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Post by lahdeedah on Jun 15, 2017 21:14:26 GMT -6
Go V! csho Yay for progress with M! peachsmama Sorry weaning is rough.
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 15, 2017 22:38:46 GMT -6
Yaaay V & fingers crossed the offer gets accepted csho & yaaay M peachsmama! tallb any possibility of being honest with your SIL...? If not, I'm sorry. I'd hate it if my vacation was being crashed.
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 15, 2017 22:42:38 GMT -6
Oh @flamimgo, that's a great point.... I'd love to be an involved grand parent one day. I see how much joy it brings my ILs and my father. Seeing your baby have a baby seems like an incredible feeling. My mom always tells me that having grandkids is even more special and nerve racking than having kids of your own. My mom is 56 and my dad is 62 and I love how involved and active they are with the kids. Hopefully this is in our future too.
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Post by Cher on Jun 15, 2017 23:09:18 GMT -6
It's funny because my ILs are in their 70s but they watch C, they're involved, my FIL still runs his business. So I don't see that age as old at all, for grandparents. Of course, this all matters on the person, but I'm hoping to be like them in my 70s.
I also like the idea of having my kids in my house forever, lol! Plus, hopefully, as we get older, MH's business will grow, so I like to think we will have more travel opportunities with our kids as we get older.
Of course, I'm 6 years away from 40, so it's not staring me in the face. I'm sure my opinion can change.
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 16, 2017 0:37:32 GMT -6
Cher you're right of course, how you are at 70 varies from person to person. My grandma is 85 and still relatively active. Until 3-4 years ago she would go on a bike holiday with friend and cycle up to 60km per day!
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Post by flamingo on Jun 16, 2017 5:36:27 GMT -6
Oh tallb that's a bummer about your vacation. If they do end up there at the same time, maybe y'all can just hang out a bit during the day on the beach but do your own thing for meals, etc? ETA: any chance your H can be honest and just say that with all y'all have been through with your mom, having N, etc this spring, that you want to get away just the 4 of you and relax?
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Post by flamingo on Jun 16, 2017 6:01:32 GMT -6
Cher you're right of course, how you are at 70 varies from person to person. My grandma is 85 and still relatively active. Until 3-4 years ago she would go on a bike holiday with friend and cycle up to 60km per day! That's awesome about your grandmother! I hope I'm in that good of shape at that age. I lost all 4 grandparents by their early-mid 80s. My mom's mom was in her early 70s--she had a very aggressive form of early onset dementia We felt really cheated, 73 seems so young. I agree with you and Cher, it's definitely relative--my ILs and my parents are roughly the same age, but my ILs seem a lot older (based on activity level, interests, even physical appearance). I think in a decade the difference will be even more pronounced.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 16, 2017 6:20:02 GMT -6
It's funny because my ILs are in their 70s but they watch C, they're involved, my FIL still runs his business. So I don't see that age as old at all, for grandparents. Of course, this all matters on the person, but I'm hoping to be like them in my 70s.I also like the idea of having my kids in my house forever, lol! Plus, hopefully, as we get older, MH's business will grow, so I like to think we will have more travel opportunities with our kids as we get older. Of course, I'm 6 years away from 40, so it's not staring me in the face. I'm sure my opinion can change. Definitely. Both of my grandmas could barely walk by 65. Both grandpas died before 70. My parents are 47 & 52 and I just hope/pray/plead they don't have the same fate. But I have a customer who I know is 85 and if I hadn't seen her drivers license, I would guess 55-60. She's so active and has always been on top of her health and in great shape. Thats my hope for myself. I want to be going strong until at least 90. Then I'll sit and learn to knit.
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Post by guster on Jun 16, 2017 6:21:31 GMT -6
I lost all 4 grandparents by their early-mid 80s. My mom's mom was in her early 70s--she had a very aggressive form of early onset dementia We felt really cheated, 73 seems so young. This is pretty much me. My mom was 69 and my dad was 79 when they passed. By the time we had kids, mh and I had one surviving grandparent. My non is 96 and not delightful. I feel like we (my kids, too) got cheated. I hate we didn't get to see them in that stage of their lives. ETA: stuck in a box
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 16, 2017 6:56:32 GMT -6
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 16, 2017 7:28:16 GMT -6
Did anyone else chuckle reading Cher's comment about traveling more? I mean, she already travels more than my in laws & they're retired.
