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Post by addymac on Jul 8, 2018 8:51:59 GMT -6
new week new thread~
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Post by addymac on Jul 8, 2018 8:55:17 GMT -6
I'm at work all weekend but magically only 8 hours each day! Woo!
I'm so wiped out. This cold has been going on for a week and Ben and Noah are both recovered and I am still hacking up a phlegmy lung and my head / sinuses are just a disaster. Yuck.
We went to a block party last night when I got home from work at 4, it was around the corner from our block. we just moved here last may, so we're getting to know our neighbors, esp those with kids, so it was nice but its so hard for me to make friends with new people. Like, just walking up to someone and being like HI! I'm so and so and I live around the corner and then small talk... ugh. We talked to a few people but I just suck at it. Plus feeling like crap didn't help. I need to be better so Noah can have friends.
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Post by addymac on Jul 8, 2018 11:23:35 GMT -6
I think I'll just talk to myself today LOL
small vent: MIL was retired for 1 year then this spring her college asked her to come back to her old role while people transitioned around or something (some sort of Dean position). She agreed and said she had to return to work June 1. So back in April/May she was being all difficult about when she could come visit N because DH only has one day off per week, unless he's on a specific rotation where he gets weekends off. He had two weeks off in May. She kept harping about how they might have friends visiting them and one weekend was the Derby (they live in Louisville) and all this stuff. Finally, she agreed to come out the Wed before mother's day, and left on Mother's Day. But it took like 2 weeks to get her to solidify a date because "Once I go back to work I can't come visit you guys".... Ok lady.
So imagine my surprise when I'm texting with her this week and she's like oh yeah I'm heading to visit BIL for a week on Saturday. BIL got a new position at his job that involves frequent traveling. He agreed to it b/c he asked MIL if she could come every so often to help SIL with their 2 kids. MIL said yes, and magically - even though she couldn't possibly come visit us at all over the summer since her job started - she can take a week and a half off to go visit them and help them with the kids. Like, are you serious right now? And the icing on top (to me) is that they make SO MUCH MONEY they could EASILY afford a nanny to have someone to help SIL with the kids, they just choose not to and then complain and have anxiety about juggling two kids with two lawyer jobs and then have MIL run to help. Like, what?
We just want N to hangout with his gparents, we're not asking her to come help us watch him, just play with him. If she wants the nanny there we'd happily have her there so she doesn't have to take care of him all day when she visits, but she says she can't possibly visit. But BIL needs her to watch the 2 kids for a week and a half and suddenly her job doesn't matter?
It makes me mad and sad for N and for DH bc it's really bothering him that his mom will make such a big deal about when she can visit us but will drop things left and right to visit BIL. and we are much closer - a 4 hour drive or 50min plane ride vs a 2h plane ride / 10? hr drive.
sigh.
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Post by king26 on Jul 8, 2018 19:07:18 GMT -6
DH and I got into a fight tonight. I already feel like crap thanks to cramps and allergies and I've been crying on and off for the last 2 hours. I feel awful because I was crying when I put j to bed.
Dh is currently at dairy queen getting us blizzards to help us both feel better.
J is hard core teething and his eczema is so bad right now. I'm going between zyrtec and Tylenol but hate giving them to him.
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Post by king26 on Jul 8, 2018 19:08:30 GMT -6
addymac I suck at making new friends and small talk tok. Thankfully dh could talk to the wall so he usually makes out friends foe us.
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Post by king26 on Jul 8, 2018 19:11:03 GMT -6
addymac that really sucks about your MIL. My parents live 2.5 hours away and come visit at least once a month. I'd be pissed visiting you was such a hardship but she can hey off for over a week to watch the other kids? Man that just sucks.
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Post by addymac on Jul 8, 2018 19:13:06 GMT -6
king26 I’m so sorry you guys were fighting. It’s the worst when you already feel badly and then to have to be a mom and out J to bed sending you hugs.
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Post by jt2378 on Jul 8, 2018 20:08:41 GMT -6
Wtf addymac, that is some bullshit! My inlaws do spend time with the kids but we are always there. It’s never like a break but they are constantly taking my BIL’s kids so it’s annoying. It’s ridiculous that she is traveling that far to watch them like a week?!! I’m so irritated for you. king26, I’m sorry for the fighting and you feeling like shit on top of it. Hope you feel better soon and J too.
