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Post by rvasc on May 31, 2018 7:35:04 GMT -6
I totally judge people for dirty houses.
Messy =\= dirty. Like, if your mail is piled up or there are toys all over the floor, whatever, IDGAF. But if your toilet has a ring, and your counters are dirty, that’s gross.
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Post by spottedprincess on May 31, 2018 7:35:25 GMT -6
I may not be the best at keeping my house spotless. But it is clean. I do noticed though the more stressed I am, the worse it gets. I would love to be able to outsource that.
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Post by Cher on May 31, 2018 7:35:31 GMT -6
I know a lot of people here are anti-thank you cards, which I’m not speaking to, let me just state that before someone comes in with “just thank me in person and no need to waste paper.” Pre-printed, generic thank you cards are tacky AF. If I get you a present and you’re using a stamp, please have the decency to actually thank me, rather than sign your name under a preprinted message. You’re not the president sending out his Christmas cards, nobody is that busy. Can we also add "Thanks for the gift. I really appreciate it" with zero mention of what you gave them or why they like it? Lol you are me. But you know this will infuriate the “fuck thank you card” crowd.
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Post by spicysalmonroll on May 31, 2018 7:36:24 GMT -6
I know there are factors well above my scope, but I don't understand why businesses build a new building when there are SO MANY vacant spots they could buy/rent for less. I live in small town America, where "main street" has 50% vacant buildings. My town has available buildings from 3 shut down restaurants just sitting there wasting away looking like ass, and yet a restaurant owner in my town just posted on the town page that he sold his existing diner to a couple who will keep it open. And that he's opening a BBQ place which will be a brand new build in X location. The location is literally across the street from a shutdown Outback, so it's not like his build will be a better/ higher traffic area. I'm glad he's opening another business but I wish he'd take one of the vacant buildings! Is it a chain? My H does a lot of chain stuff and they have all these specs that have to be met. So it may just be cheaper to start new than to tear down or renovate. It costs a lot to get stuff hauled off. Nope, just a mom & pop BBQ
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Post by thatgolfb on May 31, 2018 7:36:57 GMT -6
Brought to you by yesterday's episode of TGB reads the comments section on local news article FB posts: I think comprehensive sex education is entirely age appropriate for 6th graders. Some parents were protesting our school district yesterday that it was "too much too soon" and many people in the comments section agreed. Some said that kids "don't need to be learning about masturbation and anal and oral sex" and the only place I could even find that in the curriculum was with respect to relative risk of STDs (for example, masturbation poses no risk). Parents were claiming that the images/videos were pornographic, and all I could find was pictures of anatomy so... I don't understand. Kids at my middle school were having sex in 8th grade. I got my period in 5th. I fail to see how learning this stuff is not age appropriate. This is way more comprehensive of a talk than the vast majority of kids are getting at home, and too many kids don't understand how sex works. I actually think this curriculum is great. It covers not only all the anatomy and biology of reproduction stuff I learned about in late elementary/early middle school, but also covers LGBT, consent, and more, which are very important. Some of the people in the comments section were the typical "school is a Commiefornia propaganda machine" or anti-LGBT assholes so I mainly ignored them (which showed amazing restraint on my part). Except the one transphobic guy that I had to say something to. But I digress. If anyone wants to take a look at the curriculum: www.sandiegounified.org/shepcnf I thought of you since I know you teach this stuff! ETA: As I said, I think this will be a popular opinion here
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Post by McBenny on May 31, 2018 7:38:05 GMT -6
I thought the consensus here was no thank you cards? I feel shaken so my core.
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 31, 2018 7:38:17 GMT -6
Can we also add "Thanks for the gift. I really appreciate it" with zero mention of what you gave them or why they like it? Lol you are me. But you know this will infuriate the “fuck thank you card” crowd. I an very fuck thank you cards. Because those two examples are what I get every time. It's like making a kid say sorry after they took another kid's toy. They don't really mean it. They are doing it out of obligation. It's meaningless.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 7:38:26 GMT -6
spicysalmonroll I mean it was a bussiness decision so it probably came to $. But I agree I hate seeing empty buildings.
