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Post by copperboom on Jun 22, 2017 20:25:43 GMT -6
Re: schedules
We are pretty strict about K's, and we were with C as well. We make an effort to not mess with nap time, and they both reliably wake up at the same time (within 30 minutes) each day. Lately, K has been trying to wake up super early, so we are trying to push her to settle herself and sleep longer. Tomorrow morning we are going to the zoo, but I will insist that we are in the car to come home no later than 11 so that we don't mess with nap time. I hate when she sleeps in the car and doesn't get a real nap.
Sticking with a schedule works better for my girls. This is why I'm so apprehensive about our upcoming trip. The schedule will be roughly the same. I hope the change of scenery/time zone doesn't screw everything up. She JUST started sleeping better.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jun 22, 2017 20:29:27 GMT -6
My neighbor across the street is probably about 90 years old. She just left to go somewhere. I can't remember the last time I left the house this late? Was it even in 2017??!
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jun 22, 2017 20:34:58 GMT -6
My neighbor across the street is probably about 90 years old. She just left to go somewhere. I can't remember the last time I left the house this late? Was it even in 2017??! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Whenever I (rarely) end up driving to or from somewhere and it's dark out, it is very surreal. Because it is not a regular occurrence....like ever. It feels weird. I'm always home before sunset. Because kids. SaveSave
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Post by tinydancer on Jun 22, 2017 20:35:37 GMT -6
Oh my, so much drama. I hope things don't blow up too. Does anyone know how to delete content on the other site? Is there a way to do it that's not post by post?
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Post by tinydancer on Jun 22, 2017 20:39:54 GMT -6
Re schedules - we have a pretty set bedtime (8-8:30) and he pretty much wakes up between 6 and 6:30 (although if he sleeps until 7 or 7:30 I won't complain). We are in a nap transition now - still working to get from 2 to 1. But I've never been really strict about naps, I just sort of let him do his thing. He is also a good sleeper - he will sleep in a car seat or stroller, and if he takes a late nap (even now) he will still go to bed at his normal time. So I sort of assume that he is pretty good at self-regulating and getting the sleep that he needs. But if he wasn't that way I would enforce a schedule.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jun 22, 2017 20:40:22 GMT -6
H and DS are off on their first trip by themselves tomorrow. I drop them off at the airport in the morning for Seattle. H's best friend lives there now and his daughter graduated from HS last weekend. They are going for the grad party. I'm looking forward to a weekend of just DD and I.
And I'm in the midst of dreaming of our next big trip. I utilize credit card bonuses to rack up points and/or miles for a lot of our trips and a really lucrative benefit is going away soon so I just got H approved for a cc that gives 2 free Hyatt nights at ANY Hyatt in the world. I'm currently looking at my options for next summer. I love vacation planning!
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jun 22, 2017 20:42:04 GMT -6
Oh my, so much drama. I hope things don't blow up too. Does anyone know how to delete content on the other site? Is there a way to do it that's not post by post? The easiest way is for an admin to delete your content but she has just said she won't be doing anymore content deletions for the foreseeable future. SaveSave
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Post by lollipop on Jun 22, 2017 20:45:25 GMT -6
My neighbor across the street is probably about 90 years old. She just left to go somewhere. I can't remember the last time I left the house this late? Was it even in 2017??! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk H and I do munchie runs to the store down the street at night about once a week. With my new job, I'll be out late a few nights a week. And on date nights we're usually out late.
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Post by sjames2015 on Jun 22, 2017 21:50:58 GMT -6
I have always been very strict with schedules and routines to help with sleep. I have and still get soo much flack for it from everyone. H hates to follow it. I have tried to be super strict and I've also tried to be super laid back. None help the kids or me. I get very stressed and anxious. If we could keep my schedule the kids would be in bed by 830. They both wake between 7-8. DD1 still naps. We tried to skip them and by 4pm she was a mess. DD2 takes 1-2 naps still. The morning nap is hit or miss. I try to stay home so she can nap but naps take the entire day away so it doesn't always happen. If she's tired she'll fall asleep in the car. And sometimes she refuses to nap even if we are home. Lunch is around 12 and afternoon naps is 1-130. They have to nap for at least an hour. DD2 usually naps 1.5-2 hours for the afternoon nap. H thinks that nap starts around 2 so we are always out of hes home. I don't let them nap past 4. I also can't remember what it's like to be out after dark. With h's schedule I don't ever get to leave after the kids go to bed.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jun 22, 2017 23:45:14 GMT -6
My neighbor across the street is probably about 90 years old. She just left to go somewhere. I can't remember the last time I left the house this late? Was it even in 2017??! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Whenever I (rarely) end up driving to or from somewhere and it's dark out, it is very surreal. Because it is not a regular occurrence....like ever. It feels weird. I'm always home before sunset. Because kids. SaveSaveSAME! Surreal is the perfect word for it. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by nellieoleson on Jun 22, 2017 23:46:11 GMT -6
crimsonandclover - I hope you are surviving the heat wave! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by dizzycooks on Jun 23, 2017 7:26:51 GMT -6
Dh and had a fight this morning about me carrying the kids. He thinks that's why my neck is messed up and if I stopped picking them up it will magically get better. I did not respond well. Now he won't answer my phone calls and he hung up on me. I have a few very unkind words to describe how I feel about this. The girls are off on a very loud, disagreeable start this morning so needless to say I'm already over today. crimsonandclover I remember you saying you don't have ac. Is being at work a relief at least? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Http://notjustnovels.wordpress.com
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Post by silverspoon on Jun 23, 2017 8:16:52 GMT -6
dizzycooks What does he want you to do? Not carry them? He definitely doesn't need to get pissed at you about it. crimsonandclover I remember being without AC. Never again. May you stay cool!
