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Post by blondeostrich on Oct 9, 2018 3:38:30 GMT -6
I think my 3 year old is trying to prepare me for new baby sleep deprivation... he climbed into bed with me in the middle of the night, and then an hour later proceeded to wet the bed. So now he is cleaned up and tucked back into his own bed, my bedding is all in the washer, and I'm showered and on the couch. Thankfully (I guess) DH had fallen asleep on the other couch, so that was one less person to relocate at 3:30 am. The downside is he has slept through the whole thing...
At least now I'm showered for work? Trying hard to find a silver lining here 😂
What's everyone up to this week?
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Post by sunshiney on Oct 9, 2018 6:31:11 GMT -6
blondeostrich I'm sorry, that sounds like a miserable start to the day. I admire your positive attitude and patience. I would have woken up the husband to help deal with it, so I say silver lining is that you're a selfless super mom!! Dreamed about being in Japan, very realistic experience eating all kinds of Japanese food...I could see smell feel and taste everything... Except the sushi!!! I have craved sushi since the start and wasn't even KU in the dream but the group I was with kept rushing out the door when it was time to eat the glistening bites of salmon and tuna sashimi and I had to be polite. Argh. Also in the dream DH asked why I didn't diet and lose weight instead of eating the things pregnancy has let me since it calmed down my Crohn's... But in my dream he said those things are making me fatter, not healthier. I screamed my head off at him for being an idiot and hurtful (by this time I guess i was pregnant in the dream, I was screaming that I am a good mom who is eating healthy for baby and can't be on a diet), then felt tons of shame for being fat AND a bitch. TL,DR: dreamed of delectable sushi I couldn't eat and DH telling me I should diet and lose weight while pregnant.
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Post by blondeostrich on Oct 9, 2018 8:01:41 GMT -6
sunshiney, thanks for the kind words. I don't feel like a super mom this morning, I just feel grumpy 😒 I put on some bright lipstick and I'm getting breakfast on my way to work to make up for it! Sorry about your disappointing sushi dream. And I hate it when I dream fight with DH...when that happens to me, I'm usually low key mad at him for the whole next day, even though he didn't actually do anything!
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Post by thelittleredm on Oct 9, 2018 10:05:40 GMT -6
Today is exhausting. The adrenaline dump after yesterday's ultrasound left me exhausted and it seems to have carried over. It doesn't help that it's overcast and cool out so I just want to be home snuggled on the couch. I scrolled through girl names for close to an hour and a half last night and guys, I don't know how this baby is leaving the hospital with a name. H and I are not on the same wavelength with girl names and the one we had with DS1 he still likes but I don't and the one I still like from DS2, he doesn't like. And I'm finding I don't like a lot of the names I'm seeing. *head desk*
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Post by strawberrykiki on Oct 10, 2018 8:08:01 GMT -6
blondeostrich that’s awful! I hope tonight is better for everyone! I visited a friend with a 3 week old baby and she was telling me about something called an owlet that monitors the baby when they’re sleeping? Does anyone have one or if this is a must have for baby? I didn’t even know something like this existed!
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Post by Foxy on Oct 10, 2018 10:49:54 GMT -6
My H tried to get me to use a night stand for this babe's dresser. I started laughing so hard I cried. Then I listed everything that needs to go in this alleged night stand.... he was like oh... yeah that's not going to work. Why are men so clueless?
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Post by tngrl3 on Oct 10, 2018 11:11:03 GMT -6
blondeostrich that’s awful! I hope tonight is better for everyone! I visited a friend with a 3 week old baby and she was telling me about something called an owlet that monitors the baby when they’re sleeping? Does anyone have one or if this is a must have for baby? I didn’t even know something like this existed! I know several people who have used them. They are quite pricey. I didn't have one with my other 2 so I doubt I would spend the money on one. At that is even eoth bringing home a preemie at 36w gestational age, weighing 4lbs on the dot. However, I know they give people a huge sense of reassurance and cut down on anxiety which can be worth the price.
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Post by Foxy on Oct 10, 2018 11:17:46 GMT -6
I looked into owlets strawberrykiki. They are a little pricey. But I mean worth it if it saves your child's life. My plan is to see how much anxiety I have after he is born and if both H and I are stressed we'll get one to get some peace of mind
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Post by strawberrykiki on Oct 10, 2018 11:58:53 GMT -6
MH and I have been saying how we are going to poke this poor kid all the time to make sure he’s okay lol they are super pricey though I’m just not sure
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Post by thelittleredm on Oct 10, 2018 13:12:16 GMT -6
strawberrykiki, We didn't use anything like that with the first two so personally, I don't think I could justify the cost. Several people on my old BMBs didn't find them (or similar monitors) helpful because they were so sensitive they'd go off all the time even when baby was fine and they felt it was more stressful than anything. I know other similar types of monitors have issues staying on or in place causing the monitor to go off but I think Oweletts are supposed to be better in that area.
