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Post by pambee on Dec 8, 2018 23:40:16 GMT -6
Baby boy likes to throws nightly parties and it makes me want to stay up because I still think it's so cool to feel him so much (compared to my anterior placenta with E) but I'm also so tired 😴
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Post by Wicket on Dec 9, 2018 4:36:12 GMT -6
I was up at 5 am because of my baby partying and now I can't fall asleep. So tired. I blame my morning loving husband haha. We have two early risers already might as well have another at least he typically gets up with them so I can sleep in a bit longer.
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Post by grover on Dec 9, 2018 9:09:58 GMT -6
I hit viability yesterday!!!! Woohoo!!
Also, my daughter (20 months) totally messed up my alarm clock- she swapped it two hours ahead. So when she woke up this morning for good (dang teeth!) I thought my clock said it was 8:45. Nope, it was 6:45. I feel bad for her because she's working on her canine teeth (all four!) and got my cold. But girlfriend, I also need sleep. We have a busy day today too- toddler santa brunch and gift exchange at 10, then we're going to visit my grandma in her nursing home for lunch.
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Tlex
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Post by Tlex on Dec 9, 2018 15:06:21 GMT -6
PSA to everyone everywhere always: the mom with two kids who is visibly pregnant with her third does not want to hear the list of reasons you don’t want a third kid. Nope, don’t care. They’re valid for you. That’s great. Tell literally anyone else but me.
I can’t go anywhere in public with my kids in tow without this conversation and I’m D.O.N.E.
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Post by lemondrop on Dec 9, 2018 16:12:12 GMT -6
Ugh, Tlex, the unnecessary comments are ridiculous. You’re already pregnant, the horse is already outta the barn on that one. Not to mention people have different reasons for having more kids. Shocking! Ignore the dummies.
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Post by lemondrop on Dec 9, 2018 16:21:05 GMT -6
Is anyone using a belly band/ belly wrap? My pelvis has been KILLING me at night, starting around 7pm until I lay down for bed. I thought maybe it was because I’m always constipated and my bowel was pushing my uterus, but I’m far enough along now where I think it might just be the weight of the baby after all day of moving around. Would a belly band help?
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Post by grover on Dec 9, 2018 21:25:03 GMT -6
lemondrop, I got one that I wear at work all day, then take it off while I'm at home lounging on the couch. It's better for when you're on your feet all day- alternating sitting and standing with the one I have requires adjusting. I can get you the amazon link and coupon code though if you're interested in seeing the one I purchased.
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Post by lemondrop on Dec 10, 2018 8:21:03 GMT -6
lemondrop , I got one that I wear at work all day, then take it off while I'm at home lounging on the couch. It's better for when you're on your feet all day- alternating sitting and standing with the one I have requires adjusting. I can get you the amazon link and coupon code though if you're interested in seeing the one I purchased. That would be great, thank you!
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bex15
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Post by bex15 on Dec 10, 2018 10:16:28 GMT -6
I’m sorry Tlex, people are the worst.
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Post by Eames on Dec 10, 2018 17:29:16 GMT -6
Add me to the early morning baby dam6ce parties plus pregsomnia. I have been waking up around 4 am and just laying there for 2 hours for the last few days. I am le tired.
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Post by Tlex on Dec 10, 2018 20:33:02 GMT -6
Add me to the early morning baby dam6ce parties plus pregsomnia. I have been waking up around 4 am and just laying there for 2 hours for the last few days. I am le tired. Pregsomnia is killing me. I wake up at around 2 am and just lay awake until about 5/6, when I catch one more hour before our alarm. I’m trying a Benadryl tonight because my mental health is not great and a lack of sleep can’t be helping.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2018 9:07:08 GMT -6
Ugh Tlex, I'm sorry. People really need to keep their mouths shut around pregnant women!
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Post by jacks on Dec 13, 2018 22:24:09 GMT -6
When are we supposed to start really doing kick counts? I’m definitely feeling consistent movement, but not really “kicks” at this point.
Also, has anyone made progress on a nursery? Do we have a nursery thread already? I feel like we talked about themes. My brain is mush.
