Autumn Squirrels IVF Check In 10/26

[bonzo]

Welcome to the IVF check-in for October 26!

Check-ins will be every Monday (babyhopes) and Thursday (bonzo). If we've left you off the check-in, or if you'd like to be added or removed, please let us know!

This is a check-in for those who are doing IVF or FET. Please don’t hesitate to use this check-in for IVF/FET info and support even if you’re not currently cycling. If you are interested in joining, please fill us in on your cycle. Everyone is welcome. Also, please update us along the way!

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QOTW: What is your favorite way to relax?

Autumn Squirrel Image: imgur.com/vMO6VaV

BFP! Congratulations!

BFN ((Hugs))

PUPO! Congratulations! Rooting for all of you!
jense927 , congrats! FX so hard for you!
bananas22 , Congrats! FX for you! 

Cycle Complete (ER only/testing)

Between ER and ET

Stimming/FET Main Prep
happyin14 , so sorry you ovulated. FX the other follicles grow and you still get some!

Waiting to Cycle
fikafairy , Hope things are going better with the ILs!
skidevil87 , hope the Lupron is going ok.
bonzo , appointment tomorrow!
hoosiermama76 , good luck with baseline Friday.
twohopes , good work on the weight loss! 
babyhopes , how did the biopsy go?

[skidevil87]

Lupron is going really well. I was on the high dose for 6 months so none of the lup is new to me. Baseline on 11/2, stims start on 11/3!

[twohopes]

That's great, skidevil87! Fingers crossed for your upcoming stimulation! Thanks for the thread, bonzo,
It's Friday, guys! Yay!
My favorite way to relax is by taking a nice long walk in nature: never fails to make me feel so much better!

[skidevil87]

Oct 27, 2017 7:33:19 GMT -6 twohopes said:

That's great, skidevil87 ! Fingers crossed for your upcoming stimulation! Thanks for the thread, bonzo ,
It's Friday, guys! Yay!
My favorite way to relax is by taking a nice long walk in nature: never fails to make me feel so much better!

At first I thought you wrote a nice long nap. Seriously. Hahaha! That is something I could get down with!

[twohopes]

Well, a nice long nap in nature also sounds pretty good. On a remote beach ...

[jense927]

I need to find a good way to relax. I feel like I am go go go all the time. I do enjoy reading a book but haven't found the time lately to do so.

I have been testing on the trigger and it still isn't gone. I am hoping the line starts getting darker! Anyways hoping the time passes quickly in this torturous phase of TTC.

[twohopes]

jense927, yeah, fingers crossed the line fades and then pops back up in full force!

[bonzo]

My appointment went really well! I really like the donor coordinator, which I feel really helps the transition to this process. We have our list of next steps, like having a joint counseling appointment and H needs to get an updated SA. And then we're set to match with a donor once we find one!

[fikafairy]

I also need to find a good way to relax. Usually my favorite way is to get a really good book and lose myself in it for a while, but that hasn't been working lately.

IL update - nothing good. No one has said anything to us - no apologies, no reaching out, no mindless conversation - nothing. It's like none of them even care how much the situation hurt us, and continues to hurt us by them failing to acknowledge it. I'm ready to permanently cut them off, but I don't think DH is there yet.

[happyin14]

fikafairy, that sucks. I don’t get why people behave this way.

I generally can’t cut people off completely, so I get it. Even when i should. Is there some version where he writes a letter explaining why it was hurtful and how it made you guys feel?

I hate that I sometimes have to manage other people’s grief and reactions. But I’ve found over the years that it’s easier than expecting them to figure it out. It’s not fair- but might be worth it. I dunno.

[fikafairy]

happyin14, sadly this isn't the first time his family has acted like this. This is just the most recent, and honestly the most hurtful. A few years ago on Thanksgiving, there was an incident where this same brother's dog started barking at our DS (he was 3 at the time), DS got scared and started crying, which made the dog bark more, and everyone basically blamed us for being bad parents and "allowing" our DS to be scared of a dog. We were told we were being ridiculous and that we needed to make DS stop crying. I was out of the room when it happened (in the bathroom for like 2 minutes), and when I came back to the chaos, MIL was going on some rant about how I never talk to anyone except follow DS around when I'm there. DH (and to be fair, FIL) were defending me when I walked back in, and DH called them all out. All of them badmouth one another behind everyone else's back, and I generally don't participate in those conversations, so... that means I don't talk apparently? There's SO MUCH MORE to the backstory with them, but that's one of the other clearest examples I can think of.

Anyway, they are generally difficult people on a good day. We can write a letter for sure - but will they read it? Will they care? I'm not sure, and that's sad.

[bananas22]

bonzo, Glad your appointment went well.
skidevil87, You are starting stims so soon!
jense927, FX for you! Are you going to keep testing or wait until beta?
happyin14, were you/are you going to be able to trigger? (Sorry if I missed an update)
fikafairy, That's so frustrating, hurtful, and a lot more adjectives but basically it's really not okay. I hope you and your DH are able to find something that works for you.

Still (not) so patiently waiting here. I've been doing luteal HCG so I can't really test at all. I'm going to test the night before beta but I'm not sure if I'll test before that.

QOTW: Reading a book.

