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Post by jexxa on Nov 21, 2017 19:09:07 GMT -6
Today...was not a good day. I spent half the day at work thinking I was getting fired (I’m not), but now my manager might be and I just feel sick about the whole thing. Then daycare pick up was a disaster. P was crying because she was tired and hungry. DS pooped in his pull-up but I didn’t notice until I was getting him in the car, and which point I just wanted to get home so I could tend to P. Well we get home and DS has poop all up his back and all over the car seat (surprise! It was diarrhea!). And some other little things. It’s only 8:00 but I just want to go to bed, and I can’t because I have laundry to do and bottles & pump parts to wash. 😫😫
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Post by jexxa on Nov 21, 2017 19:12:21 GMT -6
Oh shoot and I forgot - jt2378 I’m so glad you finally have a surgery date! Hopefully your recovery doesn’t affect Xmas too much.
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Post by jt2378 on Nov 21, 2017 19:22:06 GMT -6
Sorry for the rough day jexxa! My toddler still gives zero fucks to PT and changing the shitty diapers are literally the worst 😩
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Post by king26 on Nov 21, 2017 19:30:06 GMT -6
jexxa I'm sorry for the rough day. Ugh J had a good nap day Usually we have a fee super short naps, one really long one, and a few in between. Today he had 3 one hour naps, a 45 minute nap then a.30 minute nap before bed which was perfect timing. I got a swaddle up to help us transition from the swaddle because he goes ape shit now when swaddled but can't sleep unswaddled. He started crying when I put him in it then realized he could suck his hands.and totally smiled. I hope it works because he seems to.like it...at least wasn't crying. So the last week j has hated bath time. I don't know what happened. He used to spend 15 minutes I the tub with us and loved it. Now he screams and cries. Any ideas?? I'm going to try him in his own tub and hope that helps.
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Post by jt2378 on Nov 21, 2017 19:58:19 GMT -6
jexxa I'm sorry for the rough day. Ugh J had a good nap day Usually we have a fee super short naps, one really long one, and a few in between. Today he had 3 one hour naps, a 45 minute nap then a.30 minute nap before bed which was perfect timing. I got a swaddle up to help us transition from the swaddle because he goes ape shit now when swaddled but can't sleep unswaddled. He started crying when I put him in it then realized he could suck his hands.and totally smiled. I hope it works because he seems to.like it...at least wasn't crying. So the last week j has hated bath time. I don't know what happened. He used to spend 15 minutes I the tub with us and loved it. Now he screams and cries. Any ideas?? I'm going to try him in his own tub and hope that helps. They just go through weird phases. Don’t worry, he will probably love the bath again in a week lol. Hope the new swaddle helps. M’s naps were shit today. It’s amazing how everyday can be different!
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Post by addymac on Nov 21, 2017 22:36:35 GMT -6
jt2378 ugh I’m sorry the surgery is so close to Xmas but I hope it helps resolve things once and for all!! And that recovery goes well and quickly. Thanks, ladies. It was a rough day. I just cried and went to bed with him at like 10 even though I hadn’t pumped since 6p- that was a mistake! The pain woke me up at 4am, but clearly I needed sleep. Today was a much better day, so at least. Idk wtf to do about his sleep. I hope turning 3mo is a magical change for him. I’m not holding my breathe 😆😭😏 I tried to take 3mo pics yesterday- epic fail since he just screamed the whole time, but also bc then I sent a pic to DH to be like .. this is our day.... and he was like uh, he’s 3mo not 2.... I had set up the blocks to read 2 months not 3 months!!! 🙈🙈🤣🤣 I’m just glad I didn’t get any good ones that I’d be pissed about not being able to use LOL. dummy, party of one here!!
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Post by king26 on Nov 22, 2017 0:05:57 GMT -6
addymac I'm glad you had a better dsy. Yeah I keep saying surely his naps will get better at 3 months....because 3 months is magic right?? Lol. We will see
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Nov 22, 2017 4:33:10 GMT -6
addymac Sorry you had such a bad day. I've yelled at my babies too in a situation like that. It happens and doesn't make you a bad mom. Baby knows that you love him. Baby h has razor sharp claws too and it worries me so much to cut them. I don't know what to tell you about the bad sleep, but I've been there with my older one and it sucks. I hope tomorrow is better for you.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Nov 22, 2017 4:44:27 GMT -6
I'm so behind on this. jexxa sorry for the crappy day. The pooping in the pull-up is the worst and would make me so annoyed. I finally told ds1 that if he poops in his pull-up, the poop has to go to the landfill and is sad. If he poops in the potty, the poop zooms to the waste management center and then it can help grow a tree and is happy. As ridiculous as that is, it actually helped. He was like, "awwww, poopy is sad!" We then started a potty chart where he gets a star every time he pees and two stars if he poops and then every seventh time, he gets a hot wheels car ( he's car obsessed). Oh, and when we started, I banned pullups, even for night. He will pee in the pull-up. We used cloth briefs with plastic pants over. I don't want to jinx myself but he is finally, finally close to being trained. Sorry for the unsolicited advice, but just in case it helps. jt2378 So sorry your surgery is so close to Christmas. Hopefully you will be feeling better by then.
