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Post by snoopmommymom on Jun 6, 2017 18:31:13 GMT -6
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Post by flamingo on Jun 6, 2017 18:32:02 GMT -6
I spent the afternoon at the mall with the kids. They love the mall. We have a routine of what we do. Dunkin, eat, lego store to build, Disney store to play, Barnes and noble to play with train track, food court for carousel. Today we also stopped by a go cart track to watch people race. Sometimes we also go into Dave and Busters and pretend to play games. I'm pooped just typing all of it. Ahhhh, the ol' pretend to play games trick. My kids love it too and don't understand they aren't actually playing. Hehehehe. Hahaha! have done.
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Post by flamingo on Jun 6, 2017 18:36:18 GMT -6
sing2phins the shitty moms are the ones I see in the news doing horrible, unconscionable things to their children. No matter how bad it gets, none of us are that! You're just in a rough patch and your kids are testing boundaries and pushing buttons. They're good kids and you're a good mom. Hang in there. Also, if you need to buy yourself some time one night this week, have the kids help you make this. Once we got it mixed up it kept Bradley quiet and occupied for a good while today...a half hour maybe? It was delightful.
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Post by slenle on Jun 6, 2017 18:46:45 GMT -6
Before our trip, I was down to nursing h about twice a day and for very short amount of time. Now that we're back, he has showed little interest, maybe for 30 seconds and done. Today he didn't nurse at all. I'm fine with it, a little sad that it's over, but it's okay. I told dh that I think it's over and his response.. "guess he doesn't want you anymore, huh"
Jerk. How about "thanks for the hard work and nourishing our child for the last 14 months?" So now I'm pouting in bed giving him the silent treatment.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 6, 2017 18:51:06 GMT -6
Before our trip, I was down to nursing h about twice a day and for very short amount of time. Now that we're back, he has showed little interest, maybe for 30 seconds and done. Today he didn't nurse at all. I'm fine with it, a little sad that it's over, but it's okay. I told dh that I think it's over and his response.. "guess he doesn't want you anymore, huh" Jerk. How about "thanks for the hard work and nourishing our child for the last 14 months?" So now I'm pouting in bed giving him the silent treatment. Wtf. I would too.
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Post by csho on Jun 6, 2017 19:04:06 GMT -6
I love how our peachsmama is the only one in that "worst jobs ever" thread on parenting who likes working at a bank. It's pretty much winning worst job ever. Our girl is over there being a champion for bank customers everywhere.
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Post by vino on Jun 6, 2017 19:05:17 GMT -6
I cannot with these children. At what point do I just accept that I'm a shitty mom? Girl, survival is the name of the game. Especially with these 3.5 year olds they are too much at the best of times. Hugs friend, tomorrow is a new day.
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Post by vino on Jun 6, 2017 19:06:28 GMT -6
Ps... I don't know who some of you are... I know I'm late to the party here but can we maybe make thread in the private board about it? I didn't see one yet, but I didn't want to start one if it already existed somewhere. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk KEEP UP SANDS! ...just kidding, ❤️ You
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Post by lfig on Jun 6, 2017 19:07:28 GMT -6
So I *thought* my AC was fixed after the guy left today. But it wasn't. So I texted him at about 4:00 and told him. He is here now at 8:00 to get it right hopefully this time. He found more mouse chewed wires that he missed earlier.
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Post by csho on Jun 6, 2017 19:11:05 GMT -6
I potentially have news, but I don't want to jinx it so I'm not going to say anything just yet!! But fingers crossed! Woohoo xolastunicornxoSo my DH is displeased with the contract with the builder. This is a problem because DH has no social skills and is totally oblivious to his lack of tact in conversation. He is always the smartest person in the room and he will never learn that it's not OK to point that out. People don't like it. All real estate agents everywhere hate us.
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Post by csho on Jun 6, 2017 19:14:01 GMT -6
I cannot with these children. At what point do I just accept that I'm a shitty mom? Don't even. You're fucking awesome, we all know this.