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Post by tallb on Jun 16, 2017 8:08:34 GMT -6
Oh tallb that's a bummer about your vacation. If they do end up there at the same time, maybe y'all can just hang out a bit during the day on the beach but do your own thing for meals, etc? ETA: any chance your H can be honest and just say that with all y'all have been through with your mom, having N, etc this spring, that you want to get away just the 4 of you and relax? I highly doubt he will. We are due for a vacation with his family since we did a week with mine last year and almost all holidays. He said I could handle it, so I wrote a kind of bogus email pretending to be excited and told them to book a place. I'm glad we have separate condos at least so we can't hang out all the time and naptime will be some downtime. They are great and will be good to have some extended time with our nephew. Just totally shifts the dynamic.
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Post by inthekitty on Jun 16, 2017 8:11:05 GMT -6
Thanks for the tag wedding. I took Wednesday off to attend my friend's graduation. Yesterday my work computer was being a P.O.S. I could not do anything online and even typing was extremely slow. It was everyone in the building so there was something wrong with the network. I was about to call IT and tell them it's not acceptable that I can't get on APTM. The buildings here are weird and screw with cell reception so getting on via my phone is always a toss up.
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Post by inthekitty on Jun 16, 2017 8:16:09 GMT -6
My 91 yo grandma is a rockstar at the gym 3x a wk despite having double knee replacements. She still lives independently (and drives lord help us all). When my grandpa was alive he practically never stopped working I remember him still going into his construction company daily through his 70s and some of his 80s. He was active up until the last several months when he died at 90. They were very involved with us as kids. My mom's dad died before I was born and her mother was a sea hag who was never active. I would love to still be active when I'm old and have grandkids crawling on me.
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Post by jewels on Jun 16, 2017 8:43:06 GMT -6
It's funny because my ILs are in their 70s but they watch C, they're involved, my FIL still runs his business. So I don't see that age as old at all, for grandparents. Of course, this all matters on the person, but I'm hoping to be like them in my 70s.I also like the idea of having my kids in my house forever, lol! Plus, hopefully, as we get older, MH's business will grow, so I like to think we will have more travel opportunities with our kids as we get older. Of course, I'm 6 years away from 40, so it's not staring me in the face. I'm sure my opinion can change. Definitely. Both of my grandmas could barely walk by 65. Both grandpas died before 70. My parents are 47 & 52 and I just hope/pray/plead they don't have the same fate. But I have a customer who I know is 85 and if I hadn't seen her drivers license, I would guess 55-60. She's so active and has always been on top of her health and in great shape. Thats my hope for myself. I want to be going strong until at least 90. Then I'll sit and learn to knit. Lol peachsmama - your mom and I are just 4 years apart! So she was the same age I am when she became a grandma! Most of my friends had babies in their late 30s but I am definitely one of the last. However, my SIL just had her twins at 44. I do wish my parents were a bit younger - I watched them with my nephews and they took them on vacation, spent tons of overnights, etc. now they are in their 70s and they try to be involved but it's just a lot for them. I want to be able to enjoy my grandkids
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 16, 2017 8:50:03 GMT -6
Definitely. Both of my grandmas could barely walk by 65. Both grandpas died before 70. My parents are 47 & 52 and I just hope/pray/plead they don't have the same fate. But I have a customer who I know is 85 and if I hadn't seen her drivers license, I would guess 55-60. She's so active and has always been on top of her health and in great shape. Thats my hope for myself. I want to be going strong until at least 90. Then I'll sit and learn to knit. Lol peachsmama - your mom and I are just 4 years apart! So she was the same age I am when she became a grandma! Most of my friends had babies in their late 30s but I am definitely one of the last. However, my SIL just had her twins at 44. I do wish my parents were a bit younger - I watched them with my nephews and they took them on vacation, spent tons of overnights, etc. now they are in their 70s and they try to be involved but it's just a lot for them. I want to be able to enjoy my grandkids Lol. She was 23 when she had me and 43 when she become a grandma.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 16, 2017 9:02:47 GMT -6
Definitely. Both of my grandmas could barely walk by 65. Both grandpas died before 70. My parents are 47 & 52 and I just hope/pray/plead they don't have the same fate. But I have a customer who I know is 85 and if I hadn't seen her drivers license, I would guess 55-60. She's so active and has always been on top of her health and in great shape. Thats my hope for myself. I want to be going strong until at least 90. Then I'll sit and learn to knit. Lol peachsmama - your mom and I are just 4 years apart! So she was the same age I am when she became a grandma! Most of my friends had babies in their late 30s but I am definitely one of the last. However, my SIL just had her twins at 44. I do wish my parents were a bit younger - I watched them with my nephews and they took them on vacation, spent tons of overnights, etc. now they are in their 70s and they try to be involved but it's just a lot for them. I want to be able to enjoy my grandkids This is me, except my Dad is 84. He has recently been diagnosed with spinal stenosis and can barely walk. Even with M we would only let him hold her while he was sitting down. It makes me sad that they can't play with my kids the way they did with my nieces & nephews. Not that I have any control over it, but I hope I'm young enough to enjoy my grand kids. Watch, H will end up pulling a George Clooney & not have kids till he's 56...