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Post by king26 on Jul 9, 2018 0:07:27 GMT -6
Oh man. J has been up 3 times already. I hope it's just teeth because sleep has sucked lately
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Jul 9, 2018 5:52:24 GMT -6
king26 Sorry for the fight and for feeling crappy. That sucks. I always feel super guilty when I cry in front of the kids, but we are people too, and I think it's okay for them to see that addymac That seems like clear favoritism by your MIL and would make me rage. Are their kids older? Is she just really bad with babies and prefers older kids? Still not an excuse, but I was trying to think why she might behave that way other than just pure, stinking favoritism. Baby h now has two bottom teeth, top canines, and now one additional tooth coming in both on bottom and top. It just cracks me up bc ds1's teeth came in as pairs in an expected order and baby h's are crazy. Ds1 is overdue for a dentist appt, so I'm going to bring baby h along just so they can take a look.
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Post by king26 on Jul 9, 2018 5:57:48 GMT -6
So I'm still feeling like crap this morning and j woke up 3 times last night and wanted to be held. DH is currently wearing him while he washes the car so I can have a break. He hasn't worn him in months and was like how do you do This? He's heavy and these straps suck! Yep I know, that's why I want a new carrier. I think I may be getting one sooner then I thought now that DH has been wearing him this morning lol.
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Post by addymac on Jul 9, 2018 6:00:09 GMT -6
Thanks for helping me feel like we’re *not* crazy for being upset about it. thinkchocolate05 they’re 4 and almost 2. I don’t think it’s about the ages of the kids bc she constantly talks about how much fun N seems to be at this age and how he’s changing so much. Idk. It just makes me frustrated. Speaking of dentists, at what age do we need to start taking them to the dentist and to the eye dr? I literally asked dh this last night haha
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Post by addymac on Jul 9, 2018 6:02:00 GMT -6
So I'm still feeling like crap this morning and j woke up 3 times last night and wanted to be held. DH is currently wearing him while he washes the car so I can have a break. He hasn't worn him in months and was like how do you do This? He's heavy and these straps suck! Yep I know, that's why I want a new carrier. I think I may be getting one sooner then I thought now that DH has been wearing him this morning lol. Lately N has been so clingy that my arms are so wiped out I’ve pulled out the old carrier and thrown him in it. Baby bjorn, not great for super heavy kids but we loved it when he was small. But idk if i want to spend the money on another carrier when he loves to walk everywhere now that he’s walking. 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Jul 9, 2018 6:16:32 GMT -6
addymac, with ds1 I operated with the old advice that you take them to the dentist when they are three and then I was super embarrassed when I realized they had changed it to one or when they gave a significant number of teeth. Oh well. Thankfully, he didn't have cavities. For eye doctor, I'm not sure. I know at ds1's 3 year old pediatrician appt, they had him "read" an eye chart with shapes and such and I think they would have referred to an eye doctor if there were any issues. king26 I know!! Baby carrying is so different when they are bigger. I love the ergo 360, but I wish I was cool/coordinated enough to wear one of those awesome woven wraps.
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Post by king26 on Jul 9, 2018 7:07:05 GMT -6
thinkchocolate05 we have an ergo which I like because it's comfortable but it's so freaking hot. DH likes it too but too hot for summet. At least it will be great when winter comes. Also, J teeth have been coming in slowly and 1 at a time. He currently has 3 bottom teeth and I think he has 1 bottom and 1 top.coming in. addymac yeah j loves crawling everywhere and cruising in the house but when we are out he's all about being in the carrier and it makes life so easy so I think we will invest in a kinderpack or lillebaby. But j has been a clingy mess too. I hope it stops soon, it's exhausting.
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Post by jt2378 on Jul 9, 2018 8:26:51 GMT -6
OMG M has been so damn clingy and heavy on me too! like if I'm around and someone else is holding her, she just screams and reaches for me. My arms are currently dead lol.
i took DD1 at 2.5 to the dentist for the first time. Its more about just getting them used to it so they arent scared. I cant really imagining bringing a 1 year old but M just constantly wants to be moving so maybe thats why lol.