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Post by Tlex on Dec 13, 2018 23:11:31 GMT -6
jacks I’m on my 3rd OB and each one has had a different opinion on kick counts with some overlapping consistencies: Doc 1 - from 28 weeks on, lay on left side, 10 kicks in an hour from when first kick/movement felt (any movement counts as a kick) Doc 2 - same but from 26 weeks on, and have juice first. He was more conservative about kick counts in general. Any hesitation meant go to triage, but he was a high risk specialist and it was a high risk pregnancy so not totally normal for comparison. Current OB said to me on Monday he’s not big for kick counts until thirty to thirty two weeks in... um! Ok. I’m doing them anyways because they make me feel reassured.
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Post by orangehibiscus on Dec 14, 2018 7:13:02 GMT -6
I hope you can get some sleep Tlex! jacks We did have a nursery thread. I’ll see if I can find it because I have updated pics. I didn’t sleep well last night between bad dreams, having to pee, and my puppy needing to go outside. Hopefully I can get a nap in today before Christmas tree hunting!
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Post by pambee on Dec 14, 2018 8:32:07 GMT -6
jacks I had my appointment yesterday (26 weeks) and my doc said she'd go over them at my next appointment (at 29 weeks). She actually never mentioned them when I was pregnant with E though and didn't make it sound like it was a huge concern yesterday, because once you're that far along you really notice when you're not feeling movement. Anyways it sounds like it may vary with doctor!
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Post by jewelsofthenile on Dec 14, 2018 8:36:00 GMT -6
So glad its friday. I have slept relatively well the last couple nights. It does suck having a bad night sleep though knowing I have to drag myself through a whole day before i can rest. No naps here booo.
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Post by pambee on Dec 16, 2018 22:30:04 GMT -6
This may be tmi but MH and I have just been out of sync lately, not fighting but just off, and that has led to a...bit...of a dry spell. I think he was working towards fixing that tonight (being extra nice, shaved his face, AND cleaned the toilet) but then he basically told me that I've been moody lately and should just be happy, and that was OBVIOUSLY the wrong thing to say 😂 I'm being very stubborn myself in all of this and not really willing to admit my fault in any of it or make great effort to reconcile, but I'm pregnant damnit I shouldn't have to be doing the work!!
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Post by Tlex on Dec 16, 2018 23:23:31 GMT -6
pambee ugh we’ve had some ups and downs too, my hormones are for sure the main culprit. I can go from loathing his every action to crying about how much I miss him when he’s at work (in our own house for crying out loud!) in minutes... and then back again. Whatever’s going on it sucks to feel like you’re out of sync. It will come back. Pregnancy + the holidays = stresssssssss!
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pambee
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Post by pambee on Dec 16, 2018 23:46:00 GMT -6
pambee ugh we’ve had some ups and downs too, my hormones are for sure the main culprit. I can go from loathing his every action to crying about how much I miss him when he’s at work (in our own house for crying out loud!) in minutes... and then back again. Whatever’s going on it sucks to feel like you’re out of sync. It will come back. Pregnancy + the holidays = stresssssssss! Yep basically when he's not around I miss him and as soon as he's home I want to punch him in the face. All of the holiday gatherings and activities are definitely not helping, I'm enjoying them but it's putting some distance in our relationship since one or both of us are always tired. I'm hoping you're right and after Christmas things will calm a bit and be easier. Plus he'll be on break so we'll have more down time together.
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Post by Eames on Dec 17, 2018 8:59:00 GMT -6
Hi, I am also annoyed with my H. I feel like there's so much to do with Christmas approaching, and March isn't that far off... and he's wasting time working on the house projects he feels are important (they def aren't the priority) and sometimes he's playing this dumb game om his phone, and I'm like, hello, I'm doing dishes over here! He'll say to just leave them for him for later, but then he forgets or it's much much later, and I can't make the next meal or go to bed with a dirty sink.
Plus DD is still having issues not wanting to wear certain pants. He gets super frustrated about it, whereas I have a long fuse. But I don't think making such a big deal about it helps get her out the door in the mornings, nor is it the best time to try to reasonably explain things to a 4 year old. Just get something on her and go. I mean, damn.
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Post by lemondrop on Dec 17, 2018 9:07:41 GMT -6
Ugh, I'm sorry pambee H and I aren't fighting or anything, but he did feel the need to tell me that his mom asked if I was buying the baby clothing, and if I'm paying attention to seasons and making sure I'm buying him appropriate sizes, and naturally it hurt my feels. Of course I'm paying attention to seasons and sizes, I'm not a fucking idiot. Why even tell me she asked that? Just tell her yes, because her daughter-in-law ISN'T AN IDIOT. I mean, Jesus.
