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Post by thelittleredm on Jan 5, 2019 20:53:25 GMT -6
tngrl3, I started taking stuff down today, too! Mostly so I could set up the robo vacuum H got me for Christmas but whatever. I can't figure out how to take the tree down, though. It's my parents and I can't get the pieces to come apart :/
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Post by wildflowers on Jan 5, 2019 21:02:43 GMT -6
I took down the Christmas tree and packed up everything this morning and it completely wore me out! My house is a wreck and I haven't really prepped anything for baby yet. Starting to stress out since at this point baby girl could make an appearance anytime. This is right where I am at. I am glad to have the tree down, but I will feel a lot better when (if!?) my house is clean and things are in order.
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Post by redhead610 on Jan 6, 2019 7:30:18 GMT -6
thelittleredm & @amc I wouldn't be too opposed if he ends up not wanting to be swaddled. With ds1 & 2 transitioning out of the swaddle was so so hard, it was like adding in an extra sleep regression but worse.
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Post by dashook on Jan 6, 2019 8:10:08 GMT -6
Lots of BH this morning and all Iโm doing is relaxing in bed while H has the kids at church. A tiny bit of cramping too. 37+2 today. Itโs so hard to be patient and not wonder over every little thing! I know my girl k feels me on this ๐ I see my OB tomorrow and I know sheโs going to ask me if I want a cervical check. Itโs going to take some willpower to say no, but really those things only mess with me.
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Post by cch on Jan 6, 2019 8:26:59 GMT -6
MH and I have a date day planned today! I watched the neighbors two girls a few months ago and weโre finally getting to go out while she watches DD for us. DD is looking forward to playing with her neighbor friends and Iโm excited to have some alone time with MH. Weโve only left her with someone other than family once or twice ever so Iโm sure Iโll be wondering and worrying a little bit (Iโm a hoverer and SAH with her so itโs just weird not having her with me 24/7) but mostly Iโm going to soak up the kid-free time we get today!
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Post by k on Jan 6, 2019 9:25:52 GMT -6
DS2: โBaby. Out. Lapโ and patted his lap. We are all ready for baby to come out so we can hold and snuggle him/her!
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Post by thelittleredm on Jan 6, 2019 9:51:07 GMT -6
Oh man. Last night I had awful cramping and low back pain. Moving around didn't seem to help, H rubbing my back didn't seem to help. It finally disappeared but my stomach ached for awhile after. Feeling a bit better this morning, at least.
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Post by sunshiney on Jan 6, 2019 14:06:39 GMT -6
dashook stay strong! I really like how you remind us that any interventions/checks are usually our choice even if our Dr makes it seem like a requirement. cch that sounds amazing! Have a great time! thelittleredm ouch, hope you're feeling better. Definitely take it easy!
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Post by sunshiney on Jan 6, 2019 14:12:39 GMT -6
We had a four hour planned c section class at the hospital yesterday (they just leave out the delivery stuff, but still do a lot on false/pre-labor and signs of labor in case we go into labor before our scheduled date). I feel much more at peace about it and mostly just trying to avoid thinking about it and just go with the flow when the time comes. DH also loved having his questions answered. He won't be allowed to cut the cord because they don't feel it's safe/sterile when I'm cut open I guess, but he'll be able to have his phone for photos and hold the baby near me the whole time they're stitching me up!
I was also surprised but relieved that they don't have me get out of bed until the next morning, and glad that although they seriously push rooming in for breast feeding, we are welcome to send baby to the nursery during our stay if we need a break for a nap or shower or something. Their website had made it sound like they won't take the baby if you need a break for a couple hours and I was worried about it.
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Post by dashook on Jan 6, 2019 14:46:53 GMT -6
I hope this is the week for you, dashook! Also, with all that you had going on earlier in this pregnancy, I am so happy for you to have gotten to TERM! ๐๐ป Thank you!! This one definitely has been a long, wild ride.
