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Post by klw on Dec 10, 2017 19:05:45 GMT -6
How many weeks will you wait to tell? We told early the first time and then m/c. So with DD we waited until 12 weeks. But I am not sure I'll be able to wait this time. Don't you show quicker after the first one?
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Post by goldenbird on Dec 10, 2017 19:15:54 GMT -6
I don't want to tell anyone until I've had an appointment, hopefully with an ultrasound. Second tri would be optimal but I'm worried I'll start showing early. I'm short and thin so it would be noticed. Obviously also hinges on symptoms like vomiting and how noticeable it is.
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Post by goldenbird on Dec 10, 2017 19:37:52 GMT -6
I feel a little weird doing so, but I'm going to have to lie to my bff next week. She's also been TTC and we previously talked about how we would know if the other person was KU if they weren't drinking. Well she's having a Christmas party on Friday and obviously I can't drink. I'm planning to lie and say I'm taking a pregnancy test the next day so I'm not drinking. She'll text me the next day and I'm going to say my period started. Is that crazy? She can't keep her mouth shut for shit or I would just tell her.
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Post by goldenbird on Dec 10, 2017 19:39:22 GMT -6
I just don't even want to mess with trying to fake drink or pouring something and sneaking off to pour it out. That seems like so much work.
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Post by kam3100 on Dec 10, 2017 19:47:49 GMT -6
I can’t keep a secret so everyone knows. I had a previous loss that I told everyone early and then had to tell them about the loss and it sucked, but I just can’t keep a secret and so I told everyone right away. I didn’t put it on Facebook until we saw a heartbeat though.
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Post by imapenguin on Dec 10, 2017 20:09:04 GMT -6
I get so sick that I have to tell. There is no hiding it.
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Post by notmoose on Dec 10, 2017 21:05:09 GMT -6
I didn't tell friends/Facebook until 18 weeks with ds. I didn't tell anyone but immediate family with my loss, but then I talk/ed about my loss on FB.
I think I'll announce on FB soon. I already told my family. They've known as long as I have lol. After my loss I want/need the support, so I'd rather tell soonish this time.
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Post by cornflakegirl on Dec 10, 2017 21:22:48 GMT -6
With DS we didn't tell a soul until 12 weeks. With this pregnancy we are going to tell our immediate family on Christmas Eve, I will be almost 10 weeks. We will let everyone else know once I reach second trimester.
I am finding it really hard to hide it. With DS I popped very early and this bloat is making me look like I'm 4 months already. I've been living in sweatshirts for the past couple weeks.
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Post by klw on Dec 10, 2017 21:28:54 GMT -6
I can't wait for my family's reaction especially since DD is 5, they probably thought we were done. And now if it is twins... Holy crap.
I imagine I'll have to tell my supervisor and 2 closest coworkers since I have a doctors appointment every week. I never miss work so that will be suspicious to them.
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Post by klw on Dec 10, 2017 21:29:50 GMT -6
I didn't tell friends/Facebook until 18 weeks with ds. I didn't tell anyone but immediate family with my loss, but then I talk/ed about my loss on FB. I think I'll announce on FB soon. I already told my family. They've known as long as I have lol. After my loss I want/need the support, so I'd rather tell soonish this time. I was kind of glad people knew when we had our loss. My family was very supportive which was nice
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Post by mrsweasley on Dec 10, 2017 23:35:17 GMT -6
I feel a little weird doing so, but I'm going to have to lie to my bff next week. She's also been TTC and we previously talked about how we would know if the other person was KU if they weren't drinking. Well she's having a Christmas party on Friday and obviously I can't drink. I'm planning to lie and say I'm taking a pregnancy test the next day so I'm not drinking. She'll text me the next day and I'm going to say my period started. Is that crazy? She can't keep her mouth shut for shit or I would just tell her. Tell her you're on an antibiotic and can't mix with alcohol
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Post by kam3100 on Dec 11, 2017 6:29:27 GMT -6
I feel a little weird doing so, but I'm going to have to lie to my bff next week. She's also been TTC and we previously talked about how we would know if the other person was KU if they weren't drinking. Well she's having a Christmas party on Friday and obviously I can't drink. I'm planning to lie and say I'm taking a pregnancy test the next day so I'm not drinking. She'll text me the next day and I'm going to say my period started. Is that crazy? She can't keep her mouth shut for shit or I would just tell her. Tell her you're on an antibiotic and can't mix with alcohol Ooooooh sneaky sneaky!
