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Post by peachsmama on May 14, 2018 10:20:11 GMT -6
Been waiting for 50 minutes to see the dentist from our appointment time. I got here 15 minutes early for all the forms so we've been here over an hour.. I'm losing patience. Luckily they have lots of toys so Matthew is fine. I'm getting frustrated though.
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Post by sands42 on May 14, 2018 10:54:04 GMT -6
Yay for maternity leave chrisy01! Enjoy it!!! tallb house hunting is so frustrating especially when you are in an expensive market. I feel you! Sorry your husband is not being realistic. Hopefully he will come around!!
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Post by vino on May 14, 2018 10:56:47 GMT -6
Morning all. I'm in a foul mood, boo to me.
The weekend was rough with B, he is not listening and I find myself repeating everything, it's very, very annoying and frustrating to say the least. Does he not hear me? Am I on his ass too much? Am I doing something wrong? What should he hear at this age? Does he have ADHD? Am I just not connected to him and a terrible parent lately? gawd, this shit is hard.
/dd over
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Post by guster on May 14, 2018 11:00:35 GMT -6
My baby monitor just died. All I wanted to do was give Charlie a little nap, hand Josie the iPad and take a half an hour for myself to shower. But instead, Charlie is screaming and trying to climb his way out of the crib and I can get the monitor to work so there no getting clean this morning.
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Post by guster on May 14, 2018 11:03:57 GMT -6
Morning all. I'm in a foul mood, boo to me. The weekend was rough with B, he is not listening and I find myself repeating everything, it's very, very annoying and frustrating to say the least. Does he not hear me? Am I on his ass too much? Am I doing something wrong? What should he hear at this age? Does he have ADHD? Am I just not connected to him and a terrible parent lately? gawd, this shit is hard. /dd over I could've written this word for word. So big hugs to you. I'm all over the place with it – do I lean into it because I know it's a passing phase; do I fight it because I want Josie's behavior to be right? Do I nag her all day long (probably), but isn't that instilling healthy habits because I'm not asking her to do outlandish things (but stop jumping on the couch and please put your dishes the sink seem like good things to nag about.) I've trying to keep the word "arbitrary" in my mind. Is the thing I'm asking her to do arbitrary in terms of time or methodology? Will it get done if she does it her way and 20 minutes after I typically would do it? Sorry for the word vomit...
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Post by klong11 on May 14, 2018 11:04:04 GMT -6
vino, are there consequences to him not listening? Is there follow through with consequences? I find Cadence tests us a lot, but instead of just threatening time out, if we actually follow through and put her in time out, then she starts to realize we aren't messing around. There is still a lot of repetition, but remember, they're 4 and testing everything.
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Post by cheeksmum on May 14, 2018 11:06:00 GMT -6
Morning all. I'm in a foul mood, boo to me. The weekend was rough with B, he is not listening and I find myself repeating everything, it's very, very annoying and frustrating to say the least. Does he not hear me? Am I on his ass too much? Am I doing something wrong? What should he hear at this age? Does he have ADHD? Am I just not connected to him and a terrible parent lately? gawd, this shit is hard. /dd over N has had a very hard time with his listening skills lately. We’ve had a lot of changes going on but from what I’ve gathered it’s an age thing or another stage to go through. He seems to be testing his independence on us which is where I think the lack of listening comes from. You’re an awesome parent, he’s just being a 4yr old.
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Post by vino on May 14, 2018 11:08:02 GMT -6
vino , are there consequences to him not listening? Is there follow through with consequences? I find Cadence tests us a lot, but instead of just threatening time out, if we actually follow through and put her in time out, then she starts to realize we aren't messing around. There is still a lot of repetition, but remember, they're 4 and testing everything. There are absolutely consequences. Time outs, toys taken away, chill time in his room, no star wars before bed, no play time with his friend etc, etc. I feel like we've tried every angle. It's like I talk, and he just continues about his actions. It's worse when he is with his friends, getting all riled up. So I am very always in a state of; 'am i doing too much and looking like an asshole parent on their kids ass all day I mean they're only 4' OR 'am I not doing enough and letting him figure out his boundaries, i mean he is only 4' OR 'he is 4, he should be better'
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Post by slenle on May 14, 2018 11:10:30 GMT -6
+1 on the listening frustrations. It’s really getting old and i feel like I’m repeating myself so. Many. Times. And then I yell and feel like a terrible mom. And now n will yell at h and I realize she is just copying what I do so something needs to change.
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Post by guster on May 14, 2018 11:11:08 GMT -6
+1 on the listening frustrations. It’s really getting old and i feel like I’m repeating myself so. Many. Times. And then I yell and feel like a terrible mom. And now n will yell at h and I realize she is just copying what I do so something needs to change. Exact same boat with Charlie. Solidarity, sister!
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Post by nam2013 on May 14, 2018 11:11:15 GMT -6
vino I’ve been told it’s this age 😖. I know it can take kids a little while to proces instructions sometimes, so it might help to wait (10 sec. or something) before repeating the instruction. Disclaimer: while typing this I’ve stopped typing 4 times to instruct ds to stop squirting water in dd’s face...
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Post by nam2013 on May 14, 2018 11:12:34 GMT -6
+1 to feeling like the worst mom on the planet for yelling out of sheer frustration from time to time.
