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Post by grover on Jul 23, 2018 18:04:09 GMT -6
So...A is getting a baby sibling for her second birthday. DD 3/31/19 I think. (A's 3/23/17)
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Post by letthewookieewin on Jul 23, 2018 18:12:20 GMT -6
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Post by piratecat on Jul 23, 2018 18:16:58 GMT -6
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Post by lupincat on Jul 23, 2018 18:55:52 GMT -6
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Jul 23, 2018 21:34:39 GMT -6
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Post by cmb on Jul 24, 2018 3:33:55 GMT -6
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Post by cmb on Jul 24, 2018 3:37:15 GMT -6
Team no pool. We’d have torn it down or filled it in. DNW the hassle I agree. Too much work for us, I'm happier to go swim at someone else's house. Or the increase in insurance needed, added fencing, etc We told our realtor to not even bother showing houses with pools unless it was one she really thought was “it” due to we’d be tearing down/out so added $$$ I do not recommend going the new construction route though. Such a headache
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Post by sheilathetank on Jul 24, 2018 6:05:22 GMT -6
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Post by lupincat on Jul 24, 2018 8:46:07 GMT -6
Ah, we got an offer for full price but they want us to cover closing costs, we're countering to see if they'll cover at least half.
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Post by piratecat on Jul 24, 2018 10:27:31 GMT -6
Ah, we got an offer for full price but they want us to cover closing costs, we're countering to see if they'll cover at least half. Ooh, congrats! That seems like a reasonable offer/counter offer. Good luck!
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Post by lupincat on Jul 24, 2018 11:01:25 GMT -6
Ah, we got an offer for full price but they want us to cover closing costs, we're countering to see if they'll cover at least half. Ooh, congrats! That seems like a reasonable offer/counter offer. Good luck! Thanks! I'm glad you think it's reasonable, I just hope they think the same 😬😬 We live in an area that qualifies for USDA financing and so far all potential sellers have said they'd need assistance with closing. It's a bummer but it is what it is.
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Post by cmb on Jul 24, 2018 11:19:03 GMT -6
Ooh, congrats! That seems like a reasonable offer/counter offer. Good luck! Thanks! I'm glad you think it's reasonable, I just hope they think the same 😬😬 We live in an area that qualifies for USDA financing and so far all potential sellers have said they'd need assistance with closing. It's a bummer but it is what it is. Do you have high closing costs? Around here, it’s 10k-ish so it’s not unexpected for them to ask a seller to help out
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Jul 24, 2018 12:26:06 GMT -6
We have family vacation starting Saturday. My parents, sisters and their kids will all be in one house. I am working on growing a thicker skin. We have completely different parenting styles, ways, thoughts and attitudes. I need to work on my DGAF mind set. Anyone have any pointers?
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Post by cmb on Jul 24, 2018 12:46:43 GMT -6
We have family vacation starting Saturday. My parents, sisters and their kids will all be in one house. I am working on growing a thicker skin. We have completely different parenting styles, ways, thoughts and attitudes. I need to work on my DGAF mind set. Anyone have any pointers? Booze. Lots and lots of booze. My MIL got put in her place with trying to undermine my parenting so...
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Post by lupincat on Jul 24, 2018 12:47:01 GMT -6
Thanks! I'm glad you think it's reasonable, I just hope they think the same 😬😬 We live in an area that qualifies for USDA financing and so far all potential sellers have said they'd need assistance with closing. It's a bummer but it is what it is. Do you have high closing costs? Around here, it’s 10k-ish so it’s not unexpected for them to ask a seller to help out Holy shit, 10k?? Definitely not that high here, closer to 5k. We're fine with assisting, be we won't cover the entire cost. In good news, they accepted our counter offer so we're going to accept and go under contract.
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Post by piratecat on Jul 24, 2018 12:51:04 GMT -6
Do you have high closing costs? Around here, it’s 10k-ish so it’s not unexpected for them to ask a seller to help out Holy shit, 10k?? Definitely not that high here, closer to 5k. We're fine with assisting, be we won't cover the entire cost. In good news, they accepted our counter offer so we're going to accept and go under contract. I think that's about what they are around here too. And congratulations!