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Post by addymac on Nov 22, 2017 5:04:41 GMT -6
They just go through weird phases. Don’t worry, he will probably love the bath again in a week lol. Hope the new swaddle helps. M’s naps were shit today. It’s amazing how everyday can be different! This is so true. Sometimes I can get M to smile and splash in the bath. Some times she hates it and screams. Some nights she wants to be swaddled some times she doesn’t. Done naps she just passes out, some naps she needs to cry for an hour first. She’s very complicated I was telling DH last night I don’t understand why sleep is so hard for some babies! Like, humans need sleep to survive. If we don’t sleep, you can die from literally no sleep, so why haven’t we evolved enough at this point to make babies sleep more!!!!! I’m sure there’s a better survival aspect to how things are right now, but I am not a fan of it so 💁🏻
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Post by bsouls on Nov 22, 2017 5:12:27 GMT -6
addymac I’m not sure if I’ve told this story here before, but it’s my favorite story to tell about becoming a new parent. In the hospital they talk to you about not shaking a baby over and over. You have to watch videos, you have to sign a paper, you have to promise not to shake the baby. You see posters about not shaking the baby and how you just put the baby in a safe spot like their crib. You keep thinking, “who would shake a baby? Of course you just walk away, who’d shake a baby?!” Then you’re home with that baby and they’re crying. You realize, “they were talking to me. Holy shit, they were talking to me. I’d shake a fucking baby!” You don’t shake the baby, but you realize how it could happen because sometimes babies don’t stop crying and you’re at your wits end. Also, everyone yells at babies. Or at least, I think they do. “What the fuck do you want?! I don’t know why you’re crying!!!” And, for a moment they stop and you think, “holy shit yelling works.” But, then they scream even louder and keep crying. Id like to say it gets easier, but my 3.5 year old has been pushing me to lose my shit lately. My mom apparently used to yell/swear a lot (my parents used to fight about her mouth), but I don’t remember it. I remember being loved, so hopefully my kids don’t get scarred by my yelling.
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Post by king26 on Nov 22, 2017 7:53:10 GMT -6
We bought J a swaddle up because he hates being swaddled but can't sleep without it. He started crying being put into it then realized he could suck his hands and actually laughed! He slept so well last night too. I hope this continues!
I said he hates baths now. Well I went into the bathroom while DH was taking a bath and j lost his shit even though he wasn't getting in. I felt so bad.
How do you get the baby on a schedule so I can get him up and ready before work? If you work what time does baby go to Bed?
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Post by bsouls on Nov 22, 2017 8:21:47 GMT -6
king26 I just go with R’s schedule. Even if I wake her to give her an extra bottle then she still wakes at her typical time. So, her bedtime is 6-7pm, depending on her last nap/awake time. She’s been waking once still at night/early morning. Today we got up at 4:30am. Is your H not staying home? With both kids, I’ve just worked around their schedule and then H deals with how I leave it.
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Post by jexxa on Nov 22, 2017 8:42:23 GMT -6
king26 right now P goes to bed between 8:30 and 9:15, and I get her up at 7 in the morning to leave the house by 7:35. I’m hoping to get her bedtime closer to 8.
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Post by king26 on Nov 22, 2017 9:40:17 GMT -6
bsouls he is staying home but I'd like to have j dressed and ready foe the day before I leave and give my h time to shower and get dressed before I go. jexxa j goes down between 8 and 9 now then gets up around 7. Ideally I'd like him up at 630 though. Another question..how do I get up without waking him in the morning? I want him to continue to sleep in our room until at least the end of December. I keep wondering how I'm going to have my alarm go off and have him not wake up so I can have a half hour to do things before he wakes up.
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Post by jt2378 on Nov 22, 2017 10:20:15 GMT -6
bsouls he is staying home but I'd like to have j dressed and ready foe the day before I leave and give my h time to shower and get dressed before I go. jexxa j goes down between 8 and 9 now then gets up around 7. Ideally I'd like him up at 630 though. Another question..how do I get up without waking him in the morning? I want him to continue to sleep in our room until at least the end of December. I keep wondering how I'm going to have my alarm go off and have him not wake up so I can have a half hour to do things before he wakes up. Honestly I️ wouldn’t worry about having him up and dressed. YH can still take a shower before you leave and then dress him later on? As far as waking J, do you use a cell phone or real alarm clock? I️ would just keep it close to you to turn off quickly. I’m a light sleeper though so it likely wouldn’t be going off for long.
