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Post by Deleted on Jan 9, 2019 8:45:40 GMT -6
blackcat that sounds good! I am considering a switch to a midwife practice but my hesitation is they are growing so much - I think they are up to 10 midwives. My current OB practice probably has just as many doctors, but after having my first 3 through them I have pretty much met them all. I just need to suck it up and switch!!
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Post by beenthere on Jan 9, 2019 14:04:13 GMT -6
At this point I'm just going to wait for the ultrasound before I make any plans. I've heard boy results are wrong more often than girl results.
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Post by sammysam on Jan 9, 2019 15:26:25 GMT -6
beenthere If you have an NT scan the tech can hazard a pretty good guess at the sex.
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Post by beenthere on Jan 9, 2019 17:02:11 GMT -6
beenthere If you have an NT scan the tech can hazard a pretty good guess at the sex. they don't offer those at my hospital. :/ ETA but we are going to do a private scan at 14w5d so hopefully that's far enough that it'll show the baby's sex for real. It's two days before Valentine's day, I was hoping for a Valentine's day reveal.
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Post by cookswithwine on Jan 9, 2019 18:52:11 GMT -6
beenthere If you have an NT scan the tech can hazard a pretty good guess at the sex. We found out DS’s sex at the NT scan. I’m definitely going to ask again this time!
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Post by friendofdobby on Jan 10, 2019 10:02:24 GMT -6
My first appointment went so well! Strong heartbeat and she moved my due date up a few days to 8/14. I’m so relieved!
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Post by cookswithwine on Jan 10, 2019 10:29:23 GMT -6
I ended up telling my boss yesterday. I heard thru the grapevine that 2 coworkers had already asked if I was pg! So I wanted my boss to hear it from me even though my plan was to wait until 12 weeks.
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Post by friendofdobby on Jan 10, 2019 10:31:52 GMT -6
How did it go cookswithwine? I’m nervous to have that conversation.
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Post by cookswithwine on Jan 10, 2019 12:14:37 GMT -6
How did it go cookswithwine? I’m nervous to have that conversation. Good! She was happy for me and super understanding. She has triplets though lol so she’s always been great with family matters.
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Post by beenthere on Jan 10, 2019 20:49:40 GMT -6
I'm so exhausted, and I feel like I can't complain about it anywhere. Like, now I can't complain about anything now that I'm disappointed about my baby's (possible) sex because I'm ungrateful if I do. I still really feel girl vibes. I'm hoping the ultrasound brings peace for me either way.
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Post by friendofdobby on Jan 11, 2019 6:42:24 GMT -6
beenthere I’m sorry you’re having a rough go of it. The exhaustion is killer for sure. And I do hope your ultrasound gives you peace of mind.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2019 8:12:25 GMT -6
beenthere: I'm sorry you're feeling like that. I remember with my first pregnancy I felt like I couldn't complain about the problems because other women had it a lot worse. When I did tell people though, they agreed how hard it must have been for me. I hope you find people to talk to in person, if not, that is what this group is for! It's ok to be disappointed, you have 2 boys, I'm sure it would be nice to have a girl too. My BIL actually said when they ended up with 1 boy & 1 girl that "they each had a kid." While I disagree with BIL constantly about how to treat male & female children, I can see how there is a loss of things that you would bond over with a child of the same sex. I also hope the u/s brings you a sense of calm & acceptance, whatever you find out.