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Post by moutonrouge on Jul 25, 2018 8:24:43 GMT -6
We have family vacation starting Saturday. My parents, sisters and their kids will all be in one house. I am working on growing a thicker skin. We have completely different parenting styles, ways, thoughts and attitudes. I need to work on my DGAF mind set. Anyone have any pointers? We just got back from vacation. DD is the first grandchild, so this vacation was kind of a transition for everyone. You probably won't have that if they have kids, but things like getting folks to be just a little quiet at bedtime were challenging for us. Eventually I just had to give up on the idea that dinner would be ready before bedtime. MIL has a pretty different parenting style than me, and I try to remind myself it's just a short trip/one time and each little thing really isn't a big deal. For example, we don't have a lot of sweets in the house and generally don't offer them to DD. MIL was very excited to give DD doughnuts, cookies, cotton candy, etc. We said "She probably doesn't need that" to sweets that weren't part of the meal everyone was having, but the morning we all had doughnuts we did offer DD a bite. I do feel a little bad, because MIL specifically brought things to make cookies and a container of cotton candy so she could share them with DD. But if she had asked ahead of time, we would've said let's not do that. MIL feels like we have a no-sugar rule, but I don't see it that way. We just eat some different foods from my ILs and this is one area that really shows it. MIL will also make comments that I know come from a good place, but are very hurtful (to me). In the moment (and afterwards) try to remind myself that she is generally a kind person and is trying to be helpful. She just isn't doing either in this moment and I should change the subject as quickly as I can. And I try to recognize the good - my ILs have been kind about extended breastfeeding, whereas my family are not supportive at all and always ask when I'm going to stop. I also think getting out of the house to do things makes everyone happier - even just a walk, or a car ride in a pinch. Because of really bad weather, we just sat around the house for days and I was about to lose my mind (there was flooding and fog, so we couldn't even drive somewhere). I wouldn't go back to the house we stayed in because it was definitely part of the problem.
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Jul 25, 2018 8:41:27 GMT -6
moutonrouge this is the tenth year for our family trip. Someone always cries. I'm super breezy with my parenting and that annoyes everyone. I'm so packing the double jogger to take walks with the kids. I'm actually really looking forward to that escape. Glad your vacation was some what of a success.
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Post by cmb on Jul 25, 2018 8:43:43 GMT -6
It takes my kids a full week to recover from a Friday night - Sunday morning visit from my ILs when we let them get away with different things than we do normal. Giving them even a centimeter of leeway from the rules is not happening anymore.
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Post by piratecat on Jul 25, 2018 10:29:54 GMT -6
moutonrouge this is the tenth year for our family trip. Someone always cries. I'm super breezy with my parenting and that annoyes everyone. I'm so packing the double jogger to take walks with the kids. I'm actually really looking forward to that escape. Glad your vacation was some what of a success. Who's crying, adults or kids?
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Post by sheilathetank on Jul 25, 2018 11:19:10 GMT -6
moutonrouge this is the tenth year for our family trip. Someone always cries. I'm super breezy with my parenting and that annoyes everyone. I'm so packing the double jogger to take walks with the kids. I'm actually really looking forward to that escape. Glad your vacation was some what of a success. If you're breezy then it shouldn't be that bad I would think. I was expecting the opposite and to give advice that you're going to have to let some things slide while on vacation with others.
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Post by moutonrouge on Jul 25, 2018 11:41:55 GMT -6
moutonrouge this is the tenth year for our family trip. Someone always cries. I'm super breezy with my parenting and that annoyes everyone. I'm so packing the double jogger to take walks with the kids. I'm actually really looking forward to that escape. Glad your vacation was some what of a success. If you're breezy then it shouldn't be that bad I would think. I was expecting the opposite and to give advice that you're going to have to let some things slide while on vacation with others. I can picture the situation where being "the breezy one" results in a lot of snotty comments/PA behavior that would wear on you. I think my BFF and her SIL are in this situation, and neither of them enjoy vacations together.
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Post by sheilathetank on Jul 25, 2018 11:44:19 GMT -6
If you're breezy then it shouldn't be that bad I would think. I was expecting the opposite and to give advice that you're going to have to let some things slide while on vacation with others. I can picture the situation where being "the breezy one" results in a lot of snotty comments/PA behavior that would wear on you. I think my BFF and her SIL are in this situation, and neither of them enjoy vacations together. This would get annoying for sure.
