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Post by redandblue on Jan 23, 2018 21:14:35 GMT -6
So I will be the lone person who thinks it's okay to add on the invite what the possible restrictions for food would be, so those bringing items can make an informed decision if they chose to be inclusive in their treat. So maybe I'm down the middle on this vote. Do not dictate (I hate nothing more than being told what to do), but give people all the information (if there are people with allergies or sensitivities, then I would want to know if I could accommodate this). I would never want someone to feel excluded, or to have to feel like suck it up buttercup. If I know people at GF or have food sensitivities, I want them to feel welcome as well. They can't help their sensitivities. But also as the parent of a child with sensitivities I would make sure they had something to ensure they felt included,
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Post by shellyr on Jan 23, 2018 21:15:55 GMT -6
easternshoregirl, shoot, sorry to hear she is breech. Hoping our girl turns without the version. Fingers crossed!
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Post by redandblue on Jan 23, 2018 21:17:45 GMT -6
I have had a roller coaster of a day today. We had our final walk through of the house, and I cried it is so gorgeous! Like beyond my expectations! Then got to work, which is ridiculous right now. Had a late meeting, and then got a text from DS1 that he lost, yet another job. To say my emotions are ALL over the place, is an understatement. Fuck being a grown up. Ugh. And I feel guilty that I have fallen off my whole 30, and am drinking wine. Whinny pity party of one over here!
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Post by armpants on Jan 24, 2018 4:24:25 GMT -6
redandblue like for the house. Totally understandable that you're feeling all over the place with everything going on. Hugs, give yourself a little grace about the whole 30. You're human.
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Post by armpants on Jan 24, 2018 4:31:08 GMT -6
Also regarding the food, I think the setting dictates a lot about how many exceptions are to be made. Someone coming to my house, I'm 100% altering what I fix for them. Pot luck or larger gathering, maybe. And I'm honestly less sympathetic to this lady for judging what jedi eats and feeds her kids. Make me feel bad, fat chance I'm going to go out of my way. Yes that makes me terribly petty, but it's honest. Also, in party/pot luck settings I'm very hesitant to eat a lot of things because a lot of people don't know how to really check everything or think of cross contamination. Finally, booarogue I reserve the right to give you shit about pretty much anything 😉😂 We're just that kind of friends.
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Jan 24, 2018 6:20:34 GMT -6
Back at work. Started the day off with DD latte. The kids were happy to get donuts.
Here's to hoping today is better.
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Post by jedi on Jan 24, 2018 6:41:51 GMT -6
Back at work. Started the day off with DD latte. The kids were happy to get donuts. Here's to hoping today is better. I read that as dear daughter latte and I was super confused. 😂
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Post by jedi on Jan 24, 2018 6:42:13 GMT -6
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Post by coconutbacon on Jan 24, 2018 6:57:15 GMT -6
booarogue, I hope today is better than yesterday. Poppy will grab my phone, or try to close my laptop, or grab my notebook and pen when she wants my attention and I’m working too. It’s hard.
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Post by coconutbacon on Jan 24, 2018 6:59:21 GMT -6
@shakeotoffgirl, I hope today is better for you too!