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Post by dizzycooks on Jun 23, 2017 8:19:14 GMT -6
silverspoon yeah, he think I should just not pick them up. I basically was like, sure, they'll get in the counter height chairs themselves, climb into the middle back seat themselves, get themselves in and out of swings, wash their hands, into the crib, etc all by themselves. Seriously?? 9/10 I'm not just carrying them to carry them. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Http://notjustnovels.wordpress.com
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jun 23, 2017 8:23:20 GMT -6
Ugh, dizzycooks, men! For "supposedly" being the more rational of the genders, it's things like this that just make me shake my head. Especially since he spent a weekend alone with them while you went on your girls weekend. He should know that not picking them up AT ALL is completely impossible! I'm sorry for the fight. I hope he comes to his senses soon. crimsonandclover, those temps with no a/c is just wrong. I hope it's cooling down!
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Post by silverspoon on Jun 23, 2017 8:24:27 GMT -6
Vacation is 2 weeks away. The week before we are closed for 2 days and I'm taking that Friday off, so I really only have 7 working days left. I think I can make it. I need a break from this place.
I've been avoiding H and he's definitely noticing. He's been working at my parents house helping them with their kitchen renovation. My mom told me he said that I haven't been talking to him. I told her I don't have anything nice to say. She didn't really meddle, I think she just wanted me to know he's mentioned it.
The summer is always rough with him being home. I am a creature of routine. I do not do well deviating and then by the time I do get used to it it's fall again and we're back to normal. Overall, I think we're doing better than we were, but still some work to do. Work I have to do. I need to spend more time with him and not retreat to my bedroom to read every night.
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Post by crimsonandclover on Jun 23, 2017 9:30:32 GMT -6
Thanks for thinking of me, everyone. There's no a/c at work, either, so it's not a relief. Places with a/c are few and far between here, so there's not really anywhere to go for relief. We just turn on the fans and drink cool water (no ice-makers in fridges, either, so we have to make ice cubes the old-fashioned way with trays). The heat is supposed to break on Tuesday, so only a few more days. Actually next weekend they're predicting only 64°, so when the heat breaks it'll really break!
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Post by lollipop on Jun 23, 2017 10:00:16 GMT -6
I was up and out the door before M or H were up. I had an ultrasound appointment. And then since I was out, I grabbed Starbucks and breakfast. H is watching a movie and when it's over we're going to clean. I need to rearrange my living room (again) because my mother bought M a vintage play kitchen and I need to make room for it so I can get it out of my van. I also have a lot of laundry and organizing to do, because we're going camping next week.
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Post by copperboom on Jun 23, 2017 11:09:00 GMT -6
dizzycooks, I'm sorry your H is being unreasonable. My H does the same. Any time I'm sick or have an injury he feels the need to tell me about how it is my fault, and if I just did ____ or didn't do ____ it wouldn't have happened. It's really crappy. silverspoon, in my absence I missed what's going on with you and your H, but I've been there and I'm sorry. Summer is always the hardest for H and I because we are both home from teaching, and we get in each other's way and piss each other off. Can you plan something together, a show you want to watch together, for after little man is in bed? Maybe try to spend just a couple nights a week with him doing something you both like? crimsonandclover, a heat wave with no AC sounds awful. Good luck staying cool!
