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Post by Pizzaslut on Sept 24, 2018 9:16:07 GMT -6
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armpants
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Post by armpants on Sept 24, 2018 11:17:43 GMT -6
He's better. He's with my dad. His eating is picking up as well. I think we're done with the hydrocodone thankfully because he hates that.
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Post by shellyr on Sept 24, 2018 20:14:16 GMT -6
armpants, I can't imagine giving hydrocodone to a little kiddo. I'm glad M is on the mend.
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Post by flippinchica on Sept 25, 2018 5:43:03 GMT -6
Ds1 has gotten into his balance bike lately but has been asking about pedals. I took him to a bike shop yesterday to get a new helmet and the smallest bike they had was 16 in and way too big. He loved pedaling it around the store and really wanted to take it home. I guess we are getting a bike soon.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Sept 26, 2018 18:04:03 GMT -6
Ds1 has gotten into his balance bike lately but has been asking about pedals. I took him to a bike shop yesterday to get a new helmet and the smallest bike they had was 16 in and way too big. He loved pedaling it around the store and really wanted to take it home. I guess we are getting a bike soon. Are you going straight to a 2-wheeler? I highly recommend it if he's already on the balance bike! (skipping training wheels)
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Post by flippinchica on Sept 26, 2018 18:59:54 GMT -6
Ds1 has gotten into his balance bike lately but has been asking about pedals. I took him to a bike shop yesterday to get a new helmet and the smallest bike they had was 16 in and way too big. He loved pedaling it around the store and really wanted to take it home. I guess we are getting a bike soon. Are you going straight to a 2-wheeler? I highly recommend it if he's already on the balance bike! (skipping training wheels) I'm not sure. We will probably give it a try and if he is too worried will put the training wheels back on.
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Sept 27, 2018 5:20:54 GMT -6
i need to let my kids ride bikes more. it's just so dang hot out, that if we are outside playing it's in the pool....C doesn't pedal yet by himself...
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Post by Pizzaslut on Sept 27, 2018 7:02:09 GMT -6
i need to let my kids ride bikes more. it's just so dang hot out, that if we are outside playing it's in the pool....C doesn't pedal yet by himself... Me too. Except not too hot. We just don't have sidewalks so I have to wait until most of the traffic has died down. We do have laminate floors upstairs so he does practice there.
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Post by armpants on Sept 28, 2018 18:43:33 GMT -6
i need to let my kids ride bikes more. it's just so dang hot out, that if we are outside playing it's in the pool....C doesn't pedal yet by himself... Neither does M. He also had a deep love of air conditioning, it's so hard to get him outside in the summer.
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Post by flippinchica on Sept 29, 2018 14:40:40 GMT -6
Ds1 has gotten into his balance bike lately but has been asking about pedals. I took him to a bike shop yesterday to get a new helmet and the smallest bike they had was 16 in and way too big. He loved pedaling it around the store and really wanted to take it home. I guess we are getting a bike soon. Are you going straight to a 2-wheeler? I highly recommend it if he's already on the balance bike! (skipping training wheels) What kind of bike did you get?
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Post by easternshoregirl on Sept 29, 2018 17:53:02 GMT -6
Are you going straight to a 2-wheeler? I highly recommend it if he's already on the balance bike! (skipping training wheels) What kind of bike did you get? My husband went and picked up one at a secondhand shop, he thinks it's a 17 inch. He's a "bike guy" so he was looking for the right leg extension...he keeps an eye on the seat position and stuff too, to make sure it is correct. If it were up to me, I'd probably have picked out a smaller one but what do I know??? I let DH do all of that b/c he knows more and cares more! E would just say "my Spiderman bike."
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Post by CestLaVie on Oct 1, 2018 8:30:59 GMT -6
What kind of bike did you get? My husband went and picked up one at a secondhand shop, he thinks it's a 17 inch. He's a "bike guy" so he was looking for the right leg extension...he keeps an eye on the seat position and stuff too, to make sure it is correct. If it were up to me, I'd probably have picked out a smaller one but what do I know??? I let DH do all of that b/c he knows more and cares more!E would just say "my Spiderman bike." This is me as a hockey mom. Dh cares soooo much more about shit like whether the laces are tied around the ankles (do.not.apparently) hahaha
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Post by easternshoregirl on Oct 2, 2018 18:39:10 GMT -6
My husband went and picked up one at a secondhand shop, he thinks it's a 17 inch. He's a "bike guy" so he was looking for the right leg extension...he keeps an eye on the seat position and stuff too, to make sure it is correct. If it were up to me, I'd probably have picked out a smaller one but what do I know??? I let DH do all of that b/c he knows more and cares more!E would just say "my Spiderman bike." This is me as a hockey mom. Dh cares soooo much more about shit like whether the laces are tied around the ankles (do.not.apparently) hahaha STUCK IN THE BOX: wait, so they are or are not supposed to be tied around the ankle?! I've probably been doing it wrong my whole life...LOL
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Post by 45thparallel on Oct 3, 2018 6:39:16 GMT -6
This is me as a hockey mom. Dh cares soooo much more about shit like whether the laces are tied around the ankles (do.not.apparently) hahaha STUCK IN THE BOX: wait, so they are or are not supposed to be tied around the ankle?! I've probably been doing it wrong my whole life...LOL CestLaVie get shorter laces if you feel they need to tied around the ankle. I played hockey all my life and coached 5-6 year olds and fro my experience it limits motion (and can be painful if you push through). Generally it can affect stride, speed, and agility.