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Post by justbecause on May 31, 2018 7:38:27 GMT -6
I know house cleaners that snoop and gossip and ones that do not. So I understand being nervous about snooping. Around here it is hard to find a good housekeeper.
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Post by spicysalmonroll on May 31, 2018 7:39:13 GMT -6
I know there are factors well above my scope, but I don't understand why businesses build a new building when there are SO MANY vacant spots they could buy/rent for less. I live in small town America, where "main street" has 50% vacant buildings. My town has available buildings from 3 shut down restaurants just sitting there wasting away looking like ass, and yet a restaurant owner in my town just posted on the town page that he sold his existing diner to a couple who will keep it open. And that he's opening a BBQ place which will be a brand new build in X location. The location is literally across the street from a shutdown Outback, so it's not like his build will be a better/ higher traffic area. I'm glad he's opening another business but I wish he'd take one of the vacant buildings! Retrofitting to meet current building/occupancy codes can be extremely expensive. You are also limited on the set up by the existing building. Yea, I could definitely see if you were trying to turn a hardware store into a restaurant but I would assume that an old Outback would have the exact perfect kitchen configurement for a restaurant. Of course, I am not a restaurant owner so that must not be the case lol
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Post by coconutbacon on May 31, 2018 7:39:36 GMT -6
I know there are factors well above my scope, but I don't understand why businesses build a new building when there are SO MANY vacant spots they could buy/rent for less. I live in small town America, where "main street" has 50% vacant buildings. My town has available buildings from 3 shut down restaurants just sitting there wasting away looking like ass, and yet a restaurant owner in my town just posted on the town page that he sold his existing diner to a couple who will keep it open. And that he's opening a BBQ place which will be a brand new build in X location. The location is literally across the street from a shutdown Outback, so it's not like his build will be a better/ higher traffic area. I'm glad he's opening another business but I wish he'd take one of the vacant buildings! Besides retrofitting vs a new build potentially being more costly, it’s possible, if he’s leasing the space, there’s a huge price discrepancy. It’s not uncommon, at least where I am, for a commercial landlord to raise rent 4 or 5 times what it had been, driving out a tenant, leaving it vacant for years, and then claiming a huge loss. It can oddly be a financial win for the landlord.
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Post by Yogurt on May 31, 2018 7:40:00 GMT -6
I know a lot of people here are anti-thank you cards, which I’m not speaking to, let me just state that before someone comes in with “just thank me in person and no need to waste paper.” Pre-printed, generic thank you cards are tacky AF. If I get you a present and you’re using a stamp, please have the decency to actually thank me, rather than sign your name under a preprinted message. You’re not the president sending out his Christmas cards, nobody is that busy. Can we also add "Thanks for the gift. I really appreciate it" with zero mention of what you gave them or why they like it? This one really grinds my gears. "Thanks for the gift". Nice effort. I am a lover of writing and recieving thank you notes though. Shit, I've even been thanked for my nice thank you notes.
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Post by rvasc on May 31, 2018 7:40:48 GMT -6
I also love writing thank you notes.
You can’t take that away!
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Post by helenahhandbasket on May 31, 2018 7:41:04 GMT -6
TBH I am not a great housekeeper. We always had a cleaning lady come to our home though once every other week when I was a child and I remember feeling like I couldn't feel comfortable/ relax even as a child with someone in my home. I can't imagine ever hiring someone to come clean on a regular basis because I would feel like I would have to be out of the house while they were cleaning, if that makes sense. I'd rather half heartedly clean at my own pace. Ok but are you having people over in your dirty house? Ha! Right now I don't have much company, but if I were going to have company I would clean whole- heartedly.
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Post by GhoatMonket on May 31, 2018 7:41:09 GMT -6
Retrofitting to meet current building/occupancy codes can be extremely expensive. You are also limited on the set up by the existing building. Yea, I could definitely see if you were trying to turn a hardware store into a restaurant but I would assume that an old Outback would have the exact perfect kitchen configurement for a restaurant. Of course, I am not a restaurant owner so that must not be the case lol Outback =/= BBQ. Like not even close. They require different kitchen set ups. And it's hard to say if that building is in good condition (if it has been closed for a while that makes more issues) and they owners may be asking too much money to sell it.