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Jan 24, 2018 7:02:25 GMT -6
So I will be the lone person who thinks it's okay to add on the invite what the possible restrictions for food would be, so those bringing items can make an informed decision if they chose to be inclusive in their treat. So maybe I'm down the middle on this vote. Do not dictate (I hate nothing more than being told what to do), but give people all the information (if there are people with allergies or sensitivities, then I would want to know if I could accommodate this). I would never want someone to feel excluded, or to have to feel like suck it up buttercup. If I know people at GF or have food sensitivities, I want them to feel welcome as well. They can't help their sensitivities. But also as the parent of a child with sensitivities I would make sure they had something to ensure they felt included, I get this and can sit on this bench with 1 butt check. I mean, I am not an insensitive bitch. And yes, if i know you are a vegetarian or gf and are coming over to my house for dinner or a get together, I will definitely have something for you to eat. Even a dinner party at my place I would do my best to accommodate all guests. But when it's a social gathering for an association/school/work/moms group I feel you can't expect to be caterer too. Planning for a large group you have to be smart and try to use common sense. I mean between allergies, food sensitives, gmo's, vegetarians, whole 30 diet, keto diet, low carb diet, atkins diet, and any other eating restriction out there - how the heck do you satisfy all of those?? You don't. You let everyone offer to bring something, and I'd think that if you had some sort of restriction you'd make something that you can eat and that you think other people will enjoy too. And stay away from what you personally don't eat for whatever reason. BUT back to jedi's problem - this lady wants to take all food away during this valentines day party due to her kids sensitivities. how is that fair to the other kids or parents attending. why should they cater to that one family? why can't she bring something her kids enjoy, can eat and she can share with others? i mean the family with the nut allergy will bring something that doesn't contain nuts - hell we haven't heard that this parent is complaining about bringing food. There's better ways to handle it then demanding no food be brought because my kid can't eat wheat. or i don't let my kid eat candy so no food for anyone. that is just dumb to me.
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Jan 24, 2018 7:03:13 GMT -6
i told you i have strong feels on this.
i also used to plan a ton of meetings that i had to organize all the food for. like tons.
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Jan 24, 2018 7:04:02 GMT -6
booarogue i'm happy to see you on here again. I hope you and W have a great day. I love your kid man. he's awesome. and he just loves you, enjoy it while you can!
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Post by booarogue on Jan 24, 2018 7:06:05 GMT -6
Whoa buddy that does sound like a roller coaster of a day redandblue. I'm so happy that your house is more than you even expected! The rest is rough and I'm sorry your son is still struggling. I hope things start going on the upswing for him. And I hope your job calms down.
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Post by booarogue on Jan 24, 2018 7:16:16 GMT -6
I'm on both sides of the bench. I'm in the same mom's club that jedi is in (different chapter obviously) and last year we were simply told food and non food acceptable and try to get treats that aren't super unhealthy (too sugary). There were also snacks at many gatherings I've been to and I think it's up to each parent to monitor their kids food. At the Halloween one for example there were all types of candy my 1 year old was not about to get all jacked up on so we just guided him towards the healthier stuff. We usually say what we're brining before hand so people will have an idea what's available and that helps. In my own home when I have guests over I try to provide as much variety as possible (gf, vegetarian, vegan, halal, and nut allergies) are just some dietary restrictions in my friends and family. But no one goes hungry from my house. In a big club like this explain to your children that they have sensitivities to food so they can't eat everything available but that doesn't mean they can't eat anything delicious. And then make the most delicious recipe you have for them. Like RunsforWineandCarbs I'll sit on each bench with a butt cheek. Where this gets me is that this mom doesn't sound very accommodating. It's all or nothing and that's very hard to manage.
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Post by jedi on Jan 24, 2018 7:18:11 GMT -6
I should add that this party is like 1.5 hr long. The snack we are doing is fruit. What this moms is recommending is the treats that people bring to share and pass out with valentine cards be non food. I still think leaving it open is fine
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Post by Pizzaslut on Jan 24, 2018 7:18:19 GMT -6
Ugh J was up in the middle of the night with a fever. I knew he seemed off last night. He's a bit congested with a cough. Would it be stupid to take him to the doctor even though he just got the fever. First, I am paranoid about the flu especially being pregnant. Second, every time he's had a fever in the last year+ he's had an ear infection except one time when he had HFM. Also, when he does have an ear infection his fever tends to spike very high (over 104 in many cases). I do feel silly going for just a cold though.
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Post by jedi on Jan 24, 2018 7:19:41 GMT -6
And and and most kids aren’t even going to eat these treats there.