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Post by orangehibiscus on Dec 17, 2018 9:38:37 GMT -6
Hugs all around!! Hormones plus stress is tough! lemondrop I’m appalled! I can’t believe your MIL actually said that, and I can’t believe your H told you about it. What did he say to her in response to that? Y’all...my ILs are here visiting (leaving today!!!!), which is nice. However, my MIL asks me like 6 times a day how we’re doing, which is super annoying. Yesterday she asked me if I had to pee. I’m not 3 years old! I can decide if I have to pee and then make appropriate arrangements to do so. She hovers, and I can’t stand it. I’m trying really hard not to lose my shit. Only a few more hours!
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Post by lemondrop on Dec 17, 2018 9:54:58 GMT -6
Hugs all around!! Hormones plus stress is tough! lemondrop I’m appalled! I can’t believe your MIL actually said that, and I can’t believe your H told you about it. What did he say to her in response to that? Y’all...my ILs are here visiting (leaving today!!!!), which is nice. However, my MIL asks me like 6 times a day how we’re doing, which is super annoying. Yesterday she asked me if I had to pee. I’m not 3 years old! I can decide if I have to pee and then make appropriate arrangements to do so. She hovers, and I can’t stand it. I’m trying really hard not to lose my shit. Only a few more hours! H said that she said it kind of flippantly, and his response was just "yes, of course she is". She's generally fine, so I'm trying to not be too offended by it. But c'mon now. Of COURSE I'm being a responsible adult when it comes to my child. Like, no, Wendy, I'm totally going to make him suffer next January in tank tops and shorts because I can't count months. For fucks sake. God forbid if she asks if I have to pee when she's here next week. I always have to pee, ok, STOP ASKING ME STUPID QUESTIONS. You have my condolences for having to deal with the hovering.
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Post by bex15 on Dec 17, 2018 10:00:37 GMT -6
I’m sorry for all of the stress.
My sister is coming in town tomorrow and I’m feeling overwhelmed by it. She can be very exhausting and I know will have a million questions about birth plan, etc. and a lot of opinions.
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Post by pambee on Dec 17, 2018 10:21:26 GMT -6
Ugh, annoying people all around! Don't they know we're right 100% of the time and should be spoken to, about, and treated like queens?? 😉😂 We're growing their children/grandchildren here!!
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Post by orangehibiscus on Dec 17, 2018 10:58:32 GMT -6
Ugh yes! I am so over the hovering lemondrop. Condolences back at ya! I hope spending time with your sister goes well bex15, and that she doesn’t ask too many questions. Haha! That’s exactly right pambee! I really want to know why people think the have the right to tell us our business and make comments about everything just because we’re pregnant. ETA: tagged the wrong person
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Post by jacks on Dec 17, 2018 14:05:41 GMT -6
I’m in the same boat with my H. I feel like he’s way less understanding than he should be. I am SO tired from chasing a toddler around, so yes, he needs to do bedtime AND the dishes. God forbid he doesn’t get to re-watch an episode of American Pickers before passing out on the couch at 8:30pm.
We both had Friday off and I was so frustrated that he kept disappearing instead of helping me move furniture. I hate not being able to do it myself, because that’s the only way things ever get done in my house. I about lost it when I’d walk downstairs and he’s sitting on the couch. “I didn’t know you wanted it done today.” Why do it today when we can put it off for another 3 months.... 🙄
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Post by Tlex on Dec 17, 2018 14:13:52 GMT -6
So I see we’re all sitting on the same bench right now. Mine is also making me bonkers.
And MIL is a whole other piece of work. I hope tomorrow is the last I see of her until after Christmas.
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Post by remi on Dec 17, 2018 16:02:55 GMT -6
Me and H have not been in a good place either. I think it's my doing and I think I need to get back on my meds. I have been off them for over a year while we TTC. But especially lately my sleep and mood have just been so off. I get very easily annoyed (not that he isn't being legitimately annoying) but I can't seem to modify my reactions at all. I'm so overwhelmed with everything and I can't focus at my job. I feel very lonely and isolated and like I have to put on a show or be "on" all the time for everyone. I feel like my H isn't being very understanding and he is just in his own little world and acting totally not stressed about anything, ever. Always falling asleep super early or complaining about being tired when I'm up so much in the middle of the night or unable to fall asleep at all. And 99% of the time he has his nose in his GD phone and completely tuning me and DD out. I'm debating whether I can just suck it up and talk about it on my next appointment or call the office soon.
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