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Post by shan-ah-doo on Apr 13, 2018 17:17:58 GMT -6
I eat. 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by robot on Apr 13, 2018 17:34:23 GMT -6
At the parties I’ve been to, it’s clear there’s enough food for parents and everyone (or most everyone) eats. I will always eat a slice of cake.
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Post by theseaword on Apr 13, 2018 17:34:39 GMT -6
The parents do usually eat. Not all of them, but a good amount. I don’t. I LOVE pizza but I’m living the no carb life right now.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2018 17:48:18 GMT -6
I always eat. Whether that was the hosts’ intention I cannot tell you because I only just realized that adults not eating was a thing.
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Post by notexactly on Apr 13, 2018 17:48:50 GMT -6
And when I throw a party I provide a full meal regardless of time. So if you come to my house for a party, expect to be fed. This exactly. There’s always a ton of food for everyone. I also eat at parties unless it’s something health/religion restricted for me.
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Post by allthedrinks on Apr 13, 2018 17:51:07 GMT -6
H is throwing me a pizza birthday party tomorrow. I shall now commence to tell everyone the pizza is only for the kids. And me because it’s my party. Seriously though, I’ve been a mom in two states and I’ve never been to a kids party where the grownups were not expected to eat. In most cases there was an adult selection of food.
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Post by rvasc on Apr 13, 2018 17:54:56 GMT -6
If you're expecting parents to stay and watch their own kids, then you should provide food for them as well. I can't eat dairy so I eat ahead of time since pizza and cake are birthday party staples. Where do I say that I have the tiniest bit of judgment for the mom whose kid is allergic to eggs. She always just has her eat the frosting at parties, which whatever. But I expected that at the child’s own party, she would have been able to eat her own cake. Nope.
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Post by rvasc on Apr 13, 2018 17:55:37 GMT -6
I’ve been holding on to that a while. I’m trying so hard not to judge, but dang. Her own birthday!
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Post by GhoatMonket on Apr 13, 2018 18:31:44 GMT -6
And you know what, not saying “no thank you” enough is what has led me to be 30lbs overweight and scared of being pre-diabetic. And unhappy with my physical self as summer approaches. Not to mention I have an autoimmune disorder where I do much better without gluten / sugar / dairy. So yeah, I’m annoyed at the judgement. I was afraid for a minute people would think I was a stuck up asshole for eating carrots I brought instead of giving into temptation for food I know isn’t going to leave me feeling great. Not worth it for me. 🤷♀️ Health issues were clearly made exempt. You are projecting. This isn't about you. If you don't know what attitude we are speaking of, consider yourself lucky you've never encountered those bitches.
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Post by Lord Disick on Apr 13, 2018 18:32:05 GMT -6
If you're expecting parents to stay and watch their own kids, then you should provide food for them as well. I can't eat dairy so I eat ahead of time since pizza and cake are birthday party staples. Where do I say that I have the tiniest bit of judgment for the mom whose kid is allergic to eggs. She always just has her eat the frosting at parties, which whatever. But I expected that at the child’s own party, she would have been able to eat her own cake. Nope. That's kind of sad to not be able to eat your own birthday cake. There are so many ways to get around an egg allergy. I'll sit with you on the slightly judgy bench.
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Post by regal on Apr 13, 2018 18:58:38 GMT -6
If you're expecting parents to stay and watch their own kids, then you should provide food for them as well. I can't eat dairy so I eat ahead of time since pizza and cake are birthday party staples. Where do I say that I have the tiniest bit of judgment for the mom whose kid is allergic to eggs. She always just has her eat the frosting at parties, which whatever. But I expected that at the child’s own party, she would have been able to eat her own cake. Nope. That's awful. Most kids with allergies that I know bring their own cupcake to the party. My sister has a stash frozen for my niece to bring with her.
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Post by fancynewbeesly on Apr 13, 2018 19:05:50 GMT -6
DD had an egg allergy and we would bring own cupcake to other parties and for cake at her party we always did ice cream cake.
Usually I eat at parties. Unless I don’t like the food. A lot of parties we go to also have a pretzel tray and sandwiches for grownups as well.
