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Post by piratecat on Sept 4, 2018 19:01:07 GMT -6
J slept for 12 hours last night and then took a 3 hour nap. I’m not sure what that means for what time he’ll be up tomorrow morning.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 4, 2018 19:01:25 GMT -6
A is having all the poop accidents today. Of course we've been with family all day so she went through all the panties, all the pull ups that I had as back up in the van and is currently in a too small diaper. Wtf? If she's not feeling well, I guess I'm glad it's coming out that way versus vomit, right? Oh man I hope she feels better soon!
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Post by letthewookieewin on Sept 5, 2018 5:41:36 GMT -6
A is having all the poop accidents today. Of course we've been with family all day so she went through all the panties, all the pull ups that I had as back up in the van and is currently in a too small diaper. Wtf? If she's not feeling well, I guess I'm glad it's coming out that way versus vomit, right? Nooo! I hope she's feeling better soon. DS just had all the pee accidents yesterday. He went through both of the changes of clothes I send to school with him and came home in a pair of their shorts (which he had another accident in around the time I got home from work last night). Poor kid has been a little constipated and finally had a good poop this morning, so FX today goes a little better. I'm sending him to school today with three changes of clothes and hoping for the best.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 5, 2018 6:37:26 GMT -6
J slept for 12 hours last night and then took a 3 hour nap. I’m not sure what that means for what time he’ll be up tomorrow morning. He slept until 7:35! Who is this child??
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 5, 2018 17:22:25 GMT -6
I'm pretty sure the one thing that is going to break me is potty training. I haven't been this frustrated, feeling helpless and wanting to cry since college calculus. I have no fucking idea what to do anymore because no matter how many reminders and bribes and rewards she is not consistent at all. ever. She. Gives. No. Fucks.
I just dumped her in bed early because I'm disgusted about the whole thing. Fuck this.
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Post by cmb on Sept 6, 2018 3:51:56 GMT -6
I'm pretty sure the one thing that is going to break me is potty training. I haven't been this frustrated, feeling helpless and wanting to cry since college calculus. I have no fucking idea what to do anymore because no matter how many reminders and bribes and rewards she is not consistent at all. ever. She. Gives. No. Fucks. I just dumped her in bed early because I'm disgusted about the whole thing. Fuck this. Age again? DS1 will be 4 in January and isn’t trained. He just doesn’t care. They said to leave him be until 4 unless he shows he cares and wants to do it before that
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Post by lupincat on Sept 6, 2018 5:02:23 GMT -6
I'm pretty sure the one thing that is going to break me is potty training. I haven't been this frustrated, feeling helpless and wanting to cry since college calculus. I have no fucking idea what to do anymore because no matter how many reminders and bribes and rewards she is not consistent at all. ever. She. Gives. No. Fucks. I just dumped her in bed early because I'm disgusted about the whole thing. Fuck this. Age again? DS1 will be 4 in January and isn’t trained. He just doesn’t care. They said to leave him be until 4 unless he shows he cares and wants to do it before that I'm oddly relieved that you said this. DS1 will not even sit on the potty anymore. He does not care one bit. I'm not pushing too hard because clearly he isn't ready but then I feel really self conscious because he's 3 and we aren't really pushing it. sheilathetank I feel your frustration. DS1 gives zero fucks about any rewards. I've offered candy, I've offered a little reward toy, I even offered him $100 and a car when he turns 16. I'm pretty breezy on most parenting subjects but I haaaaaate potty training.
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Post by letthewookieewin on Sept 6, 2018 5:26:38 GMT -6
For everyone else currently in potty training hell: DS is still firmly in the "take him every X amount of time" stage of this thing and will basically only use our bathroom, MIL's potty, and the bathroom at school. And he's only added those last two for our current potty training attempt. By some miracle he only had one accident yesterday and it was right before his bath.