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Post by Foxy on Jan 6, 2019 16:43:23 GMT -6
sunshiney I had an unplanned CS. I can probably answer questions if you have any while it's still fresh in my head. Since mine wasn't an emergency everyone was pretty calm even though it was the middle of the night. I'm glad I hadn't waited until it was an emergency. I hope everything goes well for you. That's nice you were able to take a CS class. I wish I had known more.
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Post by dashook on Jan 6, 2019 18:27:39 GMT -6
sunshiney I think itโs great that they have a class you can take for that. It must be a relief to feel like you know just what to expect. Remind meโdo you have a date on the calendar already?
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Post by sunshiney on Jan 6, 2019 18:39:42 GMT -6
Foxy dashook thanks! Yes, Friday 2/22 at 9am lol! Which I love because 2 and 22 have been my favorite numbers my whole life. What I am most concerned about is the recovery... Particularly the pain management the first few days (I get way beyond nauseous from anesthesia and from opiates, it's way worse than pain and anti nausea meds always get maxed out before I can get any relief). I'm fantasizing that somehow I will be able to tough it out without serious pain meds. Is that remotely possible? I'm also concerned about getting back to normal life function... Like when will I be able to cook, drive, exercise? I feel like with a vaginal delivery, there's a reasonable expectation to be back physically to your normal self in most ways by maybe 6 weeks, but I feel like I have no concept of what it will be like post c section.
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Post by dashook on Jan 6, 2019 19:46:11 GMT -6
sunshiney 2/22 is a great birthday I canโt speak to personal experience with c-section recovery but my understanding is that it generally is a 6 week timeline. IIRC there also is a recommendation to avoid a subsequent pregnancy within 12 months. I do know that you should have more hospital time on the front end so hopefully that will help in terms of figuring out the meds and such. Somewhat unrelated maybe (and probably not that helpful) but FWIW I had a vaginal birth with DS but my recovery time was longer than 6 weeks. At my 6 week PP appointment my OB took a quick look down there and was like โyeah...no.โ I donโt think I fully stopped bleeding until close to 10 weeks PP. So really you can never know for sure and you might find that your C recovery is smoother than that of some mamas who deliver vaginally.
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Post by tngrl3 on Jan 6, 2019 19:46:56 GMT -6
Foxy dashook thanks! Yes, Friday 2/22 at 9am lol! Which I love because 2 and 22 have been my favorite numbers my whole life. What I am most concerned about is the recovery... Particularly the pain management the first few days (I get way beyond nauseous from anesthesia and from opiates, it's way worse than pain and anti nausea meds always get maxed out before I can get any relief). I'm fantasizing that somehow I will be able to tough it out without serious pain meds. Is that remotely possible? I'm also concerned about getting back to normal life function... Like when will I be able to cook, drive, exercise? I feel like with a vaginal delivery, there's a reasonable expectation to be back physically to your normal self in most ways by maybe 6 weeks, but I feel like I have no concept of what it will be like post c section. I've had 2 c-sections. Recovery wasn't easy but it wasn't awful. I hate how narcotics make me feel so I didn't take any. I did fine with Toradol and Motrin. I was sore but it wasn't miserable. I was up and moving within a few hours once my spinal wire off. I have a pretty high tolerance for pain. Will you have an anesthesia consult? If so make sure you mention the nausea issue and then they can max you out with premedication. Hopefully with a spinal you won't have the same issues since it isn't a systemic med and just stays local. I know several of us are glad to answer any questions you might have. Sounds like you are being prepared though which is great.
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Post by redhead610 on Jan 6, 2019 20:22:42 GMT -6
sunshiney I hate how hospitals are pushing roaming in and closing the nurseries. With ds1 &2 we could send them for 1 of 2 nights because the others they were way too busy with deliveries. For ds2, I asked the first night, and the nurse said they don't do that anymore to "encourage bonding". Ok, but, my epidural still hadn't worn off in one leg so I couldn't get out of bed. DH had to get me to the bathroom (and after being pumped with IVs all day it was often) and tend to the baby. I couldn't imagine if I had had a csection! Night 2 the nurse asked me if I wanted her to take the baby for the night. She rolled her eyes when I said the last nurse said it wasn't an option. She had him for about 6 hours and it was wonderful.
