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Post by king26 on Oct 22, 2018 10:41:36 GMT -6
So I'm home right now. J fell asleep in the car around 9 with DH and when they got home at 9:15 he woke up and then wouldn't go down for his nap. I guess he fought it multiple times and DH was really stressed out plus his knee is swollen so he can't carry him around too much so I took a half day and came home. I just put J down and thankfully he is napping (although this is super late for him...he's usually down between 10-11)
So yesterday DH worked and I had J all day. He freaking took a 2 hour 40 minute nap!!!! It was amazing and I got so much done. This never happens on my days with him so that was awesome.
J keeps waking up around 5:30 and it's painful. He's been going to bed earlier at like 7 or 7:30 but the 5 or 5:30 wake ups are hurting.
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Post by muscari on Oct 22, 2018 13:52:24 GMT -6
My MIL started her chemo treatment 1.5wks ago. The plan was an infusion thru IV every 2wks x4 and daily chemo pills, then 5wls of daily radiation therapy, 6-9wks rest then surgery. The first infusion went well and she was feeling ok enough, some nausea but nothing too bad that couldn't be dealt with with some anti nausea meds. But then the past days she got so sick and kept throwing up and lost 4lbs in 3 days (and she already is a tiny lady and lost weight already the past months...). She wss feeling sooo incredibly miserable and made the decision to quit chemo therapy. They have an appointment with the oncologist on Wednesday to discuss options and where to go from here.
I am scared. I don't know how to deal with this. I have lost plenty of loved ones and several due to cancer but somehow this feels so different. Is it because I am a mum now? Or because we will be the eldest generation once our parents die? I don't know. I do know i really want Daphne to grow up with granny T on her side, to get to know her, ..... šŖšŖ
Just hoping that maybe there are different chemo meds they can try.. or other treatment options. That the drs won't just give up on her. That she won't give up.. quality of life is mighty important so I understand why she would quit this chemo. But I just need her to get better you know... /thatsoundsselfish
Thanks for letting me vent.
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Post by king26 on Oct 22, 2018 17:45:32 GMT -6
Hugs muscari I hope they can come up with another plan for her
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Post by pennylane on Oct 22, 2018 18:56:54 GMT -6
Oh muscari that is so hard. I hope she is able to switch the treatment plan and I wish her well. Cancer is so terrible.
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Post by cali on Oct 22, 2018 21:36:01 GMT -6
muscari I'm so sorry about your MIL. That sounds really tough. I hope the doctors can come up with some alternative treatment options for her. ((Hugs))
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 22, 2018 21:45:11 GMT -6
Hugs muscari. That sounds so difficult. I hope they can come up with something.
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Post by muscari on Oct 23, 2018 5:13:30 GMT -6
king26, pennylane, cali, thinkchocolate05, thanks ladies. I guess up until now I sort of put my head in the sand thinking we'd get through all the chemo, radiation and surgery and she'd be alright. I knew it was going to be really rough and not easy, but hadn't really considered the option of treatement not working or quality of life being too sucky to continue treatement. I hope there will be an alternative that will not make her feel this shitty.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 23, 2018 6:01:16 GMT -6
muscari, I'm so so sorry. How terrible for you and MIL. I wish her healing vibes and prayers for a new treatment plan that works. Big hugs and love to you.
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Post by kristyw on Oct 23, 2018 6:54:12 GMT -6
muscari I'm sorry. I hope they can come up with a better option for a better quality of life. Cancer sucks. Big hugs.
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Post by muscari on Oct 23, 2018 7:20:16 GMT -6
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Post by yellowcat on Oct 23, 2018 19:27:39 GMT -6
muscari I am really sorry. I lost my mom 10 years ago and my back up who was her sister about 5 years ago. It is hard being a mom without having them for advice or to just be there. I hope your MIL is able to work through it all.
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Post by yellowcat on Oct 23, 2018 19:32:11 GMT -6
So it was really nice being away for a week but now that I have been home for almost a week I am getting annoyed again by work and allergies. Plus the kids got really attached to MH and cry when he leaves and want him for everything. This isn't bad except when I am with them all day and he is at work.
He thinks they are like this because his parents visited while I was gone and we're too much for the to handle so they were constantly running to him to save them.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 24, 2018 13:07:45 GMT -6
muscari, aw I feel terrible for your MIL. Iām sure she didnāt come to the decision to end chemo lightly, but Iād have conflicting feelings about it too if I were you. I hope they can make a new plan of attack.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 24, 2018 13:10:01 GMT -6
I had6 glorious days of A napping in his crib last month, and he has not done it since. He will cry for 30 mins straight if I let him. So back to napping on me or in the car. Iām not sure what more I can do to get him to nap in his dang crib.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 24, 2018 17:48:43 GMT -6
I had6 glorious days of A napping in his crib last month, and he has not done it since. He will cry for 30 mins straight if I let him. So back to napping on me or in the car. Iām not sure what more I can do to get him to nap in his dang crib. Damn thatās rough, Iām sorry. M has decided all she needs lately is 1 hour naps, kill me now.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 24, 2018 18:05:40 GMT -6
I had6 glorious days of A napping in his crib last month, and he has not done it since. He will cry for 30 mins straight if I let him. So back to napping on me or in the car. Iām not sure what more I can do to get him to nap in his dang crib. Damn thatās rough, Iām sorry. M has decided all she needs lately is 1 hour naps, kill me now. Ugh. I know thatās not long, but Iād totally take 1 hr a day if he actually did it in his crib.
