nam2013
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 16, 2017 12:07:24 GMT -6
Am I the only one that doesn't want my kids to live with me forever? Nope. I'd want then really really close, but when they're 25 they can leave.
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Post by wedding on Jun 16, 2017 12:09:26 GMT -6
Am I the only one that doesn't want my kids to live with me forever? Raises hand! C often tells me he's and adult. I ask when he's moving out. Dh and I are looking forward to our time alone again. I would like him close though
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Post by mwhip on Jun 16, 2017 12:13:46 GMT -6
Am I the only one that doesn't want my kids to live with me forever? Stuck in box, but you know I sit on this bench.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 16, 2017 12:39:26 GMT -6
I mean I don't actually want them with me forever. But I want them close. Hopefully in the same town or at least, state. I want them to have their own lives and successes and be healthy non basement bumming children. LOL.
Living with my parents LOL. When people ask how it's going I tell them it doesn't completely suck. But I feel like I have 2 more children. So does DH. My dad is incapable of cleaning up after himself and my mom is incapable of doing anything alone/for herself. Both are super lazy when it comes to house work and cleaning. I shop for and buy all the groceries, do all the cooking and all the cleaning. DH does all the yard work and my mom tries daily to get him to take care of her animals. I'm pretty sure their dog will starve when we move out or learn to hunt because neither of them have bought dog food or fed/watered the dog since we moved in. I have to stop myself from voicing my frustrations because I know and appreciate this huge thing they have done by letting us live there, rent free. But OMG, can you take out the trash one time every 6 months or so?! OR maybe rinse your own plate?
Whew. That felt good. Back to biting my tongue.
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nam2013
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 16, 2017 12:43:55 GMT -6
peachsmama how are they going to manage when you move out?!
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 16, 2017 13:02:53 GMT -6
inthekitty Dude got upset last when he learned kids leave and get their own house. Last night he cried real tears because he wants a baby in his tummy and he wants to stay with us forever. Poor sensitive kiddos. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 16, 2017 13:05:59 GMT -6
Am I the only one that doesn't want my kids to live with me forever? I don't either.
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Post by lfig on Jun 16, 2017 13:12:32 GMT -6
There is no way in hell I could ever live with my parents again. Once I was in college and went back to visit for twice for Christmas breaks and that was it. I'm weird, I could totally live with my parents again. They are awesome. Lol. I stayed with them for 3 weeks prior to having S because we live 3.5 hours from the hospital and they are 40 minutes from hospital. We wanted me to be close in case I went into labor before the scheduled CS (since the severity of Sierra's issues were unknown and we knew she'd need brain surgery after birth, just didn't know how soon). I really enjoyed my three weeks there.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 16, 2017 13:15:11 GMT -6
peachsmama how are they going to manage when you move out?! My mom joked the other day that they'll starve and then said "oh no we won't, we'll just come to your house for dinner!" The look of panic in DH's eyes - priceless. And he loves my parents! Lol. They are just very difficult people. My mom once told me after peach was born "remember that I love you, the way you love Matthew" And I tell myself that a lot when things are less than great. She's not purposely making my life harder. It is just her personality.
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nam2013
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 16, 2017 13:17:44 GMT -6
peachsmama you should make them a 'joke' survival kit when you move out!
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 16, 2017 13:18:09 GMT -6
My mom is like a lazy husband. Once you get them to do something by nagging forever, they want a trophy and lots of praise for doing something that directly benefits them. Like washing the dishes. Or carrying in groceries.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 16, 2017 13:20:56 GMT -6
I could totally live with my in laws.
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Post by mwhip on Jun 16, 2017 13:31:09 GMT -6
I could totally live with my in laws. OMG, if I had to live with MIL, I'd divorce my H in a hot second. I'd rather live with my mom than her. My FIL and SMIL, eh, I could handle it for a few days, but they drink every night and I'd turn into a bigger alcoholic than I already am. No thanks to either!
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Post by guster on Jun 16, 2017 13:31:28 GMT -6
I could totally live with my in laws. I would happily live with your in-laws.
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Post by wedding on Jun 16, 2017 13:59:33 GMT -6
I could never live with my parents again. We have about 36 hours before we all drive each other nuts. They don't want to live with me either.
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Post by inthekitty on Jun 16, 2017 14:22:35 GMT -6
I could live with my mom and my brother who lives with her. No way I could live with my stepdad. I like a buffer zone, but I'd like to be closer than I am (3 hours away). My mom is a huge help and the girls adore her. I could happily live in the same neighborhood as my parents.
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 16, 2017 14:38:04 GMT -6
I could live with my mom and my brother who lives with her. No way I could live with my stepdad. I like a buffer zone, but I'd like to be closer than I am (3 hours away). My mom is a huge help and the girls adore her. I could happily live in the same neighborhood as my parents. I would live with your mom! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by cheeksmum on Jun 16, 2017 19:34:29 GMT -6
So... I guess I'd be the really crazy one here. We're currently in the process of meeting with a contractor and architect to build on to my parents house so all of us can stay here. We're building an addition upstairs which will be our master with an ensuite and then refinishing the entire main floor. But it's the only thing that makes sense. It's either this or buy a townhouse for $450,000+ or make our commute to work over an hour each way to move outside of the city. And we've been living here for the past 3 1/2 years... my sister will move out eventually so it will actually get easier.
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Post by mskatiep on Jun 16, 2017 23:11:52 GMT -6
Am I the only one that doesn't want my kids to live with me forever? Nope. Layla tells me that she will stay with me for ever and ever.... I don't break her heart about it now, but sweet cheeks after college you are on your own... I would never move back in with my parents. I love them, but....
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 17, 2017 4:44:44 GMT -6
My parents wanted to buy one of the houses in our complex. Thank goodness it was out of their planned budget.
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 17, 2017 4:45:14 GMT -6
I love them but I need my space from them. We are very different people.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Jun 17, 2017 8:20:46 GMT -6
I let the boys play outside alone, and tbh I don't even check in that much. But, we have a fenced yard and Landon is 7 and is always out there with them. We also will let Landon walk to the mailbox alone and play out front on the sidewalks. He's a big time rule follower though and would never take off or wander.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 19, 2017 6:40:20 GMT -6
Late, but it also helps that Matthew is often mean to Jack and Jack is the biggest tattle tale. LOL. If Matthew so much as thinks about throwing sand on Jack he comes in to tell me.
#silverlinings and all that lol.
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