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Post by thelittleredm on Jan 6, 2019 22:30:37 GMT -6
Our hospital got rid of their nursery before DS2 was born. Personally, I just am not comfortable enough to send my babies to it anyway. But the the nursing staff with DS2 always offered to go push him around in his bassinet thing for a couple hours. Never took them up on it but it was nice to have the option. I also feel fortunate enough that my parents or ILs would come and take the boys from the room between feedings whenever H and I both needed rest, especially this last time when H couldn't miss work.
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Post by Foxy on Jan 6, 2019 22:57:51 GMT -6
sunshiney I can't speak for everyone but i'm feeling much better and it's only been 8 days. I was taking ibuprofen and tylenol and oxy in the hospital until day 3, went home filled my oxy prescription but never took it but continued the ibuprofen and tylenol. I was pretty sore up until today. I kept moving but didn't pick up anything heavy. Rested a lot, I also had my mom and MIL here to help with everything, and of course my H. My biggest advice, even if it sucks and you want to go home, stay in at the hospital as long as you possibly can. I begged to go home, and was discharged a day early but looking back, I could have used the extra monitoring and just general help that you get at the hospital. Even just letting the nurses take your LO so you can sleep is a huge help. We were roomed in with Vinny but they took him to the nurses station for a couple hours so my H and I could get some sleep. I also threw up on the operating table, they have a puke bag and you just throw up into it. I had worse case scenario probably and got it in my face and hair but they had towels and cleaned me up immediately. Honestly whatever you might be scared of happening they have seen and dealt with it. Honestly I prefer puking during a c section to pooping during delivery so that's a plus right? We get to save ourselves from that ๐ I'll help you find the bright side to a CS. You might be totally surprised at the recovery time. I'm here, definitely more available now that on maternity leave and breast feeding. I'm pretty much connected to my phone now lol
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Post by notagoddess on Jan 7, 2019 9:38:43 GMT -6
My hospital has a nursery but doesn't offer it to parents because of the whole "baby friendly" certification thing. If it's there, you can ask to use it, even if they don't suggest it first. My OB mentioned that to me. I was a wreck after labor kept me up all night the night before, my epidural didn't wear off at night, and I skipped two nights of sleep in a row. It was not pretty. I plan to use the nursery if I need to this time around.
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Post by notagoddess on Jan 7, 2019 9:40:14 GMT -6
My biggest concern with a possible c-section is not being able to lift my almost 30 pound 2 year old. She can be very demanding and needy, and I lift her a million times a day now. How long would I be restricted from lifting her?
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Post by notagoddess on Jan 7, 2019 9:41:45 GMT -6
sunshiney, I agree recovery is very individual. At my 6-week appointment, my stitches hadn't dissolved yet, my incision still hurt a lot, and I had some ongoing bleeding. Things were much better 2 weeks later.
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Post by dashook on Jan 7, 2019 10:32:51 GMT -6
Our โbaby friendlyโ hospital took both my kids out of the room for me. With DS it was imperative since I still was restricted to bed, catheter and all, until 35 hours after he was born. I couldnโt go to him if he cried or do anything without a nurse (and MH was fucking useless of course) so rooming in really wasnโt an option.
With DD I felt amazing within an hour of her birth and completely able to get up and down myself, pick her up, nurse and rock her, even though they kept making me lay down because my BP wouldnโt go down. She stayed with us almost the whole time but at one point I did ask the nurse to take her because she wouldnโt settle and I needed to sleep badly (and H was, again, useless ๐).
I have no idea what will happen this time because Iโm delivering at the big city hospital. I know their website says theyโre baby-friendly but idk if that means they have no nursery or what. But even if they donโt, the nurses can roll the baby around the halls for you for a couple hours if you ask. I may also mention to MH this time that even if heโs tired, heโs nowhere near as tired as I am or will be so he should suck it up and let me sleep. That certainly would help.