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Post by booarogue on Jan 24, 2018 7:20:59 GMT -6
We ate at the table like civilized people today. When my back was hurt w and I got in the habit of eating in front of the TV and let me tell ya that is a hard one to break.😂 ^civilized
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Post by booarogue on Jan 24, 2018 7:27:04 GMT -6
I should add that this party is like 1.5 hr long. The snack we are doing is fruit. What this moms is recommending is the treats that people bring to share and pass out with valentine cards be non food. I still think leaving it open is fine I'm still camp deal with it. W got a bunch of stuff he wasn't allowed for a variety of reasons (choking hazards, too sugary, annoyed me 😆) and it was just explained to him that he gets what he gets. Maybe I'm an asshole.
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Post by jedi on Jan 24, 2018 7:28:37 GMT -6
Ugh J was up in the middle of the night with a fever. I knew he seemed off last night. He's a bit congested with a cough. Would it be stupid to take him to the doctor even though he just got the fever. First, I am paranoid about the flu especially being pregnant. Second, every time he's had a fever in the last year+ he's had an ear infection except one time when he had HFM. Also, when he does have an ear infection his fever tends to spike very high (over 104 in many cases). I do feel silly going for just a cold though. I would call and ask. I would say no. It’s not silly. The flu is deadly this year.
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Post by jedi on Jan 24, 2018 7:29:15 GMT -6
I should add that this party is like 1.5 hr long. The snack we are doing is fruit. What this moms is recommending is the treats that people bring to share and pass out with valentine cards be non food. I still think leaving it open is fine I'm still camp deal with it. W got a bunch of stuff he wasn't allowed for a variety of reasons (choking hazards, too sugary, annoyed me 😆) and it was just explained to him that he gets what he gets. Maybe I'm an asshole. I think it makes you normal. 😂
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Post by coconutbacon on Jan 24, 2018 7:38:08 GMT -6
And I’m in the armpants camp re: food and parties. I’m going to do as much as I can to accommodate guests that I am providing all of the food for (within reason— when I asked about food restrictions when I got married, bc I wanted to get a GF count, know about any other allergies, etc, I had a few people respond that they were on low salt/ low fat/ low carb etc diets. That seemed a little extra.) But for a potluck, people are going to bring what they bring. They just should label everything well. Also, I would assume that for this mom’s’ group, three all talk and most are aware of the restrictions for the one mom’s kids. I’m sure at least some will accommodate but it doesn’t need to be dictated.
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Jan 24, 2018 7:45:27 GMT -6
I should add that this party is like 1.5 hr long. The snack we are doing is fruit. What this moms is recommending is the treats that people bring to share and pass out with valentine cards be non food. I still think leaving it open is fine OMG tell her to get over herself already! All of this over fruit ffs?!!! I think you should give her kids ice cream cups. ::troll::
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Jan 24, 2018 7:46:58 GMT -6
coconutbacon, it makes me sad you won't cater to my low carb diet. we can't be friends.
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Jan 24, 2018 7:47:25 GMT -6
jedi - i am getting pissy over this shit. that lady is extra. she is now eating crackers for me.
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Jan 24, 2018 7:48:37 GMT -6
Pizzaslut, not crazy to want to take him in. I usually take in first thing in the morning hoping they tell me it's nothing and the kid can go to dc so i can go to work. that way I already have a doctors note and the kid won't get sent home. plusalso, i don't want my kid to suffer if they can be medicated for a quick recovery.
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Post by coconutbacon on Jan 24, 2018 7:49:40 GMT -6
coconutbacon, it makes me sad you won't cater to my low carb diet. we can't be friends. Lol. I totally would if you were coming for dinner. But I served fancy pizza (w/ vegan and gf options) at my wedding and I was not going to do cauliflower crusts!
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Post by coconutbacon on Jan 24, 2018 9:07:42 GMT -6
And I was at work for less than an hour when daycare called and said Poppy seemed off and she has a temp of 100.7 so I need to pick her up. I hope it’s by the flu. I have an appointment for her at the pediatrician at 4
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Jan 24, 2018 9:17:03 GMT -6
coconutbacon, FX it's not the flu. i hope it's something easily taken care of!
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