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Post by pixiepink24 on Mar 25, 2018 8:44:28 GMT -6
Guys, SO's brother now asked him to be his best man!!! Wtf?!? Do they seriously not understand what birthing a child means?! I'm so so upset. Now I'm feeling like a shitty person because it's "my fault" that we all most likely can't go and missing a very big and important event. 😭 Such a huge bummer. Can you plan to just send SO and DD? Unless the actual birth interrupts plans. I mean, I technically could, but then I'm here alone with a newborn and would really like him here to help since he already travels for a living. Possibly if baby was over a week old. It would also be for a few days since 4+ hours away and they would be wedding party. Plus, SO has never been alone with DD for more than a few hours and only a few times and she's never spent a night away. She won't even go to sleep for him. AND I don't feel comfortable with his drinking habits (especially at a wedding at a distillery) and caring for her. Just so many "ands" and concerns. 😕
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Post by pixiepink24 on Mar 25, 2018 8:48:39 GMT -6
Guys, SO's brother now asked him to be his best man!!! Wtf?!? Do they seriously not understand what birthing a child means?! I'm so so upset. Now I'm feeling like a shitty person because it's "my fault" that we all most likely can't go and missing a very big and important event. 😭 Such a huge bummer. Wedding date still isn't set, right? Definitely sounds like there needs to be a conversation that the more time they can give you guys after your due date the better chance you'll all make it and your SO can stand up with his brother. They actually booked the venue and date this weekend. It's for sure exactly one week after my estimated due date. SO says that his brother was all "as along as you can come", but two members of the wedding party being an unknown right up to the date of the wedding seems difficult. Especially with the money and planning involved. I'm just really sad about it. I've been waiting for their future wedding day for so long. I just can't believe they are doing it within 7 months of engagement 😱.
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Post by pixiepink24 on Mar 25, 2018 9:01:21 GMT -6
getdownpleaseOh man. I just thought about what an emotional wreck I was one week after DD. I ugly cried constantly because I just couldn't believe how fortunate I felt to be a mom. I can't imagine the emotions missing DD's first flower girl opportunity and SO's best man opportunity AND feeling like I'm missing the wedding I've been excited about for soooo long, right after giving birth. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Im way too emotional for this shit. Lol!
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Post by Nymeria on Mar 25, 2018 9:10:16 GMT -6
Wedding date still isn't set, right? Definitely sounds like there needs to be a conversation that the more time they can give you guys after your due date the better chance you'll all make it and your SO can stand up with his brother. They actually booked the venue and date this weekend. It's for sure exactly one week after my estimated due date. SO says that his brother was all "as along as you can come", but two members of the wedding party being an unknown right up to the date of the wedding seems difficult. Especially with the money and planning involved. I'm just really sad about it. I've been waiting for their future wedding day for so long. I just can't believe they are doing it within 7 months of engagement 😱. Ugh I didn't realize they had booked it. Sorry for all the stress.
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Post by tbirdlove on Mar 25, 2018 9:20:54 GMT -6
pixiepink24 I'd say your SO should try his best to be there, but you and DD are gonna have to be wild cards! You had talked about having your mom travel to the wedding with you - could she instead come and stay with you at home to help with DD and baby so at least your SO can be there for his brother? I think his being there is the most important since it's his immediate family. Try not to beat yourself up stressing over it - it is what it is and even if people are disappointed, they'll get over it in time. Hugs 😊
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Post by pixiepink24 on Mar 25, 2018 9:41:57 GMT -6
tbirdloveMy mom is a possibility but we've obviously never discussed it all since this is all in the last week or two. She takes care of my 8 year old niece (she lives with her) and works full time so it would just depend on if she could. She wouldn't ever stay at my house overnight though. Maybe just day visits. I'll be honest though, I have a lot of animosity towards my SO for always being gone and being gone at very serious and important times in my/our life. But we are in therapy so we are working on a lot of it. So I obviously will really struggle with him being gone right after I give birth, but it may just be something I have to get over, like his constant traveling. 🤷♀️
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