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Post by chrisy01 on Jul 20, 2018 10:41:15 GMT -6
Kids are great at knowing who will and won't let them get away with things. Cadence asks for a snack, I tell her to get it herself. If she asks mh, he will get up and give her whatever she wants. The same goes for at school or swim lessons. At her old swim school I had to tell them, don't let her get away with goofing around. She had one coach that would just let her play the whole time. No. She can do these skills and you need to stay on her to keep her focused. But you know, what do I know, I'm just a mean mom always in her bizness!  I meant to comment on that yesterday. LO has started to say I'm mean or grandma is mean when he's not getting his way. I think it's the age. |
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Post by joelies on Jul 20, 2018 10:42:00 GMT -6
flamingo - I'm worried that DH will be like your Aunt, but only with Chase. He babies him more at almost 2.5 than he did with Colin at 1.5!! Colin loves to help out with Chase. He really shines when he gets to be our helper.
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Post by tgrimes on Jul 20, 2018 10:46:32 GMT -6
Kids are great at knowing who will and won't let them get away with things. Cadence asks for a snack, I tell her to get it herself. If she asks mh, he will get up and give her whatever she wants. The same goes for at school or swim lessons. At her old swim school I had to tell them, don't let her get away with goofing around. She had one coach that would just let her play the whole time. No. She can do these skills and you need to stay on her to keep her focused. But you know, what do I know, I'm just a mean mom always in her bizness! I meant to comment on that yesterday. LO has started to say I'm mean or grandma is mean when he's not getting his way. I think it's the age. M says it, too. I always reply with a happy "Thank you so much!" |
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Post by cagoldi on Jul 20, 2018 11:08:07 GMT -6
PSA for the make-up lovers: Nordstrom Rack is having a great sale on Too Faced.
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Post by cagoldi on Jul 20, 2018 11:09:24 GMT -6
One of my friends asked me to go to LA's Slutwalk.
The name doesn't bother me and I support the message but I feel like Pete won't understand it at all.
Thoughts?
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Post by flamingo on Jul 20, 2018 11:19:39 GMT -6
flamingo - I'm worried that DH will be like your Aunt, but only with Chase. He babies him more at almost 2.5 than he did with Colin at 1.5!! Colin loves to help out with Chase. He really shines when he gets to be our helper. I was actually just reading recently that children as young as toddlers instinctively want to help and contribute, and that it's beneficial to let them--even when it's inconvenient--b/c that is how they establish that they're part of the family. It's sweet that C1 is so good with C2. To a certain extent, it's probably somewhat natural/common to 'baby' the baby. I think expectations are almost always highest on the oldest child, and that is compounded when a second one comes along b/c suddenly that older child seems SO much more capable in comparison, if that makes sense? I do think part of my aunt's problem is that she was widowed when the kids were young, so she's never really had a parenting partner to play good cop/bad cop with, or just to bounce things off of. And honestly, we all know sometimes it's easier/requires less energy to just do things ourselves, as opposed to taking the time to teach a child to do for him/herself. IMO, ideally there's a balance so neither parent has to be the bad cop all the time. DH is more firm with the kids on certain things than I am, but then there are other things I'm more strict about. These are just random Flamingo parenting ruminations...C's napping and DH and B went out so the house is peaceful and I can ponder, lol. |
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chrisy01
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Post by chrisy01 on Jul 20, 2018 11:38:03 GMT -6
All done with the state. They didn't send me a form they needed me to fill out. Did it online while on the phone and they processed it. Thank goodness this is my last disability payment and I don't have to stress about FMLA being this complicated.
