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Post by tgrimes on Oct 30, 2018 12:32:13 GMT -6
nam2013 People over there congratulate you on your son's birthday? No snark intended. I just find it odd. You guys don’t 😳? All my friends, other relatives, colleagues texted me today to congratulate me/us, everybody does this  . Nope. |
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Post by nam2013 on Oct 30, 2018 12:33:06 GMT -6
You guys don’t 😳? All my friends, other relatives, colleagues texted me today to congratulate me/us, everybody does this . Do they say “happy birthday to A” or like “congrats on making it another year through motherhood”? They say ‘congratulations with A turning 5!’ Or ‘congrats with your sweet little man’. We do this in person too, so for example when we went to school this morning all other parents and the teacher congratulated ds and us too. It is very normal to do so over here. |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Oct 30, 2018 12:34:23 GMT -6
Do they say “happy birthday to A” or like “congrats on making it another year through motherhood”? They say ‘congratulations with A turning 5!’ Or ‘congrats with your sweet little man’. We do this in person too, so for example when we went to school this morning all other parents and the teacher congratulated ds and us too. It is very normal to do so over here. Oh yeah, that’s not common here. Some friends will text me to wish my kids a happy birthday but that’s about it. |
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Post by nam2013 on Oct 30, 2018 12:35:11 GMT -6
Okay on the congratulations subject; what do people say to you guys on your kids birthday?
ETA I mean when they see or talk to you on the phone or in person.
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Post by nam2013 on Oct 30, 2018 12:37:02 GMT -6
They say ‘congratulations with A turning 5!’ Or ‘congrats with your sweet little man’. We do this in person too, so for example when we went to school this morning all other parents and the teacher congratulated ds and us too. It is very normal to do so over here. Oh yeah, that’s not common here. Some friends will text me to wish my kids a happy birthday but that’s about it. Hahahahaha I just figured with the birthday threads that this was normal over there to. Learned something new today I guess 😀! |
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Post by peachsmama on Oct 30, 2018 12:37:45 GMT -6
My kids are driving me nuts today and I'm about to lose it on one of my drivers. I've been emailing for weeks about fuel taxes being due and needing their information so I can file. I have everything from everyone except one driver. He has his cousin do his paperwork and boy does she suck at it. If I don't get them filed on time, they are paying the fine. Do you use a receipt app? They just scan them and can send a pdf. If I could get them to do it, I could. But I also need theirs miles for every load by state. |
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Post by mwhip on Oct 30, 2018 12:38:26 GMT -6
sands42 I am also excited to go ToTing tomorrow. H, Evie and I will go into our neighborhood. With 80 houses, it's the perfect size and is a circle. We will take drinks with us to wander. My FIL, SMIL and MIL will stay at our house and have drinks and hand out candy. It has to be so much better than last year...4 weeks out from H's knee replacement and in the 30s...last year sucked.
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Post by nam2013 on Oct 30, 2018 12:41:45 GMT -6
Halloween is not a thing here, so you guys better make a thread and show off all those adorable costumes tomorrow!
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Post by jewels on Oct 30, 2018 12:41:58 GMT -6
Re; Birthday - no congratultions but I'll usually put up a post on SM and people will respond with "Happy birthday to (insert child's name)!" Otherwise I honestly doubt anyone outside of immediate family and very close friends would acknowledge it.
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Post by nam2013 on Oct 30, 2018 12:42:24 GMT -6
peachsmama I’m sorry about the drivers! Any idea yet about when you are moving?
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Post by tgrimes on Oct 30, 2018 12:43:59 GMT -6
Okay on the congratulations subject; what do people say to you guys on your kids birthday? ETA I mean when they see or talk to you on the phone or in person. No one says anything to me. They just tell M or H happy birthday. |
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Post by jewels on Oct 30, 2018 12:45:45 GMT -6
Add me to the excited for tomorrow group
I took off and both kids are going to DC for their respective parties. Then there will be a parade and trunk or treat there at 3:30 for just the older kids. From there we will go to S BFF house who we TOT with every year, along with his 2 other besties. They live just a few blocks from us but it's a fun neighborhood and there are literally kids everywhere. We go TOT then back to their house for pizza.
There are a few streets around here that block off and go crazy but I think that's too much for us.