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Post by rvasc on May 31, 2018 7:43:24 GMT -6
But I think the fill-in-the-blank cards for little kids are adorable. It shows they worked hard on it themselves.
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Post by helenahhandbasket on May 31, 2018 7:43:33 GMT -6
I totally judge people for dirty houses. Messy =\= dirty. Like, if your mail is piled up or there are toys all over the floor, whatever, IDGAF. But if your toilet has a ring, and your counters are dirty, that’s gross. Yeah, we are just messy. I totally agree with you. We are in a really small apartment that was only meant for DD and I. I rented it at the beginning of my relationship with H- I wasn't sure where it was going at the time.
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Post by McBenny on May 31, 2018 7:44:17 GMT -6
I don't feel I would be ok with someone coming to my house to clean. I am also not sure if I would be satisfied. I would also need someone to come weekly for my needs.
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Post by bearfootzcontinued on May 31, 2018 7:44:31 GMT -6
I know there are factors well above my scope, but I don't understand why businesses build a new building when there are SO MANY vacant spots they could buy/rent for less. I live in small town America, where "main street" has 50% vacant buildings. My town has available buildings from 3 shut down restaurants just sitting there wasting away looking like ass, and yet a restaurant owner in my town just posted on the town page that he sold his existing diner to a couple who will keep it open. And that he's opening a BBQ place which will be a brand new build in X location. The location is literally across the street from a shutdown Outback, so it's not like his build will be a better/ higher traffic area. I'm glad he's opening another business but I wish he'd take one of the vacant buildings! Retrofitting to meet current building/occupancy codes can be extremely expensive. You are also limited on the set up by the existing building. That was my thought too. What concerns me more is the farm land disappearing to urban sprawl while defunct industrial sites sit empty in the city. I'm not sure of the answer but it seems that more could be done to provide incentives for reforming current industrial sites, cleaning up environmental concerns, and enhancing the economy of the inner city. Of course, my state is too busy giving billions of dollars in incentives for a company that is gobbling up almost 3 square miles of farmland and forcing home owners to sell.
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Post by shitsngiggles on May 31, 2018 7:45:34 GMT -6
I'm fine with no thank you card if I was there when the gift was opened, but if you decide not to open gifts at a party then I want a thank you card. Or at the very least a verbal thank you the next time I see you in person.
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Post by Cher on May 31, 2018 7:45:38 GMT -6
My thank you card rage is brought on by my college BFF got married down the shore a couple of weeks after I had C2 (the height of the season). I did everything to make sure I was there. We looked into renting a house, bringing my brother and his gf down for an all-expenses paid weekend, they just had to watch the kids one night. MH is also close with my college BFF, FYI.
We couldn’t make it work. So MH ended up staying home with the kids. I battled Friday shore traffic (5-6 hours typically without stopping to pump), got a hotel room which was $$$$, awkwardly made small talk in a dress I barely fit into until I was drunk, gave a generous gift, pumped and dumped all night because I had those new milk Porn star boobs and then turned around and drove home in the am.
So I get a thank you card this week. I totally forgot I didn’t get one yet. And it’s a form letter-style card with a “Love, college BFF and H” at the bottom. And I’m just kind of “huh.” I made a huge effort to be there, spent my first night away from the baby who was literally 2 or 3 weeks old and you couldn’t write me a sentence?
So I’m a little annoyed. Don’t quote btw, I feel like a dick talking shit.
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Post by heybulldog on May 31, 2018 7:46:02 GMT -6
thatgolfb, I do not think sixth grade is too young for comprehensive sex ed. A lot of my current eight grades would have benefited from that. Their current exposure to sex ed is laughable.
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Post by helenahhandbasket on May 31, 2018 7:46:14 GMT -6
Can we also add "Thanks for the gift. I really appreciate it" with zero mention of what you gave them or why they like it? Lol you are me. But you know this will infuriate the “fuck thank you card” crowd. Agree, but we got only cash gifts at our wedding and it seemed gauche to say "thanks for the cash!" or to mention the amount. We did say thank you for the generous gift, it was great to see you, thanks for making time for us etc. I personalized the cards a bit more to my closest friends.
