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Post by sunshiney on May 8, 2018 8:49:12 GMT -6
***TMI Warning!!! But this is my TTC life right now and it's so annoying!*** The UTI is clearing up but I'm still so sore. It's now an annoying game of trying to guess when I'll O - should we have sex? Should we give my vag a break so I'm not too sore if I don't O for another week? Woke up with EWCM this morning but also had a sex dream about DH (prob because we were making sex as unobtrusive as possible lol so I only got off pre-intercourse) so maybe it was just arousal fluid. OPK yesterday was negative (test line half as dark as control line), but 10 minutes later it looked positive, and I've been drinking water and peeing more than normal to try to flush out this UTI, so maybe that was a positive? Driving myself crazy and wish every single cycle didn't feel so important so I could just let it go and let nature take its course (ha!). As much as I hate the TWW, now I'm just wishing I could O and be done with the planning side of things for a while. Basically the whole thing just sucks. This is at least my 75th or maybe 80th cycle by now without a baby and it gets really f*cking old. Sometimes it feels like a fruitless torture and I forget why we're even trying. The good news that we know what causes my losses and it's being treated somehow isn't sinking into my brain enough to give me a feeling of gratitude and hope. I'm just sore and frustrated. Thank you for listening! Already feeling much better just getting it out!
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Post by obscureference on May 8, 2018 9:27:24 GMT -6
sunshiney I can commiserate with the sex planning. It gets so old. Are you doing a medicated cycle? I’ve been able to let it go a bit now that I’m getting midcycle monitoring. It’s been a little bit of a relief. MH on the other hand is like hey, what happened to all the sex?! I’m over it!
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Post by charliefox on May 8, 2018 9:37:50 GMT -6
I had my US today, and I have 2 follicles. I have a decent one on the left side (doesn’t count). I have an 18mm follie on the right side, so I got to trigger tonight! I was so glad to get to trigger after my last cycle got cancelled. Yay! I was hoping righty would get it together for you this cycle!
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Post by charliefox on May 8, 2018 9:42:47 GMT -6
sunshiney, oh man, that's tough. A few months ago I would say that I wasn't one to force sex, but....I also don't want to be kicking myself for missing my fertile window. May I ask what exactly is sore? I don't think a UTI should cause any vaginal soreness? Can you use some sperm friendly lube if necessary? In any case, I'm super excited that you have a treatment now and a sticky bfp is probably in your future
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Post by sunshiney on May 8, 2018 10:08:38 GMT -6
Thank you, charliefox, for reminding me to be hopeful!! I'm still having pain with sex where the inside part of my urethra gets pushed on from the inside of my vag...that's still swollen/tender feeling there, plus being on antibiotics for a few days has thrown off my balance down there and I have irritation/rawness like the start of a yeast infection...it will go away in a few days when I stop antibiotics but it happens every time, plus I just generally have sensitive skin all around and particularly in my lady bits. Annoying. DH just trimmed because he forgot during AF, which makes everything scratchy for a while too. I'm just super frustrated with my body at the moment, sorry!! Basically, it will feel fine at the time, but afterward I'll have so much soreness and irritation. Yes, we have Pre-Seed at hand! Hopefully that will make a difference. obscureference It is so much off the plate when there's monitoring, isn't it? We're doing one or two more natural cycles, but then if we haven't gotten KU the RE said we could add injectibles to "stack the deck in our favor." A part of me is almost hoping we have to wait on a med cycle so we have a chance of twins and just be two and done...it's a fantasy.... Lol YH, the excitement of babymaking definitely fades away with IF!
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Post by obscureference on May 9, 2018 10:45:50 GMT -6
I’m trying to decide if I’m going to test. Tomorrow I will be 14 days past my trigger. I didn’t test my trigger out and I really don’t want to see a positive if it’s the trigger. Maybe Saturday? That would be 16 days post trigger and 13-14 dpo. I’m not for sure which day I ovulated. I always chicken out though. lol
Otherwise I decided I’m not going to test until May 19. But that feels really far away.....
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Post by sammysam on May 9, 2018 13:11:58 GMT -6
obscureference I'm totally lurking (but will be joining this board in July as I FINALLY got my appointment scheduled)...I'm testing on the 15th so if you don't end up testing before then I'll gladly be a pee buddy if you want one:)
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Post by sunshiney on May 9, 2018 13:27:04 GMT -6
obscureference Why would you plan to wait until the 19th if you didn't test on the 10th or 12th? Just curious. The 4-5 times I've tested out triggers, I've had nothing visible past 13DPT, but that's just anecdotal. I think if you are comfortable with having a shadow of a line that is indeterminate until you see if it darkens the next day, then I would go ahead and test now. If not, I'm a fan of Monday morning tests...work is a great distraction if it goes badly, and I'm better able to process the failed cycle when I come home. I often test on Mondays. Maybe that's just me.