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Post by csho on Jun 6, 2017 19:16:06 GMT -6
We got another box from MIL so I ate Polish candy for dinner. It's the best. I'm just gonna pretend to be Polish now so I can take ownership and responsibility for this culinary gift to humanity.
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Post by cheeksmum on Jun 6, 2017 19:19:53 GMT -6
sing2phins, you're a great mom! If our kids don't push us and test us then they'll never learn boundaries and rules. Some days are going to be harder than others (lately more hard then easy days) but it's all a phase. The smiles on their faces in all the pictures tell a story of kids that know their loved and cared for. You're awesome.
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 6, 2017 19:19:56 GMT -6
sing2phins you are most definitely not a shitty mom! I'm sorry you're having a rough time/ we're here if you need us. wedding I love that colour! slenle that's a shitty thing your h said, I'm sorry. You're a amazing mom for bf-Ing for 14 months. Give him all the silent treatment he needs to realise this.
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Post by sing2phins on Jun 6, 2017 19:21:22 GMT -6
Didn't mean to post and run, sorry.
It's not just a bad day. It's every day. Every day I say I won't yell or lose my temper and every day I do. I spend so much time frustrated and infuriated that I'm exhausted all the time. But it's no wonder my kid can't control herself; look at the kind of example I'm setting.
She does not listen. She gives no fucks about anything we say. We'll say, "Please don't do that," and she'll just go right ahead and do it. She will not stay in time out. Yesterday at school, she and her friend took their other friend's artwork and TORE IT UP IN FRONT OF HER FACE AND LAUGHED WHILE THEY DID IT. I am mortified and heartbroken. At every conference, they tell me she's a leader, and I always ask if she's kind - if the other kids are following her, I want to be sure she's not being mean. And until yesterday, they always said she was.
But I honestly can't be surprised - she straight up laughs in our faces when we reprimand her. I feel like I'm raising one of those kids who grows up to go on a Dr. Phil episode about out of control teens.
I'm at the end of my rope. I'm overwhelmed and unhappy in pretty much every area of my life.
PDQ, just in case.
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Post by cheeksmum on Jun 6, 2017 19:25:57 GMT -6
sing2phins, I held the door shut while N screamed and slammed into it the other day. Then yesterday he ran around our daycare providers backyard with a toy teasing C while C ran after him crying. Three year olds aren't nice.
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Post by cheeksmum on Jun 6, 2017 19:29:15 GMT -6
Have you been able to talk with anyone? Or can you look into counselling? Maybe even look into phone counselling sessions?
I'm only asking because I was feeling very much the same (and still do often) but started therapy back in December and it's slowly improving and is helping.
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Post by vino on Jun 6, 2017 19:29:43 GMT -6
Sing, M and B are 2 peas in a pod, B doesn't listen worth a shit. I've actually given him the silent treatment more than once because i just cannot repeat myself one.more.time.
All I hear all day is my voice nattering at these littles and to say it is exhausting is an understatement. I hope it'll get better.
Someone tell me it'll get better.
Bueller.Bueller.
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Post by vino on Jun 6, 2017 19:32:54 GMT -6
Sing. You deserve to be happy. You are a smart, beautiful caring person that is having a shit time right now.
When you're ready to rally we're here. You have a whole group of ladies that'll support you in any way we can. Anytime. We love you and we want you to be happy.
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Post by cheeksmum on Jun 6, 2017 19:32:56 GMT -6
vino, it's just a phase... and it will end one day. (Or just change into a different phase...) That's what I keep telling myself at least. 😐
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 6, 2017 19:39:22 GMT -6
I love how our peachsmama is the only one in that "worst jobs ever" thread on parenting who likes working at a bank. It's pretty much winning worst job ever. Our girl is over there being a champion for bank customers everywhere. I love banking! Idk what's wrong with me lol.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 6, 2017 19:40:41 GMT -6
I potentially have news, but I don't want to jinx it so I'm not going to say anything just yet!! But fingers crossed! Woohoo xolastunicornxoSo my DH is displeased with the contract with the builder. This is a problem because DH has no social skills and is totally oblivious to his lack of tact in conversation. He is always the smartest person in the room and he will never learn that it's not OK to point that out. People don't like it. All real estate agents everywhere hate us. You're married to Sheldon Cooper?
