certain brands but noy others. In addition to the other suggestions on diaper creams, and at the risk of sounding super crunchy, you could also try putting some breastmilk on S’s rash. Either straight up or mixed with a little cornstarch to form a paste.
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Post by k on Feb 10, 2019 14:30:03 GMT -6
TashaLa are you using disposable diapers? You might want to try switching brands. No personal experience but I have a lot of friends who have said their LOs got rashes with certain brands but noy others. In addition to the other suggestions on diaper creams, and at the risk of sounding super crunchy, you could also try putting some breastmilk on S’s rash. Either straight up or mixed with a little cornstarch to form a paste. Haha I’ve been there 🤚, have also had to squirt it into clogged tear ducts several times.
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Post by cch on Feb 10, 2019 15:06:40 GMT -6
+1 for using breast milk for clogged tear ducts and diaper rashes!
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Post by dashook on Feb 10, 2019 17:01:13 GMT -6
My right eyelid was randomly swollen last week and after days of putting warm compresses on it (to no effect), I tried breastmilk and voila! It went away 😆
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Post by k on Feb 10, 2019 17:11:00 GMT -6
My right eyelid was randomly swollen last week and after days of putting warm compresses on it (to no effect), I tried breastmilk and voila! It went away 😆 Magic ✨
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Post by thelittleredm on Feb 10, 2019 18:06:18 GMT -6
hrh, So, yes and no for the mentor? He has two close friends who are also combat vets but one lives across the country and it's hard for them to reach each other because of the time change and schedule. The other lives here but has a crazy schedule and they end up playing phone tag a lot. But he doesn't like discussing things with people who haven't been in his shoes and at the same time doesn't like to discuss things with people who have been in his shoes because he feels like it makes the conversation turn into a one-upping deal and he hates that.
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Post by cch on Feb 10, 2019 18:41:40 GMT -6
My mom had DD1 for two nights while we were in the hospital. My step dad and little brother (12yo) came to meet A yesterday and stayed for a couple hours. DD and little brother played the entire time and he held A for about 20 minutes. My mom lives 1.5 hours away and went home yesterday but planned to come back Tuesday morning- Friday morning to help. She just called and told me little brother is running 100.7 today and will not be going to school tomorrow and that she may have to stay home Tuesday to be with him. So now I’m worried that one, A could get sick because he was holding her for so long yesterday and was here for over 2 hours. Two, I’m worried that DD, MH or I could come down with a cold from him. And I’m worried about being home with no help with A just being 4 days old. I had a 2nd degree tear and was sewed up with sutures that I’m allergic to- my doctor didn’t deliver and even though it was in the chart AND I told the nurse about my allergy (I know bc they used vicryl sutures to sew me up with DD and they didn’t take- took me 17 weeks to heal after being cauterized multiple times) they still used the wrong ones. Not to mention my milk came in and I’m completely engorged and with her TT I’m dealing with extra pain when nursing- especially during that initial latch. I haven’t slept more than 3 hours total for the last 4 nights and cried once last night and just broke down and cried when I got off the phone with my mom. My brother being sick was just the last straw and I’m so pissed that he came now. He didn’t know he was sick then but it was just yesterday so he was obviously already coming down with whatever he has then and I’m terrified about A catching something.
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Post by notagoddess on Feb 10, 2019 18:48:27 GMT -6
cch you must be so exhausted. Can YH stay with you a few extra days while your mom stays with your brother? I really hope the germs don’t end up spreading.
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Post by sunshiney on Feb 10, 2019 18:50:40 GMT -6
cch oh friend I am so so sorry! Praying so hard you all stay healthy. Can you have those stitches removed/replaced early somehow and maybe heal better than last time?! I'm sure it's not what's on your mind right now but it makes me think that a lawsuit may be in order, they need to learn to take their patient's health more seriously! You are so strong and brave to keep nursing through this time before her TT can be treated. My heart goes out to you and A!
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Post by dashook on Feb 10, 2019 20:07:40 GMT -6
cch biggest hugs, lady. I am so mad for you about the stitches—that’s inexcusable! On top of everything else you’re dealing with. Praying no one else gets sick, especially you and A! I hope you can get some extra help and some reat. It’s all so overwhelming. Hang in there, mama.
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Post by cch on Feb 10, 2019 21:01:46 GMT -6
Thank you all for the support ❤️ I’m having a tough time wrapping my mind around it all. I’m trying not to worry too much about sickness since we all seem to be fine so far. That’s so much easier said than done though. Running on empty has a lot to do with me being emotional this evening so hopefully A will sleep better tonight and give me some much needed rest.
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Post by dashook on Feb 10, 2019 21:42:45 GMT -6
Thank you all for the support ❤️ I’m having a tough time wrapping my mind around it all. I’m trying not to worry too much about sickness since we all seem to be fine so far. That’s so much easier said than done though. Running on empty has a lot to do with me being emotional this evening so hopefully A will sleep better tonight and give me some much needed rest. So much this. It’s night and day for me (no pun intended) how well I’m able to handle stressors and emotions on days I’m running on fumes vs. days where I have gotten any decent amount of sleep. Plus you are only a few days in—your hormones also are wild right now! I hope you guys get some great sleep tonight 💗
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Post by CharlieB on Feb 11, 2019 5:31:50 GMT -6
cch Huge hugs to you. That’s some crap about the stitches and never should have happened. I’m so sorry about the sickness - I completely understand the fear of everyone catching something right now. I hope you were able to get a little more rest tonight. Cry when you need to ❤️ this is so hard, especially when you’re dealing with pain in addition to the usual exhaustion, discomfort, and emotions.
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