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Post by Rama on Dec 4, 2017 14:19:24 GMT -6
I know it comes with the team green territory but i wish people would stop guessing the sex of this baby. WHY DO YOU CARE. It’s a weird way of commenting on how my body looks and I’m NAF. I'll sit on your bench with this. It's annoying, but even more, I wish they'd stop saying they're guessing the gender of my kid. I get it's colloquial and most of the understand the difference between sex and gender but boy oh boy and I really done with people asking/saying anything about the gender of my kid. If you're going to guess about their sex, I'll roll my eyes, but fine. Stop with the gender. Not the same. Stahp.
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Post by sweetc129 on Dec 4, 2017 14:29:02 GMT -6
So update from my anatomy scan: baby looks great and we got all the pictures we needed! Iggy was folded in half, because of course, so that was kind of hilarious. The tech at one point was like, "Legs, face, legs, face," because my kid's head was between their knees. We all laughed. Then they started rubbing their face on their feet while we were trying to visualize their lips, so we moved along to other structures while we waited for them to stop being a turd. However. My cervix is a tiny bit short. 2.9cm or 2.5cm with pressure. We did a fFN test, which came back negative, so the likelihood I'll go into premature labor in the next two weeks is very small (<1%), but I can't help being irrationally nervous about it anyway. It certainly doesn't help that last night, Iggy wasn't moving as much or as strongly as usual and I had/have horrible pressure-y/bloaty/gassy/something-y pain in my pelvis, so I'm of course at the furthest side of doom. I'm about 70% sure it's either poops/gas or BH or RLP, but my brain isn't liking my logic. I would like to join team #readyforbirth just on the principle of this pregnancy making me crazy. ((HUGS)) No doubt it'll make you nervous but glad they are watching it. I'm sure if there was a big concern your OB would be on it. If it makes you feel any better movement does decrease a bit as you go along because there is less space even though baby is bigger. Glad everything else went well.
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Post by sweetc129 on Dec 4, 2017 14:30:25 GMT -6
I know it comes with the team green territory but i wish people would stop guessing the sex of this baby. WHY DO YOU CARE. It’s a weird way of commenting on how my body looks and I’m NAF. My one girlfriend decided to be team green and she said what made it easier and more fun is how pissed off everybody else was that they didn't know. FTR: Born today, and surprise...boy...cause that seems to be the theme these days.
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Post by yianna on Dec 4, 2017 14:40:39 GMT -6
Scan is done.
I don’t think they did a good job - they didn’t ask me gender or anything - which NBD bc I know it’s a girl BUT annoyed.
They had an inexperienced lady doing my level 2... and I know she needs to learn but she seemed so unsure of herself.
Baby looks good though - measuring perfect for her dates, has all 4 chambers of her heart and blood flow to both kidneys. Twin sac was not there either - so that’s resolved.
Now I’m sitting at my ob office - and they seem pretty rushed today.
But thank you all for all your good thoughts and prayers. I go back in 6 weeks to see MFM.
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Post by whatsit on Dec 4, 2017 14:53:34 GMT -6
Ya. Half the fun of being team green is to see how people respond to it.
But that being said, I get a lot of “Oh well you need a girl because you already have a boy”.
Umm... no. I don’t NEED a girl. I would like to have a healthy baby - the sex doesn’t matter.
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Post by ArielMermaid on Dec 4, 2017 14:58:14 GMT -6
I still fuck up sex and gender sometimes. My brain knows the difference but gender comes out of my mouth more than I'd like. It's been a weirdly hard habit to break for me and I feel bad about it.
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Post by cornpop on Dec 4, 2017 15:07:24 GMT -6
I'm making my H bring home a pizza for dinner because cooking is way outside my abilities at this point. I tried to nap and as soon as I started to drift off, the toddler woke up. I took her to my parents to try and get out of parenting for a bit and after 15 minutes she wanted to go home. auri I'm so on your bench. I want her to cook as long as she needs but omg can I please fast forward to 39 weeks? 16 more weeks of this sounds horrible.
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Post by auri on Dec 4, 2017 15:33:06 GMT -6
I am so confused and annoyed with DH's family. Mil is supposed to be coming for Christmas...and I just found out this morning that bil and his family are coming too. The original plan was for her to leave on the 18th and stay with a friend until the 20th, stay with her sister until the 22nd, and stay with us from the 22nd until the 28th. Here's the confusing part...now she's saying they will all leave on the 19th and stay until the 22nd and she'll sleep on the couch, but it's ok cause it's only for one night. Then the next sentence in the text message is that she's planning on going home the 25th. I don't think the math is working on that one. I don't really care who comes or for how long, but at least don't give conflicting information in the same text message. I think I'm going to start panicking now...cause I really need some carpet replaced before I have a houseful of people.
