Confessions, opinions- you got em, we take em!

[blurnette989]

So I have spent an inordinate amount of time watching the fish doorbell. I've still not seen a fish. I just want to see a fish and ring the doorbell and I recognize this is a silly thing, but I just want to see a fish!

visdeurbel.nl/en/the-fish-doorbell/

[piratecat]

I took my youngest to the library the other day and he supermarket swept from a small area of books displayed on shelves. I didn't think much of it until we got home and read through all the books and my husband pointed out that it must have been a section curated for difficult family topics -- there was one about preparing for a new baby in the family, divorce, death of a pet...

[trueblue]

A friend of H’s apparently convinced his wife (and H) that the big snip has a full 30 day on the couch/fully helpless recovery period. I laughed in H’s face and am debating messaging the wife that recovery** is about 48 hours of taking it easy, Motrin, and a few bags of frozen peas. However getting involved in the inner workings of another relationship feels dicey.

**absent complications

Edited to complete my thoughts

[jaygee]

I have the house to myself for the last two nights and my goodness this is what dreams are made of. I’ll be happy to see the guys when they get back but I’m mentally preparing myself for it being loud.

[piratecat]

Apr 12, 2024 8:22:14 GMT -6 trueblue said:

A friend of H’s apparently convinced his wife (and H) that the big snip has a full 30 day on the couch/fully helpless recovery period. I laughed in H’s face and am debating messaging the wife that recovery** is about 48 hours of taking it easy, Motrin, and a few bags of frozen peas. However getting involved in the inner workings of another relationship feels dicey.

**absent complications

Edited to complete my thoughts

Oh wow. 

There was a This American Life (I think) episode about vasectomy recovery and how it compares to a c-section recovery and of course only one of them also comes with a baby to take care of. 

[piratecat]

Apr 12, 2024 8:26:46 GMT -6 jaygee said:

I have the house to myself for the last two nights and my goodness this is what dreams are made of. I’ll be happy to see the guys when they get back but I’m mentally preparing myself for it being loud.

The added benefit of my evening pottery class is that the kids are in already in bed when I get home and then I get to eat dinner by myself, slowly and quietly. 

[peachesncream]

My SIL posted in a public FB group asking for opinions on if she should have her husband's vasectomy reversed so they can try for a boy one last time and I greatly enjoyed that being my entertainment and distraction this week.

[piratecat]

It's such a bummer that my husband completely maxed out his deductible (which is high) in January of 2020, which would have been the year to have the vasectomy but then the pandemic happened and we were hunkered down and not having elective surgeries.

[dc2london]

Apr 12, 2024 8:22:14 GMT -6 trueblue said:

A friend of H’s apparently convinced his wife (and H) that the big snip has a full 30 day on the couch/fully helpless recovery period. I laughed in H’s face and am debating messaging the wife that recovery** is about 48 hours of taking it easy, Motrin, and a few bags of frozen peas. However getting involved in the inner workings of another relationship feels dicey.

**absent complications

Edited to complete my thoughts

My H played catch in the backyard with DS1 24 hours after his

[icedcoffee]

Apr 12, 2024 8:22:14 GMT -6 trueblue said:

A friend of H’s apparently convinced his wife (and H) that the big snip has a full 30 day on the couch/fully helpless recovery period. I laughed in H’s face and am debating messaging the wife that recovery** is about 48 hours of taking it easy, Motrin, and a few bags of frozen peas. However getting involved in the inner workings of another relationship feels dicey.

**absent complications

Edited to complete my thoughts

How do people actually believe this?? Some actual surgical procedures don't even require that much time. Lol

[trueblue]

Apr 12, 2024 9:01:14 GMT -6 icedcoffee said:

Apr 12, 2024 8:22:14 GMT -6 trueblue said:

A friend of H’s apparently convinced his wife (and H) that the big snip has a full 30 day on the couch/fully helpless recovery period. I laughed in H’s face and am debating messaging the wife that recovery** is about 48 hours of taking it easy, Motrin, and a few bags of frozen peas. However getting involved in the inner workings of another relationship feels dicey.

**absent complications

Edited to complete my thoughts

How do people actually believe this?? Some actual surgical procedures don't even require that much time. Lol

I was very much speechless.

[icedcoffee]

I dont understand when people ask for tips how to drink more water. Like just drink it? I don't get it. There is no other way than to drink it? Unless you're getting an IV you can't just magically absorb it somehow, there is no trick

[bobyn]

Apr 12, 2024 8:30:57 GMT -6 piratecat said:

Apr 12, 2024 8:22:14 GMT -6 trueblue said:

A friend of H’s apparently convinced his wife (and H) that the big snip has a full 30 day on the couch/fully helpless recovery period. I laughed in H’s face and am debating messaging the wife that recovery** is about 48 hours of taking it easy, Motrin, and a few bags of frozen peas. However getting involved in the inner workings of another relationship feels dicey.

**absent complications

Edited to complete my thoughts

Oh wow. 

There was a This American Life (I think) episode about vasectomy recovery and how it compares to a c-section recovery and of course only one of them also comes with a baby to take care of. 

Wut.

[piratecat]

Apr 12, 2024 9:08:15 GMT -6 bobyn said:

Apr 12, 2024 8:30:57 GMT -6 piratecat said:

Oh wow. 

There was a This American Life (I think) episode about vasectomy recovery and how it compares to a c-section recovery and of course only one of them also comes with a baby to take care of. 

Wut.