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Post by sunshiney on Oct 10, 2018 17:56:47 GMT -6
strawberrykiki DH wanted to get a fancy monitor, I don't know if it's that owl thing but it's got a mat under the baby that can tell if they're breathing and moving I guess? I told him if we have a preemie or baby has any issues breathing then yes, but otherwise that would just increase my anxiety rather than decrease it personally. My little brother was premature and on a heart monitor for weeks at home, my parents would have to wake up multiple times in the night from his alarm and simulate his hear chest to get him going again... Kind of crazy that he wasn't in the hospital then... I was five at the time and it's definitely given me anxiety about sleeping babies/SIDS so I feel like either I let it all go or I will be a giant ball of anxious.
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Post by k on Oct 10, 2018 18:21:39 GMT -6
Today is exhausting. The adrenaline dump after yesterday's ultrasound left me exhausted and it seems to have carried over. It doesn't help that it's overcast and cool out so I just want to be home snuggled on the couch. I scrolled through girl names for close to an hour and a half last night and guys, I don't know how this baby is leaving the hospital with a name. H and I are not on the same wavelength with girl names and the one we had with DS1 he still likes but I don't and the one I still like from DS2, he doesn't like. And I'm finding I don't like a lot of the names I'm seeing. *head desk* This is us. If it’s a girl, she will never have a name. I do not want to be those people.
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Post by thelittleredm on Oct 10, 2018 18:33:50 GMT -6
k, We each came up with a list of 12 names we liked (took me almost 4 hours total and H took 15 minutes -.- ) and spent time crossing names off each other's lists. I crossed almost all his off and I'm not 100% sold on the ones I left. He crossed about half mine off, maybe a little more. But said he left some he was meh about because compromise is a thing. So glad we have time to do this! And guys, H is being so cute now! He won't stop touching and talking to the baby now that he knows what it is and has already proclaimed her his favorite. Like, wants to set up a real nursery (let's get real, our house isn't set up for one) and give her everything her little heart doesn't know it desires yet. Downside to all this? I need some space and he won't stop touching me.
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Post by k on Oct 11, 2018 11:55:14 GMT -6
@amc I weaned about 2 months ago. I try not to think about it too much because he loved to nurse but the weaning went pretty well. If he sees me without a shirt on he still wants to nurse and I think occasionally when I put him to bed he wants to, but now we snuggle instead.
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Post by thelittleredm on Oct 11, 2018 13:10:14 GMT -6
I think I just need 24 hours in a hotel by myself where I can sleep as much as I want to without interruptions. My eye won't stop reverting back to twitching and I just feel completely drained.
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Post by thelittleredm on Oct 11, 2018 13:57:22 GMT -6
thelittleredm I hope you're able to get some rest soon! Not gonna lie, I'm already looking forward to my hospital stay for delivering this baby. It's certainly not a hotel stay by myself with no interruptions, but it's the closest I'm going to get to that for quite some time. 😅 Same here! Lol
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Post by k on Oct 11, 2018 17:16:25 GMT -6
thelittleredm I hope you're able to get some rest soon! Not gonna lie, I'm already looking forward to my hospital stay for delivering this baby. It's certainly not a hotel stay by myself with no interruptions, but it's the closest I'm going to get to that for quite some time. 😅 I’m excited too! No cooking or cleaning, no wiping butts (DH does all the diapers), and food brought bedside 😜
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Post by notagoddess on Oct 11, 2018 18:01:59 GMT -6
thelittleredm I hope you're able to get some rest soon! Not gonna lie, I'm already looking forward to my hospital stay for delivering this baby. It's certainly not a hotel stay by myself with no interruptions, but it's the closest I'm going to get to that for quite some time. 😅 Same here! Lol Omg same. 😂
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Post by hrh on Oct 11, 2018 19:03:48 GMT -6
YES! Best part ever. I never understood STM+ who want to go home right away. 😉TETO but bring me alllll the hospital help and meal delivery!
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Post by thelittleredm on Oct 11, 2018 19:50:17 GMT -6
So. H and I started doing this Dave Ramsey financial class at our church and it's been a great push in helping us get organized in other areas of our life, especially house cleaning and such. I made a daily chore list for him, myself, and DS1 as well as a weekly chore list for bigger tasks to help keep us on track and to free up our weekends. Things seemed good last week but this week, it's like pulling teeth to get him to do anything around the house. He comes home and acts like I've had all this time to unwind (right, with two kids) when I've actually been getting chores and cooking out of the way since I got home. He even groaned at me when I asked him to rub my back last night. He is driving me crazy!
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Post by sunshiney on Oct 11, 2018 22:56:09 GMT -6
thelittleredm oh I'm sorry. Men can be so frustrating. We did Dave Ramsay a couple years ago and the financial pressures of pregnancy definitely renewed our commitment lol. I think guys are afraid when they start to do something good they should, then we'll be ready to ask for the next thing. It's just immaturity I think. I hope he checks his attitude and recognizes all you do.