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jun 23, 2017 11:17:25 GMT -6
I dropped the boys off at the airport. I am sad. Oh and I'm an idiot and forgot to give H the booster seat for DS for while they are there. UGH! SaveSave
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Post by dizzycooks on Jun 23, 2017 12:06:14 GMT -6
scorpioscuba not gonna lie, I'm jealous of your alone time. I'm sure they'll have a great "boys weekend"! copperboom I understand your pain. I can't imagine both of us being home at the same time. lollipop your day sounds awesome! I'm glad you got an appointment and hope you get some answers quickly. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Http://notjustnovels.wordpress.com
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Post by lollipop on Jun 23, 2017 12:33:29 GMT -6
dizzycooks they said my doctor should have the results by Monday. So I'll probably get a call Tuesday at the latest. And now I need to stop procrastinating and clean. H is out getting his axe sharpened and registering his car.
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Post by crimsonandclover on Jun 23, 2017 14:00:25 GMT -6
Re: schedule-- We have a few things that have very specific times (leave for preschool/dc by 7:45, dinner at 6pm, bedtime at 7/7:30), but I'm a bit flexible with naps and unless it's completely unavoidable I let DD3 sleep for however long she wants to. I have arranged playdates before and then called to say we were coming later because DD3 decided she needed a 3-hr nap that day. It has never affected when she goes to bed. In fact, sometimes DH (who is not as strict about schedules as I am) puts her down at 2pm, she sleeps until 5pm, and she's still ready for bed at 6:45/7pm.
But our daily routine is the same: I pick them up from preschool, we come home and they have a snack, they play, we have dinner at 6pm, they go upstairs at 6:45 and we do the bedtime routine. The only variation is on bath nights, when we have dinner at 5:45 so there's enough time for baths.
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Post by theoprah on Jun 23, 2017 14:08:39 GMT -6
DS no longer naps. We always try to put him to bed around 8:30. He plays in his room until he falls asleep.
DD is going through this CRAZY phase where she's not falling asleep until 10 pm or later - Lord give me strength!
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Post by lollipop on Jun 23, 2017 14:08:41 GMT -6
My living room is clean. The love seat is back in front of the fire place, which still hasn't been used.i need to figure where to put a couple of the bigger toys that M plays with. She doesn't like to play in the playroom unless S is in there, but as soon as she joins him he leaves. It would be funny if it wasn't so frustrating
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jun 23, 2017 14:33:47 GMT -6
OMG theoprah, that late bedtime would do me in! I hope she gets back on track soon! So, I'm spiraling again. Anyone know what happens if you are alone at home with an infant/toddler and you need to call 911 for yourself and go to the hospital? What happens to your child during all this? These are the things I'm thinking about because my parents are not home from their RV trip yet and my sister is off to OR tomorrow. And for the past 24+ hours I've been dealing with some very odd tenderness and sharp sometimes stabby pain in my lower left abdomen. It hurts to pick up DD and I couldn't sleep on my left side last night it hurt so bad. I'm thinking all kinds of things thanks to Dr. Google (kidney stones, pancreatitis, ovarian cyst rupture, blah blah blah). But if something seriously bad were to happen to me and I had to call 911 and no family to help me with DD, what happens? I'm stressing over nothing I know but these are the places my brain goes. Talk me down!
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Post by lollipop on Jun 23, 2017 14:49:08 GMT -6
scorpioscuba I think she would go to the hospital with you and someone from social services would stay with her until a family member or guardian can pick her up or stay with her. I have the same thoughts sometimes. Even if it's just a couple of hours while H is at work and S is at school, I'll suddenly start freaking out because "OMG what if I pass out and there's no one here but me and the baby?! Who would even know if something happened to me? I could DIE and no one would know and what would happen to Micki since no one else is here?!" I have yet to figure out how to stop my mind from going there.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jun 23, 2017 16:51:28 GMT -6
scorpioscuba - I have those worries sometimes, too. I fell down our basement stairs when dd1 was a little less than a year old. I was fine except a scraped up arm, but I was so freaked out about what could have happened. My H is often gone for 14+ hours a day, and usually checks in a couple times, but on some crazy busy days doesn't have the time. Do you have a family friend or neighbor you could call if you needed someone to come watch dd? Not to downplay your worries, but I think a sharp pain on the left side is usually not an emergency, where the right side can be more of an urgent issue. I hope you feel better soon! Physically and mentally. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by kcrkcs on Jun 23, 2017 18:42:28 GMT -6
The baby is asleep. Hubs and the dogs are outside. I have a bottle of wine and the apt to myself. Praise all the things. I reeeaaaallllyy needed this moment of quiet. Now to catch up on everyone's doings.
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Post by kcrkcs on Jun 23, 2017 18:54:00 GMT -6
scorpioscuba hmm that's a good question. I think the idea to phone a friend is a good one if no family available. Do you think it might be worth going to a quickcare type place if the pain doesn't resolve in the next 24hrs? Much better than ending up in an ambulance 😬
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