guster
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Post by guster on Oct 31, 2017 9:31:25 GMT -6
BIL sent me an email last night that he wants us, SIL and her H, and MHs BFF and his family to be together for Christmas week. It would be eight adults and five children under five. They want to rent a big house somewhere snowy from the 23rd to the first.
It's an easy enough ride to spend time before and after the holiday, but I really would prefer being home with just our little family of four on Christmas morning. MH doesn't care how we handle it. He's always rather be home Am I being unreasonable? I have a warped sense of this because I didn't grow up with siblings.
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Post by peachsmama on Oct 31, 2017 9:40:51 GMT -6
peachsmama Market value is different from appraisal value. You only get taxed on your appraisal value. Most counties tax on whatever was there Jan 1. Since you hadn't started building yet you'll probably just be land only for this year. I don't know what the details are for your area though. That would be lovely.
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Post by mwhip on Oct 31, 2017 9:42:22 GMT -6
I don't think you're being unreasonable guster. Each family has their own traditions and while the kids are young, is the best time to start them. While it sounds like fun, waking up Christmas morning in your own home, by your own tree, and letting the kids play with their own toys, sounds perfect to me!
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Post by tgrimes on Oct 31, 2017 9:42:26 GMT -6
guster You do whatever you want to do. It's your family traditions. When I was growing up we rotated where we spent Christmas. But it was always with my grandparents and my aunt's family. (all from my mother's side.) As we got older we stopped doing it with my Aunt and my grandparents rotated between our house and my aunt's house. Now that I have kids, I'd prefer to just spend it at my own house. When the kids get a little older I may spend one Christmas at my sister's house so they can play in the snow.
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guster
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Post by guster on Oct 31, 2017 9:49:10 GMT -6
Thank you, tgrimes and mwhip. There a very close sibling subset, and have always spent the holiday at the oldest brother's house. MH used to go before we were together, even when he lived in New York, because his first wife (did I ever tell you he was married before?) had family down there. I didn't push it when we were dating, but the Christmas after we got engaged was about a month and a half after I lost my dad, and I didn't want to be anywhere but home, so we carved our own traditions here. His brothers gave him a hard time about that. Mostly his older brother, and mostly because he didn't communicate that he wasn't going to NC. Anyway, our tradition is here. I appreciate the idea of the little cousins being together, but I think I am going to figure out how we can do Christmas Eve and Christmas Day here and then spend the rest of the week with them. Thanks- sorry for the novel.
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Post by wineallthetime on Oct 31, 2017 9:53:18 GMT -6
BIL sent me an email last night that he wants us, SIL and her H, and MHs BFF and his family to be together for Christmas week. It would be eight adults and five children under five. They want to rent a big house somewhere snowy from the 23rd to the first. It's an easy enough ride to spend time before and after the holiday, but I really would prefer being home with just our little family of four on Christmas morning. MH doesn't care how we handle it. He's always rather be home Am I being unreasonable? I have a warped sense of this because I didn't grow up with siblings. No way. Being home with just my little family on Christmas morning is a must for us. It always was in my family growing up too.
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Post by tallb on Oct 31, 2017 9:53:56 GMT -6
Happy Halloween! I handed out treats on campus for js school. Gorgeous day and kids were adorable. His costume was a hit and I heard a friend compliment his dog tail. Hoping it stays clean so I can get a good pic with Nora tonight. Now should focus but a little hopped up on the excitement of Halloween. I love this holiday with this age.
And bad mom's Christmas is funny! It's more about relationships with moms/grandmas, which i didn't realize, but I recommend for a girls night once it comes out!