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 6, 2018 6:50:54 GMT -6
DD is 2.5 and I know it's still young. Part of the issue is that my fucking mother pushed this thing on us. Despite me saying we weren't ready she Bought the potty, and showed her how to use it at like 20 months. DD was interested. She liked it. She went at school and then she stopped. So we pulled back because she is still young. Two weeks later she went an entire weekend successfully going on the potty. So we tried again and she gets it. She goes when you put her on there but she will not stop what she is doing to go. She won't tell you she needs to go. She will literally stand there holding herself and scream that she "doesn't want to go on the potty!"
So this morning I talked to the director and basically was like "what the fuck do I do" she agrees that it's stubbornness but reassured me it's normal. Lots of kids have accidents and their hardest thing is getting them to say they have to go. So that's a little reassuring. And it's looking more and more like it's a me problem and not a her problem. I need to be more consistent at home. We don't have a bathroom on the main floor so I've finally gave into the fact that we need a small potty in the living room (ugh. Gross).
I knew I was going to have a bitch of a time with potty training when I had a newborn that slept through the night.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 6, 2018 7:41:05 GMT -6
DD is 2.5 and I know it's still young. Part of the issue is that my fucking mother pushed this thing on us. Despite me saying we weren't ready she Bought the potty, and showed her how to use it at like 20 months. DD was interested. She liked it. She went at school and then she stopped. So we pulled back because she is still young. Two weeks later she went an entire weekend successfully going on the potty. So we tried again and she gets it. She goes when you put her on there but she will not stop what she is doing to go. She won't tell you she needs to go. She will literally stand there holding herself and scream that she "doesn't want to go on the potty!" So this morning I talked to the director and basically was like "what the fuck do I do" she agrees that it's stubbornness but reassured me it's normal. Lots of kids have accidents and their hardest thing is getting them to say they have to go. So that's a little reassuring. And it's looking more and more like it's a me problem and not a her problem. I need to be more consistent at home. We don't have a bathroom on the main floor so I've finally gave into the fact that we need a small potty in the living room (ugh. Gross). I knew I was going to have a bitch of a time with potty training when I had a newborn that slept through the night.
So what you're saying is potty training is going to be a breeze for me because my kid just started sleeping through the night at like 14 months? I am sorry that it's been so tough for you.
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 6, 2018 8:01:56 GMT -6
DD is 2.5 and I know it's still young. Part of the issue is that my fucking mother pushed this thing on us. Despite me saying we weren't ready she Bought the potty, and showed her how to use it at like 20 months. DD was interested. She liked it. She went at school and then she stopped. So we pulled back because she is still young. Two weeks later she went an entire weekend successfully going on the potty. So we tried again and she gets it. She goes when you put her on there but she will not stop what she is doing to go. She won't tell you she needs to go. She will literally stand there holding herself and scream that she "doesn't want to go on the potty!" So this morning I talked to the director and basically was like "what the fuck do I do" she agrees that it's stubbornness but reassured me it's normal. Lots of kids have accidents and their hardest thing is getting them to say they have to go. So that's a little reassuring. And it's looking more and more like it's a me problem and not a her problem. I need to be more consistent at home. We don't have a bathroom on the main floor so I've finally gave into the fact that we need a small potty in the living room (ugh. Gross). I knew I was going to have a bitch of a time with potty training when I had a newborn that slept through the night.
So what you're saying is potty training is going to be a breeze for me because my kid just started sleeping through the night at like 14 months? I am sorry that it's been so tough for you. Everyone gets one right? If it's not eating or sleeping it's got to be potty training.
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Post by billyhorrible on Sept 6, 2018 11:36:07 GMT -6
sheilathetank honestly? And I'm not saying this to be cute, but potty training was the easiest part of parenting for me thus far. For both kids. I wouldn't get a little potty for downstairs. I wouldn't consider this a you problem or a her problem. I would drop it. She was interested at first because it was new and novel. And that's great. Encouraging that is great. But really, don't make this a battle of wills. Don't worry about when or what she "should" be doing. Throw her in a pullup. I promise you, having been through it twice, that when she wants to, walking upstairs to the bathroom will not be a hurdle. When she wants to, there will be 0 accidents. My youngest literally told me he wanted to wear diapers forever and then 2 weeks later decided he wanted to use the bathroom and that same day was asking to go in restaurants and the mall. No accidents at home, public, or preschool. It doesn't have to be hard or frustrating.