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Post by goldenbird on Dec 11, 2017 6:36:42 GMT -6
Tell her you're on an antibiotic and can't mix with alcohol Ooooooh sneaky sneaky! Lol I could do this but she wouldn't believe me. We talked about using that as an excuse 😂.
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Post by catspajamas2 on Dec 11, 2017 10:26:45 GMT -6
The only person I've told is my personal trainer. I am constantly out of breath when I workout with her now, and she was giving me a hard time. I plan to tell my family at Christmas (at a little over 13 weeks) if I get back the NIPT and NT scan with low risk results. I will need to figure out the right words to tell my 3 and 4 year old before I tell my parents etc. I think my 4 year old is going to have a lot of questions about how the baby got in there etc, so I need a game plan. Work will be the last to know, probably some time in January, I'm not in a rush.
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Post by sven on Dec 11, 2017 11:23:41 GMT -6
We've told immediate family. I'd like everyone else to know now but I don't want to be the one to tell them so I'm kind of stuck lol.
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Post by kam3100 on Dec 11, 2017 11:37:19 GMT -6
We've told immediate family. I'd like everyone else to know now but I don't want to be the one to tell them so I'm kind of stuck lol. I had a coworker who would only tell people if they asked. For the longest time people would stare at her trying to figure it out. I told her I was going to tell people she just likes to eat too many cheeseburgers. She finally told the office gossip and the whole office knew by the end of the day.
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Post by vvvvvfee on Dec 11, 2017 12:01:20 GMT -6
i like to wait until we get the screening tests/12 week scan done and get normal results. i definitely can't be bothered with doing a social media announcement or whatever. of course, DH has told some family and coworkers already, which gets an eye roll from me, but whatever. i don't like to widely disseminate until after 12 weeks.
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Post by letsgetphysio on Dec 11, 2017 17:46:54 GMT -6
I won't lie to people if they ask me straight out, so I just told a close friend today since she asked. I really want to tell my best friend now, but she has a sick baby and couldn't talk today. I'll tell my parents after my first appointment/the new year. I'll tell coworkers/FB after first tri.
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Post by potatocakes on Dec 12, 2017 9:41:59 GMT -6
Planning to tell family at Christmas (9 weeks), but trying to hold off on telling work until our raises go in 1/10. We'll see if I can wait that long, since doc has me home for a week due to some light bleeding yesterday.
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Post by goldenbird on Dec 12, 2017 10:45:21 GMT -6
I'm now considering tell my bff on Friday and telling both sets of parents, plus my sisters, on Christmas. Ahhh I'm so conflicted. We would tell all parties not to share with anyone until we give the go ahead, like after my first appointment. Is this nuts? I would be 6w4d on Christmas.
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Post by sven on Dec 12, 2017 11:16:56 GMT -6
I'm now considering tell my bff on Friday and telling both sets of parents, plus my sisters, on Christmas. Ahhh I'm so conflicted. We would tell all parties not to share with anyone until we give the go ahead, like after my first appointment. Is this nuts? I would be 6w4d on Christmas. It depends on what you think you'd want if for some reason something happened. Would you want the support of those people or would you rather no one know? When I tell people early I remind them that it's early and that anything could happen but I want their support either way. It's totally a personal preference.
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Post by goldenbird on Dec 12, 2017 12:48:47 GMT -6
I'm now considering tell my bff on Friday and telling both sets of parents, plus my sisters, on Christmas. Ahhh I'm so conflicted. We would tell all parties not to share with anyone until we give the go ahead, like after my first appointment. Is this nuts? I would be 6w4d on Christmas. It depends on what you think you'd want if for some reason something happened. Would you want the support of those people or would you rather no one know? When I tell people early I remind them that it's early and that anything could happen but I want their support either way. It's totally a personal preference. That's what's holding me back, is how I would deal if I had a loss. I'm not sure yet. But I also know there's no guarantee that nothing will happen no matter how long you wait to tell. I'll probably change my mind a dozen times in the next few days.