No, not that they're actually comparable. They were comparing what the medical professionals recommend for recoveries for the two procedures and how the men and women are treated very differently. The men are told to REST, whereas women are encouraged to get up and walk around immediately after, while also taking care of a baby and being sleep deprived.

[icedcoffee]

I would be forever turned off by my husband if he thought getting a vasectomy meant he didn't have to do anything for 30 days. Man child much?

[icedcoffee]

Like I keep getting annoyed thinking about it. Lol

[gimmeaQ]

even the dr who did my husband's v was very much like.... hey listen this is uncomfortable but ya know what else is way more "uncomfortable"? childbirth. your wife doesn't want to hear it and this is nothing so, take some tylenol and otherwise bye.

[bobyn]

Apr 12, 2024 9:05:17 GMT -6 icedcoffee said:

I dont understand when people ask for tips how to drink more water. Like just drink it? I don't get it. There is no other way than to drink it? Unless you're getting an IV you can't just magically absorb it somehow, there is no trick

Yes, but if it’s not a habit you already have, it’s easy to go hours without a drink if you’re busy at work or out and about. I’m working on this myself.

[Bookshelves]

At my gyno appointment last year, there was a woman checking out ahead of me about to have her 4th kid, looked miserable. I got the impression this one was unplanned. She was talking to the front desk woman about how her husband refuses to get a vasectomy because he is “afraid of needles.” My brain was like, girl, give me your phone, I’ll call him, but I managed to keep quiet. Some men, wow.

[lucilleaustero]

I was teasing my 7th grade daughter about how she and her friends use weird nonsense slang that don't actually mean what the actual words mean. Coquette, preppy, etc.

Than I remembered that I talked like an extra in Clueless when I was in high school.

[Bookshelves]

Apr 12, 2024 9:20:08 GMT -6 icedcoffee said:

I would be forever turned off by my husband if he thought getting a vasectomy meant he didn't have to do anything for 30 days. Man child much?

I have had a couple friends whose Hs tried similar, and I feel it’s a reflection on their (the men’s) characters and the way they have contributed to parenting/relationship overall. I feel very “I said what I said” about that statement, no notes.

[lucilleaustero]

I think the vasectomy convo need to be had at the same time as the children convi. Like before an engagement. If your partner is being a bitch about it then, he ain't likely to come around on it.

[bobyn]

Apr 12, 2024 9:58:52 GMT -6 lucilleaustero said:

I was teasing my 7th grade daughter about how she and her friends use weird nonsense slang that don't actually mean what the actual words mean. Coquette, preppy, etc.

Than I remembered that I talked like an extra in Clueless when I was in high school.

That's 100x better than the "skibidi toilet rizzler" nonsense I hear from the middle school boys...

[lucilleaustero]

Apr 12, 2024 10:06:24 GMT -6 bobyn said:

Apr 12, 2024 9:58:52 GMT -6 lucilleaustero said:

I was teasing my 7th grade daughter about how she and her friends use weird nonsense slang that don't actually mean what the actual words mean. Coquette, preppy, etc.

Than I remembered that I talked like an extra in Clueless when I was in high school.

That's 100x better than the "skibidi toilet rizzler" nonsense I hear from the middle school boys...

My son is in 4th and he and his friends say that crap and "giga chad" and the like.

[blurnette989]

Apr 12, 2024 9:58:52 GMT -6 lucilleaustero said:

I was teasing my 7th grade daughter about how she and her friends use weird nonsense slang that don't actually mean what the actual words mean. Coquette, preppy, etc.

Than I remembered that I talked like an extra in Clueless when I was in high school.

I was recently slightly annoyed by the term "girlies", but then promptly recalled that me and my middle school girlfriends obsessively called each other chica and then minded my own business. 😂

[bobyn]

Apr 12, 2024 10:08:19 GMT -6 lucilleaustero said:

Apr 12, 2024 10:06:24 GMT -6 bobyn said:

That's 100x better than the "skibidi toilet rizzler" nonsense I hear from the middle school boys...

My son is in 4th and he and his friends say that crap and "giga chad" and the like.

blehhhhh I hate it so much 😂

[shadows]

Apr 12, 2024 9:43:15 GMT -6 gimmeaQ said:

even the dr who did my husband's v was very much like.... hey listen this is uncomfortable but ya know what else is way more "uncomfortable"? childbirth. your wife doesn't want to hear it and this is nothing so, take some tylenol and otherwise bye.

My friend said that her OB turned to her H after they were done having kids, and said, "Your wife has done enough, now it's your turn."  

[elle]

Apr 12, 2024 10:08:19 GMT -6 lucilleaustero said:

Apr 12, 2024 10:06:24 GMT -6 bobyn said:

That's 100x better than the "skibidi toilet rizzler" nonsense I hear from the middle school boys...

My son is in 4th and he and his friends say that crap and "giga chad" and the like.

I really hate that incel-speak has crossed over into more "mainstream" (teen) parlance.

[origami]

Apr 12, 2024 10:08:47 GMT -6 blurnette989 said:

Apr 12, 2024 9:58:52 GMT -6 lucilleaustero said:

I was teasing my 7th grade daughter about how she and her friends use weird nonsense slang that don't actually mean what the actual words mean. Coquette, preppy, etc.

Than I remembered that I talked like an extra in Clueless when I was in high school.

I was recently slightly annoyed by the term "girlies", but then promptly recalled that me and my middle school girlfriends obsessively called each other chica and then minded my own business. 😂

The absolute grip the word chica had on me and my middle school friends in the 90s

[icedcoffee]

My 12 year old drives me nuts with everything being a "life hack" lol. It seems like her and her friends favorite phrase right now