We live on a main street and don't get many TOT. I leave a bowl with candy out front and it's always empty when I return, although I suspect 1 or 2 kids take the majority of it.
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Post by cagoldi on Oct 30, 2018 12:45:48 GMT -6
cagoldi I’m so sorry things are never easy for you guys! How did your treatment go? Not sure yet. It's going to be this afternoon, but I have a new nurse so I'm a little nervous. Insure it will be fine, it just takes awhile when I have someone who's never worked with me before. |
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Post by slenle on Oct 30, 2018 12:46:25 GMT -6
N asked if DH could take them trick or treating instead of me this year. Ouch.
Our kidless friends are coming over so I might ask if they would be okay handing out candy for a few minutes so we can both go with the kids. I doubt they’ll mind. Our neighborhood is very quiet and we only get about 10 Kids and only go to 10-15 houses.
H gets to go on a field trip with daycare to a nursing home. I might duck out of work to meet them there so I can watch, because it’s going to be so darn cute. N’s preschool class will also go to a nursing home.
Dh is having a costume contest at his office with a clown making balloon animals so I’ll take the kids there after work too.
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Post by jewels on Oct 30, 2018 12:46:33 GMT -6
cagoldi I hope it goes easily for A!!
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Post by flamingo on Oct 30, 2018 12:46:40 GMT -6
I would be a bit...miffed? annoyed might be too strong a word...if my close family didn't call/text/SOMETHING to acknowledge my kids' birthdays; B's old enough now that they could call and speak with him directly. It's not really congratulatory, just that they're thinking of your child. Extended family/friends/whatnot, would not expect it. @nam I'll delete if you want, but you're right, he IS being a good son by going. You probably wouldn't want to be married to a guy who ignored an ailing parent  I think as mothers and women, our children's birth-dates are very special and meaningful, and you seem to be a very thoughtful, sentimental person so that feeling may be magnified for you, but even to their own dad or a close family member, it might not be the same. Your H probably feels like y'all celebrated this weekend, and your son had a nice day today, so :check-the-box: and now he has to pivot and handle the next family crisis Big hugs. Enjoy a night of 'wallowing' (as my H calls it) and have some wine and leftover cake. I hope you feel better ! |
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Post by jewels on Oct 30, 2018 12:51:03 GMT -6
flamingo, I agree I think these milestones are far more important to most moms than to most dads. I often have to remind these things to MH. He loves the kids like crazy but he just doesn't think of things the same way I do.
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Post by nam2013 on Oct 30, 2018 12:51:55 GMT -6
flamingo your thoughts are exactly true and I’m about to go to bed with a glass of red wine and leftover cake. Ds had an amazing day and I should savour that thought.
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Post by peachsmama on Oct 30, 2018 12:52:40 GMT -6
You guys don’t 😳? All my friends, other relatives, colleagues texted me today to congratulate me/us, everybody does this . Do they say “happy birthday to A” or like “congrats on making it another year through motherhood”? My MIL calls to sing them happy birthday and other family calls but only to talk to the kids. |
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Post by peachsmama on Oct 30, 2018 12:54:47 GMT -6
peachsmama I’m sorry about the drivers! Any idea yet about when you are moving? I'm guessing 3 weeks. But I've been wrong everytime so *shruggy guy* |
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Post by wineallthetime on Oct 30, 2018 12:58:48 GMT -6
That’s really weird inthekitty .... if I have to bring a sibling (which I usually do) I automatically assume I’m paying for them. 🤔 Anyone else so so so excited to trick or treat?! My neighborhood will be so much fun based on what my neighbors say. I’ve almost always been pregnant (no roadies🍷🍺😭) or had a baby so it’s been more like work. This year all my kids can walk and do their own thing and I’ll just follow along with my drink! Lol. Yes! My sisters are coming over and all 3 of us were pregnant last Halloween. Can't wait for the drinks! Guessing we will just do a short loop and take the babies home, MH will take the big kids out longer. |
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Post by peachsmama on Oct 30, 2018 12:58:51 GMT -6
Finally got everything I need to file taxes! Only 24 hours after the deadline I gave them..
