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Post by charlotte on Apr 19, 2018 16:09:48 GMT -6
Unlike quijibo my LC in the hospital was not even trying to help. We were struggling with latch and DS honestly cried so much while we were in the hospital. The nurse called the LC for me... she basically came in, told me I was “doing it wrong”, repositioned a couple of things once and then left. Never came back. It was zero help. I was miserable with BF the first 3ish weeks. I ended up liking it after that but I won’t hesitate to supplement with formula this time if I’m feeling miserable. I’m over the mom-guilt. Happy mom & happy baby is all that matters.
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Post by summerrain on Apr 19, 2018 16:47:04 GMT -6
I breastfed my DS for 5 weeks until my H came home to find my crying one night and handed me a bottle of sample formula, my kid stopped screaming and I stopped crying. Best decision ever. My DD hated everything but me and I ended up feeding her for over 2 years. Not exactly by choice, little shit just refused any kind of formula or milk that wasn’t mine. This kid, I am debating FF from the beginning. I do not want to be the only one that can feed the baby this go around. I’m sure my family friendly hospital will just love that.
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Post by emilypk on Apr 19, 2018 17:09:34 GMT -6
Unlike quijibo my LC in the hospital was not even trying to help. We were struggling with latch and DS honestly cried so much while we were in the hospital. The nurse called the LC for me... she basically came in, told me I was “doing it wrong”, repositioned a couple of things once and then left. Never came back. It was zero help. I was miserable with BF the first 3ish weeks. I ended up liking it after that but I won’t hesitate to supplement with formula this time if I’m feeling miserable. I’m over the mom-guilt. Happy mom & happy baby is all that matters. I didn’t find the LCs at the hospital to be helpful at all, but DD was slow to gain weight at the beginning and would fall asleep every time she nursed. There was a LC at our pediatrician’s office who was so so helpful at helping us through that. Once we got past that phase things were much better. But, I’m open to whatever works for us this time around!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 19, 2018 17:21:58 GMT -6
I am leaning towards FF from the beginning this time around. And quite honestly, if anyone in the hospital wants to make me feel bad about that? Good fucking luck to them. I am not taking any shit.
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Post by jense927 on Apr 19, 2018 17:37:43 GMT -6
Betas came back at 116! Nurse was very happy with that number. Going back Saturday to see if they double.
I BF DS for 5 months. He was dairy and soy sensitive and my diet was so restrictive. I mean I lost the baby weight quickly but it was hell. I finally decided I couldn’t take it anymore. Wish I hadn’t felt so guilty. I was in a weird mental space though with having a preemie. I wanted my body to do something it was supposed to. Looking back I know it was wrong to think that way but things were hard back then.
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Post by quijibo on Apr 19, 2018 18:02:58 GMT -6
Side note: The pain from sneezing can go straight to hell. So much ouch 😩
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Post by notelsie on Apr 19, 2018 20:06:49 GMT -6
I had DS at 4:29 in the morning, and they told me for hours there wasn't an LC there that early.
I ended up hurting myself those first couple days in the hospital, and I'm sure it didn't help my basically immediate PPA and PPD. The LCs weren't very helpful, and honestly the entire experience was horrible. I'm really hoping for better this time now that I'm in a different state.
Anyway, I ended up going to EP after 6 days, swore I would never BF again.. but the demand just stressed me out. I had a friend encourage me to try again, and thankfully we got into a groove and went for awhile.
I'm sorry to hear some of you had bad experiences too. I hope it all goes well no matter what we decide to do this time around <3
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Post by librariangirl on Apr 19, 2018 22:09:51 GMT -6
I’m hoping to BF linger this time. DS was EBF for three months, but his latch was never good, and my PPD just made for a battle of wills that didn’t work. I’d like to EBF this time, but if my PPD rears it’s ugly head again, we’ll switch to FF.
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Post by Argyle on Apr 19, 2018 22:25:45 GMT -6
BF was very difficult for me the first few weeks. My son latched great but just wasn't getting much. He wanted to nurse lazily for as long as I'd let him, then I pumped after to get a bottle for him. Zero sleep. An LC helped, but finding a good one was a real mission. Thinking back on it, I have mixed feelings. I couldn't recommend going to such lengths (sleeeeeeep), but we did get on track and ended up with a very satisfying BF relationship for both of us, so I can't say I regret it either.
It sounds like FF or BF, the common lesson is to be bullheaded about what you want. Barriers will be thrown up.
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Post by quijibo on Apr 20, 2018 4:19:49 GMT -6
Levels were 10,985 on Monday and 17,200 on Wednesday. I feel like that’s good, but really have no idea. We didn’t track HCG with DD, so this is a whole new world. So, bring on Tuesday’s ultrasound!