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Post by king26 on Oct 24, 2018 23:38:27 GMT -6
Just picked j up out of the crib and hes burning up and shivering. Took temp. 101. Dammit. I gave him tylonal . Anything else I should do? He snuggling on the chair with me and seems fine, just has a cold and the fever.
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Post by pennylane on Oct 25, 2018 4:36:48 GMT -6
Just picked j up out of the crib and hes burning up and shivering. Took temp. 101. Dammit. I gave him tylonal . Anything else I should do? He snuggling on the chair with me and seems fine, just has a cold and the fever. Ugh sorry heās sick! Weāve been in the same boat all week (luckily I havenāt had a fever too). You can alternate Tylenol and Motrin if just Tylenol isnāt giving much relief, but I generally just let colds run their course.
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Post by jt2378 on Oct 25, 2018 5:01:32 GMT -6
Poor guy king26, hope he is feeling better this morning.
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Post by kristyw on Oct 25, 2018 14:46:46 GMT -6
I hope he's feeling better king26. Sick kiddos is rough. Just alternate tylenol and motrin for the fever and lots of snuggles.
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Post by king26 on Oct 25, 2018 14:51:10 GMT -6
So I tried to stay home from work to be with j but couldn't find a freaking sub. Sometimes being a teacher sucks. We had an assembly this afternoon so I took off at 1145. When I got home j and dh were sound asleep in our bed lol. J hasnt slept with us in probably 6 months except on vacation. Dh swis he crawled up in his lap and just fell asleep so he carried him into bed with him. Poor guy still had a fever. However I think k he has a molar coming in so.maybe that's it. It's so red and swollen in his mouth, hes droolling like crazy, and isnt eating much but is pounding milk and water.
We are supposed to go to a kids party on Sunday. Would you recommend being fever free for 24 hours before going? It's a 2 hour drive too but its family
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Oct 26, 2018 14:38:54 GMT -6
king26 I hope he's better soon. Molars are the worst. I wouldn't take him if he's still running a fever but I wouldn't require no fever for 24 hrs. You could give your relatives a heads up and see if they strongly object.
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Post by cali on Oct 26, 2018 17:22:31 GMT -6
king26, I hope he starts feeling better soon, poor guy. I don't know about 24 hrs but I think I'd personally want him to be fever free for quite a while before I traveled that far. The last thing you want is to get there and he starts feeling bad again.
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Post by cali on Oct 26, 2018 17:24:37 GMT -6
You guys, how do you teach your child not to do things at this age? M thinks when we tell her no or pull her away from doing certain things that it is funny/fun and keeps repeatedly doing that thing over and over. It's super frustrating. Even when I say it in my sternest voice she still laughs. Then she'll do it again and say "no, no" while she's doing it. Am I doing this wrong?
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Post by king26 on Oct 26, 2018 17:37:07 GMT -6
@calo disciplining at this age is tough. With j I say no sternly. If he does it again I redirect. If he does it a third time I remove him and sit in front of whatever he is trying to get and he usually tantrums for a minute then moves on. J is feeling better today. Last night he eo yo ldnt sleep unless he was on me or dh. I finally got him in the crib after 9 and he slept until 4 then same thing not wanting the crib. I took him in our room and surprisingly he slept with us for 2 hours. He hasn't wanted to sle at p with us in months so I knew he really wasn't feeling well.
Today temp is 99.5 so much better.
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Post by kristyw on Oct 26, 2018 18:12:22 GMT -6
Redirecting and if its something like hitting you, say no and get up and walk away. If it's doing something you don't want with an object, take it away or block it. E also thinks it's funny when we say no... just stick with it, eventually it seems to sink in.
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Post by muscari on Oct 27, 2018 14:39:12 GMT -6
You guys, how do you teach your child not to do things at this age? M thinks when we tell her no or pull her away from doing certain things that it is funny/fun and keeps repeatedly doing that thing over and over. It's super frustrating. Even when I say it in my sternest voice she still laughs. Then she'll do it again and say "no, no" while she's doing it. Am I doing this wrong? Ha this is D too@l! Drives me nuts and makes me want to eat her up cause it's the cutest as well š she can be so cheeky!!
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Post by muscari on Oct 27, 2018 14:39:49 GMT -6
Glad J is feeling better king26!
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Post by addymac on Oct 27, 2018 18:14:11 GMT -6
You guys, how do you teach your child not to do things at this age? M thinks when we tell her no or pull her away from doing certain things that it is funny/fun and keeps repeatedly doing that thing over and over. It's super frustrating. Even when I say it in my sternest voice she still laughs. Then she'll do it again and say "no, no" while she's doing it. Am I doing this wrong? Ha this is D too@l! Drives me nuts and makes me want to eat her up cause it's the cutest as well š she can be so cheeky!! Welcome to my life š¤ he laughs at my sternest voice so Iām just like š¤·š»āāļø š¤¦š»āāļøš
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Post by cali on Oct 27, 2018 20:56:59 GMT -6
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