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Post by mb3 on Jan 6, 2019 22:20:20 GMT -6
I refuse to watch any prime time speech by Trump because I know how obsessed he is with his ratings so I vowed, after his election, to spend the time during his SOTU addresses doing something that fights back against his deplorable agenda. I call it #GrabHimByTheRatings I don't watch because listening to him makes me want to do violence. I wonder if I followed on Twitter last year instead. Because I don’t remember watching him.
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Post by milano on Jan 6, 2019 22:21:17 GMT -6
Annnnnd apropos to our earlier discussion, H just had another conversation with his family where his father and brother channeled Trump’s approach to arguing. At some point in there his brother told H “you need to get your wife in check”. In case you’re curious, I’m all powerful and the source of all evil in the world. Ohh no. No.
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Post by athn64 on Jan 6, 2019 22:25:20 GMT -6
Annnnnd apropos to our earlier discussion, H just had another conversation with his family where his father and brother channeled Trump’s approach to arguing. At some point in there his brother told H “you need to get your wife in check”. In case you’re curious, I’m all powerful and the source of all evil in the world. What was YH's response to that? Because no way in hell would I let that slide.
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Post by enchanted on Jan 6, 2019 22:28:52 GMT -6
Annnnnd apropos to our earlier discussion, H just had another conversation with his family where his father and brother channeled Trump’s approach to arguing. At some point in there his brother told H “you need to get your wife in check”. In case you’re curious, I’m all powerful and the source of all evil in the world. I hope your husband told his brother to go fuck himself.
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Post by enchanted on Jan 6, 2019 22:29:16 GMT -6
I don't watch because listening to him makes me want to do violence. I wonder if I followed on Twitter last year instead. Because I don’t remember watching him. Twitter is how I did it last year.
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Post by mb3 on Jan 6, 2019 22:48:05 GMT -6
Told him I have nothing to do with the conversation, these are his personal feelings on the family drama, not mine. BIL told him I “have his balls in a vise”. H told him I don’t. There was...a lot of yelling. It’s a mess and I’m not even sure it’s salvagable. The last time H and I sat down with a counselor to figure out how to deal with his family was their last intervention last summer when FIL told me I need to go check out the psych unit at work because thats where I belong. And that I’m ruining my children and I’m not welcome in their family anymore. I knew last summer had been a shit show but I legit thought things were going semi-ok until tonight. I even encouraged H to call and check in with his family and he walked into this. At first I felt sick over it and now I’m just pissed. Don’t ducking tell me I “need to be checked”.
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Post by mb3 on Jan 6, 2019 22:53:36 GMT -6
(To be clear, he didn’t let it slide. He really stood up for me and the yelling I heard was on his part about how they needed to treat me with respect and if I wasn’t welcome then neither was he nor our kids. And some of it was “this isn’t about her” and how they just wanted to blame me for everything.)
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Post by enchanted on Jan 6, 2019 23:30:15 GMT -6
Ooof, mb3. I'm sorry. It sounds like you have a good guy there. Putting aside the shit they said about you (which is heinous and really shouldn't be put aside), they brought your kids into it. That deserves the biggest of fuck you's as you walk out the door forever. I realize it's easy for me to say, though.
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Post by mb3 on Jan 7, 2019 5:05:27 GMT -6
Ooof, mb3. I'm sorry. It sounds like you have a good guy there. Putting aside the shit they said about you (which is heinous and really shouldn't be put aside), they brought your kids into it. That deserves the biggest of fuck you's as you walk out the door forever. I realize it's easy for me to say, though. Trust me, I’m there too. We nearly did last summer. And since then we’ve barely seen them (we aren’t local). Thank god we have a very solid counselor that we met back when this BS started with our wedding who put it in very explicit terms for my H- pick your wife and kids or your parents and siblings because this is what it’s coming to and it’s your parents and siblings forcing that decision, not your wife. And while I get that what has been said in the past and last night isn’t REALLY about me....just F off. I’m going to continue running amok though with no one to “keep me in check”. And thank god H has a sense of humor because I’m 99% sure the whole keeping me in check thing is going to become a running joke between us.
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Post by cnf on Jan 7, 2019 5:08:30 GMT -6
It’s already going to be incredibly cringe worthy. Did we make it a drinking thread last year? I feel like we did something but cannot remember what. I refuse to watch any prime time speech by Trump because I know how obsessed he is with his ratings so I vowed, after his election, to spend the time during his SOTU addresses doing something that fights back against his deplorable agenda. I call it #GrabHimByTheRatings You need to make this a thing on Twitter so it has a big impact because it's too amazing
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Post by cakewench on Jan 7, 2019 7:50:45 GMT -6
Jesus, mb3, that's awful. Glad your H has your back!
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Post by jkjacq on Jan 7, 2019 8:01:56 GMT -6
I'm glad your H has your back mb3, His family sounds 'fun' and I support you running amok!
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Post by mb3 on Jan 7, 2019 12:59:36 GMT -6
mb3, that is so awful. I'm sorry your family has to put up with that. I'm super impressed by how your husband has stuck up for you and, TBPH, I think this level of toxicity completely merits going no contact. I agree. His brother did send him an apology text ~1 hour later but it only was about how he’s depressed and he’s sorry he lost his temper. And...ok? Like I feel like “lost my temper” doesn’t cover yelling ar your brother to “get your wife in check” when she’s not even interacted with you lately. And an apology for losing your temper is fine and good but there should be a more explicit apology- right? BIL has a ton of shit in his life and I’m a sucker so I hinted to H he should tone down his response but now I’m glad he said no. And his response was that he’s happy for his kids to get to know the extended family that treats people with respect but he’s not interested in having them grow up seeing their mother treated the way their family treats me because he doesn’t want them to think this is normal or an ok way for them to act or be treated. I still think ending all contact is going to be really challenging but I feel like it’s going to need to happen as his family has proven that they can’t respect reasonable boundaries and respond with attacks like last night.
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