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Post by jedi on Oct 3, 2018 15:24:19 GMT -6
45thparallel made an apperence in my dream. She was coming for a picnic or something. And we drove by huge library and I said “you’d think I’d go there more considering I live so close.” It was not a town I recognized and it’s funny because I’m at the 1-2 times a week. 🤣
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Post by jedi on Oct 4, 2018 7:29:34 GMT -6
My cat was dry heaving and puking a bit of liquid a few times this morning. The last few times there was some blood in it. I’m taking him in today at 1120.
Kids also have flu shots and I have a chiro appointment. Isaac also has a late start school day, busy
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Oct 4, 2018 8:51:16 GMT -6
i had my first parent teacher conference. where i was told A walks into class everyday complaining of tummy aches. this happens at home on a daily basis. i guess i am making an appointment to address it.
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Oct 4, 2018 8:51:29 GMT -6
jedi, i hope your cat is ok and that shots go well.
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Post by jedi on Oct 4, 2018 12:19:32 GMT -6
jedi, i hope your cat is ok and that shots go well. Isaac freaked out. Ethan barely flinched. For Link, they did some blood work which we’ll get tomorrow. They did an X-ray where things look mostly normal. His large intestine looked larger than normal which could mean lymphoma, inflammatory bowel disease or nothing. He’s kind of always been a chronic puker, despite all the various foods we’ve tried over the years. So they are trying a hypoallergenic food. They gave him some meds to stop the puking which hasn’t happened since this morning and they gave us some meds to help his stomach acid.
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Post by jedi on Oct 4, 2018 13:19:18 GMT -6
I will say that the nurse, while intentions were good, made me feel frustrated. Isaac was hysterical. Like sobbing because he was scared. He cried right before, during and a little after.
Then Ethan got his and barely flinched and she said “oh wow! Good job. You didn’t even have any tears”
Of course she meant no harm to Isaac. But Isaac probably felt crummy hearing her proud voice about his little brother not crying and when he cried a lot.
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Oct 5, 2018 5:44:40 GMT -6
jedi, i understand your concern but at the same time, i almost feel maybe it's good for them to hear their sibling (whether they are older or younger) be praised for something they did well at. To me it's like not every kid on the team deserves a trophy debate. I see it as character building and life lessons. Both kids will never be as good as each other in everything single thing. One will excel at something while the other doesn't. Issac might be seeing this and thinking, wow, why didn't he cry? maybe it's not really that bad. Maybe next time he will do better at it. BUT it sucks as the mom watching your kid be scared and so upset. I've been there. I'm sorry it was rough.
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Post by jedi on Oct 5, 2018 11:14:49 GMT -6
jedi, i understand your concern but at the same time, i almost feel maybe it's good for them to hear their sibling (whether they are older or younger) be praised for something they did well at. To me it's like not every kid on the team deserves a trophy debate. I see it as character building and life lessons. Both kids will never be as good as each other in everything single thing. One will excel at something while the other doesn't. Issac might be seeing this and thinking, wow, why didn't he cry? maybe it's not really that bad. Maybe next time he will do better at it. BUT it sucks as the mom watching your kid be scared and so upset. I've been there. I'm sorry it was rough. All the parenting books I’ve been reading lately tell me that it’s not healthy. Not good for self esteem building. The goal was to get the shot. Both boys got the shot. Both boys should be praised or neither one should be praised. It is ok and perfectly fine to be scared and to cry. It is 100% ok. It’s fine if he’s 25 and still crying when he gets shots. We have a huge problem with not allowing our boys to express their true emotions. We have a huge problem with not allowing our boys to cry. eg “toughen up” or “act like a man” Instead of Isaac feeling proud he accomplished something that was very scary for him he felt ashamed. (I knew based on our conversation afterwards) and perhaps he would have felt that way regardless.... who knows.