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Post by addymac on Nov 22, 2017 11:11:39 GMT -6
Does anyone have to get their kid up and out at ungodly early hours? Like once I’m back at work DH will have to have N dropped off by 6-7 most days. How do you wake them up so early if he’s going to bed so late and how terrible is it to interrupt his sleep by waking him up? I feel like the worst whenever I end up waking him up from a nap.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Nov 22, 2017 11:16:34 GMT -6
bsouls he is staying home but I'd like to have j dressed and ready foe the day before I leave and give my h time to shower and get dressed before I go. jexxa j goes down between 8 and 9 now then gets up around 7. Ideally I'd like him up at 630 though. Another question..how do I get up without waking him in the morning? I want him to continue to sleep in our room until at least the end of December. I keep wondering how I'm going to have my alarm go off and have him not wake up so I can have a half hour to do things before he wakes up. Honestly I️ wouldn’t worry about having him up and dressed. YH can still take a shower before you leave and then dress him later on? As far as waking J, do you use a cell phone or real alarm clock? I️ would just keep it close to you to turn off quickly. I’m a light sleeper though so it likely wouldn’t be going off for long. This may be really terrible but since my dh has to drop both boys off at daycare since I'm already at work, I've just been putting baby h in fleece sleep and play one piece outfits. He wears it as jammies and then all the next day so dh doesn't have to do an outfit change. I dress him cute on the weekends I don't know if that would help at all.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Nov 22, 2017 11:20:08 GMT -6
Does anyone have to get their kid up and out at ungodly early hours? Like once I’m back at work DH will have to have N dropped off by 6-7 most days. How do you wake them up so early if he’s going to bed so late and how terrible is it to interrupt his sleep by waking him up? I feel like the worst whenever I end up waking him up from a nap. addymac Dh drops the boys off at daycare around 7. Baby h is going to bed at 8:30 now so that's okay, but ds1 goes to bed at 10, and I've failed and failed to move his bedtime up. I would just try to move N's bedtime up incrementally, like 15 minutes each day although that has NOT worked with my toddler. I hate waking a sleeping baby too. It's also possible that after you wake N up for a week or so, he will naturally move his bedtime up.
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Post by king26 on Nov 22, 2017 12:04:24 GMT -6
Honestly I️ wouldn’t worry about having him up and dressed. YH can still take a shower before you leave and then dress him later on? As far as waking J, do you use a cell phone or real alarm clock? I️ would just keep it close to you to turn off quickly. I’m a light sleeper though so it likely wouldn’t be going off for long. This may be really terrible but since my dh has to drop both boys off at daycare since I'm already at work, I've just been putting baby h in fleece sleep and play one piece outfits. He wears it as jammies and then all the next day so dh doesn't have to do an outfit change. I dress him cute on the weekends I don't know if that would help at all. We swaddle but I could totally put a sleep n play on underneath for the day. Good thought
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Post by king26 on Nov 22, 2017 12:06:13 GMT -6
bsouls he is staying home but I'd like to have j dressed and ready foe the day before I leave and give my h time to shower and get dressed before I go. jexxa j goes down between 8 and 9 now then gets up around 7. Ideally I'd like him up at 630 though. Another question..how do I get up without waking him in the morning? I want him to continue to sleep in our room until at least the end of December. I keep wondering how I'm going to have my alarm go off and have him not wake up so I can have a half hour to do things before he wakes up. Honestly I️ wouldn’t worry about having him up and dressed. YH can still take a shower before you leave and then dress him later on? As far as waking J, do you use a cell phone or real alarm clock? I️ would just keep it close to you to turn off quickly. I’m a light sleeper though so it likely wouldn’t be going off for long. I'm also a light sleeper so maybe I'll set an alarm one day next week to practice and see if it wakes j up.
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Post by king26 on Nov 22, 2017 12:08:38 GMT -6
Does anyone have to get their kid up and out at ungodly early hours? Like once I’m back at work DH will have to have N dropped off by 6-7 most days. How do you wake them up so early if he’s going to bed so late and how terrible is it to interrupt his sleep by waking him up? I feel like the worst whenever I end up waking him up from a nap. I will be leaving at 715 but h will be here . J had a week of going to bed after 9 but I was causing us to get up to late so we started putting him down 10 or 15 minutes earlier a night now he is back to going between 8 and 830. I also had to wake him from his last nap several times to do this.