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Dec 4, 2017 15:37:52 GMT -6
I seriously have like 10+ packages being delivered today. I feel like I'm going to be shamed by my delivery men. I decided to try the maternity StitchFix and I just peaked at the items that were shipped, I already know I'm not keeping any of them. Oh well, good for my wallet I guess. All Christmas gifts? I got 6 packages today and it's blowing snow out. I felt really bad for our UPS guy and apologized for him having to make more than one trip from his vehicle to my house. He's definitely getting a gift card and some chocolate for Christmas this year. ETA: Oops. Just saw that you mentioned StitchFix as one of the boxes.
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Dec 4, 2017 15:40:59 GMT -6
Lots of hugs Rama. I can understand why you're feeling more anxious. How often will they be checking your cervix? Sounds like your OB will be keeping a close eye on you and baby. Sending all the calming vibes I have. ❤
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Post by cornpop on Dec 4, 2017 15:47:57 GMT -6
mattsgirl2004 it is mostly gifts and clothes for my toddler. In my defense, Target splits every order I place into 4 shipments.
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Dec 4, 2017 15:55:42 GMT -6
mattsgirl2004 it is mostly gifts and clothes for my toddler. In my defense, Target splits every order I place into 4 shipments. Amazon does that too. I placed two orders last week and got 6 boxes today.
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Post by tinyjoys on Dec 4, 2017 15:56:32 GMT -6
I still fuck up sex and gender sometimes. My brain knows the difference but gender comes out of my mouth more than I'd like. It's been a weirdly hard habit to break for me and I feel bad about it. I think it's because somehow gender became PC while sex still feels a little rated R for polite conversation.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Dec 4, 2017 16:19:13 GMT -6
LOL cornpop i feel judged by my mailman bc he left my mountain of packages by the garage instead of the front door. Thanks dude, now my pregnant butt has to lug them all in with a toddler... or leave them for DH which is what i ended up doing. auri is it possible your MIL thinks she’s texting some one else at the same time and just mixed up the messages? That would stress me out though - i need to know who is coming when and what their expectations for the visit are. I hope it all gets worked out.
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Post by Rama on Dec 4, 2017 16:34:53 GMT -6
I still fuck up sex and gender sometimes. My brain knows the difference but gender comes out of my mouth more than I'd like. It's been a weirdly hard habit to break for me and I feel bad about it. I don't really hold it against people much unless I know they're doing it on purpose for this exact reason. It's just a huge pet peeve (my husband does it, too, and I have to bite my tongue to remind him a billion times that he's using the wrong word when I know what he means) and I have a complicated relationship with the words. I also hate that as a child, when I couldn't remember the word "gender" to describe whether something was male or female for a school project, I used "sex" because it's a fucking correct word and I got shamed for it. I'll be bitter about that until the end of time. So, don't feel too badly. I know it's mostly my hangup and I know that most people mean well. I just mentally twitch everytime it happens. My kid(s) will be gendered by my family. I already know this. I hate that they're not even born and they're going to be subject to that bullshit. It's the top of the list of why I'm Team Green, so I can keep them from the toxic gendering portion of their existence as long as possible. [Sidenote: I don't have a particular problem with my child preferring ideas or themes traditionally associated with their assigned sex, I just don't want them given the idea that they "have" to be a way because of their genitalia, which is what my parents are likely to do.]
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Post by Rama on Dec 4, 2017 16:36:05 GMT -6
I really didn't say the initial comment on sex versus gender to make anyone feel shamed or poorly about themselves here. My apologies if it did make anyone feel that way.
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Post by ArielMermaid on Dec 4, 2017 16:38:42 GMT -6
I really didn't say the initial comment on sex versus gender to make anyone feel shamed or poorly about themselves here. My apologies if it did make anyone feel that way. No no! I didn't take it that way. It just reminded me that I still say that shit unintentionally sometimes.
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Post by alwayscheese on Dec 4, 2017 16:44:26 GMT -6
auri 😮 hope it all gets straightened out
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Post by clementine on Dec 4, 2017 19:59:16 GMT -6
I had my TDaP shot today and the nurse talked me into doing it my dominant arm bc she said I’d move that one more and it wouldn’t be as sore. Well guess what. I’m lazy and it is sore.