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Post by slenle on Jul 20, 2018 11:56:57 GMT -6
flamingo I couldn’t talk myself out of the Tory Burch bag after looking at it all week so I decided to go for it now that the sale is open. It went out of stock as I was checking out 😭 I’m so sad
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jul 20, 2018 12:02:26 GMT -6
Please rec your child safe hair detangler. I'm tired of fighting with my 4 year old every morning over whether or not she is going to let me brush her hair! I’ve tried a bunch of different ones. My least favorite are the suave (spray pump sucked) and Aussie (not very detangling). The honest and so cozy ones worked well. I’m still on the hunt for the best one. |
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on Jul 20, 2018 12:03:35 GMT -6
So butt-wiping, huh? I wondered what all the Friday morning chatter was about. FTR, Cass usually has a "clean break" so it's not much to worry about. She can wipe herself and does most of the time but sometimes she asks me to do it. Occasionally I oblige. Overall I'm really working on independence with both of them. Madison can usually shower herself including rinsing her hair well although sometimes I double check because she missed a spot. Cass can mostly shower on her own. I'm starting off in the new house with regular chores. Madison will be responsible for vacuuming daily--the robo vac downstairs every other day and the stick vac upstairs the days in between. She's very thrilled about getting vacuums as a present.  Cass has been doing dusting for a while and I think her new "present" for the new house will be more duster wands. I'm a very giving mother as you can see. I'm going to ensure that healthy snacks and cereal will be available in the pantry where they can reach it. They already get themselves pottied and dressed in the morning. Next will be to work on putting backpacks away and emptying lunch boxes. |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jul 20, 2018 12:05:10 GMT -6
Pulling from the confessions thread (I'm too scared to ask over there) are your kids wiping themselves? Cadence still calls one of us to do it and I don't know who is doing it for her at school, although most of the time she doens't poop at school. H wipes on her own. |
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on Jul 20, 2018 12:05:48 GMT -6
klong11 I haven't found a good kid's spray detangler. They don't seem to do much. What works best is putting their hair in a ponytail or bun before bed plus a good brush. Actually, what truly worked best was chopping their hair. Best decision ever. They now can brush their own hair and I don't have to mess with it.
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Post by slenle on Jul 20, 2018 12:05:53 GMT -6
And the top i want to get my sister for her birthday next week is sold out. Womp womp. Internet, you are failing me today.
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Post by snoopmommymom on Jul 20, 2018 12:06:06 GMT -6
I still wipe O. But he hasn’t been pooping on the potty for a full year yet. When he started pooping on the potty at school his underwear was beyond what you would call skid marks. It was almost like he crapped his pants!
Two days ago he pooped at his friend’s house and tried to handle it himself. Well he ended up with poop on the floor, on all of his clothes, etc. i was mortified when his friend’s mother told me. I was wondering why he was in his bathing suit when i picked him up. Needless to say, now i am supervising his wiping rather than doing it all myself.
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on Jul 20, 2018 12:08:18 GMT -6
Tonight if it works out we're going to a Mary Poppins play at a local high school. The girls love MP, Maddie especially. It should be cute. tgrimes I was thinking of that exact scene from The Parent Trap with the bear talk! I love that movie. One of my childhood favorites. My sister and I used to pretend we were Sharon and Susan. "Cahn't, shaunt, aunt." |
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Post by klong11 on Jul 20, 2018 12:10:56 GMT -6
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Post by lahdeedah on Jul 20, 2018 12:21:33 GMT -6
flamingo I couldn’t talk myself out of the Tory Burch bag after looking at it all week so I decided to go for it now that the sale is open. It went out of stock as I was checking out 😭 I’m so sad Sorry!
I'm now pondering getting the TB boots. I usually wouldn't spend that much on boots, but I haven't been able to find a pair of black boots that I like in a few years and I think I may like them, so I think I may try them. They had my size yesterday, but I may give it a few days and if they are still in stock, then I'll pull the trigger.
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Post by flamingo on Jul 20, 2018 12:26:41 GMT -6
flamingo I couldn’t talk myself out of the Tory Burch bag after looking at it all week so I decided to go for it now that the sale is open. It went out of stock as I was checking out 😭 I’m so sad Oh no! 😢 maybe it will come back in stock if someone returns one. There were a few items I was stalking (casual/not particularly expensive) but they’re all gone. The TB flats I want are still there but I’m debating pulling the trigger...I think I’d rather have them (or similar) in camel vs. black. |
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Post by dapostrophe on Jul 20, 2018 12:36:59 GMT -6
We were in the line for hot dogs after VBS and Evie dropped hers. They got her a new one so I asked the lady behind me to grab the ketchup for me. She gave me the most reproachful look and said "I can in a minute. This is why I hold onto the plate, I don't trust my kid with it."
