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Post by leatherpants on Jan 24, 2019 20:15:37 GMT -6
And I live the gratitude practices. I found a piece of paper I wrote one down on during the first WLC we did here and it made me smile so I stuck it in my purse
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2019 8:33:37 GMT -6
My DD has been sick and I've realized that when things go south in my life, I tend to get overwhelmed and everything falls apart. I missed work for two days and felt like my boss was mad at me, DD's fever got really high and her eyes were like rolling in her head and I was scared af, I threw the ipad at DS to just get through evenings (not literally thrown). I haven't slept, I've eaten shitty, etc. I know a lot of this is anxiety. I probably need to up my med dosage.
Also, I read in the motivation thread that someone (I don't remember who) said that when she messes up she starts right over with the next meal. I need to figure out how to get back on track and not let EVERYTHING go haywire. It is easy for me to make excuses due to parenting solo, no outside help, etc., but then I fall back into feeling shitty about myself, etc.
I don't know. I'm a work in progress.
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Post by yoginikiki on Jan 25, 2019 11:11:10 GMT -6
apk4, first off, I want you to take a few deep breaths (literally, do that right now as you are reading this--not being snarky.) You have already taken charge of things just by participating with this challenge. Right now you have too much shit going on. I've been there. Last time I did this challenge I completely fell apart...the others can tell you. I didn't even post scores for like three-four weeks. Notice that every category is weighted equally. I know I feel like nutrition and exercise points are the "most important" and I feel bad about myself and tell myself bad things when I don't get those points. That is bullshit. There is a reason hydrating yourself is as important as exercising ten minutes. Focus on the sneaky categories, those are the ones that help the most in keeping your head above water. The goal is improvement from baseline....not a complete transformation of your whole life. Pick one or two of the categories for this upcoming week. My pick would be hydration and stretching. Aim for fives in each of those two- if you get points in the others that is awesome! If not, who cares...we have six weeks to shift focus on each element. One time my goal was to only make 5 poor food choices per day. So to end up with 0 nutrition points. TBH my baseline nutrition before this challenge was around - 6-8 points per day. When I hit a 2 on nutrition I am making 8-10 better choices PER DAY than I was before I started. How can we support you better. Want to be stretch buddies? I'll tag you when I am about to stretch. I can even tag you to drink a glass of water randomly throughout the day. Let us support you. We are here for you.
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Post by yoginikiki on Jan 25, 2019 11:12:31 GMT -6
I want you to focus on how much you ARE doing rather than how much you feel like you are not doing, apk4. You are doing so much. You are triaging so much. You are doing a great job. Help me help you see that.
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Post by yoginikiki on Jan 25, 2019 11:13:32 GMT -6
I don't know. I'm a work in progress.I want everyone in this thread (lurking and participating) to love tit this if you also feel you are a work in progress. I sure the fuck am.
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Post by leatherpants on Jan 25, 2019 11:46:37 GMT -6
My DD has been sick and I've realized that when things go south in my life, I tend to get overwhelmed and everything falls apart. I missed work for two days and felt like my boss was mad at me, DD's fever got really high and her eyes were like rolling in her head and I was scared af, I threw the ipad at DS to just get through evenings (not literally thrown). I haven't slept, I've eaten shitty, etc. I know a lot of this is anxiety. I probably need to up my med dosage. Also, I read in the motivation thread that someone (I don't remember who) said that when she messes up she starts right over with the next meal. I need to figure out how to get back on track and not let EVERYTHING go haywire. It is easy for me to make excuses due to parenting solo, no outside help, etc., but then I fall back into feeling shitty about myself, etc. I don't know. I'm a work in progress. I feel like I’ve been in exactly your shoes. Sometimes it’s just hard. And that’s life. It’s not a personal flaw. It’s not a character flaw. It’s just fucking hard some days.
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Post by leatherpants on Jan 25, 2019 11:50:10 GMT -6
Sometimes my phone goes haywire and I can’t continue typing a response. But I co-sign everything yoginikiki said. I wish my own inner voice was as kind and warm and wise as that. And sick kids are a nightmare apk4. Mine is. He screamed all fucking night last night. I’m hoping to god it’s an ear infection because if I can’t chalk it up to sickness I may lose my mind. Because of that, I’ve already lost 2 food points today.
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Post by yoginikiki on Jan 25, 2019 11:55:11 GMT -6
Add me to the sick kid club. I lost a point already today on a few bits of Annie's mac and cheese. I hate especially hate losing food points to non beer/gummy bears.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Jan 25, 2019 13:01:15 GMT -6
It can be rough apk4. Recognizing that something isn't right and wanting to change it is a good start in making changes. Definitely focus on something you can control for now, or something we can help remind you to do.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2019 13:07:48 GMT -6
You guys are really great. Thank you. It helps to know that some of this is normal and I'm not just screwing everything up. yoginikiki, I would love a stretching buddy!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2019 13:08:58 GMT -6
I think I'm going to focus on wellness, water, and stretching. Water is usually easy for me because I am drinking constantly. The other two will be good for my well-being. If I can get the others in, that's awesome too.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2019 13:09:30 GMT -6
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Post by yoginikiki on Jan 25, 2019 14:00:39 GMT -6
apk4, you too. I am figuring this is my life until April. NE Winter man....basically an entire season of cold viruses.