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Post by csho on Jun 6, 2017 19:46:53 GMT -6
sing2phins, I took a parenting class this past fall when I disappeared from you guys. Hard times then, my dad died, my son had newly discovered medical problems... Anyway, DH and I were talking to a child psychologist about all of our problems and she invited us to join this parenting class that she teaches each quarter called The Incredible Years. It's designed for parents with toddlers with ASD but the concepts work for all children, (We were the only people there without an ASD child). It's was the closest thing to a textbook for parents I've ever seen. The idea is that you basically never say "no" or punish your children. You only comment on good behavior and this eventually extinguishes less desired behavior. You focus only on positive opposites. It made a huge difference for us, we never yell and we've never needed a single time out since taking that class. I think you can buy the book online, I highly recommend it.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 6, 2017 19:52:23 GMT -6
So of course, right after I'm flying high after nailing my interview, I find out my son's feeding therapist is moving to Sioux Falls. He loves her so much You can just follow her here
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Post by csho on Jun 6, 2017 19:56:35 GMT -6
Woohoo xolastunicornxo So my DH is displeased with the contract with the builder. This is a problem because DH has no social skills and is totally oblivious to his lack of tact in conversation. He is always the smartest person in the room and he will never learn that it's not OK to point that out. People don't like it. All real estate agents everywhere hate us. You're married to Sheldon Cooper? I really am. There's an episode where Sheldon explains Schroedinger's Cat to Penny to illustrate a point. That exact thing has happened to me. DH hates holidays and gift giving, social occasions, other human life. He's also a terrible driver and I drive him around. He doesn't understand sarcasm and needs a fucking sign. Last year at Christmas, his boss sarcastically joked that if you don't come to the office xmas party you should work instead. DH came home all excited about having the option to work instead of attend the party and he did go to work by himself. Said it was the best thing ever.
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Post by sing2phins on Jun 6, 2017 19:59:36 GMT -6
Like, how am I supposed to never say no? And not put her in time out for, say, hitting her brother?
I'll look into it, because I would love for every day not to be a fight from literally wake up til bedtime, but I'm skeptical, tbh.
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Post by jlaur21 on Jun 6, 2017 20:02:26 GMT -6
sing2phins, I'd say 99% of my days with T are the same way. I'm emotionally exhausted all the time because I feel like I fail all day long. Just know you aren't alone.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jun 6, 2017 20:03:41 GMT -6
Sorry I posted and ran earlier xolastunicornxo. Yes, I do have an iPhone, and it appears you figured out how to gif. If I had a way to take a video of me gifing I would do it and send it to you. sing2phins are you still taking your ppd medication? Maybe it's time to talk to your doctor again about dosage. I'm sorry you're having a difficult time with M. H has her days when she is a terror so I'm right there with you.
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 6, 2017 20:06:46 GMT -6
sing2phins we had a problem for a few weeks. I know it is 1000 times harder because you have another lo. But he was getting bigger reaction from doing bad things so he did them. So we just made an even bigger deal about doing good things. For instance today he was better at daycare then he was yesterday. So I made it a point to say good job buddy. Mommy is really proud of you. Let's go home and watch DuckTales.
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Post by jewels on Jun 6, 2017 20:07:04 GMT -6
Before our trip, I was down to nursing h about twice a day and for very short amount of time. Now that we're back, he has showed little interest, maybe for 30 seconds and done. Today he didn't nurse at all. I'm fine with it, a little sad that it's over, but it's okay. I told dh that I think it's over and his response.. "guess he doesn't want you anymore, huh" Jerk. How about "thanks for the hard work and nourishing our child for the last 14 months?" So now I'm pouting in bed giving him the silent treatment. This is so something mh would do and think he was being funny. Nope... not funny.
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