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Post by k on Jan 7, 2019 10:53:19 GMT -6
This is so interesting. I guess with DS1 they did have a nursery bc they asked if they wanted to keep him there at night but I was like no effing way. I really donโt know about the hospital I delivered DS2 and this one, but I donโt think they do? Iโm thankful I felt great after DS2 and MH is generally helpful. I donโt think thereโs anything wrong with it and Iโm all about taking full advantage of the hospital help, but I just didnโt want them out of my sight. maybe I will feel differently this time ๐
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Post by thelittleredm on Jan 7, 2019 14:57:43 GMT -6
This is so interesting. I guess with DS1 they did have a nursery bc they asked if they wanted to keep him there at night but I was like no effing way. I really donโt know about the hospital I delivered DS2 and this one, but I donโt think they do? Iโm thankful I felt great after DS2 and MH is generally helpful. I donโt think thereโs anything wrong with it and Iโm all about taking full advantage of the hospital help, but I just didnโt want them out of my sight. maybe I will feel differently this time ๐
. This is where I'm at this time. Like, I very well may take them up on the offer of carting her around, especially if I have her during the work week (DS2 arrived on a weekend so I had help from my parents and H was off on leave when DS1 showed up). The idea of being completely kid free before the crazy of having 3 really sets in is sounding better and better.
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Post by dashook on Jan 7, 2019 16:44:48 GMT -6
This is so interesting. I guess with DS1 they did have a nursery bc they asked if they wanted to keep him there at night but I was like no effing way. I really donโt know about the hospital I delivered DS2 and this one, but I donโt think they do? Iโm thankful I felt great after DS2 and MH is generally helpful. I donโt think thereโs anything wrong with it and Iโm all about taking full advantage of the hospital help, but I just didnโt want them out of my sight. maybe I will feel differently this time ๐
. This is where I'm at this time. Like, I very well may take them up on the offer of carting her around, especially if I have her during the work week (DS2 arrived on a weekend so I had help from my parents and H was off on leave when DS1 showed up). The idea of being completely kid free before the crazy of having 3 really sets in is sounding better and better. So much this. Itโs really crazy too how much your body endures during childbirth. Rest is SO needed!
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Post by thelittleredm on Jan 7, 2019 17:37:54 GMT -6
@amc, H would blow a gasket if I actually ordered everything off our registry lol I'm hoping this small shower my mom is throwing will at least get most of it.
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Post by tngrl3 on Jan 7, 2019 18:30:54 GMT -6
notagoddess I believe not lifting for 6 weeks is recommended. That is one of the few things I followed because if not I really regretted it. DS was 2.5 when I had DD1. I used to lifting him a lot. I made sure he could climb in his carseat prior to delivery and worked on getting him use not being lifted so much. I compromised with holding his hand a lot and letting him sit in my lap/beside me. I think started lifting him some around 4weeks PP. I was driving by 1w post both times.
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Post by strawberrykiki on Jan 7, 2019 20:10:10 GMT -6
@amc woohoo! We are pretty much ready here too! We donโt live near our families so my SIL threw us a virtual baby shower so Iโm waiting to see if we might get a few more gifts before I take the plunge on the completion discount!
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Post by thelittleredm on Jan 8, 2019 6:53:44 GMT -6
Today is going to last forever. I'm so tired, it's taking forever to get ready for work! But in good news, neither kid tried to come sleep in my bed last night lol They must have been extra tired after DS2's birthday dinner activities.
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Post by k on Jan 8, 2019 7:43:18 GMT -6
Today is going to last forever. I'm so tired, it's taking forever to get ready for work! But in good news, neither kid tried to come sleep in my bed last night lol They must have been extra tired after DS2's birthday dinner activities. Agreed. Is it 6:00 yet? I asked MH to get up to help me load the boys into the car this morning since i was running late and it was sooo nice not having to do that twice this morning.
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