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Post by slenle on Oct 31, 2017 9:57:32 GMT -6
BIL sent me an email last night that he wants us, SIL and her H, and MHs BFF and his family to be together for Christmas week. It would be eight adults and five children under five. They want to rent a big house somewhere snowy from the 23rd to the first. It's an easy enough ride to spend time before and after the holiday, but I really would prefer being home with just our little family of four on Christmas morning. MH doesn't care how we handle it. He's always rather be home Am I being unreasonable? I have a warped sense of this because I didn't grow up with siblings. No way. Being home with just my little family on Christmas morning is a must for us. It always was in my family growing up too. This is us too. Now that we have kids, I'm so glad my brother and sister pushed to not do Christmas at my parents. I love being home Christmas morning.
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cagoldi
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Post by cagoldi on Oct 31, 2017 10:00:14 GMT -6
Dammit, Tapatalk!
I lost my spot on the LLR thread and I'm too busy with work to try to get to the right page.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Oct 31, 2017 10:01:14 GMT -6
guster I am 100% team Christmas at home. We have our own traditions and I just want to be with my little family.
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guster
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Post by guster on Oct 31, 2017 10:02:32 GMT -6
I love you guys! I don't think I needed to feel justified about this, but it is really nice to see that most of you like Christmas at home.
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Post by peachsmama on Oct 31, 2017 10:04:28 GMT -6
guster We even have a rule that we don't leave our house until 3pm on Christmas day. We make brunch, open presents, watch christmas movies, and just relax. DH grew up going to 5 (FIVE) houses on Christmas day so this was important to him.
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Post by Sunny41 on Oct 31, 2017 10:06:23 GMT -6
I think I might setup the electric heaters in the garage tonight and the laptop and put on some Halloween cartoons. The wagon and some blankets too. Then E can hand out candy and have fun in the cold weather.
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Post by cagoldi on Oct 31, 2017 10:14:44 GMT -6
guster I like being at home in the morning for Christmas then going to family's homes later. If I stay at home all day, it seems like I'm not doing it right somehow. Maybe because my parents were divorced so we went all over when we were kids. Or maybe because I feel like I need the grown-ups to do "the real Christmas." Most days I still feel like an imposter, I can't really be an adult yet.
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Post by tallb on Oct 31, 2017 10:15:25 GMT -6
I love you guys! I don't think I needed to feel justified about this, but it is really nice to see that most of you like Christmas at home. On the flip side, I've never done this as an adult. In theory I want to do Xmas morning at home, but I know when we have a real house and tree I will be excited, but it will be super hard for me. I apparently am quite attached to my traditions with my family and think I'm still a kid. It would also be weird to not be with my sister. Related, I hate planning for the holidays, so much stress.
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Post by cagoldi on Oct 31, 2017 10:15:56 GMT -6
Good news: we have a lot of RSVPs for Dude's party Sunday.
Bad news: it's at a park and the forecast calls for rain.
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Post by cagoldi on Oct 31, 2017 10:16:34 GMT -6
Okay, I see we are holiday mind twins, @tallblonde.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Oct 31, 2017 10:19:03 GMT -6
We do Christmas every year at home but I think it would be fun to rent a big house with all of my family one Christmas and everyone wake up together.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Oct 31, 2017 10:23:10 GMT -6
I actually have to work this Christmas. Normally we have a very busy family visiting schedule but that’s just not going to be possible. My sister already asked us to go to her house for brunch on Christmas morning (normally we go to the IL’s house) because my sisters that live out of town don’t want to be stuck here all day. I have a feeling MIL will be upset by the change in plans but 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by klong11 on Oct 31, 2017 10:24:30 GMT -6
This will be the first year we stay home for Christmas. I don't know what our new traditions will be yet.
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Post by wedding on Oct 31, 2017 10:28:53 GMT -6
I love you guys! I don't think I needed to feel justified about this, but it is really nice to see that most of you like Christmas at home. On the flip side, I've never done this as an adult. In theory I want to do Xmas morning at home, but I know when we have a real house and tree I will be excited, but it will be super hard for me. I apparently am quite attached to my traditions with my family and think I'm still a kid. It would also be weird to not be with my sister. Related, I hate planning for the holidays, so much stress. Me too! My mom told me the other night that she isn't going to make Prime Rib for Christmas this year because it's so fatty and she will make something that I can eat. I immediately protested! Even though I can't stomach it now, Prime Rib is a MUST!