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Post by Sunny41 on Oct 30, 2018 13:00:58 GMT -6
I'm so excited for Halloween tomorrow! I wish I could be in 2 places at once. MH doesn't get the allergy friendly system I have. 1 bucket for non candy (allergy friendly) 1 bucket am the other candy. But at least he gives good handfuls. He also doesn't get that it doesn't need to be gone in the 1st hour and E wants to hand out candy
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Post by wineallthetime on Oct 30, 2018 13:01:23 GMT -6
flamingo your thoughts are exactly true and I’m about to go to bed with a glass of red wine and leftover cake. Ds had an amazing day and I should savour that thought. Sounds like you deserve it! Happy birthday to your sweet guy, sorry the day ended as it did. |
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Post by inthekitty on Oct 30, 2018 13:05:45 GMT -6
I love Halloween but I feel so rushed this year. Between the girls' birthdays and leaving on SUN for 2 weeks it's kind of a blip for me and I just hope it's fun for the girls. I realized last night I hadn't even carved a pumpkin. It's supposed to rain tomorrow and I really hope it doesn't dump down tomorrow night. Halloween in our neighborhood is usually really fun. We have a ton of ToTers that literally line the whole streets. During peak times I don't even shut the door when it's my turn to pass out candy and just have a chair by the door because they come in droves.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Oct 30, 2018 13:08:45 GMT -6
Do they say “happy birthday to A” or like “congrats on making it another year through motherhood”? My MIL calls to sing them happy birthday and other family calls but only to talk to the kids. Oh yeah. Family members will FaceTime with the girls on their birthdays. |
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Post by tallb on Oct 30, 2018 13:10:38 GMT -6
I missed the poof but anyone that knows of my kids bdays may send me a text or call me...to talk to or sing Happy birthday to the kids. Family sends cards/gifts and it's all about the kids. People post bday stuff for kids on social media and even that is "happy birthday J" directed to the kid. Must be a cultural thing!
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Post by guster on Oct 30, 2018 13:20:43 GMT -6
Re; Birthday - no congratultions but I'll usually put up a post on SM and people will respond with "Happy birthday to (insert child's name)!" Otherwise I honestly doubt anyone outside of immediate family and very close friends would acknowledge it. Same. I get texts from cousins/ ils,and my close friends and whomever comments on sm. |
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Post by joelies on Oct 30, 2018 13:22:06 GMT -6
We live in a rural-ish town with no streetlights or sidewalks and the residential lots are 1+ acres and pretty far apart, so we don't get trick or treaters. We bring the kids to one of the housing developments where the lots can be (and are) smaller. Still no sidewalks or streetlights but it's all families with kids, so it's the place to go in town. Colin's friend O and her brother D (who's Chase's buddy) live there, so we'll probably try to connect with them. Their Mom is actually the one who told us to go there last year.
Trick or trunk is a big thing in the area but we haven't done one of those yet.
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Post by dapostrophe on Oct 30, 2018 13:22:12 GMT -6
Re: Bringing extra people to a party, I can certainly see why it would be considered tacky, but that would not be how I saw it. In my world, my Grandma will send a text to ask if she can stop by at 2 and then her and two of my aunties will come by at 11:30 while I'm still cleaning my house. If I invite one person to a party or a dinner, I assume it could be them, maybe their spouse, all their kids, their kids friend who is staying the night and anyone they thought to invite that knows me. This is typically my family and close friends who do this, but it becoming known around my neighborhood as well. Bring your kids, your brother's kids...whomever. This would obviously probably be different if I had a pay-per-head situation or like really limited space somewhere, but we don't typically do those types of parties.
I'm much more annoyed when people cancel, even when it's for a good reason, than I would be for having too many people. I think it's cultural. In my family, it would be considered very rude to cancel a loved one's event unless you were on your death bed. If you tried a "I'm just going to stay in tonight, we had a long week" at the last minute, you would get your ass chewed out and someone would be coming by to pick you up.
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I think as mothers and women, our children's birth-dates are very special and meaningful, and you seem to be a very thoughtful, sentimental person so that feeling may be magnified for you, but even to their own dad or a close family member, it might not be the same. Your H probably feels like y'all celebrated this weekend, and your son had a nice day today, so :check-the-box: and now he has to pivot and handle the next family crisis 