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Post by beenthere on Jan 11, 2019 11:11:55 GMT -6
beenthere: I'm sorry you're feeling like that. I remember with my first pregnancy I felt like I couldn't complain about the problems because other women had it a lot worse. When I did tell people though, they agreed how hard it must have been for me. I hope you find people to talk to in person, if not, that is what this group is for! It's ok to be disappointed, you have 2 boys, I'm sure it would be nice to have a girl too. My BIL actually said when they ended up with 1 boy & 1 girl that "they each had a kid." While I disagree with BIL constantly about how to treat male & female children, I can see how there is a loss of things that you would bond over with a child of the same sex. I also hope the u/s brings you a sense of calm & acceptance, whatever you find out. It's just a whole lot of things for me. I was really hoping that we'd be done with this pregnancy, or, at least if we decided to have another, the pressure would be totally off if we had a girl this time, next time. Now if this is a boy, it's gonna be even more pressure next time. 4 is probably our Max. And my husband is trying to make big decisions on his career right now and that's stressful too.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2019 14:05:32 GMT -6
beenthere : Ugh been there with job decisions. Around the time DD was born, DH's contract was up so he could leave with no penalty. We ended up moving, which was part of the plan because job options were nil where we lived, when she was 6 months old. It was a ton of stress, considering where to live not only for ourselves but now for this tiny person we were in charge of. It must be hard dealing with that pressure. If possible, would it make sense to try and focus on this pregnancy, this child for now? You can make a list or just focus thoughts on positive things surrounding him (if that is the confirmed sex). "What ifs" and disappointments trip all of us up, so sometimes finding the light in the dark (if you're an HP fan, there's a Dumbledore quote for this) and focusing on the present helps reduce anxiety and boost our mood. If none of that sounds helpful, then just do whatever is working for you right now. ETA: peachesncream is right, counselling is very helpful. The above was from my anxiety therapy. ETA2: Because I have anxiety I want to be super clear that my advice was not intended to ignore your feelings. You should express them and seek help if you’re struggling. As I said, my advice was based on a therapist telling me to not look at those things but at what I had. Sorry for the textbook. Welcome to my anxious overthinking brain.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2019 14:59:25 GMT -6
beenthere you don't have to make any decisions about future children right now, and if you do I would encourage you to get to a place where wanting another child is based on something other than gender. Take the time to grieve and then move to acceptance when you are ready. It sounds like you may be struggling with some perinatal anxiety/depression, too, so I would greatly encourage you to talk to someone. Your feelings are totally normal and valid and you deserve a safe space to share them.
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Post by robinanne on Jan 11, 2019 22:09:46 GMT -6
Well, I’ve discovered ice cream is one of the main culprits for my pregnancy heartburn. Life isn’t fair 🙁
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2019 7:06:05 GMT -6
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2019 7:15:09 GMT -6
Well, I’ve discovered ice cream is one of the main culprits for my pregnancy heartburn. Life isn’t fair 🙁 Heartburn already?!? And ICE CREAM?! Unfair on all counts. Have you tried Zantac or Prilosec?? They were life changing for me!!
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Post by robinanne on Jan 12, 2019 9:16:03 GMT -6
Well, I’ve discovered ice cream is one of the main culprits for my pregnancy heartburn. Life isn’t fair 🙁 Heartburn already?!? And ICE CREAM?! Unfair on all counts. Have you tried Zantac or Prilosec?? They were life changing for me!! Yes, already. The heartburn started before I even took a test. It’s going to be a long road if it started this early! I’ve been taking Tums, but I’ll be talking to my doctor next Friday.
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Post by eleanorshellstrop on Jan 15, 2019 14:09:29 GMT -6
I'm so exhausted, and I feel like I can't complain about it anywhere. Like, now I can't complain about anything now that I'm disappointed about my baby's (possible) sex because I'm ungrateful if I do. I still really feel girl vibes. I'm hoping the ultrasound brings peace for me either way. I have two boys and I am worried I will be disappointed too if this baby is a boy also. I have a feeling it will be because that's how things go. Trying not to dwell on it now since it is way too early. But in a few weeks time I may be saying the same as you. Just know that you're not alone.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2019 12:57:23 GMT -6
AUGH I bought a lot of maternity clothes without trying them on and most things are too big or too small. I'll consign the too small pieces with a local lady and keep the too big because I got massive pregnancy/nursing boobs last time and I'm sure I will want the larger size then. I find clothing so stressful and so really I shouldn't buy lots off FB marketplace but I'm also cheap and want to support local moms. I'll just have to limit myself to the consignment shop going forth if I get anymore. I should have fought to lower the deal to $30 but again, support local moms so I gave her the $40 she asked for.... also I messaged her that the jeans she included are not in wearable condition. *rant over*
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