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Post by tallb on Oct 31, 2017 10:28:55 GMT -6
Okay, I see we are holiday mind twins, @tallblonde. The movie is actually about giving up with all the stress from the holidays and everything you are "supposed" to do, which was a good reminder. But seeing it gave me holiday anxiety already😣.
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Post by wedding on Oct 31, 2017 10:30:30 GMT -6
This past Christmas was our first staying home and having a tree. It was amazing! I wouldn't be opposed to the whole house thing but it sounds like more chaos than fun. Plus then I'd have to lug presents back and forth and that doesn't sound fun at all!
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Post by wineallthetime on Oct 31, 2017 10:36:56 GMT -6
We stay home Christmas morning but then go to my parent's house. All my sisters go and we open gifts, drink a ton and all spend the night. It's great. They're less than an hour away though so it's not like we are traveling.
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Post by klong11 on Oct 31, 2017 10:37:22 GMT -6
On the flip side, I've never done this as an adult. In theory I want to do Xmas morning at home, but I know when we have a real house and tree I will be excited, but it will be super hard for me. I apparently am quite attached to my traditions with my family and think I'm still a kid. It would also be weird to not be with my sister. Related, I hate planning for the holidays, so much stress. Me too! My mom told me the other night that she isn't going to make Prime Rib for Christmas this year because it's so fatty and she will make something that I can eat. I immediately protested! Even though I can't stomach it now, Prime Rib is a MUST! Uh, prime rib is def. a must for Christmas. There is no food substitute for that.
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Post by wineallthetime on Oct 31, 2017 10:37:48 GMT -6
FFTC: C was being such a jerk that I gave him zarbees so he'd nap. He needed it and I REALLY needed it.
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guster
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Post by guster on Oct 31, 2017 10:59:04 GMT -6
This past Christmas was our first staying home and having a tree. It was amazing! I wouldn't be opposed to the whole house thing but it sounds like more chaos than fun. Plus then I'd have to lug presents back and forth and that doesn't sound fun at all! This stresses me out on the more high maintenance side of me. I want the tree to look a certain way, and I want to spoil the hell out of my kids, and that's not something that's important for the families we will be traveling with.
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Post by yummeecookee on Oct 31, 2017 11:05:40 GMT -6
I didn’t care so much as a kid.... we often traveled to my gparents house (out of state at the time) so we could wake up there on Xmas morning. But now, w my own family, it’s impt to me to be home and have our own traditions for Xmas morning. We then get together w everyone later for Xmas dinner.
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Post by guster on Oct 31, 2017 11:08:29 GMT -6
My mom was one of five. One of her sisters always hosted Christmas Eve. That was our big celebration. Christmas Day was always with your own individual family. My mom would host Christmas Day dessert at 7 for whoever wanted to come – family, neighbors, friends of mine who didn't celebrate Christmas. Everyone got to do their own thing all day -- open presents, see other family, even have dinner, and if they wanted to stop by there was always enough sweet to go around. With my mom not here, we've let go of the desert scenario, although, I think it's a tradition I'd like to bring back when kids are little older. The last two years have been incredible being home on Christmas Day. I made a crockpot breakfast casserole, and Josie opened presents all day long because she would open one, play with it, and then take a break and then go back for more. Fffc: Josie didn't open everything last year, so we still have some things, still wrapped, for this year. I made a fancy dinner and dessert for the four of us, and then we just settled in to watch TV and play.
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Post by peachsmama on Oct 31, 2017 12:04:29 GMT -6
I just started the Crown on Netflix. Seems like something flamingo would like. Have you watched it? More importantly, if you have, is there going to be another season?!
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