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Post by rvasc on Apr 13, 2018 19:06:29 GMT -6
I should be judging both parents, tho.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2018 19:31:17 GMT -6
I was annoyed that at DD’s party, they cut the cake into exactly the number of slices to correspond to the number of kids. So my cake that should have served close to 50 served 20ish and there was none for the adults. I didn’t even get a piece.
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Post by danascullyx on Apr 13, 2018 19:48:51 GMT -6
I'm also the fat ass who would take a slice of pizza if it was offered. Hell ya! Last kids party I was 8m pregnant and they got a pizza for the parents and everybody was standing around starting at it, and I was like move I’m hungry. I don’t expect food, but I’d its there for adults I eat up (obviously make sure kids eat first). I absolutely expect food for everyone, adults included, if it's a meal time. I'm flabbergasted that many of you think it's okay to make people stand around staring at eating kids.
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Post by Lord Disick on Apr 13, 2018 20:42:24 GMT -6
I was annoyed that at DD’s party, they cut the cake into exactly the number of slices to correspond to the number of kids. So my cake that should have served close to 50 served 20ish and there was none for the adults. I didn’t even get a piece. WTAF. Who would do such a stupid and cruel thing?
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Post by MrsNal on Apr 13, 2018 21:58:54 GMT -6
And you know what, not saying “no thank you” enough is what has led me to be 30lbs overweight and scared of being pre-diabetic. And unhappy with my physical self as summer approaches. Not to mention I have an autoimmune disorder where I do much better without gluten / sugar / dairy. So yeah, I’m annoyed at the judgement. I was afraid for a minute people would think I was a stuck up asshole for eating carrots I brought instead of giving into temptation for food I know isn’t going to leave me feeling great. Not worth it for me. 🤷♀️ In my experience people feel more guilty then judgy if you can't eat the food. The amount of people who look at me like they have ruined my life because I can't eat is amazing to me.
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Post by MrsNal on Apr 13, 2018 22:00:55 GMT -6
If you're expecting parents to stay and watch their own kids, then you should provide food for them as well. I can't eat dairy so I eat ahead of time since pizza and cake are birthday party staples. Where do I say that I have the tiniest bit of judgment for the mom whose kid is allergic to eggs. She always just has her eat the frosting at parties, which whatever. But I expected that at the child’s own party, she would have been able to eat her own cake. Nope. I judge. Sorry world but you come to a party at my house you can eat my gluten free vegan cupcakes and be happy for the opportunity.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2018 22:06:43 GMT -6
And when I throw a party I provide a full meal regardless of time. So if you come to my house for a party, expect to be fed. Same.
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Post by pobre on Apr 13, 2018 22:15:09 GMT -6
I’ve been to like, 3 kids birthday parties at someone’s house, ever. Including one I threw.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2018 23:26:53 GMT -6
None of the adults eat at my kid's friends parties. We just sit around staring at the kids eating. Inevitably, the host mom will come by with a pizza and offer it to all the other parents and NO ONE takes a slice. No one. It's literally every time, every party. It's so bizarre. This is so, so weird.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2018 4:45:08 GMT -6
I don’t and wouldn’t want to hang out with an adult that thinks they are too good to eat at a kids birthday party. I’d be very much like “get the fuck over yourself”. Health restrictions/goals aside. That’s harsh. What do you care if hypotherical I am eating pizza or not? You don’t know someone’s health situation or reasons. Maybe it’s not about thinking they’re “too good.” Yes, I’m projecting. I said health restrictions/goals aside. Clear as day in the last sentence. Im confident that the parents that reject pizza because they think they are to good for it come across much differently than the ones that are rejecting for health reasons. I’m on a health journey too girl. I promise I’m not the one to be judging anybody for that.
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Post by adelbert on Apr 14, 2018 6:46:42 GMT -6
Parties are almost always drop off here and while parents do chit chat at pick up it's more normal to drink a beer or glass of wine and then head out.
The food is also normally very geared towards the kids; hot dogs, french fries, maybe pizza so I'm not that interested.