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Post by cnf on Jan 25, 2019 16:11:40 GMT -6
My DD has been sick and I've realized that when things go south in my life, I tend to get overwhelmed and everything falls apart. I missed work for two days and felt like my boss was mad at me, DD's fever got really high and her eyes were like rolling in her head and I was scared af, I threw the ipad at DS to just get through evenings (not literally thrown). I haven't slept, I've eaten shitty, etc. I know a lot of this is anxiety. I probably need to up my med dosage. Also, I read in the motivation thread that someone (I don't remember who) said that when she messes up she starts right over with the next meal. I need to figure out how to get back on track and not let EVERYTHING go haywire. It is easy for me to make excuses due to parenting solo, no outside help, etc., but then I fall back into feeling shitty about myself, etc. I don't know. I'm a work in progress. So many hugs.
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Post by skategirl128 on Jan 25, 2019 19:39:27 GMT -6
I’m definitely a work in progress. Some days are better than others and I’ve had to give myself a lot of grace. I’m incredibly hard on myself, especially since things are so much easier than they have been and I feel like I should be more together than I am. A lot of that is just my perception and I need to work on that.
I’ve been using this challenge to help me get myself back together. Hitting my water, sleep and wellness was my focus and although I didn’t always hit those I did hit at least three categories each day, which is a start. Baby steps! I’m glad I have a supportive group as I strive to get a little healthier and more in balance.
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Post by yoginikiki on Jan 25, 2019 20:11:20 GMT -6
I’m definitely a work in progress. Some days are better than others and I’ve had to give myself a lot of grace. I’m incredibly hard on myself, especially since things are so much easier than they have been and I feel like I should be more together than I am. A lot of that is just my perception and I need to work on that. I’ve been using this challenge to help me get myself back together. Hitting my water, sleep and wellness was my focus and although I didn’t always hit those I did hit at least three categories each day, which is a start. Baby steps! I’m glad I have a supportive group as I strive to get a little healthier and more in balance. I love this. All of it. I am so glad you are here with us!
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Post by yoginikiki on Jan 25, 2019 20:15:53 GMT -6
Week 2 begins tomorrow ladies! I hope Week 1 helped you to learn a little bit about yourself and what is hard vs. easy when it comes to a holistic wellness practice. For all of you playing "unofficially" I hope that you will post in our official thread! I'm tagging everyone who said they wanted to play, if you want to play let me know so I can tag you!!! This Week Explore Your Gratitude for People Simple Instructions: Each day, write down one person in your life who is important to you. Then write down why this person is important — what does this person mean to you, what is added to your life, and how does this person bring you joy or value? yoginikiki , leatherpants , apk4 , GhoatMonket , cnf , skategirl128 , ponyhairs , 🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊 , coconutbacon
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Post by GhoatMonket on Jan 25, 2019 22:04:47 GMT -6
I expected a zero on exercise today, but H suggested I try my bench shirt out quick to see if I can use it tomorrow. Yep. So quick workout with that. Went out to eat and played games on the kid's menu with DS instead of playing on our phones.
Meet day tomorrow!
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Post by yoginikiki on Jan 26, 2019 7:41:17 GMT -6
I expected a zero on exercise today, but H suggested I try my bench shirt out quick to see if I can use it tomorrow. Yep. So quick workout with that. Went out to eat and played games on the kid's menu with DS instead of playing on our phones. Meet day tomorrow! Good luck today!!!
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Post by cnf on Jan 26, 2019 8:04:22 GMT -6
I expected a zero on exercise today, but H suggested I try my bench shirt out quick to see if I can use it tomorrow. Yep. So quick workout with that. Went out to eat and played games on the kid's menu with DS instead of playing on our phones. Meet day tomorrow! Good luck!!!!
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Post by cnf on Jan 26, 2019 8:31:36 GMT -6
I'm also a work in progress and very hard on myself. I was always skinny and fit my whole life until the year leading up to getting pregnant with DD1, so about five years ago. I mean I've always yoyoed, both in terms of weight and fitness but for the most part I always fairly fit and thin. But I've been heavier since having kids and I've had to really mentally accept that my fitness goals need to change. There are no more three hour bike rides or infinite length swims or back to back spin classes in my future. My Ironman dream is indefinitely on hold. It's been hard for me to come to terms with.