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Post by piratecat on Jul 25, 2018 12:52:21 GMT -6
If you're breezy then it shouldn't be that bad I would think. I was expecting the opposite and to give advice that you're going to have to let some things slide while on vacation with others. I can picture the situation where being "the breezy one" results in a lot of snotty comments/PA behavior that would wear on you. I think my BFF and her SIL are in this situation, and neither of them enjoy vacations together. Or maybe if the breeziness affects their kids? Like if the other kids want to stay up later or whatever it is that you're breezy about?
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Post by piratecat on Jul 25, 2018 12:54:51 GMT -6
So my 14 MO drinks WCM out of a bottle at daycare. Is that a problem? When do I need to worry about being done with bottles? I offer milk at home in various different vessels and he'll take a few sips here and there but he's not drinking any significant amount like he does at daycare. I want him to drink milk so I don't know how hard I should push getting rid of the bottle.
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Post by cmb on Jul 25, 2018 13:14:37 GMT -6
So my 14 MO drinks WCM out of a bottle at daycare. Is that a problem? When do I need to worry about being done with bottles? I offer milk at home in various different vessels and he'll take a few sips here and there but he's not drinking any significant amount like he does at daycare. I want him to drink milk so I don't know how hard I should push getting rid of the bottle. Pedi was adamant to be rid of that and a pacifier as close to one as possible. DS2 gave up his bottle willingly at 9 months. DS1 discovered it was part of the sleep conspiracy and was very willing to part with them. Helpful, I know
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Post by piratecat on Jul 25, 2018 13:20:21 GMT -6
So my 14 MO drinks WCM out of a bottle at daycare. Is that a problem? When do I need to worry about being done with bottles? I offer milk at home in various different vessels and he'll take a few sips here and there but he's not drinking any significant amount like he does at daycare. I want him to drink milk so I don't know how hard I should push getting rid of the bottle. Pedi was adamant to be rid of that and a pacifier as close to one as possible. DS2 gave up his bottle willingly at 9 months. DS1 discovered it was part of the sleep conspiracy and was very willing to part with them. Helpful, I know Ugh, I feel so conflicted. I'll keep trying with milk in other vessels at home. He's been doing a little better drinking it out of his straw cup so maybe he is making some progress. What do your kids use for milk?
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Post by moutonrouge on Jul 25, 2018 13:26:45 GMT -6
Pedi was adamant to be rid of that and a pacifier as close to one as possible. DS2 gave up his bottle willingly at 9 months. DS1 discovered it was part of the sleep conspiracy and was very willing to part with them. Helpful, I know Ugh, I feel so conflicted. I'll keep trying with milk in other vessels at home. He's been doing a little better drinking it out of his straw cup so maybe he is making some progress. What do your kids use for milk? Daycare dealt with our bottle to sippy cup transition. I'd send one with him and ask them to try it and see what happens. He might be better about it at daycare vs. at home, and then maybe it will bleed over. DD refuses bottles now - she just wants her cup.
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Post by billyhorrible on Jul 25, 2018 13:28:19 GMT -6
piratecat this is one of those situations where daycare can really help. There's a lot of peer mentality going on, so if other kids are drinking from cups, it might incentive yours too also. Plus a lot of dcps have experience in this. Have you talked to them about moving him from bottle to cup?
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Post by cmb on Jul 25, 2018 13:47:24 GMT -6
Pedi was adamant to be rid of that and a pacifier as close to one as possible. DS2 gave up his bottle willingly at 9 months. DS1 discovered it was part of the sleep conspiracy and was very willing to part with them. Helpful, I know Ugh, I feel so conflicted. I'll keep trying with milk in other vessels at home. He's been doing a little better drinking it out of his straw cup so maybe he is making some progress. What do your kids use for milk? Yogurt, cheese. They don’t need to have straight milk to get the Vit D, calcium, and protein. There’s other ways of getting what they need They both have soft spout sippy cups. DS2 will take flax milk in it. DS1 gets tea (decaf powdered stuff), regular whole milk, and water depending on his mood.
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