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Post by jedi on Oct 5, 2018 11:42:12 GMT -6
We spent a lot of time talking about that it’s ok to be scared and what we could do to feel less scared and he did many of the things we talked about. It was a huge accomplishment for him which was taken away because the nurse said to Ethan “wow you didn’t even cry” meanwhile big brother is still in the corner crying.
In my opinion, We shouldn’t compare our kids in front of them.. Or point out when one is better at something than the other. Ours kids aren’t stupid. They already know this. Basically we can offer prose without comparing.
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Oct 5, 2018 12:18:31 GMT -6
jedi, i wasn't saying it's not ok for boys to cry or to be scared. because you are right, they should be able to cry and it's ok to be scared. they shouldn't be told to toughen up just because they are boys. that was not what i was expressing. But i stick with what I said, it's not wrong to praise ethan for doing great at getting thru a scary situation. just as it's ok to be scared and to cry, it's ok to praise a child for doing something well. It doesn't mean you feel any differently for the other child. I have to disagree with your parenting books where they say it's not healthy. we have to teach our kids that it's ok to react differently.
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Oct 5, 2018 12:24:30 GMT -6
jedi, I am also sorry that issac felt that way. He did the best that he could do and he should be praised for that as well. the point was to get through the appointment with getting the shot. he did that. and he did it the only way he knew how. and that's ok. for the record both my kids react completely differently as well. i literally have to have another nurse in the room to help me hold A down - and we lock the door because she will bolt out of there. She causes the worst commotion ever, kicking, biting, screaming, and crying. it sounds like we are torturing her. she cry's after as well. and whimpers all the way home. C is easily distracted by the phone. sits on the table. looks at the needle then back at the phone. but cries as soon as he is stuck. then stops when he gets a sticker. I tell them they both did great and how proud i am of them for being so brave. A will say but C didn't cry like me. I acknowledge her, yes you are correct but he still got the shot just like you did.
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Post by jedi on Oct 5, 2018 14:25:06 GMT -6
We can agree to disagree. But good job you didn’t even cry is a crappy way to praise a kid even without a sibling that’s crying in the corner. Because Ethan could be thinking “well I better not cry next time. Even if I’m scared or she won’t be proud”
A study was done in which kids were given a math test to do. With the first kids the adults said something like. “Great job. You worked really hard. I could tell you were really concentrating” With the second set of kids they said “wow! You are so smart. You got all those problems right” when the adults asked these groups of they want red to try harder math problems. the kids from group 1 were eager to do it. The kids from group 2 didn’t want harder problems.
And for what it’s worth the book i just read, Siblings without rivalry, would say you handled that beautifully. They gave a pretty similar example.
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Post by armpants on Oct 6, 2018 7:05:44 GMT -6
jedi my thought would be that moment is what you turn it into. From what you said the book seems to be addressing how the parent addresses kids. You can't control what other people say. Yes she is a nurse, but that doesn't mean she has to know anything about sibling dynamics. It sounds like you did a great job discussing it with him and talking about how people react to scary situations. There are so many comments and conversations that we can't control. We get comments regarding M, what's wrong with him, why doesn't he talk right, kids calling him a baby. He understands, he just has a hard time communicating things, especially to people who don't take the time to pay attention to him and how he communicates. We talk to him about the things people say, and we speak to the people who make these comments in a way that includes M. I would have possibly said in front of the nurse "I'm proud of both of you for getting your shots," as a way to acknowledge they both did well. Just my thought.
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Post by jedi on Oct 6, 2018 17:51:47 GMT -6
jedi my thought would be that moment is what you turn it into. From what you said the book seems to be addressing how the parent addresses kids. You can't control what other people say. Yes she is a nurse, but that doesn't mean she has to know anything about sibling dynamics. It sounds like you did a great job discussing it with him and talking about how people react to scary situations. There are so many comments and conversations that we can't control. We get comments regarding M, what's wrong with him, why doesn't he talk right, kids calling him a baby. He understands, he just has a hard time communicating things, especially to people who don't take the time to pay attention to him and how he communicates. We talk to him about the things people say, and we speak to the people who make these comments in a way that includes M. I would have possibly said in front of the nurse "I'm proud of both of you for getting your shots," as a way to acknowledge they both did well. Just my thought. Totally, which is why I said she had good intentions. I was just frustrated because Isaac just has really low self esteem.... he’s getting better for sure.
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Post by armpants on Oct 7, 2018 16:03:40 GMT -6
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Post by 45thparallel on Oct 7, 2018 17:19:58 GMT -6
I’m loving the extra day at home. That’s two 4 days weeks in a row for me. I needed them!
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