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Post by mskatiep on Jun 16, 2017 9:03:40 GMT -6
My dad is turning 74 this year and is working on his third retirement. Still as active as ever, goes to the gym every morning and plays golf a few times a week. My mom is in much better health now that she has quit drinking (being an alcoholic for 40+ years takes its toll) she is 63. Although she is also still very active and is currently trying to get a part-time job at her church cause she is bored of retirement. I hope that I am as active when I'm my dad's age, I don't see him slowing down anytime soon.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 16, 2017 9:06:44 GMT -6
A's grandpa, they joke will dig his own grave before he stops working. The man is unstoppable. His wife, they are just a few years apart, can barely move. Again, activity is key. Once her kids were grown she took being a SAHW very seriously and just stayed home.
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 16, 2017 10:06:13 GMT -6
Cher I never want the kids to move out. I tell Pete that we have to keep our condo so they can be up the street from us if they want to leave but they're never too far. I'm already working on Dude telling him he can live with me until he gets married. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 16, 2017 10:08:37 GMT -6
Cher I never want the kids to move out. I tell Pete that we have to keep our condo so they can be up the street from us if they want to leave but they're never too far. I'm already working on Dude telling him he can live with me until he gets married. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk +1 I want all my boys with me forever.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 16, 2017 10:12:23 GMT -6
Cher I never want the kids to move out. I tell Pete that we have to keep our condo so they can be up the street from us if they want to leave but they're never too far. I'm already working on Dude telling him he can live with me until he gets married. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk +1 I want all my boys with me forever. You say that now, but wait until they turn into shitheads in their teens...
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 16, 2017 10:14:46 GMT -6
+1 I want all my boys with me forever. You say that now, but wait until they turn into shitheads in their teens... Stuck Lol. I'll be eating my words then. My mom doesn't want us to build our house. Just live with her and my dad forever. I legit laugh when she says this. Followed by a hard NO!
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 16, 2017 10:18:49 GMT -6
You say that now, but wait until they turn into shitheads in their teens... Stuck Lol. I'll be eating my words then. My mom doesn't want us to build our house. Just live with her and my dad forever. I legit laugh when she says this. Followed by a hard NO! I fully expect there will be some days I want them to get the hell out. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by inthekitty on Jun 16, 2017 11:15:45 GMT -6
I'm glad I'm not the only one going mommy crazy here. I'd happily live with my girls forever too. Maddie got really upset when she learned that kids eventually grow up and move out. I told her she can stay as long as she wants. Then a house went for sale just down the street and she decided she's moving there. That would work too. Someone can make a sitcom/reality show about us. I'll be the trashy Golden Girl style mom who's always good for a laugh and they'll be the sassy trendsetters. One of them will have to play the role of the responsible child who holds the family together while the other one is the carefree one who gets into crazy situations...probably with her dad behind her encouraging it.
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 16, 2017 11:29:01 GMT -6
I moved out, but my parents back yard is about 30 feet away from my kitchen door. The kids can wave my parents goodnight from my bedroom window. I think this is happy medium right?!
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Post by mwhip on Jun 16, 2017 12:01:39 GMT -6
The week I lived with my mom when I separated from my ex H was pure hell. I need some space. Although she lives 4 minutes from us, I don't want to see her coming and going. I need space from my family.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 16, 2017 12:02:41 GMT -6
There is no way in hell I could ever live with my parents again. Once I was in college and went back to visit for twice for Christmas breaks and that was it.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 16, 2017 12:03:03 GMT -6
Am I the only one that doesn't want my kids to live with me forever?
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Jun 16, 2017 12:06:37 GMT -6
The week I lived with my mom when I separated from my ex H was pure hell. I need some space. Although she lives 4 minutes from us, I don't want to see her coming and going. I need space from my family. 100% this. I moved away when I was 18 and my relationship with my parents is so much better with a state between us. They have a house here, so it's nice when they do visit that they don't actually stay with us. And they still end up driving me crazy after a few days. I love them dearly, but could never live with them again. And speaking of older moms, my mom is 73 and still hits the gym and 4:30 every morning, kayaks, hikes and snowshoes. Too bad she still Is not super interested in hanging out or helping with my kids. Asking them to babysit is like pulling teeth.
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