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 7, 2018 6:11:25 GMT -6
sheilathetank honestly? And I'm not saying this to be cute, but potty training was the easiest part of parenting for me thus far. For both kids. I wouldn't get a little potty for downstairs. I wouldn't consider this a you problem or a her problem. I would drop it. She was interested at first because it was new and novel. And that's great. Encouraging that is great. But really, don't make this a battle of wills. Don't worry about when or what she "should" be doing. Throw her in a pullup. I promise you, having been through it twice, that when she wants to, walking upstairs to the bathroom will not be a hurdle. When she wants to, there will be 0 accidents. My youngest literally told me he wanted to wear diapers forever and then 2 weeks later decided he wanted to use the bathroom and that same day was asking to go in restaurants and the mall. No accidents at home, public, or preschool. It doesn't have to be hard or frustrating. She had a really good day yesterday with going on the potty and had no accidents. She even told us she had to poop. She didn't poop, but she went right upstairs and sat for a while and made the effort. So now I'm even more confused as to whether or not we stop.
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Post by billyhorrible on Sept 7, 2018 10:15:35 GMT -6
sheilathetank if it were me, I'd still keep her in pullups. But only because I don't want to clean up accidents. Then: 1) if she wants to wear underwear, like she asks I'd put her in underwear and tell her she can wear them as long as she doesn't have accidents. OR 2) Tell her if she keeps her pullup dry for a day/3 days/a week (whatever works for you) then she can wear underwear.
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Post by nerdalert on Sept 7, 2018 15:23:02 GMT -6
I'm dreading potty training. We did some awareness testing last month because he became obsessed with his little potty and was telling us every time he pooped. But he was definitely just NOT aware of when he peed, and all interest in the potty disappated. Oh well. We'll try again here there on awareness. He hopefully starts at a new daycare next month at my job and hoping that may peak some interest in him.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 9, 2018 10:41:09 GMT -6
My kid has been such a little angel lately. Sleeps like a dream, just so happy and fun. H has totally fallen for it and is ready to have another. It’s got to be some kind of a trap right? He’ll turn into a little hellion soon, like as soon as we have a second kid??
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Post by thechickencoop on Sept 9, 2018 13:40:42 GMT -6
J slept for 12 hours last night and then took a 3 hour nap. I’m not sure what that means for what time he’ll be up tomorrow morning. He slept until 7:35! Who is this child?? I'll trade ya.
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Post by thechickencoop on Sept 9, 2018 13:48:26 GMT -6
I'm pretty sure the one thing that is going to break me is potty training. I haven't been this frustrated, feeling helpless and wanting to cry since college calculus. I have no fucking idea what to do anymore because no matter how many reminders and bribes and rewards she is not consistent at all. ever. She. Gives. No. Fucks. I just dumped her in bed early because I'm disgusted about the whole thing. Fuck this. How old is she again? I know some people are all for like bootcamp methods but I'm all for waiting til they're ready. Otherwise it's just fighting and frustration. We tried with DS1 around 2 1/2 and he would have accidents and blame them on the dog 😡 He started daycare just before 3 and the PT'd him there within like the first month 🤷♀️
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Post by cmb on Sept 9, 2018 16:03:59 GMT -6
My kid has been such a little angel lately. Sleeps like a dream, just so happy and fun. H has totally fallen for it and is ready to have another. It’s got to be some kind of a trap right? He’ll turn into a little hellion soon, like as soon as we have a second kid?? Yep, pretty much. I will honestly say my favorite range so far has even 18m-2.5 years... and I was pregnant for 9 of those months. DON’T FALL FOR IT. IT’S A TRAP!