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Post by goldenbird on Dec 13, 2017 18:26:30 GMT -6
Alright, mind made up for good. We're waiting at least until after my first appointment. As long as I don't have any symptoms that are super noticeable.
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Post by catspajamas2 on Dec 14, 2017 6:54:43 GMT -6
We are planning to tell the girls (3 & 4, almost 5) next week before we leave for our trip to the grandparents for Christmas. Any ideas on how to go about it? I thought about getting them each a new baby doll and then saying, "these are for you to practice helping take care of a baby because you're going to get a new little sister this summer!". DH says that is unnecessary and that we already have way too many dolls :-) I'm nervous about telling them for some reason, I hope they are excited.
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Post by mrsweasley on Dec 14, 2017 11:40:02 GMT -6
We are planning to tell the girls (3 & 4, almost 5) next week before we leave for our trip to the grandparents for Christmas. Any ideas on how to go about it? I thought about getting them each a new baby doll and then saying, "these are for you to practice helping take care of a baby because you're going to get a new little sister this summer!". DH says that is unnecessary and that we already have way too many dolls :-) I'm nervous about telling them for some reason, I hope they are excited. I got a big sister book on Amazon and told DS he could read it to DD and give her some tips
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Post by bananas22 on Dec 14, 2017 23:22:37 GMT -6
We are planning to tell the girls (3 & 4, almost 5) next week before we leave for our trip to the grandparents for Christmas. Any ideas on how to go about it? I thought about getting them each a new baby doll and then saying, "these are for you to practice helping take care of a baby because you're going to get a new little sister this summer!". DH says that is unnecessary and that we already have way too many dolls :-) I'm nervous about telling them for some reason, I hope they are excited. I bought some big brother books for DS this time. He didn't really get it last time (at 2) but I think he'll get it more this time at 4. I don't think I'll be able to hide it from him much longer as he already told me I look fluffy!
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Post by kaeguri on Dec 15, 2017 0:38:05 GMT -6
We told my parents and H's parents as soon as we knew, and my best friend. Everyone else, after my next u/s at 13 weeks.
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Post by vvvvvfee on Dec 15, 2017 11:24:24 GMT -6
catspajamas2 , i said in another thread that i am super-nervous about telling DS1 (5), too. he is very needy and i'm worried he is going to freak about the idea of having another sibling to take away even more of my attention. i know DS2 (2) is not really going to get it. i definitely want to wait until after the 12 week ultrasound so we've confirmed that everything is OK and then we have the picture... but still, i'm biting my nails over here. LMK how it goes for you. oh, and we did actually get a baby doll for DS1 when i was pregnant with DS2 (he was 2 at the time), and he was like, LOL WUT (see below). but your girls are older so maybe they'd get a kick out of it. poofed photo
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Post by catspajamas2 on Dec 15, 2017 11:54:57 GMT -6
vvvvvfee, I love those pics!!! I'm going to tell them after my NT scan on Tuesday, which will be my 12 week ultrasound. Assuming there is nothing of concern arising from that appointment of course. I will let you know how it goes!
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Post by catspajamas2 on Dec 19, 2017 18:58:54 GMT -6
Update, we told the girls tonight (3 & 4 yrs old). I was so nervous, for reasons I’m not totally clear about. Anyway, they are very excited! My oldest kept saying “yay, a baby! I can’t wait to tell my teachers tomorrow!” The littlest wanted to know when we could go pick up the baby. I showed them the ultrasound picture but it was hard for them to understand and eventually my 3 year old said she didn’t like it and we should put the picture away. Anyway, long story short I feel relieved and my daughters are the sweetest, funniest little people I could ever have hoped for (when they aren’t torturing us!)
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