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Post by Bluebird on May 9, 2018 13:32:45 GMT -6
I'm there with you obscureference, trying to decide when I will test! Today is 9DPO (no trigger for me to test out), and I'm thinking I want to know before the weekend so I can process and not be sad all Mother's Day weekend if it's a BFN. Maybe tomorrow.
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Post by obscureference on May 9, 2018 14:33:48 GMT -6
sunshiney Lol. After I posted I was like, they are going to wonder why the hell I would wait so long. I guess because I usually wait until AF arrives. And if she’s not here by May 20 then I might actually be pregnant. It’s just that the last few cycles I’ve picked a day to test that seems far enough, but then it turns out it’s not and I’m still not pregnant. My reasoning is iffy! I just hate to see negative tests. I am highly resistant to testing!
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Post by orangehibiscus on May 9, 2018 15:29:17 GMT -6
Thank you sunshiney! I’m sorry you’re still in pain from your UTI. Eating yogurt or taking Acidophilus can help prevent a yeast infection. I hope you don’t get one!
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Post by orangehibiscus on May 9, 2018 15:31:12 GMT -6
My Pregnyl trigger was out at 8DPO last time obscureference. I’ll have to look back and see how long it took for my Ovidrel trigger to go away, but I think it was gone by 8DPO also. Which trigger did you use? ETA: My Ovidrel trigger was gone at 10DPO (12 days past trigger).
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Post by obscureference on May 9, 2018 17:27:39 GMT -6
orangehibiscus I used ovidrel. I did a bit of googling and it seems I would most likely be in the clear by 14 days post trigger. I’m still a chicken though!
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Post by orangehibiscus on May 9, 2018 17:57:59 GMT -6
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Post by sunshiney on May 10, 2018 8:32:44 GMT -6
obscureference Do you temp? I've had great success pinpointing O date, after a few cycles identifying my O date I'm able to just temp for about 5-7 days midcycle and catch O definitively. Seeing my LP (13 days) means that if my temp is still up on 14DPO, I can confidently test. Of course it's too late for this cycle (maybe temp a bit so if you happen to see a drop on the morning you were planning to test, you can skip it knowing AF is probably coming within a day or so?). But something to think about, if temping isn't too stressful for you!
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Post by sunshiney on May 10, 2018 8:33:33 GMT -6
AW: Excited to share that I O'd yesterday! And promptly went from feeling totally uninterested and chill about whether this cycle will work to frantically figuring out when I'll have the answer, lol. But happy I didn't O on the late end this cycle, because if I did we'd be at risk of me being out of town for next cycle's FW. The OPK+ two days ago gave us the heads up, so we did it night before O and twice yesterday, knowing that if my temp jumped this morning to confirm O (which it did) I can take a day off without worrying. I love keeping track because then I can be obsessive about our strategy, like why not hit it twice on O day since we're not trying to save up for the next day!
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Post by orangehibiscus on May 10, 2018 8:44:32 GMT -6
Yay for O sunshiney! I O’d yesterday too! When are you planning on testing? RE’s nurse told me to test on the 21st. That feels so far away!
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Post by orangehibiscus on May 10, 2018 8:46:52 GMT -6
Does an RE have any reason to see someone who is not TTC? I can’t think of any reason, but I wanted to see if y’all had any ideas.
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Post by obscureference on May 10, 2018 9:40:15 GMT -6
sunshiney Yay for O! I used to temp but I can’t do it for any length of time. I’m not really worried about when I O. With the ovidrel I feel like I can be pretty confident that I will O within three days. It’s my LP that has sucked and varied on the meds. Before meds my LP was exactly the same every cycle. Now it keeps changing. I’ve also heard that meds can mess up your temps. Maybe I could temp one cycle to see what is going on. I just never felt like tempting added any useful info because OPKs have always been right on for me. orangehibiscus I can’t think of any reason someone would need to go to an RE other than TTC. I feel like OB/gyns take care of reproductive stuff not related to TTC.
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Post by Bluebird on May 10, 2018 9:45:36 GMT -6
BFN this morning, so I treated myself to a latte and a breakfast taco.
