lizblue
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Post by lizblue on Mar 22, 2024 14:11:14 GMT -6
I just read an article this morning about how millennial parents are raising generation alpha to be "feral", so this fits. (My almost 10 year old can't tie his shoes or ride a bike.) What are Gen X parents doing because I'm right on the cusp. We are winging it. And drinking lots of wine. Actually, this might be a gen x thing. DD is 8 and very good at riding her bike. I let her ride her bike by herself in a certain boundary of our neighborhood. (Like two square blocks). She can knock to see if friends are home and then just play. We pick a time for her to come home and she has a watch I can text. There are parents in our neighborhood who are a bit aghast to see her out and about. She has one friend who is free range like her but she is definitely in the minority. I want her to have a little bit of the freedom I had. I draw the line at latchkey don’t worry!
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Eagles
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Post by Eagles on Mar 22, 2024 14:11:57 GMT -6
I feel like not liking drag shows just means you don't like fun stuff. I love fun, Pobre! Drag just isn't my jam.
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Eagles
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Post by Eagles on Mar 22, 2024 14:12:58 GMT -6
I don't like drag shows. Confession brought to you by two different friends' IG stories this week. I'm not anti, God bless, rock out (but not with your cock out), live your most authentic and fabulous life. It just isn't my thing. I also tried to watch Drag Race and got bored. What? RuPaul's Drag Race is so good! Maybe I'm just not a competition show person?
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piratecat
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Post by piratecat on Mar 22, 2024 14:17:19 GMT -6
What are Gen X parents doing because I'm right on the cusp. We are winging it. And drinking lots of wine. Actually, this might be a gen x thing. DD is 8 and very good at riding her bike. I let her ride her bike by herself in a certain boundary of our neighborhood. (Like two square blocks). She can knock to see if friends are home and then just play. We pick a time for her to come home and she has a watch I can text. There are parents in our neighborhood who are a bit aghast to see her out and about. She has one friend who is free range like her but she is definitely in the minority. I want her to have a little bit of the freedom I had. I draw the line at latchkey don’t worry! Oh okay, I’m kinda winging it over here too so I guess that tracks. And now that we’re living “in town” we’re wondering about how much freedom to give our kids and at what age. I was definitely running errands and riding my bike around town at a young age and then transitioned to a latchkey kid.
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Post by CurlieWhirlie on Mar 22, 2024 14:24:42 GMT -6
My older kid was very independent and had a lot of freedom from a young age in our small town, but my younger son is less interested. There are a lot of parents around here who will say they are in favor of free-range kids, but then they schedule something for their kids every day after school because we're all working 2390804358745 hours a week and no one is ever home.
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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Mar 22, 2024 14:30:55 GMT -6
ponyhairs I swear to you on all that is holy, anyone who thinks twice about not receiving a thank you card from a grieving widow can fuck themselves right off a cliff. Never in life would I expect that of someone. This aspect of thank you card culture is just beyond. No one should feel any pressure in this moment to send a piece of fucking paper in the mail. Apparently I DO have thank you card feels.
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klw
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Post by klw on Mar 22, 2024 14:36:26 GMT -6
What? RuPaul's Drag Race is so good! Maybe I'm just not a competition show person? This is me. And there are so many competition shows on now.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Mar 22, 2024 14:43:25 GMT -6
What? RuPaul's Drag Race is so good! Maybe I'm just not a competition show person? I am not either.
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willow
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Post by willow on Mar 22, 2024 14:46:11 GMT -6
ponyhairs My mom wrote and sent all the thank you cards from my late H's funeral (on her own volition, I had nothing to do with it). If she didn't do it, it would have never been done. Please release this for yourself. <3
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Post by justbecause on Mar 22, 2024 15:20:09 GMT -6
I sent zero thank you cards for my mom’s memorial.
Didn’t know that was a thing.
