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Post by emilie on May 31, 2017 21:46:27 GMT -6
So, postpartum sex sucks for me. I know this probably is 99% due to breastfeeding, as I didn't give birth vaginally so nothing was messed with down there. I've tried using a lot of lube and though that helps a little, it's still painful. We also are using condoms for BC, as the mini pill made me crazy, I'm allergic to spermicide, and I'm not interested in an IUD. The condoms make it suck even more and it basically feels like I am having sex with a crumpled up piece of sandpaper. H hates it too because we haven't used condoms in like a decade.
Is there anything I can do? Any other nursing moms dealt with this? Did it get better after your LO weaned? I am so not interested in giving up on nursing in order to have a sex life, but I just need to know that this will get better at some point! I'm 5.5 months PP.
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Post by betches on Jun 1, 2017 6:02:26 GMT -6
I have no advice since it pretty much sucks for us too, but I'm following along. I'm assuming it has to get better at some point since people have multiple kids? I'm hoping at least
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Post by ktg on Jun 1, 2017 8:23:05 GMT -6
My OB said to call her if sex was painful, and she'd give me a script for estrogen cream. Just a thought.
After my first, sex was not very fun but eventually the discomfort went away after a couple of months. Find better condoms, though. If you have to use them, there are a lot of varieties out there!
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Post by Nymeria on Jun 1, 2017 8:25:01 GMT -6
I'm 8.5 months PP and while it has gotten better, it's definitely not where I want it to be. My libido way down and it takes forever to O. I'm still nursing and haven't had a PP period yet, so I assume it's definitely a hormone thing.
An IRL friend just got her first PP period a few weeks ago and she said since then sex has felt much better. She's still nursing too, so there's hope!
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Post by annanas on Jun 1, 2017 10:42:02 GMT -6
I just had my 6wk appointment yesterday and yet to have sex, but I do remember it taking a bit to feel comfortable last time.
My midwife suggested a natural spermicide that I want to try (you can find it on amazon)
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Jun 1, 2017 13:00:03 GMT -6
Accurate description of condom sex.
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Post by littlelion on Jun 1, 2017 17:07:42 GMT -6
I'm 6 mo pp and still bf'ing. Sex felt pretty much the same as before when we got back to it. I don't want it as much but that's cause I'm tired.
I also had a c-section.
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Post by hurricanerek on Jun 1, 2017 18:32:33 GMT -6
How is your pelvic strength? Sex was quite painful for me until I went to pelvic pt. After a few weeks of targeted stretching, our sex life has vastly improved.
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Post by peaseblossom55 on Jun 1, 2017 18:51:46 GMT -6
Sex is painful and the libido is low. I feel so bad. We also aren't using any MC as the odds of getting pregnant are so so low.
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Post by moonandback on Jun 1, 2017 23:36:05 GMT -6
I feel like it took forever to get good after my first two. I'm only 8w pp and avoiding it still. I totally agree with getting better condoms. H likes to butter me up with wine, too. I'm ok with that! Haha
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Post by emilie on Jun 2, 2017 11:00:56 GMT -6
What are these better condoms you all speak of?
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Post by danib on Jun 2, 2017 17:59:32 GMT -6
I had to get a prescription for estrogen suppositories after DS1 because sex was so painful for me. It made a significant difference. We didn't even try this time around, my doctor automatically gave me the prescription again.
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Post by mikaela20 on Jun 2, 2017 21:50:27 GMT -6
I'm almost 4 months pp and also had a csection. Sex is also painful and my libido is almost non existant. I'm having bloodwork done soon to check on my hormone levels.
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Post by notagoddess on Jun 3, 2017 11:26:55 GMT -6
This is me too. I have literally wanted it one time in the last 3 months, and it was painful even then. The other couple of times we tried were worse. I didn't even make the connection with nursing but that makes sense. I had thought it was the forceps delivery which messed up my pelvic floor.
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Post by notagoddess on Jun 3, 2017 11:28:38 GMT -6
emilie have you thought of using the pullout method vs condoms? I don't mind condoms too much but I know a lot of people have a better experience with that.
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Post by emilie on Jun 5, 2017 7:57:18 GMT -6
emilie have you thought of using the pullout method vs condoms? I don't mind condoms too much but I know a lot of people have a better experience with that. Yes, but that makes me nervous because I had some hemmorhaging during my c-section and my OB recommended that I wait 2 full years before giving birth again. |
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Post by notagoddess on Jun 5, 2017 9:08:54 GMT -6
emilie have you thought of using the pullout method vs condoms? I don't mind condoms too much but I know a lot of people have a better experience with that. Yes, but that makes me nervous because I had some hemmorhaging during my c-section and my OB recommended that I wait 2 full years before giving birth again. Given that I totally understand the anxiety. |
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