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Post by lupincat on Sept 20, 2018 18:36:37 GMT -6
Wait, are you pregnant?? Congratulations!!! Yes I am, Thank you. I am due in May and DD turns 2 in August Congrats!!
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Post by cmb on Sept 20, 2018 19:14:16 GMT -6
Oh yay, you got this! They'll be so fun together! Thank you. I really hope so. She has a doll baby now I will try to prep her the best I can. Don’t squish the baby. Meanwhile she is squishing her friends. She got so exited we babysat her buddy she wouldn’t stop hugging him. And knocking him over. He cried. At first I was like omg so cute , but then I’m like omg give home a break, give him air ! Now he’s probably afraid of her. She’ll get better! DS1’s first question when we brought DS2 home was would DS2 sit next to him and play trains. They love to help as toddlers
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Post by lupincat on Sept 20, 2018 19:44:55 GMT -6
Thank you. I really hope so. She has a doll baby now I will try to prep her the best I can. Don’t squish the baby. Meanwhile she is squishing her friends. She got so exited we babysat her buddy she wouldn’t stop hugging him. And knocking him over. He cried. At first I was like omg so cute , but then I’m like omg give home a break, give him air ! Now he’s probably afraid of her. She’ll get better! DS1’s first question when we brought DS2 home was would DS2 sit next to him and play trains. They love to help as toddlers DS1 ignored DS2 for a solid 7 months. Truthfully, it made my life easier. Lol!
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Post by letthewookieewin on Sept 21, 2018 4:09:16 GMT -6
Congratulations @starzia!
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Post by thechickencoop on Sept 23, 2018 7:41:41 GMT -6
Wait, are you pregnant?? Congratulations!!! Yes I am, Thank you. I am due in May and DD turns 2 in August Ahhhh congrats!!!
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Post by lupincat on Sept 23, 2018 11:53:04 GMT -6
Hello from my new house!
The move was a shit show and we had a last minute scare that the buyers of our old house would pull out but everything worked out and we survived the weekend.
I do feel bad for our old neighbors because they're super nice and the people who bought our house are.... kind of trashy and were talking about their three aggressive dogs.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 23, 2018 17:02:24 GMT -6
Popping over from A17 to say holy shit @starzia, CONGRATS 💕!! So happy for you, yay! 😊
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Post by piratecat on Sept 24, 2018 8:17:27 GMT -6
lupincat, yay so glad you survived the move and that everything worked out!
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Post by ttcbabyj on Sept 26, 2018 21:11:16 GMT -6
So I have come to the realization that my daycare is pretty rule focused and strict (for a lack of a better word). I will caveat this post by saying I know I am probably overreacting, but I would still like some advice.
So today I pick up J from daycare and she has an incident report. Most of the times the reports deal with her falling (leaving a mark) or getting scratched or scratching herself. I was surprised to see the report was for a tantrum. Here is a synopsis of the observation as reported by one of her teachers:
“ I was bringing J in from outside and while I was trying to get her to wash her hands, she started slapping my hands and arms and then she spit in my face. After this incident, she laughed. I sat her down and told her about using gentle hands and how spit was yucky.”
DD will be 16 months next month. She does have tantrums. I’m not trying to be that parent that makes excuses for her child, but she is 16 months old. And I have never witnessed her spit on anyone. What she will do is she will blow raspberries, which will produce spit. Also, she will hit you if you are forcing her to do something she doesn’t want to do, while holding her. She is basically trying to get you to take your hands off her.
The evening worker was the only one there when I picked up DD this evening. I had to sign the report and she really didn’t know what it meant. Should I talk to the teacher? Should I talk to the director? I just don’t know if this is a big deal. To me it seems like toddler behavior, but the fact that this report was completed and I signed it, makes me feel like this is serious. I don’t want her to have a rep as an unruly child.
Any advice. Sorry this was so long.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 27, 2018 7:06:19 GMT -6
ttcbabyj, I am confused about the spitting in the face. Can they even spit like that at that age? I am inclined to think it is more like what you describe, and the teacher feeling grossed out by it (which is understandable, but I know a lot of teachers and it happens) and making a bigger deal of it than it is. The way she addressed it with your daughter sounds fine but the report seems over the top. I think I would talk to the teacher first but trying not to be accusatory. I would find out from either the teacher or the director what it means to get an incident report (I'm guessing probably nothing but I don't have any experience with them).
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Post by ttcbabyj on Sept 27, 2018 9:29:42 GMT -6
piratecat thank you. That’s what I was thinking I mean can she really like “spit” in someone’s face at this age. That part just sounded so accusatory. I think you are right I need to find out what does the incident report mean.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 27, 2018 9:49:15 GMT -6
piratecat thank you. That’s what I was thinking I mean can she really like “spit” in someone’s face at this age. That part just sounded so accusatory. I think you are right I need to find out what does the incident report mean. I feel like she got some spit on her face and then became overly emotional about what happened. It also seems like she is projecting a lot on a young kid, especially the part about your daughter laughing afterwards. I would imagine that the incident reports are meant to keep a record to cover themselves when the kids hurt themselves or each other or whatever so it wouldn't actually mean anything for you. I might ask the director if it is typical to get a report for this type of incident - otherwise it almost seems out of spite on the teacher's part. But I don't think I would take any further action after that, unless more issues arise with the teacher.
