Wednesday Wake-up

[jewels]

tgrimes I was just reading the blinds and saw how you posted that you re-met your H at your reunion. Out of curiosity, were you guys friends in high school who reconnected? Or was it like meeting new? So like do you have tons of mutual friends from back in the day?

I don't know why I'm curious about it, but I am.

[cheeksmum]

dapostrophe, flamingo, jewels

Thank you.
N has been in daycare since January 2015 and he started kindergarten last September. He has the same class/teachers as last year so it hasn’t been a huge change. I can probably count the number of drop offs since 2015 that he hasn’t cried. It’s just so draining.
He isn’t allowed to bring any personal belongings which would be something that could possibly help.
I’m thinking of possibly making him a little photo album with our pictures in it to see if that helps or talk to his teachers to see if for the first few weeks we can send his stuffy to keep in his backpack and he can go have a quiet moment with it when needed. 🤷🏻‍♀️ who knows if any of it will help.
And I’m worried once the baby is born he will struggle again.

[cagoldi]

So last year right before Dude's birthday, his BFF moved away to Florida. He was heartbroken.

We gave him a little gift and card with our contact information but never heard from them. I think of them sometimes and wanted to message his mom to see how things have been but felt like I should let it be since we have them my number and they could reach out if they wanted.

She texted me yesterday out of the clear blue saying she's been meaning to get in touch forever but hasn't gotten around to it. She said T still talks about how he misses his best friend, Atticus, and we exchanged first day of school pics to show the boys. I have their address now so we're going to write him a letter and draw pictures. Dude is so excited to be back in touch with him.

[cagoldi]

Sept 5, 2018 9:46:59 GMT -6 cheeksmum said:

dapostrophe, flamingo, jewels

Thank you.
N has been in daycare since January 2015 and he started kindergarten last September. He has the same class/teachers as last year so it hasn’t been a huge change. I can probably count the number of drop offs since 2015 that he hasn’t cried. It’s just so draining.
He isn’t allowed to bring any personal belongings which would be something that could possibly help.
I’m thinking of possibly making him a little photo album with our pictures in it to see if that helps or talk to his teachers to see if for the first few weeks we can send his stuffy to keep in his backpack and he can go have a quiet moment with it when needed. 🤷🏻‍♀️ who knows if any of it will help.
And I’m worried once the baby is born he will struggle again.

We are allowed to send them a comfort item for nap time. Maybe a special picture and lovey would help.

Also, have you read the Kissing Hand? Sometimes if Dude is struggling that manages to ease his mind a little, and I give him a little heart shaped sticker to wear on his palm to symbolize a kiss from home.

[flamingo]

Sept 5, 2018 9:46:59 GMT -6 cheeksmum said:

dapostrophe, flamingo, jewels

Thank you.
N has been in daycare since January 2015 and he started kindergarten last September. He has the same class/teachers as last year so it hasn’t been a huge change. I can probably count the number of drop offs since 2015 that he hasn’t cried. It’s just so draining.
He isn’t allowed to bring any personal belongings which would be something that could possibly help.
I’m thinking of possibly making him a little photo album with our pictures in it to see if that helps or talk to his teachers to see if for the first few weeks we can send his stuffy to keep in his backpack and he can go have a quiet moment with it when needed. 🤷🏻‍♀️ who knows if any of it will help.
And I’m worried once the baby is born he will struggle again.

That’s what we did (kept the lovey and a family photo in his cubby) at his teacher’s suggestion, and I do think it helped. She would also let him get a sip of water to help him calm down.

This might all be part of your expecting a baby and all the changes in the air...maybe it’s just feeling a bit overwhelming to him and this is how it manifests. Hopefully things will get easier each day. 🤞🏻

[vino]

Crap cheeksmum, I'm sorry today was tough again. I know you've tried everything so it's at a point I think to just be super positive and strong so when the time comes to leave you just go. Also, I know that he generally goes to bed later, has his sleep been shortened at all since he has to be up and going earlier than usual? I just know that B is super affected when he's sleeping less.

[vino]

That's awesome cagoldi! I'm sure A will love to get messages from his friend, too cute.

[mwhip]

cheeksmum that broke my heart. I hope you find something quickly to help him ease into it.
flamingo and snoopmommymom those pics are great!
flamingo A lot of my friends do the signs on the first day of school. I am not that well prepared. MIL acted like I was horrible for not having one for E yesterday. Like, I'm pretty certain I'll remember it was her first day of preschool, since I took a picture in front of the school sign. But I guess I should up my mom game.
dapostrophe I'd love to see a picture, if you can share!

[guster]

Sept 5, 2018 9:07:25 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Sept 5, 2018 8:49:35 GMT -6 slenle said:

So I just called our insurance. I think i got my answer but she didn’t sound confident. I asked if it was covered and she said well visits are covered through age 6. I said yes, but is a 2.5 year covered? Yes, covered through age 6. Okay..... so, you’re saying I could bring him in 5 times a year for well child visits and they’d be covered? “Yes, through age 6”......... I may have hung up on her.

