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Mar 15, 2018 11:59:59 GMT -6
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Post by wineallthetime on Mar 15, 2018 11:59:59 GMT -6
My in-laws are crazy, but they help us so much. They're pretty much always available to watch them. My parents are great, but they are about 45 min away and I always kinda feel like I'm inconveniencing them so I rarely ask them to watch the kids. They watch my nieces alllllll the time though.
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Post by slenle on Mar 15, 2018 12:00:20 GMT -6
My in laws are about 1 hour 45 minutes away and we see them often. They are great with the kids but I think they are jealous that my parents live closer now. For example, the kids stayed at their house last weekend. The other night at dinner, N told us “I want to live in *ILs town*”. I asked her why she said that and she said grandpa told her to say that. Not cool. Please don’t put ideas like that in her head. 😠
My parents live 15 minutes away and it’s gone better than I expected. We don’t see them too much, just enough. We only use them occasionally for babysitting, like when the kids can stay over night, because they don’t like to come to our house as much. So it’s usually just easier to have our babysitter come. I love her and want to keep her forever.
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Post by slenle on Mar 15, 2018 12:05:26 GMT -6
Also, hi!
I need you to tell me if I crossed the line because dh is not happy with me. I had a physical yesterday and asked my doc a few questions about how to get dh in for a physical because it’s been years and he has high bp. I told dh this and he went off about how it’s not my place to talk about it. It’s not like scheduled him an appt and snuck bp meds into his food. I simply asked questions because I’m concerned about his health. We talked over lunch and I think he’s over it, but I thought it was over the top.
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Post by flamingo on Mar 15, 2018 12:09:37 GMT -6
slenle no I don’t think you’re being OTP. I think your H was probably defensive/overly sensitive bc he *knows* he needs to make an appt but for whatever reason is dragging his feet.
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Post by jewels on Mar 15, 2018 12:09:51 GMT -6
I do not think this was over the top at all slenle. And if he's uncomfortable with the fact that you spoke to this dr then he can always just see someone else. Honestly, his reaction seems a bit over the top to me!
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Post by jewels on Mar 15, 2018 12:10:39 GMT -6
And I was thinking something similar to what flamingo said but I couldn't find the right words. So yeah, what she said.
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Post by guster on Mar 15, 2018 12:17:28 GMT -6
slenle no I don’t think you’re being OTP. I think your H was probably defensive/overly sensitive bc he *knows* he needs to make an appt but for whatever reason is dragging his feet. This. Not OTT at all
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Post by dapostrophe on Mar 15, 2018 12:17:35 GMT -6
I used to be Team "my ILs are the best", but my SIL (H's brother's wife) and MIL don't get along and it's a thing. As a result, I sometimes feel like H and I are expected to overcompensate so MILs feelings don't get hurt. She really wants to help out, buy stuff for the kids, do family things etc., but sometimes it's too much and she oversteps boundaries a lot. She's also gotten way more passive aggressive over the years, and she kinda babies my H like he's not a grown ass man or something. As much as I could use extra help sometimes, I think she would drive me absolutely nuts if we lived closer.
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Post by lahdeedah on Mar 15, 2018 12:27:30 GMT -6
Hi!
Is it Friday yet?! I need the weekend...
Re: clothes. M is in that weird stage where I’m not sure what size to buy him. He needs to be out of toddler sizes because of his height more so , but a regular 4 or 4/5 is way too big in most brands. Shirts I have better luck with, but his waist is so small. Adjustable waist pants for LYFE!
Re: help. I have pretty good help on both sides, but the problem is we aren’t close to anybody. My mom I have to tread lightly with. She gets easily stressed out and I think it’s more my nieces that are at fault. They are high strung and my mom can’t handle them in larger doses and even though my kid is as mild as they come, I think she has anxiety about keeping kids in general because of it. Like when she was here for Thanksgiving break, she knew she would be watching M Monday because we had work and M2 would be in school. No problem. Well that Sunday, M2 had a fever and I knew it was probably just his ears, but we we considering dosing him with Tylenol and sending him to school that morning until MH could pick him up after lunch to bring him in to the pedi. My mom never offered to keep them both Monday, I think because she was worried about having them both for just a few hours. I wasn’t mad or anything, but it would have been nice.