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jaygee
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Post by jaygee on Mar 22, 2024 15:28:42 GMT -6
I’ve seen Gen X kind of go both ways. I think some have followed the path of being helicopter parents in a way to overcorrect from their parents ignoring them. I think some enjoyed being free range and are trying to bring that back. I’m on the cusp of Gen X and millennial but for parenting feel a bit more on the millennial side since I started parenting a bit later. I prefer a more free range approach when we have actual free time (we are overscheduled due to a number of reasons so the time for just cruising around the neighborhood is less than ideal). Some parents I’ve talked to in the neighborhood are less comfortable with the kids just running around and so I just note that and tell my kid we have to arrange times to play with those kids.
I think the bigger difference than in generations is how people grew up in their own childhood. I grew up in a huge city and now live in a small city. So some of the things that people clutch their pearls about don’t really phase me. For example, a lot of people don’t like the city bus option for middle school because other people could get on the bus. But I used public transportation a lot at that age and had to do like bus transfers and stuff, so I’m just like ehhh, the kids are fine.
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jaygee
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Post by jaygee on Mar 22, 2024 15:30:17 GMT -6
No one is expecting a thank you after a memorial service. Promise. Please release ponyhairs. I bought specific thank you cards for that purpose, sent a few and then got overwhelmed with regular life and gave up. I was holding on to those cards for 10 years out of some guilt or duty and recently gave them away because what in the heck.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Mar 22, 2024 15:35:19 GMT -6
I just read an article this morning about how millennial parents are raising generation alpha to be "feral", so this fits. (My almost 10 year old can't tie his shoes or ride a bike.) What are Gen X parents doing because I'm right on the cusp. From what I am seeing online, it is indeed Gen X that are doing this and not in fact the Millennials, however they take claim to all the things and totally skip over Gen X. We are used to it. We don't care. We are more used to not getting outside validation from others.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Mar 22, 2024 15:40:15 GMT -6
I have 3 and one is on behalf of my MIL. 1. She has paid for a Zoom psychic medium session with the Seatbelt Psychic, Thomas John. The session is tomorrow morning and she is 100% convinced that my H is going to come through and say hello. I'm going into it totally open minded but we'll see what happens. She is very excited and I don't want her to be disappointed. 2. I have yet to start my taxes for the year because my H always did them and I'm afraid of what we are going to owe so I'm just kind of pretending they don't exist. I know that this is a terrible plan. 3. It's been 2 months since my H's memorial service and I still haven't sent thank you notes and I know that makes me an asshole, but I'm still really struggling mental health wise and getting the right mix of meds on board and so I'm just literally too depressed to do it. Right now I'm basically holding on by my fingernails trying to just maintain and get to work and get the kid to school and to therapy and it's just all I can manage. I feel so freaking guilty about not doing them and that is also not helping my situation. I thought we already told you we wouldn't expect thank you notes? Don't do they a "the family thanks everyone" at the Memorial? I know we haven't thanked anyone for my BIL's funeral and I do not have it on my agenda.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Mar 22, 2024 15:41:59 GMT -6
What are Gen X parents doing because I'm right on the cusp. We are winging it. And drinking lots of wine. Actually, this might be a gen x thing. DD is 8 and very good at riding her bike. I let her ride her bike by herself in a certain boundary of our neighborhood. (Like two square blocks). She can knock to see if friends are home and then just play. We pick a time for her to come home and she has a watch I can text. There are parents in our neighborhood who are a bit aghast to see her out and about. She has one friend who is free range like her but she is definitely in the minority. I want her to have a little bit of the freedom I had. I draw the line at latchkey don’t worry! Yes. This was our children. Include latchkey as well with being home for 30 min to an hour alone before dad got home. (I do not feel we are winging it though).
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Mar 22, 2024 15:43:29 GMT -6
I mean we either already covered this with you or it's me and DeJa'Vu.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Mar 22, 2024 15:45:00 GMT -6
My kid just came home and got his debit card and walked to the store with friends.
One of the reasons we moved to Pleasantville was for a safer environment so there's that.
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McBenny
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Post by McBenny on Mar 22, 2024 15:47:20 GMT -6
MY DS is in 7th grade now. Yes, he can tie his shoes. It was touch and go with that one for a while. He is able to scramble eggs, make pancakes. Current goals is teaching him to cook simple things. He does his laundry and can clean his room and bathroom pretty well.
I do not like any of them to use my vacuum cleaner, but the ability is there.
