Week of Jan 8th Randoms

[Pizzaslut]

Betweenthelines, east PA or west PA? It sounds like you are living your best life!

[jedi]

Good hiimjamie

[Betweenthelines]

Jan 11, 2018 7:56:29 GMT -6 Pizzaslut said:

Betweenthelines , east PA or west PA? It sounds like you are living your best life!

East PA. I'm looking forward to a weekend away in the mountains.

[CestLaVie]

yay! good luck hiimjamie!

[CestLaVie]

Jan 9, 2018 19:23:26 GMT -6 Peekaru said:

Do you (general you) ever worry that the only memories that the kids will have of you is you screaming at them?


Asking for a friend

for all my fellow yellers there is a really good thread on parenting with commiseration and lots of good tips I am going to try!


howeverithappened.proboards.com/thread/11087/breaking-yelling-cycle

[45thparallel]

Jan 11, 2018 10:06:58 GMT -6 CestLaVie said:

Jan 9, 2018 19:23:26 GMT -6 Peekaru said:

Do you (general you) ever worry that the only memories that the kids will have of you is you screaming at them?


Asking for a friend

for all my fellow yellers there is a really good thread on parenting with commiseration and lots of good tips I am going to try!


howeverithappened.proboards.com/thread/11087/breaking-yelling-cycle

I need this. I haven’t read it yet but I will! I’m not a New Years résolution person but I have committed to control my yelling. I have a quote that I think when a situation arises where I want to yell:

Yelling silences your message so speak quietly so your children can hear your words not your voice.

My mantra is: using my words not my voice.

[CestLaVie]

45thparallel, the funniest part is that a lot of people are having success singing daniel tiger to themselves

[jedi]

We talk a bit about this topic in my ecfe class (yelling) they suggest the following

1. Acknowledge the emption
2. Empathize
3. Tell them what they can do

Let’s say Ethan hits Isaac because he’s mad because Isaac stole his toy . This is how They suggest addressing this.

“Ethan. You look like you are feeling mad. It’s really frustrating when Isaac steals your toys. Hands are for high fives and nice touches.

If Isaac gets frustrated that Ethan keeps messing up his legos. Isaac could say, “Ethan. You look really happy and like you are having when you play with me. It makes me feel sad when you ruin my legos. You can help me build a tower if you want.”

They also suggest replacing no with either ohhhhh or Mmmmmmmm

The biggest take away is helping toddlers identify emotions.

Of course if a child is doing something not safe eg running into the street then you stop the unsafe behavior right away.

It’s also suggestions to get down on their level. I’ll knee in front of Ethan and take his hands and look him in the eye when I do this.

[jedi]

Instead of telling them what hey can’t do, you tell them what they can do.

[nenarene]

Jan 10, 2018 7:26:11 GMT -6 Pizzaslut said:

J wants to put on his socks by himself but can barely get it over his toe. But I can't help so we sit there for SEVERAL MINUTES while he attempts it. And then finally he gives in and says Mama help.

Oh gosh this sounds familiar.  We are squarely in the "I DO IT!" faze.  Thankfully my kid gives up after 2 seconds and demands his slave

SPOILER: Click to show

that's me

to do it.

[nenarene]

Jan 10, 2018 13:41:46 GMT -6 jedi said:

CestLaVie does this help?

I'm reading backwards and this has me speechless, lol.  No clue what it's in reference too and not sure I want to know.  hahaha

[flippinchica]

jedi speaking of discussions on the main board, the other day they weee talking about ADHD meds and the poster (who was taking them meds herself) said that it initially decreased her appetite but that effect was only temporary.

[jedi]

Jan 11, 2018 11:30:07 GMT -6 flippinchica said:

jedi speaking of discussions on the main board, the other day they weee talking about ADHD meds and the poster (who was taking them meds herself) said that it initially decreased her appetite but that effect was only temporary.

That’s good to know.

[Peekaru]

Jan 11, 2018 10:06:58 GMT -6 CestLaVie said:

Jan 9, 2018 19:23:26 GMT -6 Peekaru said:

Do you (general you) ever worry that the only memories that the kids will have of you is you screaming at them?


Asking for a friend

for all my fellow yellers there is a really good thread on parenting with commiseration and lots of good tips I am going to try!


howeverithappened.proboards.com/thread/11087/breaking-yelling-cycle

Thanks!

[Peekaru]

I know part of the issue is that daddy is back to working more, and mom is charge at home more; which has been a change since I’ve been recovering.

Dad threatens “big trouble” all the time, and I’ve yet to see the big trouble.

Mom asks twice and then implements, so the kids lose their ghatdammed minds.

It was a rough night, in particular. But I am going to start singing Rolling Stones to the kids now.

[RunsforWineandCarbs]

Peekaru, me too. and i am going to force them to watch daniel tiger so those songs will work.

[RunsforWineandCarbs]

im sick of yelling.

so is my throat.

[armpants]

I need to get H to get more on board with no yelling. And of course we differ on what constitutes yelling.

My parents fought a lot, especially towards the end of their marriage. As a result I really hate yelling. M is proving to be sensitive to volume levels when speaking as well.

I wonder what it will take to get H to sing Daniel Tiger to himself 😂

[Peekaru]

Imagine dragons is on the radio, and it makes me wish I was better at computers. I’d make you all videos of their songs over video games.

Especially coconutbacon

[coconutbacon]

Lol. Thanks Peekaru!

[coconutbacon]

Fx for you with the job armpants!

[coconutbacon]

Congrats hiimjamie!

[hiimjamie]

One more w my A15 baby! Jake did AMAZINGLY well he was so good with Nik and told him he loved him and have him kisses. It was the sweetest. 😂

[jedi]

Congrats hiimjamie

[coconutbacon]

So adorable hiimjamie!

[fierymama]

Jan 11, 2018 10:16:04 GMT -6 45thparallel said:

Jan 11, 2018 10:06:58 GMT -6 CestLaVie said:

for all my fellow yellers there is a really good thread on parenting with commiseration and lots of good tips I am going to try!


howeverithappened.proboards.com/thread/11087/breaking-yelling-cycle

I need this. I haven’t read it yet but I will! I’m not a New Years résolution person but I have committed to control my yelling. I have a quote that I think when a situation arises where I want to yell:

Yelling silences your message so speak quietly so your children can hear your words not your voice.

My mantra is: using my words not my voice.

I tried using my words the other day. They fell off deaf ears until I raised my voice. 😒

[fierymama]

Oh H, just stop talking already. You are seriously frustrating me to no end right now. 😤😠

[45thparallel]

Jan 11, 2018 17:35:30 GMT -6 fierymama said:

Jan 11, 2018 10:16:04 GMT -6 45thparallel said:

I need this. I haven’t read it yet but I will! I’m not a New Years résolution person but I have committed to control my yelling. I have a quote that I think when a situation arises where I want to yell:

Yelling silences your message so speak quietly so your children can hear your words not your voice.

My mantra is: using my words not my voice.

I tried using my words the other day. They fell off deaf ears until I raised my voice. 😒

THIs happens to me too. That’s when I whisper. They think it’s a game and get quiet to listen. I don’t over use this tho bc I don’t want to lose it haha.

[jedi]

S1 ate his whole lunch (not the smoothie) and his snack at school. Tonight he ate a hotdog, cantaloupe and a few chips. Then he asked for another hot dog!

[Betweenthelines]

H got rear ended tonight. He's ok. His new truck isn't. Just very frustrating. Drivers are so fucking distracted by cell phones.

I'm folding massive amounts of laundry and packing for the weekend.

Thinking about having a beer to calm my nerves