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Post by officedronette on Nov 30, 2017 22:19:20 GMT -6
I'll preface this with that she's gorgeous and I love her and when we hold her and she's so sweet and snuggly, I want a million more. BUT...
Here's my current woe - in addition to eating CONSTANTLY lately (like seriously this kid has been on the boob for over 4 hours since midnight), she keeps shitting herself WHILE she's eating, so then I have to change her when she's done, which wakes her up, and she insists on eating again.
I have no idea how to solve this problem, but it is definitely a problem. I knew my firstborn spoiled me - she consistently slept at least in 4 hour stretches from day one aside from the 4 month sleep regression. The most I get from this one is 3 hours from the beginning of one feed to the next, which after lingering on both boobs for 20 min with a diaper break in between, means I am literally spending my days either anxiously keyed up on adrenaline or crying because I'm so tired.
She doesn't really cry and she's super chill and sleepy otherwise, but she really needs to space out these feeds soon or I'm going to lose it. We had one good night and I was so hopeful, and now it looks like the third bad night in a row. 😭😩
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Post by jenn83 on Dec 1, 2017 2:35:49 GMT -6
Yep, yep, yep. Once a night we go through a let's sit on your nipple for 2+ hours so I can use it as a pacifier. Don't mind that I am horrible on getting her (or any of my babies) the proper latch so my nipples are shot. Also refuses the other 2 types of pacifiers during this time. Momy just wants to sleep baby girl.
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Post by officedronette on Dec 1, 2017 3:57:21 GMT -6
jenn83 - I haven't tried really introducing a pacifier yet because so many LCs are anti pacifier before 3 weeks. But I really need some effing sleep so if she doesn't get it together, it's going to need to happen soon. The Medela gel pads helped heal up my nipples if you can grab some of those. That plus using a nipple shield to prevent further damage until she got it together a little more with the latch. (The LC that I saw this week was super helpful for latch. She suggested making sure I have my feet up to bring baby close to the breast, and to use a hand between her shoulder blades to push her into the breast more deeply. She said if her chin is pressed in, it will help get a deeper latch, and so far, that's made a big difference.)
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Post by kensie5226 on Dec 1, 2017 7:26:40 GMT -6
Honestly I only change him if it bothers him. If he shits while eating MOTN, but has fallen asleep I wait for the next wake up. They wake up so much at this age it’s unlikely they’ll get any sort of rash in that short time. So we change before eating most wake ups and that way I know he’s getting changed at least every 3 hours. Plus then he’s really awake to feed well.
We’ve already given him a paci. I refuse to be a human pacifier. When you’re feeding her, listen for the “guh” sound after the sucking. That’s the swallowing sound. With my kids if they’ve stopped swallowing they get a paci.
As for the proper latch, it takes time. He’s gotten the hang of it on one side, but still struggles on the right. Lazy NB latch is rough, but it gets better. We have the proper form, but I’m still sore. Not bleeding raw, but sore.
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Post by kim22 on Dec 1, 2017 13:11:16 GMT -6
I never figured out that constant poop problem. What I saved in formula by breastfeeding, I spent in diapers for my breastfed kid.
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Post by officedronette on Dec 1, 2017 14:22:52 GMT -6
kensie5226 - I wish she'd be chill if I didn't change her - she freaks out at anything in her diaper, though thankfully not as bad as her older sister who would scream at a literal drop of pee. I'm really tempted to introduce the paci, but she is actually eating at all of the times she's nursing, and she isn't back to birth weight yet, so I want to make sure she's getting enough. I think she might have her days and nights mixed up - she sleeps longer stretches during the day than at night by like an hour if I'm using last night as an example. Pediatrician said to wake her to feed every 3 at day and every 4 at night (I wish). I think today I'm cutting the day interval to 2 to see if that helps her sort it out.
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Post by kensie5226 on Dec 1, 2017 20:47:45 GMT -6
officedronette, totally fair. Little dude doesn’t care if he’s poopy or wet or covered in spit up. He’s gained half a pound already so the paci is fine. He can totally tell the difference and will lemme know if he’s actually hungry. This mixed up babies are rough.
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Post by officedronette on Dec 2, 2017 7:28:04 GMT -6
She went 3.5 hours from start to start last night!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 I feel more human! Going to stick to every two hour daytime feeds and see if that continues to help.
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Post by officedronette on Dec 2, 2017 15:19:22 GMT -6
What are you all doing about staying home vs venturing out? Our pediatrician recommended staying home for about a month and avoiding stores and church to make sure she's a little bigger before risking exposure to flu or RSV. We did not stay home at all with our summer baby, but flu and RSV were not big concerns. She's not yet two weeks and I'm insanely stir crazy. We went out for a walk last night which was helpful, but my husband and toddler just went out to run errands and it had me in tears because I don't want to be trapped alone in this house. (I am also so ready for these hormones to work themselves out... I am over crying at EVERYTHING.)