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Post by cmb on Sept 9, 2018 16:04:38 GMT -6
I’m folding laundry to hide from the heathens that claim to be my children.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 10, 2018 6:51:58 GMT -6
He slept until 7:35! Who is this child?? I'll trade ya. Don't you dare.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 10, 2018 6:52:54 GMT -6
My kid has been such a little angel lately. Sleeps like a dream, just so happy and fun. H has totally fallen for it and is ready to have another. It’s got to be some kind of a trap right? He’ll turn into a little hellion soon, like as soon as we have a second kid?? Yep, pretty much. I will honestly say my favorite range so far has even 18m-2.5 years... and I was pregnant for 9 of those months. DON’T FALL FOR IT. IT’S A TRAP! That's what I keep thinking. This can't last. I am really enjoying it though.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 10, 2018 6:54:09 GMT -6
My MIL has decided to retire next summer so I'm trying to think if that would somehow factor into my decision. Even though they live 8 hours away. 8 hours away in retirement is only like 4 regular hours right?
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Post by ttcbabyj on Sept 10, 2018 17:12:57 GMT -6
Does anyone have any suggestions for helping DD sleep at nap time at daycare? I’m at my wits end.
DD goes to daycare on M, W and every other Friday. When she is home with me she naps from 11:30am/12pm to 3pm. This is the same nap time schedule at daycare. At home we eat lunch and then I put her down for her nap. I turn on the sound machine or light music on the baby monitor. She sleeps on her stomach and with a pacifier. No rocking or anything.
At daycare she will nap maybe like 40 minutes on a good day. She is more active at daycare so this means she is exhausted by the time she gets home. I mean insanely exhausted. The car ride home consists of her crying uncontrollably. I told the daycare teachers to give her pacifiers and they have. But they can’t place her on her stomach, she has to roll on her stomach. I know daycare is not home, but I wish she would take longer naps. I thought things would get better when she went to the toddler room because everyone naps at the same time. I watch her on the camera and she just lays there playing with her fingers and kicking her legs. I’m starting to consider maybe getting a nanny because this nap thing is a big problem. A sleepy J is an insane J. Please help. She napped 20 minutes today and I’m dreading going to pick her up. 😬
For reference her bedtime is 7pm and she will sleep until 7:30am/8am.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 10, 2018 19:14:58 GMT -6
ttcbabyj how do they put her down, lay her down on her back? Can they sit her down instead? My kid is a stomach sleeper and that’s how I put him in the crib and he lays on his stomach from there. I’m sorry, that is so tough.
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Post by ttcbabyj on Sept 10, 2018 20:20:56 GMT -6
ttcbabyj how do they put her down, lay her down on her back? Can they sit her down instead? My kid is a stomach sleeper and that’s how I put him in the crib and he lays on his stomach from there. I’m sorry, that is so tough. That is a great suggestion. They usually will lay her on her back. I know if DD wakes up and she sits up she will lay back down on her stomach. Thank you!!
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Post by piratecat on Sept 11, 2018 5:34:13 GMT -6
ttcbabyj how do they put her down, lay her down on her back? Can they sit her down instead? My kid is a stomach sleeper and that’s how I put him in the crib and he lays on his stomach from there. I’m sorry, that is so tough. That is a great suggestion. They usually will lay her on her back. I know if DD wakes up and she sits up she will lay back down on her stomach. Thank you!! I really hope that helps. We all need well rested kids!
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Post by sheilathetank on Sept 11, 2018 7:12:46 GMT -6
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Post by ttcbabyj on Sept 11, 2018 14:13:31 GMT -6
I can definitely ask. Thanks!! When she was in the infant room they wouldn’t allow the shusher device in her crib. But now that they sleep on mats, things maybe different. I know they play nap music for them.
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Post by piratecat on Sept 11, 2018 14:46:48 GMT -6
ttcbabyj, is it nap time over there yet? I feel very invested in your kid's nap situation.
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