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Post by jexxa on Nov 22, 2017 14:45:54 GMT -6
Another question..how do I get up without waking him in the morning? I want him to continue to sleep in our room until at least the end of December. I keep wondering how I'm going to have my alarm go off and have him not wake up so I can have a half hour to do things before he wakes up. P would always wake up, or stir around a bunch. That was part of the reason we moved her into her room.
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Post by muscari on Nov 22, 2017 14:50:27 GMT -6
Ohh addymac, I'm late responding but I'm so sorry you felt like the worst mama ever. You are not! You are a great, wonderful, sweet and loving mom and he knows that, too! My patience with D. runs thin at times as well and I get short and crabby with her.. which makes me feel bad too but aahhh tis so hard for us mamas sometimes as well. *hugs* mama and I hope today has been a better day ♥ Thanks @easilyunamused for the kind words
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Post by muscari on Nov 22, 2017 14:54:03 GMT -6
Add me to the cut her finger too and the claws are out of control right now. Anyone else’s kid pushing off you with Hercules strength? Sometimes I️ feel like she is going to go flying in the air! It’s especially fun while she is nursing ugh It's so weird, those first 2 months every time D's nails got long before I could trim them they somehow break and got loose on their own.. but now they grow like whoa and it's definitely time to cut them. After reading all your posts about how difficult it is to trim them I really hate to try haha! And yup, D. has monster strenght in her little legs (and her arms, too)! It drives me nuts, the pushing off while nursing. Mommies nipples aren't thát elastic, baby!
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Post by muscari on Nov 22, 2017 14:56:04 GMT -6
Today...was not a good day. I spent half the day at work thinking I was getting fired (I’m not), but now my manager might be and I just feel sick about the whole thing. Then daycare pick up was a disaster. P was crying because she was tired and hungry. DS pooped in his pull-up but I didn’t notice until I was getting him in the car, and which point I just wanted to get home so I could tend to P. Well we get home and DS has poop all up his back and all over the car seat (surprise! It was diarrhea!). And some other little things. It’s only 8:00 but I just want to go to bed, and I can’t because I have laundry to do and bottles & pump parts to wash. 😫😫 Oh no, that sounds extremely stressful. So sorry you had to deal with that. I hope the situation with your manager won't be as bad as it looks like it may be. And ahhhh so sorry about the poop incident Hopefully his tummy is better now!
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Post by bsouls on Nov 22, 2017 14:57:30 GMT -6
R has been trying to roll back to stomach today, but she can’t get past her arm when she’s on her side. My baby doesn’t want to be a baby.
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Post by jexxa on Nov 22, 2017 15:01:44 GMT -6
R has been trying to roll back to stomach today, but she can’t get past her arm when she’s on her side. My baby doesn’t want to be a baby. P has been doing this too. It makes her look like such a contortionist 😂
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Post by muscari on Nov 22, 2017 15:05:04 GMT -6
king26 Yay for a good nap day. I hope today was just as good! We don't have a bathtub, but do plan on installing one before too long (the plumbing and all is already done, we just need to get the tub and install it.. so hopefully that won't be too hard to do heh) and I can't wait to see D. splash around in the water. I always loved playing in the tub as a child (though obv I don't remember much from when I was a baby ;-)). D. used to like her baths then started screaming last time I put her in her bath. MH takes her into the shower with him sometimes (he'll sit down on a stool and keep her in his lap, while holding the showerhead so it won'tsplash in her face etc) and she loves that addymac LOL at the 2mo blocks at the 3mo pics *g* I totally could have done that too! I add the months/text etc using an app so that makes it a little easier to rectify such mistakes heh. Did you make new pics yet? D. is 3 months tomorrow and I hope she'll feel like coorporating.. we'll see Crying baby pics are cute too, and so funny sometimes (even though it makes me feel like a bad mother to giggle at her sad face.. she just makes the cutests and funniest sad faces sometimes!) thinkchocolate05, ahh I love that story about the sad poop and that it helped your son. That's so cute and wonderful it worked for him. FX he's soon indeed fully trained!
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Post by muscari on Nov 22, 2017 15:09:19 GMT -6
R has been trying to roll back to stomach today, but she can’t get past her arm when she’s on her side. My baby doesn’t want to be a baby. I hear so many of you about baby trying to roll over one way or another.. D. hasn't even tried yet.. should I be worried?? She pushes off with her legs and what not and perhaps will lean over one side or the other some but nothing that comes close to rolling. Can I do anything to help her learn? I've played with her and gently rolled her from her tummy onto her back and back and she seems to like that.
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