Thanks for the tip, perfect lady with one kid 🙄
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Post by cagoldi on Jul 20, 2018 12:45:48 GMT -6
We were in the line for hot dogs after VBS and Evie dropped hers. They got her a new one so I asked the lady behind me to grab the ketchup for me. She gave me the most reproachful look and said "I can in a minute. This is why I hold onto the plate, I don't trust my kid with it." Thanks for the tip, perfect lady with one kid 🙄 "That's such a good idea! If only I had more hands." |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jul 20, 2018 13:00:20 GMT -6
We were in the line for hot dogs after VBS and Evie dropped hers. They got her a new one so I asked the lady behind me to grab the ketchup for me. She gave me the most reproachful look and said "I can in a minute. This is why I hold onto the plate, I don't trust my kid with it." Thanks for the tip, perfect lady with one kid 🙄 What a B |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jul 20, 2018 13:01:26 GMT -6
Hi guys. We were supposed to drive down to visit my dad and step mom today but I think that’s waiting until later. I’ve mostly been cleaning up my house and doing laundry.
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on Jul 20, 2018 13:03:26 GMT -6
We were in the line for hot dogs after VBS and Evie dropped hers. They got her a new one so I asked the lady behind me to grab the ketchup for me. She gave me the most reproachful look and said "I can in a minute. This is why I hold onto the plate, I don't trust my kid with it." Thanks for the tip, perfect lady with one kid 🙄 "That's such a good idea! If only I had more hands." It would give new meaning to the term "Octomom." |
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Post by flamingo on Jul 20, 2018 13:03:44 GMT -6
We were in the line for hot dogs after VBS and Evie dropped hers. They got her a new one so I asked the lady behind me to grab the ketchup for me. She gave me the most reproachful look and said "I can in a minute. This is why I hold onto the plate, I don't trust my kid with it." Thanks for the tip, perfect lady with one kid 🙄 Are you kidding me? What a jerk. (And at church, too! 😳) #sanctimommy |
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Post by tallb on Jul 20, 2018 13:04:36 GMT -6
Hi! I'm in denial that some of N13 is heading to k. One of J's bff's is about to turn 6 and his last day is today. I'm so sad about it, he's the sweetest friend.
We still help j wipe. We need to up the fiber bc he was in pain this am and I felt awful. I ask him every day if he pooped at school and he clearly isn't accurately reporting 😟.
I got 100 on my midterm last night, granted it was open book, but I was super nervous. We head to PA tomorrow, I'm pretty excited to be off for a week!
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Post by flamingo on Jul 20, 2018 13:05:44 GMT -6
Hi from the salon. Sitting here under the dryer with a glass of Sauvignon blanc and the latest People, and no kids. The lady across from me and I just ‘cheers’ed each other 😂
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Post by nam2013 on Jul 20, 2018 13:09:14 GMT -6
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on Jul 20, 2018 13:21:26 GMT -6
Way to rock it on your test tallb! |
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inthekitty
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Post by inthekitty on Jul 20, 2018 13:25:59 GMT -6
I'm going to brag for a second about my kid. At the end of the school year MH forget to inform the school that M would not be taking the bus and instead need to take the taekwondo van. They didn't listen to her protests and put her on the bus anyway. She problem-solved and asked her bus driver to call MH, and gave her his cell number even though we hadn't practiced it in months. I was super proud of how she handled that.
Another brag, Madison told me the other day, "You know who I would go shopping with? Darth Maul. Get it? Darth MALL." Her "jokes" usually don't make any sense and she made this up herself and it was actually good.
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Post by cagoldi on Jul 20, 2018 13:26:47 GMT -6
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Cass has been doing dusting for a while and I think her new "present" for the new house will be more duster wands. I'm a very giving mother as you can see. 