[jense927]

bananas22 I am gonna wait until at least Thursday. Betas are on Friday. MH Birthday is on Wednesday and I don’t want it to be a sad day for him. So we will be happy and hopeful and either wait for betas or test Thursday.

We had some crazy weather here last night and now my office doesn’t have power...so not going in today! Too bad I got up and ready before realizing this.

[happyin14]

bananas22- thanks for checking in. Just left the RE and I trigger tonight! I sort of can’t believe it. I have about 10 follicles that look promising. Let’s just hope the eggs are good.

[bananas22]

Oct 30, 2017 6:08:30 GMT -6 happyin14 said:

bananas22- thanks for checking in. Just left the RE and I trigger tonight! I sort of can’t believe it. I have about 10 follicles that look promising. Let’s just hope the eggs are good.

Yay! Good luck!

[bananas22]

Oct 30, 2017 4:40:35 GMT -6 jense927 said:

bananas22 I am gonna wait until at least Thursday. Betas are on Friday. MH Birthday is on Wednesday and I don’t want it to be a sad day for him. So we will be happy and hopeful and either wait for betas or test Thursday.

We had some crazy weather here last night and now my office doesn’t have power...so not going in today! Too bad I got up and ready before realizing this.

My beta is Friday too. My goal was to wait until Thursday but DH will be out of town then so I might test earlier. Happy early birthday to your H!

**tw loss ment**




I can't (won't) test Wednesday because it's the anniversary of the due date for my son who was stillborn and I know I can't handle any news on that day, positive or negative.

[jense927]

Oct 30, 2017 7:26:32 GMT -6 bananas22 said:

Oct 30, 2017 4:40:35 GMT -6 jense927 said:

bananas22 I am gonna wait until at least Thursday. Betas are on Friday. MH Birthday is on Wednesday and I don’t want it to be a sad day for him. So we will be happy and hopeful and either wait for betas or test Thursday.

We had some crazy weather here last night and now my office doesn’t have power...so not going in today! Too bad I got up and ready before realizing this.

My beta is Friday too. My goal was to wait until Thursday but DH will be out of town then so I might test earlier. Happy early birthday to your H!

**tw loss ment**




I can't (won't) test Wednesday because it's the anniversary of the due date for my son who was stillborn and I know I can't handle any news on that day, positive or negative.

((Hugs)) That is so hard. Fingers crossed that you get a positive test either tomorrow or Thursday and great betas!!

[happyin14]

Oct 30, 2017 7:26:32 GMT -6 bananas22 said:

Oct 30, 2017 4:40:35 GMT -6 jense927 said:

bananas22 I am gonna wait until at least Thursday. Betas are on Friday. MH Birthday is on Wednesday and I don’t want it to be a sad day for him. So we will be happy and hopeful and either wait for betas or test Thursday.

We had some crazy weather here last night and now my office doesn’t have power...so not going in today! Too bad I got up and ready before realizing this.

My beta is Friday too. My goal was to wait until Thursday but DH will be out of town then so I might test earlier. Happy early birthday to your H!

**tw loss ment**




I can't (won't) test Wednesday because it's the anniversary of the due date for my son who was stillborn and I know I can't handle any news on that day, positive or negative.

Anniversaries suck. And the energy spent trying to manage other life events around these dates is exhausting. Lots of love this week.

[bonzo]

happyin14, yay! I'm happy you're finally ready for trigger! FX you get some great eggs.

bananas22, sending you hugs this week. Everything crossed that your betas are great on Friday!

[jense927]

I started spotting today...pretty sure I am out


I'm not sure where we go from here...

[bonzo]

Hugs, jense927, sending you lots of positive thoughts and prayers.

[skidevil87]

jense927, Love, hugs, and prayers.

[happyin14]

I am so, so sorry, jense927. What did the rest of the day look like?

[sally]

Can I join?

I was on TCF as Tinkerbell. I'm AMA. We did 3 IVF retrievals that resulted in 1 PGS tested embryo and 1 embryo that wasn't tested. Our next step is a FET, which we were supposed to do this cycle but we are cancelled. We are planning for to a natural cycle transfer, but my body didn't get its act together, so we will try again the next time I get my period.

QOTW: does sleeping count? Otherwise, I like to read.

[jense927]

Welcome sally! Hope that your body acts right next time.

Thanks everyone. I am still spotting. Seems like AF is on her way which is weird because I am taking PIO. My body must really not want to be pregnant
Haven't tested to confirm yet because I don't want that disappointment too for DH bday. I will test tomorrow but I feel like I already know the answer...
We have a follow up with a new RE (mine just left the practice) on Wednesday next week. I am curious as to what they will suggest.

[bonzo]

Welcome over here, sally! We'll get you onto the next check in!

[happyin14]

Home from retrieval. Got 8 eggs. I’m slightly disappointed because I saw 15 good size follies on Monday. But considering we almost scrapped the cycle, I can cope.

[skidevil87]

happyin14, I'll keep my fingers crossed that they fertilize correctly and develop!

[twohopes]

Welcome, sally !
jense927 , oh no! I hope it's just innocent early implantation spotting and it stops. Will you test soon? ETA: Sorry, I saw later that you plan to test on Friday. Hoping for the best.
happyin14 , Fingers crossed for the next steps!

[bonzo]

happyin14, FX for a good fert report!