She can't really give more than that because whether or not it's covered is going to depend on how your doctor's office codes the visit and whether or not they say it was just routine management or submit another diagnosis code.

There's no way you could get them to cover that five times a year but so long as your pedi's staff knows how to bill then a biannual visit should be fine. And if it gets denied I would appeal it.

This (I think).
I though Josie was going to have to go for another pediatrician visit before she started this new school, and when I called the pediatricians office the nurse/receptionist said that she knew our insurance would not cover another well visit, so she was going to put it in the books as routine/sick and they would just do all of the things they do at a well visit so I could get the form we needed, but it wouldn’t cost more than the copay.
I didn’t end up going, but like cagoldi said they knew how to code it.

[tgrimes]

Sept 5, 2018 9:44:21 GMT -6 jewels said:

tgrimes I was just reading the blinds and saw how you posted that you re-met your H at your reunion. Out of curiosity, were you guys friends in high school who reconnected? Or was it like meeting new? So like do you have tons of mutual friends from back in the day?

I don't know why I'm curious about it, but I am.

We've known each other since the 3rd grade.  He had his friend (who ended up being his best man) ask me out for him in the 5th grad and I said no.  We were always friends growing up so yes, we have a few mutual friends.  We were in the same group at prom and he picked me up the night before to go party at the beach house we got.  We slept on the same couch because I didn't trust the other guys.  During our senior trip to Cancun he and another one of his friends kept a close eye on me & my friend.  They made sure we never went anywhere alone and they even spent the night in our room one night because of some shady dudes we met.  

I hadn't seen him since our senior trip when I saw him at the reunion.  It definitely made it easier to start dating since we'd already known each other, especially since I was recently divorced and was ready to shun men for awhile. 

[mskatiep]

Loving the first day of school pics!! peachsmama, flamingo and snoopmommymom

Glad drop off went better today mwhip

cheeksmum, I'm sorry it's been so draining on you. Everyday since 2015 would take it's toll on me too. I like the suggestions of a family picture and cagoldi heart/sticker idea.

[vino]

Morning all, I'm not sure I've checked in today. At work for only two days this week, and it started with me forgetting my eggs for breakfast. Grrrr.

Drop off this morning was different because B's teacher in the OSC is there first thing, so he doesnt get to sit with Julia for breakfast. We'll see how this goes...

[guster]

cheeksmum, so hard. Josie had a terrible time in both the twos and the threes. We actually had to take a tiny break each year and then begin transitioning back in slowly because it was so rough for her. I hope N is okay.
She kept a picture of us in her coat pocket and that seemed to help her during the transition time

[guster]

Cute, @snoopmommy and flamingo!
Hope he days goes well for yours, dapostrophe!

[cheeksmum]

vino, he’s been going to bed earlier but he could probably benefit from a couple more hours. It doesn’t help that DH hasn’t fixed his truck so we’ve had to get up an hour earlier then usual so we can drive him to work. Normally he would sleep 9/9:30-7:30/8 but we’ve been getting up at 6:30 to drive H...

[guster]

Happy E had a good drop off, mwhip!
That is so cute, cagoldi, maybe Atticus will have a penpal!
That’s a very sweet history, tgrimes!

Re:: the blackboards

I was using a chalkboard easel, and then it worked on the deck this summer, so I too have nothing and less I order something from Amazon in the next few days

[xolastunicornxo]

flamingo yay for freedom!! And I’m glad the sleep study went well!

peachsmama he’s so cute

That’s so hard cheeksmum

tgrimes I love that story!!!

[peachsmama]

He had a great day!!

[cagoldi]

That's a super cute story, tgrimes.

[inthekitty]

Sept 5, 2018 8:41:30 GMT -6 tallb said:

Sept 5, 2018 6:18:49 GMT -6 chrisy01 said:

I should be getting ready before waking up the kids but I’m catching up here. Lol. I’m taking the kids to school. Work is providing lunch so 1 less thing for me to do. Then I’m picking up the kids.

Originally C was going to go to the gym after work and I was going to be doing bedtime alone. Last night he saw how much work it was and is now going to come home and help then go to the gym. I also think his bff told him to help. Who knows I’m just happy to get help.

Maybe I'm a b, but workouts should be during sleeping hours during the week if both parents are working, especially when you are finding a new routine. MH gets up at 5 to run or goes for one after bedtime. Glad he came home to help. I basically workout on weekends at this point.

Agreed. There's a reason I had to give up the gym life after having kids and had to figure out new ways to work out. We have a treadclimber in the family room and I do Beachbody videos at home. I also try to get in reps here and there at work when I can.