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Post by orangehibiscus on May 10, 2018 9:50:47 GMT -6
I agree obscureference! TW OPP, loss ment and whiney vent... Ok, I’m going to whine and vent for a minute. My really good friend’s 19 yo daughter is KU. She’s 6 weeks and some change. She swears this was an accident. She wasn’t on BC because they make her gain a lot of weight. My friend told me this morning that her daughter was seeing the same RE I go to. The daughter said she was going to the RE to treat her ovarian cysts (she has PCOS). I’m calling a load of BS on this. I told my friend that there’s no reason for someone who is not TTC to see an RE. An OB/GYN would treat ovarian cysts. A few months ago, the daughter told her mom that she was taking Provera to treat her cysts. I told my friend that was BS. I told my friend that I thought her daughter was TTC. My friend was pretty sure her daughter would end up KU, and now she is. I’m so jealous y’all. She has PCOS like I do, and she was still able to get KU “on accident”. Why does she get to have a baby and I don’t? She is 19, and she doesn’t have her life together. I’m so angry at the whole situation because it’s not fair. I know it’s not about fair and life isn’t fair, but it just sucks. And Mother’s Day is on Sunday, and I should be celebrating because I should have an infant. Instead, I’m sitting here bitter from my two losses and praying this cycle is successful. Ugh! Ok. Vent over. End TW
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Post by orangehibiscus on May 10, 2018 9:51:25 GMT -6
I’m so sorry Bluebird! I hope it’s just too early. All the hugs!
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Post by obscureference on May 10, 2018 10:01:57 GMT -6
Bluebird I’m sorry for the bfn. Too early still maybe? orangehibiscus I am so sorry. Obviously vent whenever you need to. Is provera even used to treat PCOS.....? That is crazy, but it sounds like you are right and that she was trying to get pregnant. Doesn’t sound like an accident. She probably just told her mother that. I mean I’m trying to put myself in her shoes and that sounds like something I would make up to tell my mom at that age.....I really hope this is your month! And no, it’s not fair. At all. 🤗
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Post by sammysam on May 10, 2018 10:25:12 GMT -6
Since I'm lurking daily and finally have an appointment set for July is it OK of I play here a bit? I won't actually "go" here until July but wouldn't mind starting to get to know everyone.
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Post by sunshiney on May 10, 2018 10:36:36 GMT -6
orangehibiscus Yes, they work with women with endocrine disorders, for example teens or women with amenorrhea or dismenorrhea, and women wanting to preserve their fertility for example before/during cancer treatment, egg freezing for various reasons. REs are also the most qualified to perform surgery on female reproductive anatomy. If cysts get big enough they need to be treated to prevent torsion. Our RE's office often has teens coming in with their moms for cysts or whatever. I think that's a legit excuse - now she may have been lying to her mom! She may not have gotten pregnant for a while because of her issues and was extra stupid thinking she could have an oopsie every once in a while or something? But yeah I agree it sounds like she was secretly trying to get her PCOS treated to get KU at 19. Lovely. sammysam Welcome!! Bluebird I'm so sorry. You definitely deserved that breakfast treat! orangehibiscus I was planning on the 21st myself, that's 12DPO, sounds reasonable to me! Although since I'm supposed to start Lovenox with a BFP to prevent miscarriage, I also feel like I would feel guilty not to know the earliest possible day and start the meds. So even though I want to wait until 12DPO (by which point 85% of pg women would have a BFP), I may test the 19th and 20th...going to talk to DH about what he thinks.
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Post by charliefox on May 10, 2018 18:16:16 GMT -6
sammysam - I lurked/sort of went here way before I actually went here, it can be a helpful place to ask questions and learn all the lingo etc. Although, I fully hope you don't have to go to that appointment.
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Post by sammysam on May 10, 2018 19:47:09 GMT -6
sammysam - I lurked/sort of went here way before I actually went here, it can be a helpful place to ask questions and learn all the lingo etc. Although, I fully hope you don't have to go to that appointment. Thanks:) It has already been super informative. I won't have anything helpful to offer other than sport to everyone right now but I think it'll be good to get used to being here and wrapping my head around this next step as we get closer to July.
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Post by orangehibiscus on May 10, 2018 21:08:53 GMT -6
Thanks obscureference! IF sucks so much! You’re welcome to join in sammysam, but I’m sorry you’re here in IF. Do you have any prelim questions? Thanks sunshiney! She could very well have a legit reason for seeing the RE, but she would have had to travel almost 2 hours (one way) to see the RE. Plausible, but I’m still going with she lied. Sounds like we’ll both be testing on the 21st (if I can hold out that long). I like peeing on things. FX for us both.
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Post by sammysam on May 11, 2018 4:08:21 GMT -6
Thanks orangehibiscus . I've learned a lot from lurking on here but I'm sure I'll start thinking of questions the closer I get to July;) I'm so hopeful this cycle is it for you!
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Post by orangehibiscus on May 11, 2018 7:02:43 GMT -6
Thanks orangehibiscus . I've learned a lot from lurking on here but I'm sure I'll start thinking of questions the closer I get to July;) I'm so hopeful this cycle is it for you! Absolutely! Just ask away when you think of questions. Thank you!
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