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Post by thelittleredm on Oct 12, 2018 10:52:47 GMT -6
Oh my goodness. I completely forgot. I have been having an extra stressful morning at work and I am just so over being here. But! I just remembered that I have tub of cookie dough sitting in the mini fridge here that I bought from a fundraiser. Morning. Made.
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Post by strawberrykiki on Oct 14, 2018 8:50:34 GMT -6
How is everyone’s weekend going? I have nothing to do today but relax and I’m so excited. We went to a comedy show on Friday and it was a pretty long walk from parking to the venue and I was not doing well. My abdomen was achey and uncomfortable and I had to stop and pee each way. As long as I’m resting I feel pretty good and I can handle a daily walk but I really struggle with more than that. I did not think pregnancy would be so hard and I would feel so physically limited at only 23 weeks!
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Post by thelittleredm on Oct 14, 2018 9:51:27 GMT -6
strawberrykiki, I feel the same way and I'm a couple weeks behind. Which sucks because a big part of my job requires a lot of walking and usually at a good clip. Yesterday was work and then I took DS2 with my parents to the store to browse baby stuff. My mom couldn't help herself and she bought a couple little summery outfits since it warms up quick here after winter. Today is mostly just relaxing. H is winterizing his parents swamp cooler and getting the heat hooked up and then we're getting him a haircut before heading to Dillards with a gift card to blow on baby clothes lol
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Post by notagoddess on Oct 14, 2018 10:12:56 GMT -6
Weekend is decent over here. I have to catch up on some work stuff, and DD is at my parents'. I honestly used most of yesterday to rest a bit, so now I am under some time pressure now. But it's going well and I hope to get a lot done before dinner.
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Post by tngrl3 on Oct 14, 2018 10:56:47 GMT -6
Friday my oldest turned 6 and my childhood best friend was in town with her 3 kids. It was a full but fun day. Then yesterday we went to a Touch a Truck event for 3 hours and then I spent 3 hours DS build a new Lego set he got for his birthday. Today is cool and rainy. I went grocery shopping and need to do laundry but otherwise today is all about relaxing.
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Post by sunshiney on Oct 14, 2018 12:59:16 GMT -6
These sound like lovely weekends! Especially the fire stations and trucks, so fun!
My sex drive has been insatiable for the last week or so, so I basically cornered DH for a weekend sexathon. Making up for months on pelvic rest I guess. Also did a lot of cooking, which he's so appreciative about that it makes me enjoy doing it more! Today thigh the newly bathed dog decided to smear himself into a pile of someone else's poop so just rebathed him in the stinkiest experience... Getting ready for baby??
Been conscious of my abs and posture after so much great advice and back already feeling some better.
Finally excited to report that my mom and aunt are holding my shower first weekend of December, when my sister will be in town! Will be just 27 weeks but I'm so happy to have it earlier rather than later.
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Post by strawberrykiki on Oct 14, 2018 13:07:15 GMT -6
sunshiney jealous! Mine hasn’t really been there this whole pregnancy. MH is being very patient and hasn’t complained but I feel guilty.
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Post by cch on Oct 14, 2018 19:40:02 GMT -6
Our weekend was a lot of fun. We went to visit a couple of our closest friends and besides the long drive (5 hours there and 5 hours back) it was awesome. We went to a pumpkin patch and did a tractor ride then went to watch a super cool parade. DD had a blast!
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Post by sunshiney on Oct 15, 2018 4:29:37 GMT -6
strawberrykiki I'm sorry. I've felt that way quite a bit too (both low drive and guilty when DH was left high and dry because I was on pelvic rest... And even now that I'm off it I'm paranoid so the tiniest hint of cramping or the lightest colored spot in my underwear and I'm too afraid to get busy! For me to feel better about it has meant a lot of BJ's when I am up to it or just"help" that is sometimes mostly putting my boobs on display and cheerleading enthusiastically lol... Anything I'm up to that helps him feel wanted and stave off frustration for him. That is turn has helped me get out of low drive or anxious funks because I then feel more wanted and sexual. It is a tricky balance between giving myself encouragement and opportunities to wake up the drive but also not push it down further by pushing myself to do things I'm not in the mood for. I wonder if being the first pregnancy makes it harder too because it's such a new experience and a fluctuating or low drive is not normalized for us yet, we haven't had the experience of seeing we can bounce back? There's also so much changing in our bodies, orgasms have caused me painful cramps a couple times, the baby starts kicking and that is a weird moment to get used to, pregnancy has brought on a UTI and then a yeast infection.... I had to remind DH repeatedly that if he just acts like everything is totally fine when we're not doing stuff, is harder for me to feel like it's important or he wants me, even though that's kind of him... So we've figured out that for us at least, sweet no pressure comments of how he misses me and looks forward to me feeling better (with reassurance sprinkled in that it's ok to wait) also helps me not lose the feeling that I'm a sexual person as well as a baby grower. Good luck and be kind to yourself! It is not a permanent state of things even when it feels that way!
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