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Post by mollykinnz on Apr 20, 2018 6:58:49 GMT -6
I had a really good, uneventful, positive breastfeeding journey with my son. I had hoped to go until at least 6 months and then was open to a change at that point. At 6 months when he started eating real food we learned he had a dairy allergy, that changed a lot for us. Thankfully he never reacted to dairy in my milk so I chose to continue to nurse until it was not working for either of us. That ended up being when he was just over 2. Weaning was easy and painless and I was happy to be done. I am hoping that I have another positive experience this time as well, but I'm going to try to remember that each kid is different and it may not work the same as it did before. Argyle I agree with your last sentence!
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Post by Dramaphile on Apr 20, 2018 7:21:58 GMT -6
I was lucky to have a pretty easy time BF my DD, and even had a small oversupply and was able to donate to a few local Mamas. I weaned her at 22 months because I wanted a break in BF before getting pregnant again. I'm really hoping it'll be similar this time, but I know it can be different for different kids and am trying not to set myself too hard on one path.
I'm nervous about this baby mainly because DD was a relatively easy baby and a great sleeper (like sleeping 5-8 hours overnight at a few weeks old) and I just know I'm going to get much more of a challenge with the next one. And I worry how we're going to transition DD to mainly having her dad do bedtime and night wakings, because I do her bedtime routine currently unless I'm not home, and she won't take him MOTN if she wakes up (which is a few times a week). Last night she ended up in bed with me at 4am, which I would like to not be a habit, but battling with her to get her back in her own bed is more than I can deal with right now.
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Post by mollykinnz on Apr 20, 2018 7:29:27 GMT -6
I was lucky to have a pretty easy time BF my DD, and even had a small oversupply and was able to donate to a few local Mamas. I weaned her at 22 months because I wanted a break in BF before getting pregnant again. I'm really hoping it'll be similar this time, but I know it can be different for different kids and am trying not to set myself too hard on one path. I'm nervous about this baby mainly because DD was a relatively easy baby and a great sleeper (like sleeping 5-8 hours overnight at a few weeks old) and I just know I'm going to get much more of a challenge with the next one. And I worry how we're going to transition DD to mainly having her dad do bedtime and night wakings, because I do her bedtime routine currently unless I'm not home, and she won't take him MOTN if she wakes up (which is a few times a week). Last night she ended up in bed with me at 4am, which I would like to not be a habit, but battling with her to get her back in her own bed is more than I can deal with right now. This is so so so very similar to my situation. My son is my suck. He only usually wants me. He was a bit of a tough baby, cried a lot, but he is such a laid back easy toddler.
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Post by jense927 on Apr 20, 2018 8:41:05 GMT -6
Levels were 10,985 on Monday and 17,200 on Wednesday. I feel like that’s good, but really have no idea. We didn’t track HCG with DD, so this is a whole new world. So, bring on Tuesday’s ultrasound! quijibo I think that looks good! I've read that over 6,000 they don't expect the numbers to double anymore. Good luck at your US!
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Post by eleephant on Apr 20, 2018 8:51:59 GMT -6
I gave up BF quickly with DS1 and regretted it. With DS2 I BF and supplemented until 6 months then FF, I still felt guilty. With DS3 I EBF until 13 months...let's just say I'm strongly considering FF from the start with this one. It was so hard to be the only one responsible for feeding the baby. I couldn't go anywhere without him and it hurt my husband and his bonding since H felt useless whenever he was hungry. My sister already made me feel guilty though so who knows.
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Post by quijibo on Apr 20, 2018 8:58:33 GMT -6
M was so easy. I’m fully anticipating a demon child this time. We can’t possibly get that lucky twice, right? 😬
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Post by Dramaphile on Apr 20, 2018 9:11:33 GMT -6
M was so easy. I’m fully anticipating a demon child this time. We can’t possibly get that lucky twice, right? 😬 We're doomed. Hoping I at least get a trade off and less of the terrible twos that Nugget is going through right now...
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Post by Diordra on Apr 20, 2018 9:42:28 GMT -6
HQ (DD) was an awesome sleeper until the 4 month sleep regression. We’re still fixing sleep habits 18 months later. I have no expectations for this little one, lol
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Post by expatmama11 on Apr 21, 2018 6:26:44 GMT -6
Anyone with early ultrasound done the Ramzi prediction? You can go to genderexperts.com I think it’s fun!! Not going to put a lot of faith in it but still cool.