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Post by bsouls on Jul 9, 2018 11:40:20 GMT -6
addymac it’s shitty your MIL isn’t splitting time fairly. And, my dentist said to bring in kids before Kindergarten. But, one of T’s front teeth stopped coming down so we were referred to a pediatric dentist I think at 1.5-2 years (there was nothing wrong, just didn’t come down for over a long time). Then, we kept going every six months. We will probably take R at some point, but I think we will wait unless we have concerns. T was horrible until the 4 year visit. We had to pin her and she’d cry - I don’t really see what the advantage is at that age.
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Post by pennylane on Jul 9, 2018 12:13:25 GMT -6
Yesterday was my birthday- our attempts at a nice relaxing lazy day were foiled by 2 incredibly cranky kids. So much crying and whining yesterday. Thank goodness I had cupcakes and a drink after bedtime!
My parents are on their way here “for a couple days” but they always end up leaving after like 24 hrs at most. So we’ll see. My family is the one that sucks for the most part- and I alternate between anger and indifference about that. I just eye roll every time they say something about not seeing the kids much.
Re- dentist and eye dr. I started taking DS to the dentist at 2 (that was what my dentist recommended/insurance covered). My eye dr said not until before starting kindergarten for an eye exam.
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Post by yellowcat on Jul 9, 2018 19:16:39 GMT -6
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Post by jt2378 on Jul 9, 2018 19:32:08 GMT -6
M is seriously on the floor playing. It’s 9:30, just go to sleep ugh! She took a late nap so paying for it now.
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Post by addymac on Jul 9, 2018 20:50:50 GMT -6
M is seriously on the floor playing. It’s 9:30, just go to sleep ugh! She took a late nap so paying for it now. 😳 omg I’m sorry. I wa so excited I put N down at 8:45. Lol 😭
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Post by jt2378 on Jul 10, 2018 6:34:59 GMT -6
M is seriously on the floor playing. It’s 9:30, just go to sleep ugh! She took a late nap so paying for it now. 😳 omg I’m sorry. I wa so excited I put N down at 8:45. Lol 😭 She ended up finally going down at almost 10:00 and still woke at 2:00! I really miss STTN 😢
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Post by king26 on Jul 10, 2018 7:57:29 GMT -6
😳 omg I’m sorry. I wa so excited I put N down at 8:45. Lol 😭 She ended up finally going down at almost 10:00 and still woke at 2:00! I really miss STTN 😢 Ugh that sounds rough . ..sorry the late night didn't turn in to better sleep
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Post by king26 on Jul 10, 2018 7:58:16 GMT -6
I think j just hasn't been feeling good. Yesterday he took two 2 hour naps and still went down at 8. He woke up once to eat then slept until 630 which never happens.
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Post by yoshijo on Jul 10, 2018 10:24:39 GMT -6
Hi friends! Trying to rejoin if I'm able to keep up. Alexa will be 1 on Friday. I'm priming some last minute decorations and a onesie for her party
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Post by jt2378 on Jul 10, 2018 10:53:14 GMT -6
Hi friends! Trying to rejoin if I'm able to keep up. Alexa will be 1 on Friday. I'm priming some last minute decorations and a onesie for her party HI!!! OMG, I can't believe she is almost 1! The babies are all getting so big so fast!
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Post by addymac on Jul 10, 2018 16:23:53 GMT -6
Hi friends! Trying to rejoin if I'm able to keep up. Alexa will be 1 on Friday. I'm priming some last minute decorations and a onesie for her party Share pics (here or on the private board) of her party!! (If you want). That’s so exciting! What’s the onesie??
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Post by yoshijo on Jul 10, 2018 18:16:12 GMT -6
Hi friends! Trying to rejoin if I'm able to keep up. Alexa will be 1 on Friday. I'm priming some last minute decorations and a onesie for her party Share pics (here or on the private board) of her party!! (If you want). That’s so exciting! What’s the onesie?? yes of course I will! It just says one on it with a heart. I got her a number one onesie but that's for her cake smash pictures so I wanted her to have something else to wear to DC and her party
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Post by king26 on Jul 10, 2018 21:25:20 GMT -6
@starzia I'm sorry you have to wait to start your schooling but it's awesome what you are going to do. And yes, he went out and got ice cream as a peace offering.
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Post by king26 on Jul 10, 2018 21:26:26 GMT -6
Anyone else's baby waking up more at night? J has been doing twice a night almost for a week now. His naps have been amazing but night time is getting to me.
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