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Post by tgrimes on Jan 27, 2019 19:59:25 GMT -6
Disciplining J is putting tension on me and A. We can not agree on the right way or how much. He wants to go to the extreme on every thing and its driving me batty. Can not wait for him to go to work tomorrow. Is it me or do y’all fight a lot? |
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 27, 2019 20:00:23 GMT -6
My good friend who is O’s kindergarten best friend’s mom just dropped the bomb on me today that she and her H are getting a divorce. I was shocked. I like both her and her H. Actually i hang out with her H a lot because we carpool to swim lessons. I feel really weird, like it’s happening to me or something. It’ll obviously affect our friend group and we’ll end up picking a side (especially if they aren’t amicable/dont want to see each other). I’m just shocked and sad, and i guess feeling slightly selfish too. It’s the pits. That sucks, I’m sorry. |
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Post by flamingo on Jan 27, 2019 20:00:38 GMT -6
Ooh that's tough snoopmommymom . I'm sorry. We haven't really experienced that yet, I imagine it'll be hard on all involved. Hopefully it will be amicable for their kids' sake, if nothing else. My parents' BFFs of 30 years are on the verge of divorce and it's been so weird, but so far my mom and dad have been able to maintain good relationships with both the husband and wife. So it can happen, I think it just takes grace and some flexibility. |
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Post by peachsmama on Jan 27, 2019 20:02:07 GMT -6
Disciplining J is putting tension on me and A. We can not agree on the right way or how much. He wants to go to the extreme on every thing and its driving me batty. Can not wait for him to go to work tomorrow. Is it me or do y’all fight a lot? Usually, never. But lately yes. Probably the last month or so. We're normally so in sync and connected. Idk what this funk is that we're in but we need to get past it. |
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Post by mwhip on Jan 27, 2019 20:18:27 GMT -6
Morning! Just having a cup of coffee before making coffee. H leaves tomorrow to go to North Dakota for the week, so he has a bunch of laundry and I need to clean the house. This is a terrible week to go up there. We have a cold snap so I bet they do too, but worse. He is not excited...to put it nicely. I keep reminding him at least hes not in the shop here (which drives him crazy since he was hired for field service). He keeps reminding me of exactly how cold it is going to be this week up there. |
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joelies
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Post by joelies on Jan 27, 2019 20:25:25 GMT -6
snoopmommymom - My best friend is going through a divorce right now. We've been friends since the tenth grade. I've been friends with her STBXH since the eleventh.  I suppose he's done us all a favor by being a dick and making it very easy to turn our backs on him. It was devastating at first.
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klong11
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Post by klong11 on Jan 27, 2019 20:41:18 GMT -6
peachsmama I feel like y'all will get back in the groove once you are in your house. It's probably getting pretty cramped. As far as J, what seems to be the problem, exactly? Do you discipline him the same way as M?
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Post by klong11 on Jan 27, 2019 20:45:23 GMT -6
My glasses that are normally on my bedside table apparently got knocked down by someone(shithead cats) and I didn't see them and stepped on them. Yep, unfixable. Granted, I rarely wear them and needed new ones, but still.
I'm waiting for my mattress cover and duvet to dry so I can get my bed made, then I need to put the final load in the dryer and shit better be dry in the morning. I feel like I've been doing endless laundry all day long.
I also need someone to come break into my home and steal all the toys. I'm so tired of picking things up and then finding them on the floor yet again.
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Sunny41
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Post by Sunny41 on Jan 27, 2019 20:58:31 GMT -6
If anyone is looking to get rid of stuffed animals, our DC is asking for gently used ones for police officers to hand out to kids who have experienced traumas. Talk to your DC about doing this
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Post by lahdeedah on Jan 27, 2019 21:08:36 GMT -6
I shopped at 3 grocery stores, spent what seems like a million dollars on food; the fridge, freezer and pantry are packed full, meal prepped for lunches for all four of us, and yet we order pizza for Sunday night dinner. Makes zero sense. Have done. Feels like defeat every time. |
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Post by peachsmama on Jan 27, 2019 21:44:11 GMT -6
peachsmama I feel like y'all will get back in the groove once you are in your house. It's probably getting pretty cramped. As far as J, what seems to be the problem, exactly? Do you discipline him the same way as M? I think you're right. I think me and my parents being home 24/7 is making me a little crazy and I'm not where I should be mentally. My mom goes back to work tomorrow so that should help. I just need the temp to rise 50 degrees so my dad would leave the kitchen.... We do but j is so extreme. If I put M in timeout hes pissed but he sits. Jack screams, flails, yells, gets down and theres no calming him. I know it's the age but A wants to double or triple punish him for things when it's already resolved. Like tonight, he kept trying to sit on m. Which obviously upset m. A told him to get off or he would go to bed now and not get to finish the movie. He did the 1,2,3 magic count and j would not quit. So I took him to the bedroom. A follows telling him hes taking his crane truck away. The punishment was early bed time, which I was doing and had already calmed him down from his initial upset. Why do we need to take toys too and get him screaming again when hes already been punished? That's just one example but it seems like he doesnt remember that m was just as crazy and hard to discipline at this age and he expects to much from him. |
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cagoldi
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Post by cagoldi on Jan 27, 2019 21:49:25 GMT -6
I have no desire to ski or snowboard. We are the same. |
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Post by cagoldi on Jan 27, 2019 21:57:16 GMT -6
Hi all.
The plague has hit our house, too. Dude was invited to a friend’s for dinner, but I had to ask if we could postpone since he’s not feeling well. Would have been his first play date at a friend’s house.
We took my SM to breakfast for her birthday and all of the kids were angels. It was astonishing.
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Sunny41
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Post by Sunny41 on Jan 27, 2019 22:18:42 GMT -6
peachsmama sounds like you are both at your threshold limit. Don't forget your hormones are off and you aren't holding down much food. Find a time when you are both calm and discuss that when 1 parent is in the middle of disciplining the other should only comment when the other requests a tap out. Also taik about when you need to tap out. A sounds like I was with E a few years ago about the same age.
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on Jan 27, 2019 22:30:50 GMT -6
I know people say snowboarding is easier but I tried once and couldn't stay on my feet for more than 10 seconds at a time. I hated it. Skiing is much more intuitive for me. But I'm also scared of going too fast that i carve so much my calves ache the next day. I could never go on a several day ski vacation because my body would reject me.
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on Jan 27, 2019 22:31:58 GMT -6
That's frustrating peachsmama. It sounds like you could both use a breather. |
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Post by kim22 on Jan 28, 2019 15:51:17 GMT -6
I know people say snowboarding is easier but I tried once and couldn't stay on my feet for more than 10 seconds at a time. I hated it. Skiing is much more intuitive for me. But I'm also scared of going too fast that i carve so much my calves ache the next day. I could never go on a several day ski vacation because my body would reject me. I’m the exact same. |
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I suppose he's done us all a favor by being a dick and making it very easy to turn our backs on him. It was devastating at first.