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Post by lahdeedah on Mar 15, 2018 12:27:54 GMT -6
That was really long, sorry!!😬
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Post by vino on Mar 15, 2018 12:29:50 GMT -6
slenle I can totally see how it was kind of an innocent conversation on your part; but, and I may be the outlier here, talking to the Dr about his health and your concerns may have been too much. I do think that flamingo is right where he got more defensive than maybe he should have because he knows he has to go, but I'd leave it to him to address concerns with the Dr.
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Post by nam2013 on Mar 15, 2018 12:32:02 GMT -6
nam2013 are you near NL-Hoofddorp? If that's too triangulating, let me know and I'll PM you You’ve got mail 😉!
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Post by nam2013 on Mar 15, 2018 12:35:14 GMT -6
slenle doesn’t feel like you crossed a line in my book 🤷🏼♀️. flamingo said it better!
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Post by wedding on Mar 15, 2018 12:35:27 GMT -6
slenle MH hasn’t been to the Dr in five plus years and really needs to go. He gets weird about it and would be annoyed if I talked to my Dr about him. It would make him feel like I don’t think he’s a grown man that can manage himself (although clearly he can’t). While I’m concerned, I’ve had to learn to let it go.
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Post by vino on Mar 15, 2018 12:35:29 GMT -6
Re: help. My in laws have met B once when he was about 7 months old, and havent met J. My FIL died within a week of J being born and MIL is awful so I dont see her making any sort of effort. SIL is great and we make a point to fly her out, or fly there a couple times a year, she was here for B's birthday last year and she is so great with the kids.
My Mom, as we know, is a little nuts but she loves on my kids like crazy. I dont see her being able to take both of them until J is older, but any help is great and the kids have a good bond with her.
Totally sucks, because I grew up with an amazing childhood full of cousins and extended family and I hate that my kids wont have those relationships or memories.
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Post by dapostrophe on Mar 15, 2018 12:40:53 GMT -6
Waves hi vino! I have'nt caught all the way up on yesterday yet, but I wanted to welcome you back! I had a big extended family and lots of cousins too, and I also get sad that my kids won't experience that.
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Post by vino on Mar 15, 2018 12:42:58 GMT -6
Waves hi vino ! I have'nt caught all the way up on yesterday yet, but I wanted to welcome you back! I had a big extended family and lots of cousins too, and I also get sad that my kids won't experience that. Hey lady! How's it going!? I see that you've started nesting and it's brought you to your basement, how's the purge and organization going? I love me some purging and organizing.
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Post by nam2013 on Mar 15, 2018 12:44:43 GMT -6
Re: clothes similar issues to lahdeedah toddler section is to small, 4/5 is often to big especially in shirt. He wears very stretchy skinny jeans on which the waist can be adjusted in the biggest size Zara has on the young kids (up to 4) department. They are getting to short and I don’t know what to do! Often jeans/pants from the bigger kids department are way less stretchy and that doesn’t seem comfortable for him while playing... Re: help I’m very fortunate. My parents live around the corner and watch both kids every Friday and most date nights, pt meetings etc. The four of them are in love with each other. My in-laws watch both kids on Tuesday. My aunt lives 5 doors down and watched ds Thursday morning until he was 2.5 (from that point on Dh started working 4 days iso 5) and now watches both kids frequently. My sister and my niece are also babysit from time to time.
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Post by cagoldi on Mar 15, 2018 12:45:00 GMT -6
slenle no I don’t think you’re being OTP. I think your H was probably defensive/overly sensitive bc he *knows* he needs to make an appt but for whatever reason is dragging his feet. Exactly this.