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Post by summerrain on Apr 21, 2018 7:39:29 GMT -6
Happy Saturday. I get to drop my kids off at my parents at noon for my bffs bridal shower. I should be excited about this, but I’ve been fighting with my two bffs all week long over the fact that I’m pregnant which apparently “ruins our whole bachelorette trip” that we have coming up in a few weeks. I would not have even told them, but they would have figured it out when i didn’t drink today and i don’t want to talk about it with everybody. I’m trying to set my feelings aside since I hardly ever get to see them as they live on the other side of the country, but I’m cranky and feel like crap. Ugh. I thought the friendship drama was over years ago, I feel too old for this crap.
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Post by charlotte on Apr 21, 2018 7:51:56 GMT -6
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Post by Yogurt on Apr 21, 2018 8:25:36 GMT -6
Can anyone ttma progesterone? How do you know if you should be taking it?
I have never gone in for early bloodwork. Out side of IF situations, can anyone go somewhere for early bloodwork? Is that how you find out you need it?
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Post by Argyle on Apr 21, 2018 10:16:49 GMT -6
summerrain did your friends escape from a teen movie? What even is this? expatmama11 haven't done it but I think it looks fun! I might look for a checklist of old wives' tales right before I find out, just to see! Yogurt I was concerned about progesterone because my LP was 4+ days shorter than it was before my first pregnancy, so I just asked if they could add it to the prenatal draw and they did.
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Post by Yogurt on Apr 21, 2018 11:01:01 GMT -6
Can anyone ttma progesterone? How do you know if you should be taking it? I have never gone in for early bloodwork. Out side of IF situations, can anyone go somewhere for early bloodwork? Is that how you find out you need it? I just spiraled on this topic a month ago when I tested low for prog. They tested me b/c I was spotting and cramping. Many docs will only draw for it if there are symptoms or reasons to suspect it might be low, but you can always ask. Prog supplementation is controversial in non-assisted pregnancies, because the jury is out on whether or not it's effective for preventing mc. However, it's not dangerous to take, so many docs prescribe it on the off chance that it might help. Is the thought that the progesterone is just delaying and inevitable mc?
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Post by Yogurt on Apr 21, 2018 11:31:22 GMT -6
@snow, thank you for the thoughtful reply. No, I have no reason to think there are any issues. I just lost my January pregnancy and am paranoid about it happening again. I was just wondering how women knew they needed to be taking progesterone, because I see it mentioned. It's just me spiraling with worry, lol
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Post by codypup on Apr 21, 2018 11:42:41 GMT -6
summerrain WTF. Your friends are being ridiculous. If they’re so upset that you’re pregnant, they can have their own damn bachelorette party by themselves.
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Post by expatmama11 on Apr 21, 2018 11:48:29 GMT -6
I just spiraled on this topic a month ago when I tested low for prog. They tested me b/c I was spotting and cramping. Many docs will only draw for it if there are symptoms or reasons to suspect it might be low, but you can always ask. Prog supplementation is controversial in non-assisted pregnancies, because the jury is out on whether or not it's effective for preventing mc. However, it's not dangerous to take, so many docs prescribe it on the off chance that it might help. Is the thought that the progesterone is just delaying and inevitable mc? My obgyn prescribed it for me when I was spotting before my CP in October. She didn’t test before prescribing but said it couldn’t hurt to take it. Fast forward to my first RE appointment and he said he doesn’t give it very often. He is in the thought that if something is wrong than he doesn’t believe it will “save” the pregnancy. Also said it doesn’t hurt to take it though and he said very common for it to be prescribed. Although I got pregnant without assistance the RE has been running my hcg, progesterone, and estradiol each week. (Ultrasounds too) If you give your OB a call they may do bloodwork for you. Mine did back in October and I didn’t even go in for a visit.
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Post by expatmama11 on Apr 21, 2018 11:52:35 GMT -6
@snow, thank you for the thoughtful reply. No, I have no reason to think there are any issues. I just lost my January pregnancy and am paranoid about it happening again. I was just wondering how women knew they needed to be taking progesterone, because I see it mentioned. It's just me spiraling with worry, lol I hear you. You could still ask for the test - a good number might give you peace of mind. I definitely liked knowing the HCG numbers more than progesterone. With my second CP I was ready after my first number came back crazy low. Some people feel better not knowing but I liked being prepared.
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Post by quijibo on Apr 21, 2018 16:06:10 GMT -6
I need a nap. I sent DD to FIL’s house for part of the day so I could deep clean. I managed two bedrooms and the bathroom before she was returned. And then I had the brilliant idea to make a massive salmon fillet for dinner. I cannot wait to collapse into my bed.
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Post by librariangirl on Apr 21, 2018 16:56:07 GMT -6
I feel like I’m going to pass out I’m so tired. I forgot HOW bad the exhaustion gets. I can barely stay awake with my son right now.
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