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Post by sarahandben108 on Dec 2, 2017 15:24:42 GMT -6
What are you all doing about staying home vs venturing out? Our pediatrician recommended staying home for about a month and avoiding stores and church to make sure she's a little bigger before risking exposure to flu or RSV. We did not stay home at all with our summer baby, but flu and RSV were not big concerns. She's not yet two weeks and I'm insanely stir crazy. We went out for a walk last night which was helpful, but my husband and toddler just went out to run errands and it had me in tears because I don't want to be trapped alone in this house. (I am also so ready for these hormones to work themselves out... I am over crying at EVERYTHING.) I will be hunkering down for about a month. Between healing from my csection, Christmas, getting the baby stronger, and newborn sleep deprivation I have no plans on going anway. If you are super stir crazy, could you leave your DH a bottle and DD, and go out on your own for a bit? |
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Post by officedronette on Dec 2, 2017 15:48:40 GMT -6
What are you all doing about staying home vs venturing out? Our pediatrician recommended staying home for about a month and avoiding stores and church to make sure she's a little bigger before risking exposure to flu or RSV. We did not stay home at all with our summer baby, but flu and RSV were not big concerns. She's not yet two weeks and I'm insanely stir crazy. We went out for a walk last night which was helpful, but my husband and toddler just went out to run errands and it had me in tears because I don't want to be trapped alone in this house. (I am also so ready for these hormones to work themselves out... I am over crying at EVERYTHING.) I will be hunkering down for about a month. Between healing from my csection, Christmas, getting the baby stronger, and newborn sleep deprivation I have no plans on going anway. If you are super stir crazy, could you leave your DH a bottle and DD, and go out on your own for a bit? I don't plan on introducing pumping or a bottle for a couple more weeks yet to make sure we've got the breastfeeding thing down and my supply under control (I don't want to further stimulate my over supply). I can always just try to time an outing for right after she's fed and make sure I don't go far though - there are plenty of stores I could make it to within a 10-15 min drive. I always thought of myself as kind of a homebody but the idea of being trapped here for 2.5 more weeks is making me nutty! |
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Post by typo31 on Dec 2, 2017 17:20:29 GMT -6
officedronette I'll be venturing out. Not if it's freezing and we will definitely try to steer clear of high-kid germy areas, but I definitely need to run errands and get a few meals outside of home. And also to take advantage of this brief time when this little slug can be easily transported!
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Post by kim22 on Dec 2, 2017 18:15:18 GMT -6
What are you all doing about staying home vs venturing out? Our pediatrician recommended staying home for about a month and avoiding stores and church to make sure she's a little bigger before risking exposure to flu or RSV. We did not stay home at all with our summer baby, but flu and RSV were not big concerns. She's not yet two weeks and I'm insanely stir crazy. We went out for a walk last night which was helpful, but my husband and toddler just went out to run errands and it had me in tears because I don't want to be trapped alone in this house. (I am also so ready for these hormones to work themselves out... I am over crying at EVERYTHING.) My pediatrician told me after the last kid, the baby was probably safer at the mall, covered up then at a small family gathering where they will likely be passed around. DH went back to work less than a week after each of my 3 were born, leaving me to have to carry on. This time he will be home 5 weeks so I will likely keep the newborn home more. |
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Post by jenn83 on Dec 2, 2017 19:32:52 GMT -6
We venture. Cover when can, but can't be any more dangerous than my 17 month old bringing home all the germs from daycare.
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Post by kensie5226 on Dec 3, 2017 0:19:20 GMT -6
What are you all doing about staying home vs venturing out? Our pediatrician recommended staying home for about a month and avoiding stores and church to make sure she's a little bigger before risking exposure to flu or RSV. We did not stay home at all with our summer baby, but flu and RSV were not big concerns. She's not yet two weeks and I'm insanely stir crazy. We went out for a walk last night which was helpful, but my husband and toddler just went out to run errands and it had me in tears because I don't want to be trapped alone in this house. (I am also so ready for these hormones to work themselves out... I am over crying at EVERYTHING.) Hahahahah. Sorry, I brought this baby home to house full of sick people. We’ve been out and about. It’s fairly easy to keep people away by closing the stroller or keeping a cover on. I’m more concerned about what big sis may bring home from daycare, but I can’t control that. |
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Post by kensie5226 on Dec 3, 2017 0:21:36 GMT -6
I will be hunkering down for about a month. Between healing from my csection, Christmas, getting the baby stronger, and newborn sleep deprivation I have no plans on going anway. If you are super stir crazy, could you leave your DH a bottle and DD, and go out on your own for a bit? I don't plan on introducing pumping or a bottle for a couple more weeks yet to make sure we've got the breastfeeding thing down and my supply under control (I don't want to further stimulate my over supply). I can always just try to time an outing for right after she's fed and make sure I don't go far though - there are plenty of stores I could make it to within a 10-15 min drive. I always thought of myself as kind of a homebody but the idea of being trapped here for 2.5 more weeks is making me nutty! So far we’ve done short trips after he’s eaten. But, his food supply comes with me so if need be I can always nurse. With NBs I’m likely to go to the car b/c sloppy, but eventually I just whip it out. I have very little shame and a whole lot of bitch face. |
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Post by jenn83 on Dec 3, 2017 12:00:55 GMT -6
Well this Baby did amazing last night but now wants to cluster feed every hour. Momma just wants to use the bathroom in peace little one.
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Post by kensie5226 on Dec 3, 2017 16:43:46 GMT -6
jenn83, you’re able to use the bathroom in peace with a toddler?!
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Post by jenn83 on Dec 3, 2017 17:44:08 GMT -6
jenn83, you’re able to use the bathroom in peace with a toddler?! This was during the toddler's nap lol |
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