Also we opened the high chair we bought from amazon on Black Friday. Clearly had been used, dirty wheels and several scuffs and scratches. Grrr. I’m full of complaints today.
But here’s a positive - MH was a cleaning machine tonight and there’s freshly washed baby clothes near me so I’m relaxing in dreft-scented air.
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Post by auri on Dec 4, 2017 20:26:37 GMT -6
That's ok clementine I feel like all I've been doing on here today is complaining too. I'm currently sitting in l&d because I vomited again today and called the dr since now I'm worried about being dehydrated. I peed myself vomiting and the urine was almost an orangish color. I hope it's not too hard to return the high chair. I've never had to return anything to Amazon before.
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Post by ArielMermaid on Dec 4, 2017 20:39:57 GMT -6
God damn auri, you could really use a break from this sickness. I'm so sorry.
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Post by clementine on Dec 4, 2017 20:41:15 GMT -6
Ugh I’m sorry auri. That does not sound like a fun night. Hopefully they can get you hydrated and fingers crossed for your nausea to GTFO soon!
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Post by katietopaz on Dec 4, 2017 20:44:10 GMT -6
clementine That's super frustrating, I'm sorry. I hope Amazon doesn't give you too much trouble with exchanging it. auri Oh no! I'm so sorry about the vomiting and the possible dehydration. Hopefully L&D can help you get leveled out and hydrated. Keep us posted on how you're doing!
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Post by katietopaz on Dec 4, 2017 20:57:20 GMT -6
I still fuck up sex and gender sometimes. My brain knows the difference but gender comes out of my mouth more than I'd like. It's been a weirdly hard habit to break for me and I feel bad about it. [Sidenote: I don't have a particular problem with my child preferring ideas or themes traditionally associated with their assigned sex, I just don't want them given the idea that they "have" to be a way because of their genitalia, which is what my parents are likely to do.] And then there's a weird almost-guilt that comes with if your child does gravitate toward the traditional, stereotypical characteristics or toys. Like, DS has dolls, a play kitchen, and pink things. But kid discovered the wheels on cars and trains and now vehicles are all he talks about and wants to play with and watch shows about all. day. And I would 100% describe him as rough and tumble, "all boy," like you traditionally hear boys described. But he also has the sweetest, snuggliest emotional side. And we'll keep nurturing and validating that part of him, too. I hope that either way, once your LO is here, your parents get more on board with not trying to push those preconceived notions on him or her.
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Post by cp3 on Dec 4, 2017 21:58:55 GMT -6
Oh no auri! I hope your stay is short and they get some fluids in you.
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Post by cp3 on Dec 4, 2017 22:03:27 GMT -6
You guys I just want to cry. I have not been able to get more than a few hours of sleep in over a week. Last week was a nightmare with sleep training DD and then she was sick and had a few high fevers so I was constantly checking on her. Last night I had a horrible headache that I still have today. I got antibiotics for DD today for an ear infection and finally thought we would get some sleep tonight. Well the amoxicillin made DD break out in a rash so now I will be monitoring that all night. We gave her benadryl that just makes her hyper and she is still wide awake at 9pm. I'm so tired but can't sleep now in case the rash gets worse.
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Post by mintyblueair on Dec 4, 2017 22:30:34 GMT -6
cp3, ugh, sleep deprivation for any reason feels so unbelievably shitty. I'm sorry it's shaping up to be another bad night Did the Benadryl make any difference to the rash?
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Post by mintyblueair on Dec 4, 2017 22:41:39 GMT -6
My husband said his job interview this morning went really well! I'm happy for him, and now the waiting game begins...
I made mountains of shortbread and gingerbread, and a pan of Nanaimo squares with my mom today. I ate so much cookie dough. We'd hoped to get one more thing checked off the list but the rest will have to wait until next weekend. I might try to get a few of the no-bake things done throughout the week.
Now I'm watching Mayday with my husband. I love this show so much and I find aviation so fascinating, but it really doesn't help my phobia of flying!
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Post by dizzycooks on Dec 4, 2017 22:57:21 GMT -6
calendula I grocery shop like a mad woman with a list. At aldi too so it’s an in and I’m out kind of thigh, no messing around. whatsit now that we are having a boy I’m getting similar comments and pisses me off to no end. I may smack the next person who says something.
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Post by auri on Dec 4, 2017 23:12:14 GMT -6
I'm sorry cp3 😕 I hope your daughter feels better and you can get some sleep!
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