I was down on myself all Thursday and Friday because I didn't workout Thursday and my bestie and I went out after work and ate lots of food and went to a college basketball game late. Then Friday I ate a giant muffin. But I made the muffin fit my macros, ran after work, and reminded myself that Thursday is the only day I haven't worked out all week and I had a fun night so I shouldn't feel bad.
I have a need a be perfect with my eating and my workouts. I'm very all or nothing and I know I need to not be so locked into that mindset.
I've been trying to focus on the wellness and mobility challenges. In my never ending quest to be faster and go farther and thinking I can ever get my prebaby body back (lol) I've let everything else slip. I need balance.
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Post by coconutbacon on Jan 26, 2019 10:10:08 GMT -6
I can relate cnf. I used to regularly spend 2-3 hours working out a day. I don’t have that kind of time now! Now, a lot of times my workout is squeezing in a 20-30 minute run, and if I can’t fit even that in, I struggle with not feeling bad about it. The all or nothing mentality is something I am working on too. That’s an spect of this challenge I really like— it’s a reminder that there are so many components to wellness, and if you miss the mark in one, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed entirely. In fact, it’s even possible to still overall be doing great.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Jan 26, 2019 19:47:44 GMT -6
I didn't die!
1/3 on squat. Got 195 kg (429 lbs) for my opener. Jumped to 207.5 kg (457 lbs) on second. Lost my balance forward. Tried again on third and nothing there.
2/3 on bench. 110 kg (242 lbs) opener, 120 kg (264 lbs) second attempt, missed 125 kg (275 lbs) on third.
3/3 on deadlift. Was going to open at 170 kg (374 lbs), but couldn't get 355 off the floor in the warm up room. Dropped to 160 kg (352 lbs) opener, 175 kg (385 lbs) on second, then 190 kg (419 lbs) for a PR on third.
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Post by skategirl128 on Jan 26, 2019 20:10:46 GMT -6
I had a great day today, even though I didn’t get many points today. I had a great time at my nieces baptism and I enjoyed the time with family.
I’m doing things a little differently with gratitude. I’m writing cards to people this week to let them know how much I appreciate them. I started with my mom and dad (they’re divorced) today. They’ve helped me so much and I appreciate them and their help when I needed it so much when DSs dad passed away 8 years ago. I’m taking this week to let people know how much their kindness and generosity helped me and how I still carry their kindness with me all these years later. My mom and dad loved the cards and we shed some happy tears today.
Tomorrow’s a new day and I’ll eat better and get back on track.
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Post by cnf on Jan 26, 2019 20:28:17 GMT -6
I didn't die! 1/3 on squat. Got 195 kg (429 lbs) for my opener. Jumped to 207.5 kg (457 lbs) on second. Lost my balance forward. Tried again on third and nothing there. 2/3 on bench. 110 kg (242 lbs) opener, 120 kg (264 lbs) second attempt, missed 125 kg (275 lbs) on third. 3/3 on deadlift. Was going to open at 170 kg (374 lbs), but couldn't get 355 off the floor in the warm up room. Dropped to 160 kg (352 lbs) opener, 175 kg (385 lbs) on second, then 190 kg (419 lbs) for a PR on third. Good Lord I cannot even fathom lifting those weights. You are a total badass.
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Post by yoginikiki on Jan 27, 2019 9:56:06 GMT -6
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Post by yoginikiki on Jan 27, 2019 9:56:54 GMT -6
apk4. I’m going to be getting my stretch on in front of a fire tonight at 8 pm!
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Post by yoginikiki on Jan 27, 2019 9:57:46 GMT -6
I had a great day today, even though I didn’t get many points today. I had a great time at my nieces baptism and I enjoyed the time with family. I’m doing things a little differently with gratitude. I’m writing cards to people this week to let them know how much I appreciate them. I started with my mom and dad (they’re divorced) today. They’ve helped me so much and I appreciate them and their help when I needed it so much when DSs dad passed away 8 years ago. I’m taking this week to let people know how much their kindness and generosity helped me and how I still carry their kindness with me all these years later. My mom and dad loved the cards and we shed some happy tears today. Tomorrow’s a new day and I’ll eat better and get back on track. This is really beautiful. I’m going to write some cards today too. Thanks for the idea!!!
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Post by coconutbacon on Jan 27, 2019 12:04:18 GMT -6
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Post by coconutbacon on Jan 27, 2019 12:11:36 GMT -6
I’ve joined the sick kid club. P got up last night at 10:30PM, just as I was getting ready for bed, complaining that her ear hurt. And it was no more than an hour of sleep at a time after that. Then when I was getting her dressed this morning she puked. I am exhausted and am steering clear of carbs, because I just want to stuff my face with them. I’m hoping I can get a nap in this afternoon, and then I’m determined to run at least a couple miles, because I don’t want to break my streak this late in the month.
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