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wasabi
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Post by wasabi on Mar 22, 2024 16:32:42 GMT -6
Kids get self confidence from learning how to do hard things. I think a lot of parents in my generation have forgotten this. Yeah, I wish I would have recognized this 10 years ago. My parents are probably one of a few in their generation who forgot it too.
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jaygee
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Post by jaygee on Mar 22, 2024 16:32:47 GMT -6
What are Gen X parents doing because I'm right on the cusp. From what I am seeing online, it is indeed Gen X that are doing this and not in fact the Millennials, however they take claim to all the things and totally skip over Gen X. We are used to it. We don't care. We are more used to not getting outside validation from others. That’s how I know even though I’m on the cusp, I’m truly gen x. I like being left alone and ignored. Leave us out of it. I like the boomers and millennials hating each other. And now the millennials hating gen z.
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beepers
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Post by beepers on Mar 22, 2024 17:13:59 GMT -6
I finally actually looked into the whole “a bra that fits” thing and wow why have I been doing myself a disservice for decades?? (An actual 32D not a 34 A-B like I thought)
Confession is I feel very much like a tween who just got her first bra walking around with my chest stuck out and very aware of my boobs. 😅
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piratecat
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Post by piratecat on Mar 22, 2024 17:30:31 GMT -6
I’m having very unkind thoughts towards my husband who just said “I’ve been meaning to tell you, I think I have strep.” 🤬
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Post by sweptaway on Mar 22, 2024 18:20:37 GMT -6
I’m having very unkind thoughts towards my husband who just said “I’ve been meaning to tell you, I think I have strep.” 🤬 There's a man alive who didn't announce his illness at the first sniffle??
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Yogurt
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Post by Yogurt on Mar 22, 2024 19:30:32 GMT -6
I loved Drivers Ed. It replaced a semester of PE for us. (NJ) We had "simulator" where we had a portable set up with fake car seats and individual dashboard like fake car desks and we all watched a movie in the front of the room that was like pretend driving. It was straight out of the Wonder Years. Then came "behind the wheel", taught by the gym teacher. 2 kids and the gym teacher driving around town. We got to bring our own tapes for the tape deck.
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Post by Wtfshouldmynamebe on Mar 22, 2024 21:22:10 GMT -6
Here you can take drivers Ed in school, but you need to find a way to work it in your schedule. But, you also need 50 hours of driving with a parent to get your license. So that’s super fun
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Post by GhoatMonket on Mar 22, 2024 21:49:35 GMT -6
Here you can take drivers Ed in school, but you need to find a way to work it in your schedule. But, you also need 50 hours of driving with a parent to get your license. So that’s super fun How long is the permit period? If it's a year, that's less than an hour a week.
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Post by Wtfshouldmynamebe on Mar 22, 2024 21:54:29 GMT -6
Here you can take drivers Ed in school, but you need to find a way to work it in your schedule. But, you also need 50 hours of driving with a parent to get your license. So that’s super fun How long is the permit period? If it's a year, that's less than an hour a week. I think it’s 2. I need to check because DS has no interest and is no where near the hours and we have had the permit for a year.
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Post by Sweetjane on Mar 23, 2024 7:37:50 GMT -6
My H started teaching DD to drive right after she turned 13, she doing great. She also takes practice tests online for "fun". She's actually learning stuff😅
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piratecat
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Post by piratecat on Mar 23, 2024 9:05:26 GMT -6
I’m having very unkind thoughts towards my husband who just said “I’ve been meaning to tell you, I think I have strep.” 🤬 There's a man alive who didn't announce his illness at the first sniffle?? He’s usually good about that but apparently otherwise stereotypical in refusing to go to the doctor. This morning he decided that he doesn’t have strep even though I already made him an appointment at the walk in clinic that is one block away and it could not be easier.
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Post by donnamartingraduates on Mar 23, 2024 18:07:23 GMT -6
Our driver's ed teacher was our health teacher/varsity boy's bball coach. He fell asleep on interstate driving day. The kid driving kept going, crossed over into KY and let's say coach woke up in an empty car in the parking lot of Churchill Downs.....and wasn't fired. Everyone had a good laugh, ahh the 90s.
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