[jewels]

tgrimes, that's such a great story, I love it!

peachsmama, glad he had a great time!

[xolastunicornxo]

So we have Lucas’s first soccer practice tonight, and when we have the kids introduce themselves we make sure the kids know Lucas uses sign language, and they can ask Shaun or I if they have questions or want to know the sign for something. But it always gives me a bit of a pit in my stomach, because I don’t want kids to be mean to him. We know a handful of kids on the team so it should be fine, and honestly Lucas gives 0 fucks what anyone thinks. He does him, so it’s really more my issue.

[inthekitty]

Gah. It's been a whirlwind the past couple of days. The girls started back at school today and MH did too with his first day back to work. It's going to be an adjustment for everyone--especially MH. He's been used to having a lazy schedule and is going to have to learn to be organized. I was a bit annoyed he only got one photo at Cass' school this morning when I asked for individual photos on the front porch. I'm glad he at least got 1 photo, but seriously, it only takes a few seconds to get a picture. I did everything last night to prep the kids. He's used to me doing the majority of it so this will be an adjustment for him to have to get moving in the morning. He's definitely been stepping up his game a lot and our marriage is a lot better for it, but there's still room for improvement.

Madison had a tough drop off. She's been having a lot of issues lately with feeling left out and lacking confidence. She told me out of the blue the other day that she has felt like a boy all her life. I was thrown for a loop, but upon further talking with her it sounds like she's a tomboy but the vast majority of other girls her age are really girly and she doesn't identify as "pretty" and dislikes pink. It kind of broke my heart that she feels like such an outsider. The funny thing is she's an extrovert and makes friends easily. I think when she has more time to adjust to school she'll do better but I struggle to know what to do to improve her confidence. She thinks she's a horrible reader despite being a very strong reader for her age. Her kindergarten teacher said she's the best in her class but she doesn't believe it. I think she's used to picking up new things quickly and I've tried explaining that learning to read is a process and will take time.

Overall I'm filled with the back to school emotions. I know the kids are fine, but it's hard not to be able to talk to them and confirm that until late in the day. With MH home I at least used to hear about Cass sooner but with him working I'm out of the loop. Cass has to go to the after care daycare program at her school so that's another change. She seems excited about it so hopefully it goes well.

[inthekitty]

cheeksmum, I'm sorry he's still having a tough time. It's so hard to leave them like that. Does he do better as the day goes on?

[klong11]

Took Cadence to pick up her braces this morning. They trimmed the toe a bit and then they were good to go. She will start wearing them a couple hours each evening and next week she will start wearing them to school. She's excited. She seems to really like them.

While we were waiting for them to be trimmed the other office chick came in. "So....I know our financial staff wasn't able to call you, but here is the amount that is due today."
I almost had a heart attack.
Clearly my response was not a good one because she goes, "do you want to set up a payment plan?"
No. It's fine. Just a little unexpected.
Luckily, they take CareCredit, but not at that particular office, so they are going to call me from another office to take the payment over the phone.
This kid is costing me an arm and a leg lately.

[joelies]

Hiiii! Checking in late.

The boys had their dentist appointments yesterday and even Chase complied, so of course they were complete disasters once we got home and I had to leave them with DH to go meet some friends. He left me the task of packing lunches when I got home so I don't feel too badly, LOL. It was worth it for margs, tacos, and good conversation.

Colin is still a bit quiet about school - quiet but positive - and is having trouble telling us much since he doesn't know his classmates' names. Being in an unfamiliar place around so many new faces is definitely exhausting him. I had to wake him up and drag him out of bed this morning. They have show and tell today and I think it'll be a good opportunity for him to learn some names and see who shares his interests. He brought in his Yankees hat and I'm hopeful that he'll show his personality and enthusiasm for his favorite players. He seems content and confident that he'll make friends, but I can't stop projecting my own insecurities on the poor kid.

[sands42]

Enjoy your freedom this week flamingo!!! That sounds awesome!

Yay for a better drop off today mwhip!!! The rough drop offs are so sad.

Lol to your dream jewels!!! Dreams are so weird.

[dapostrophe]

tgrimes That is such a sweet story. It's kind of nice that you guys have so much history together. Also, I did not know/remember you were divorced. I know the feeling of being "put off" of men after that. H must have been a good one to catch your eye 😉

[Sunny41]

Hi! Catching up while in a boring talk. I'm doing a crap job of eating a healthy diet and just trying to get by with working out a few times. It's weird but it was less stressful to workout when mh was gone because it wasn't taking away from together time. But E is becoming a great swimmer on his own hanging out with other kids while I do water aerobics.

[nam2013]

@cheeksmam I’m so sorry that sounds awful. Ds has a mini zebra (2inch max) in his backpack, that we picked uit for good luck. And I like the sticker on his hand idea, or maybe a kiss drawing with a marker?