Infant Check-in (11/29)

[oldbaylover1024]

Age: 9.5 months

Milestones: Pulling up and climbing on everything. He's also scooting along furniture.

Challenges: Pulling up and climbing on everything LOL

Funny/cute stories: He's obsessed with his older sister. He sits on the floor and just stares at her. I think it's adorable. Older Sister is quickly growing tired of having a baby in her bubble 24/7.

How are you? Exhausted. Trying to get through the holiday season.

Anything else? I'm not super thrilled for the holidays. IDK why. I had to make myself get excited for Halloween and Thanksgiving. FX when we get our tree this weekend I'll be more in the spirit.

QOTW: Our thanksgiving was okay. My parents are challenging and I had a stomach flu, so I didn't eat thanksgiving dinner at all. It's my favorite holiday, too, so that was disappointing.

[oldbaylover1024]

Nov 29, 2017 11:04:26 GMT -6 enchanted said:

oldbaylover1024 That stinks. I'm sorry you were sick.

I lost 10 lbs. in 18 hours. It was seriously the flu from hell. It was just... so very awful. I ate my first real meal on Saturday night and I got the flu Monday evening. I still don't feel 100% and it's been over a week.

[addymac]

oldbaylover1024 ouch. I’m so sorry. That sounds awful. And so sad to have missed tg dinner!!

[addymac]

Age: 3mo

Milestones: being an asshole....

Challenges: he’s been a disaster this week. Naps have gone from 1-2hr to 20-30min max. Screams -not cries- bloody murder if I try to get him to play with his play mat, swing, sit me up, tummy time- anything. Hates sitting on the couch or laying on the floor. Hates being st home and only wants to be held and carried 24/7. He hates being at home- he’s so happy when we are out for a walk or at a store or museum. It’s so exhausting. And he hates his car seat unless he’s sleeping so 😣

Funny/cute stories: he’s so alert and active when we are out- he lives being in a forward facing carrier and he’s just so happy seeing new things. We went to a nature museum and they had a butterfly haven exhibit and he was sooooo happy watching all the butterflies fly around us.

How are you? So tired. Like mentally and physically exhausted. I’m so tired of doing 95% of childcare in my own. I know it’s not DHs fault that he has such a heavy work schedule but I’m so tired of being on my own every day and not having a support system here.

Anything else? Finding childcare sucks. The in home DCP we picked in October just told us she’s pregnant again (has a 5mo) so she won’t be able to watch N after May, and is giving us the option of backing out now - so we are back on the search for a nanny. First time was torture. The second time, this is almost worse. I’m so tired of fielding stupid emails and messages and weird ass people that respond to my requests. Also, I’m really mad bc the in home dcp was cheaper than what we had expected and budgeted for, so I could drop some hours at work and be home more, and now that we have to go back to a nanny it’s going to be $$$ and I can’t drop my hours or go to day shift and DH literally doesn’t hear him cry at night (he woke up THREE times last night and DH didn’t wake up except at the 5am one, bc his alarm woke N up). And I’m supposed to be ok with going to work at nights? How?? I’m just so down in the dumps about going back to work and affording childcare.

QOTW: Did you have a good holiday/week? I was sad we didn’t get to spend it with family but we had a nice time just the three of us.

[oldbaylover1024]

addymac - Huge hugs, friend. That's a lot to be dealing with. I'm sorry your husband's work schedule is so crazy and you're often solo at home.

And the daycare struggles are the worst. We're not in love with C's situation right now either, so I get it. FX you can line up a nanny soon.

Regarding the change in sleep, hopefully it's short lived. Perhaps it's a growth or developmental spurt? IDK I just hope it's over soon.

Are you back at work or going back soon?

[addymac]

oldbaylover1024 thanks. I think it’s def related to some sort of growth spurt- physically or mentally, idk, but woof. I am wiped out. luckily I’m off til January. So we still have a bit of time to find someone, it’s just an exhausting process.

DH came home today and said his fellow residents suggested to just cry it out for sleep and I am like 😒. He’s not waking up just because- he’s still eating every time like 4+ oz and then falls back asleep quickly! I’m not going to cry it out when he’s hungry. If he were just waking and not eating, maybe, but ugh.

[oldbaylover1024]

Yeah, you have to be comfortable with CIO. It's not for everyone. I hope you get some rest soon!