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Post by piratecat on May 31, 2018 7:46:34 GMT -6
I know there are factors well above my scope, but I don't understand why businesses build a new building when there are SO MANY vacant spots they could buy/rent for less. I live in small town America, where "main street" has 50% vacant buildings. My town has available buildings from 3 shut down restaurants just sitting there wasting away looking like ass, and yet a restaurant owner in my town just posted on the town page that he sold his existing diner to a couple who will keep it open. And that he's opening a BBQ place which will be a brand new build in X location. The location is literally across the street from a shutdown Outback, so it's not like his build will be a better/ higher traffic area. I'm glad he's opening another business but I wish he'd take one of the vacant buildings! Retrofitting to meet current building/occupancy codes can be extremely expensive. You are also limited on the set up by the existing building. Retrofitting can be expensive depending on what you want to do but building codes don't change that drastically, unless the vacant buildings are really old and built before the building codes were adopted, in which case there is some flexibility in bringing existing old buildings to code. I agree that oftentimes it is easier and not much more expensive to build from scratch and I wish that towns would give business owners some incentive to reuse existing vacant buildings.
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Post by thatgolfb on May 31, 2018 7:46:57 GMT -6
I know there are factors well above my scope, but I don't understand why businesses build a new building when there are SO MANY vacant spots they could buy/rent for less. I live in small town America, where "main street" has 50% vacant buildings. My town has available buildings from 3 shut down restaurants just sitting there wasting away looking like ass, and yet a restaurant owner in my town just posted on the town page that he sold his existing diner to a couple who will keep it open. And that he's opening a BBQ place which will be a brand new build in X location. The location is literally across the street from a shutdown Outback, so it's not like his build will be a better/ higher traffic area. I'm glad he's opening another business but I wish he'd take one of the vacant buildings! Maybe it was less expensive for him to just build new than just renovate the old building? There could be structural issues or permits needed or other things like that. ETA: LOL this has been covered, ignore me
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Post by AnnPerkins on May 31, 2018 7:47:48 GMT -6
It pisses me off more than it should that there are ads in the middle of mobile BuzzFeed quizzes now.
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Post by lolacachia on May 31, 2018 7:48:16 GMT -6
I don't feel I would be ok with someone coming to my house to clean. I am also not sure if I would be satisfied. I would also need someone to come weekly for my needs. I had 2 different people come clean mine for a long period of time. I eventually just said screw it because I am way too picky and ended up redoing stuff to my liking.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2018 7:48:30 GMT -6
I know there are factors well above my scope, but I don't understand why businesses build a new building when there are SO MANY vacant spots they could buy/rent for less. I live in small town America, where "main street" has 50% vacant buildings. My town has available buildings from 3 shut down restaurants just sitting there wasting away looking like ass, and yet a restaurant owner in my town just posted on the town page that he sold his existing diner to a couple who will keep it open. And that he's opening a BBQ place which will be a brand new build in X location. The location is literally across the street from a shutdown Outback, so it's not like his build will be a better/ higher traffic area. I'm glad he's opening another business but I wish he'd take one of the vacant buildings! Retrofitting to meet current building/occupancy codes can be extremely expensive. You are also limited on the set up by the existing building. Food service particularly has a lot of regulations that are frequently updated and changing and thus it’s often cheaper to just start over. This is why even minor fires at restaurants mean long rebuild times - at least here it means they have to come completely up to code where before they’d be grandfathered in
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Post by piratecat on May 31, 2018 7:48:32 GMT -6
I thought the consensus here was no thank you cards? I feel shaken so my core. s I first read this as "no thank you" cards, like "No thank you to that crap you gave my kid".
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Post by Cher on May 31, 2018 7:50:10 GMT -6
I’ve also gotten thank you cards from evite or similar sites. Like the person just goes through and checks who was at the party and you get a standard “thank you for coming to my party and the generous gift” email.
Also tacky.
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