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Post by vino on May 14, 2018 11:12:53 GMT -6
guster Yes exactly! I am all over the place with what is 'normal' and what he is testing. I know that B is a good kid and understands, so maybe I should let things go. I dont want to nag, at all. I do not like the sound of my voice that much.
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Post by chrisy01 on May 14, 2018 11:14:52 GMT -6
So I'm basically allowed to do nothing today.
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Post by vino on May 14, 2018 11:15:32 GMT -6
Now dont even get me started on MH and how he 'handles' this shit....that's a whole other thread.
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Post by wineallthetime on May 14, 2018 11:16:50 GMT -6
vino, I see we are living the same life! It's a blast, huh!? I know I'm not helping the situation either because I'm tired and cranky and just yell. Yelling does not help in the least.
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Post by vino on May 14, 2018 11:17:14 GMT -6
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Post by vino on May 14, 2018 11:19:45 GMT -6
phew! Ok honestly thank you guys. I barely slept last night, thinking that I have been the worst Mom and am fucking up my kids. I hate that we are all here, but I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one.
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Post by joelies on May 14, 2018 11:20:32 GMT -6
flamingo , I have that book on my list to read. Glad to hear you’re enjoying it! Yes, a friend of a friend mentioned it to me back in September and I was in the mood for something light so I finally picked it up on Saturday. They’re making a movie—I think it’s due out this summer or fall?—so I wanted to read the book first. The trailer looks excellent, definitely a good summer movie to watch with friends. I might have to read it in the meantime as well.
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Post by wineallthetime on May 14, 2018 11:20:51 GMT -6
Ugh, I was told my phone would be here yesterday and just got a notification that it shipped and will be here tomorrow. I'm so annoyed. It will most certainly have whatsapp so I can chat with my fav Canadian though!
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Post by chrisy01 on May 14, 2018 11:21:08 GMT -6
vino we are in he same place here. Lots of tears from me and LO.
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Post by joelies on May 14, 2018 11:22:16 GMT -6
+13 or so, to the listening issues with Colin. I'd worry more except the kids in his class, who are all older, seem to be going through it too.
And then forget Chase, who we keep joking may actually be deaf (again) for how little he pays attention to what we say.
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Post by trtlcrzy on May 14, 2018 11:23:51 GMT -6
Hi all. Reading a really entertaining book right now, Crazy Rich Asians. I'm having a hard time putting it down but I need to--you know--keep the toddler alive and accomplish some things around the house. Lots of 'housekeeping' to do today...making appointments, booking the dog at the kennel for next week, etc. B was so happy to be back at school today after missing on Friday, really reaffirms my decision to go to 5 mornings/week in the fall. C and I are about to head out to get my sister a birthday gift and get that mailed before pick-up. Also, apparently it was the *alternator* in my car causing the issues, b/c it died again yesterday. So we dropped it off this morning to have a new one put in. Naturally they have to order the part but we should be able to pick it up tomorrow. They’re making that into a movie! I saw a preview for it the other day, it looks interesting.
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Post by vino on May 14, 2018 11:23:54 GMT -6
+1 on the listening frustrations. It’s really getting old and i feel like I’m repeating myself so. Many. Times. And then I yell and feel like a terrible mom. And now n will yell at h and I realize she is just copying what I do so something needs to change. Some here, we've become a yelling house at times and I usually just tear up in frustration. If you find any great resources let me know, I'm all ears. I think I'm going to download 'The well behaved child' that flamingo has talked about.
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Post by mwhip on May 14, 2018 11:25:53 GMT -6
You all are making me feel better about being so glad to put my kid to bed last night. In my mind, I kept thinking 'it's Mothers day, I love her, I need to spend time with her,' but also thinking about how much she annoys the shit out of me and I just wanted some god damn peace and quiet.
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Post by vino on May 14, 2018 11:28:12 GMT -6
You all are making me feel better about being so glad to put my kid to bed last night. In my mind, I kept thinking 'it's Mothers day, I love her, I need to spend time with her,' but also thinking about how much she annoys the shit out of me and I just wanted some god damn peace and quiet. The sigh of relief I audibly let out some days at 8.05pm when I leave his room could move mountains. My mind is fried and my nerves are shot.
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Post by peachsmama on May 14, 2018 11:28:30 GMT -6
+12356 on listening. M I have to get in his space and get his attention or he ignores me. He doesn't respond to yelling at all yet I still end up yelling out of frustration. Then get annoyed with myself for even going there. J now tells me "you don't have to tell at me!" Ugh.
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Post by mwhip on May 14, 2018 11:28:48 GMT -6
I'm getting ready to call the local home Depot AGAIN and tell them to send someone for the trash. They had the contractor who did the floor come back, but he didn't have room. This is the trash in the garage and how he left one area.
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Post by vino on May 14, 2018 11:29:43 GMT -6
Then I remember 'they go high, you go low'......try it, then laugh at myself as he continues to wreak havoc
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Post by wineallthetime on May 14, 2018 11:33:59 GMT -6
L and A are napping and typically I try to do something with just C. He asked to play games with me and I told him to watch TV instead. I need 20-30 minutes, kid! He's currently throwing shoes at the wall (??) and ignoring everything I'm saying to him.
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