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Post by Cher on Apr 14, 2018 7:07:35 GMT -6
Usually kids get served first and then adults are offered at kid bounce/play places. Some parents eat, some parents don’t. It’s not a big thing. I don’t. Dairy-free and I prefer to go out to lunch and have a glass of wine after an hour and a half at a Saturday play place.
If it’s someone’s house or other venue, there’s adult-friendly food and everyone eats. We have had our son’s birthday at a BBQ bar for the past two years and have had a spread for adults and a spread for kids. Open bar at my parties, so after a couple of cocktails, you have no shame about getting into them fried pickles. Everyone, adults and kids, gets a favor (this year sugar cookies, last year cupcakes). I want you to eat and drink at my parties.
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Post by goldenbird on Apr 14, 2018 7:14:08 GMT -6
I was annoyed that at DD’s party, they cut the cake into exactly the number of slices to correspond to the number of kids. So my cake that should have served close to 50 served 20ish and there was none for the adults. I didn’t even get a piece. That's ridiculous. Kids amped up on pieces twice the size they need and none for anyone else? 😡 how hard is it to ask the customer how many pieces to cut/about sizing?
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Post by GhoatMonket on Apr 14, 2018 7:14:23 GMT -6
Health issues were clearly made exempt. You are projecting. This isn't about you. If you don't know what attitude we are speaking of, consider yourself lucky you've never encountered those bitches. Oh I acknowledged I was projecting. I’ll own my sensitivities around this 100%. I mean, no, I guess I haven’t encountered someone declining with an outright air of “Fuck your birthday party pizza, Im saving myself for the foie gras & NY strip I’ll be dining on later.” I guess it’s just a basic no thanks. So I never thought twice about what any adults were or were not eating at a kids party. I find it odd there’s so much analysis around it but I guess I’m not at the same party circuit as the Real Housewives some of ya’ll are encountering. My ex-SIL's friends are definitely something else.
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Post by readyornot on Apr 14, 2018 7:23:41 GMT -6
They too cool for pizza???? Host is probably all, MFers... eat the damn pizza. I don't want a shitton of leftover pizza, dammit. This is what I (politely) tell everyone. If I'm party planning, I'm planning for parents also. Eat the damn pizza, I'm not trying to have 5 leftover pizzas, kthanks. If I'm party attending, I never assume I'll be eating also. But if I get there & all kids have eaten & theres still plenty, I then assume they've planned on parents eating also & they also don't want to get stuck with a bunch of left over food. I'm trying to rack my brain, but I can't think of a single time my kids have gone to a place like CEC or a bounce place for a legit birthday party. Hmmmm....we did go to a bowling party last winter, that counts I guess. It was for DSs friend, but I had everyone with me, so I just paid separately for bowling & pizzas for the girls.
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Post by luckycharm on Apr 14, 2018 7:37:43 GMT -6
If it’s offered, I am eating...even just a little if I am not that hungry. At our parties we always have enough for the parents and most everyone eats. This is pretty standard around here.
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Post by copperboom on Apr 14, 2018 17:55:42 GMT -6
I went to a birthday party today, and it was exactly as pobre described. Adults were offered food, drinks, and cake, and literally everyone said no, thanks. IMO, it was more to avoid being a bother to the host. But I’m chuckling Bc there was NOTHING the host could do to get the adults to eat or drink anything, including me. I wasn’t hungry today, so it didn’t make a difference to me. And yes, pobre, say yes next time. I’ve been to other parties hungry and felt guilty about being the only adult who wanted to eat, and declined food when offered. Start a trend.
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Post by thechickencoop on Apr 14, 2018 18:21:53 GMT -6
Yes, most of the parties I’ve been to everyone eats. We got chick fil a for DS’s birthday last year and MH thought I was nuts for getting a sandwich platter and a big salad but the parents ate all of it. Along with all the nuggets, all the fruit and the snack size chip bags. So, get chick fil a and you will have not leftovers and everyone will eat. 🤷🏼♀️ This is what we've done the last 2 years for DS1's party. Chick fil-a tray, burgers, dogs, fruit and veggies. +alcohol. I'm Greek. We feed people.
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