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Post by ttcbabyj on Sept 27, 2018 10:53:02 GMT -6
piratecat thank you. That’s what I was thinking I mean can she really like “spit” in someone’s face at this age. That part just sounded so accusatory. I think you are right I need to find out what does the incident report mean. I feel like she got some spit on her face and then became overly emotional about what happened. It also seems like she is projecting a lot on a young kid, especially the part about your daughter laughing afterwards. I would imagine that the incident reports are meant to keep a record to cover themselves when the kids hurt themselves or each other or whatever so it wouldn't actually mean anything for you. I might ask the director if it is typical to get a report for this type of incident - otherwise it almost seems out of spite on the teacher's part. But I don't think I would take any further action after that, unless more issues arise with the teacher. This is exactly what I was thinking. I totally sideyed the she laughed part. I mean DD says like 15 words. What did she expect her to say? I’m definitely going to ask about the director about nature of incident reports.
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Post by billyhorrible on Sept 27, 2018 11:47:42 GMT -6
ttcbabyj couple thoughts: 1) mine does the same raspberries as yours, which is also classified as spitting by his preschool. 2) without further information, I'm guessing the incident report was more about the slapping, with the "spitting" thrown in for good measure. We don't get incident reports for that, but I know from experience that I usually have the teacher talking to me when my son has hit her after getting frustrated, angry, or upset about getting reprimanded. Sure kids are going to throw tantrums, but hitting isn't permissible and I'd bet they just want you to know so you can reinforce that at home while they reinforce that at daycare.
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Post by ttcbabyj on Sept 27, 2018 12:03:06 GMT -6
billyhorrible that is a fair assessment. Yeah we’ve been working on the raspberries and my pedetrician said we could start doing 1 minute timeouts at 18 months....so 2 months to go. Yes, I definitely agree hitting is not okay. It’s just so frustrating because she’s so young.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 27, 2018 12:27:36 GMT -6
My kid is not coordinated enough to do raspberries. Or something.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 27, 2018 12:28:21 GMT -6
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Post by billyhorrible on Sept 27, 2018 13:19:13 GMT -6
billyhorrible that is a fair assessment. Yeah we’ve been working on the raspberries and my pedetrician said we could start doing 1 minute timeouts at 18 months....so 2 months to go. Yes, I definitely agree hitting is not okay. It’s just so frustrating because she’s so young. For sure. We had a hard time with both boys and hitting before they got verbal. They just automatically go to that because they can't express themselves otherwise. I promise it gets better. If it makes you feel better, my pediatrician isn't a fan of timeouts for that, because it's not as if they're doing it to hurt or be malicious. It's just a matter of redirecting, repeating, and giving them "words" expressing that they're angry/ frustrated/sad/etc.
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Post by cmb on Sept 27, 2018 16:09:01 GMT -6
ttcbabyj I get reports like that from time to time (age appropriate but not really acceptable behaviors). It’s more for everybody to be on the same page, to make sure you are aware of the incident and what they do to correct the behavior. When I talked to our director about it, it’s more a policy thing than anything- there’s some parents they basically just recognize and don’t stay to chat with the teachers to find out how the day went and such so they implement this as just standard procedure
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Post by cmb on Sept 27, 2018 16:10:01 GMT -6
billyhorrible that is a fair assessment. Yeah we’ve been working on the raspberries and my pedetrician said we could start doing 1 minute timeouts at 18 months....so 2 months to go. Yes, I definitely agree hitting is not okay. It’s just so frustrating because she’s so young. It gets better when they can use words... 9 months of speech therapy, and we’re finally getting DS1 to the point of not hitting all the damn time
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Post by ttcbabyj on Sept 27, 2018 17:11:18 GMT -6
My kid is not coordinated enough to do raspberries. Or something. She does it all the time when something doesn’t go her way. This and the death fall back. She’s bumped her head a few times with the death fall, of course. So know she sits down them falls back because it’s a shorter distance to the ground. DH and I joke, we wanted the strongest embryo huh. 😂
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Post by piratecat on Sept 27, 2018 17:42:34 GMT -6
My kid is not coordinated enough to do raspberries. Or something. She does it all the time when something doesn’t go her way. This and the death fall back. She’s bumped her head a few times with the death fall, of course. So know she sits down them falls back because it’s a shorter distance to the ground. DH and I joke, we wanted the strongest embryo huh. 😂 Haha mine just melts on the floor but it’s pretty tame. I guess you got what you asked for. 😅
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