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Post by cagoldi on Mar 15, 2018 12:47:28 GMT -6
slenle MH hasn’t been to the Dr in five plus years and really needs to go. He gets weird about it and would be annoyed if I talked to my Dr about him. It would make him feel like I don’t think he’s a grown man that can manage himself (although clearly he can’t). While I’m concerned, I’ve had to learn to let it go. Pete hasn't been since I was pregnant with Dude. I talk to him about how he needs to go but he definitely would not appreciate me talking to the doctor about it.
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Post by jewels on Mar 15, 2018 12:47:59 GMT -6
nam2013 back at ya! vino, sands42, it makes me so sad those that have IL or parents that aren't interested in the kids. My ILs are not good with the kids, won't watch them, etc. But they make an effort to visit 3 or 4 times a year and make us feel incredibly welcome in their home. Yours are missing out on some awesome kids!!
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Post by nam2013 on Mar 15, 2018 12:54:26 GMT -6
Also hi! I just jumped right it today. Busy loooong day. Sitting on the couch desperate for coffee, but to tired to get up #fwp. Kids are sleeping and I’m thinking I might just go up myself too.
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Post by jewels on Mar 15, 2018 12:54:30 GMT -6
S is on the shorter side and skinny but thick in the butt and thighs (sorry kid) so a lot of the skinnier pants just fit tightly for him. He is pretty much a solid 4 but does better in sweatpants so he has more room. Some of the older hand me down jeans that are cut roomier in the hips work for him too but a lot of the newer skinnier cut just does not work for him!
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Post by nam2013 on Mar 15, 2018 12:56:13 GMT -6
Anybody else without Facebook feeling a little jealous of all the talk about how cute mini- wineallthetime is?! We Facebook-avoiding-people need to see more pics too!!!
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Post by nam2013 on Mar 15, 2018 12:57:42 GMT -6
peachsmama that must have been devastating for your cousin. So happy for them that this lo is healthy, congrats!
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Post by trtlcrzy on Mar 15, 2018 12:58:57 GMT -6
lahdeedah have you tried crazy 8 on m? A friend of mine with skinny boys swears by their pants.
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Mar 15, 2018 13:16:54 GMT -6
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Post by wineallthetime on Mar 15, 2018 13:16:54 GMT -6
Anybody else without Facebook feeling a little jealous of all the talk about how cute mini- wineallthetime is?! We Facebook-avoiding-people need to see more pics too!!! Your wish is my commant, I'll post a couple!
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Post by peachsmama on Mar 15, 2018 13:22:53 GMT -6
One of our drivers just called me and chewed me out for "stealing from my pocket, it's against the law!" We argued back and forth and what he was saying made 0 sense. I finally just told him good bye and hung up since we were getting no where. He called me back 15 minutes later and apologized. Apparently he can't use a calculator correctly..
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Post by mwhip on Mar 15, 2018 13:23:39 GMT -6
I don't think I said HI this morning, I'm pretty far behind at work due to overall lack of motivation (thanks time change) and was trying to get caught up, but alas, here I am, giving up all hope of my inbox being cleaned up!
Re: clothes, Evie is in a Small or 6. I think we will be going up a shoe size (to 12) soon. I have a feeling all the shorts I kept from last summer will be going in the donate pile pretty soon!
Re: help, all of our parents live close, my dad, who is 45 minutes away, is the farthest. My mom, dad/stepmom, and FIL/SMIL all watch Evie at least one day a week, MIL watches her when the regular dates get messed up due to vacations or some other reason. They beg me to have her stay the night with them. We are very fortunate having all the parents so close.
Re: Dr appts, obviously my H is good about going, he has to see his cardiologist annually for a test required to be able to drive his work truck and to continue his meds, plus his knee doctor, he goes to the doctor more than me and E combined! Prior to his first heart attack, he wasn't great about going though. It took a life changing situation to get him to listen to his body and realize he's getting older and needs to see someone regularly.
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Post by wineallthetime on Mar 15, 2018 13:29:58 GMT -6
Poof
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