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Post by milano on Oct 25, 2017 20:12:51 GMT -6
What are the rules on this? We don't have a neighborhood to take our kids trick-or-treating in. Our families are too far away to drive to for this. Are they destined to never get the full trick or treating experience? Or can we adopt a neighborhood?
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Post by ovenrack on Oct 25, 2017 20:14:07 GMT -6
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Post by tj on Oct 25, 2017 20:16:14 GMT -6
So. We happen to live in one of those neighborhoods where people practically bus their kids in to trick or treat. I can see how it could be perceived as rude. But personally, I don't care.
It's Halloween. I bought the amount of candy that I planned to give out. And whether it goes to the kids in my hood, or kids without a hood of their own, I don't care.
I'm especially happy to give good candy to kids who wouldn't usually have access to top shelf candies.
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Post by grumpycakes on Oct 25, 2017 20:30:42 GMT -6
So my kid is supposed to miss out on Halloween because people don’t come to our neighborhood? No. If you live in a popular neighborhood then embrace it or abstain from passing out candy. No one forces you to participate. But be thankful that children are gathering in a safe neighborhood and stop being a curmudgeon.
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Post by grumpycakes on Oct 25, 2017 20:35:07 GMT -6
We actually drive into the next town where there’s an old neighborhood full of Victorian houses and they fully embrace drive in ToTers. Everyone decorates to the nines and people come from all the downtown neighborhoods into that area. It’s super fun.
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Post by mintyblueair on Oct 25, 2017 20:39:26 GMT -6
It's never occurred to me that this could be considered rude. It's quite common in my city. My parents' neighbourhood gets tons of kids who don't live there.
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Post by charlotte on Oct 25, 2017 20:59:01 GMT -6
I have always known this to be common. It seems snooty to turn your nose up at children who just want to ToT in a safe neighborhood that participates and actually passes out candy.
Our particular street/immediate area doesn’t really participate in handing out candy, but 1/2 mile down the road does. We will drive DS over there for ToTing because the alternative is he doesn’t get to.
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Post by mapleme on Oct 26, 2017 3:37:04 GMT -6
It’s super common here because so many kids live in rural areas without good ToT. I’m actually not sure what the best neighborhood is yet (but I’ve got some educated guesses) because our downtown shops hand out candy and we’re doing it for the first time this year. If it’s a good scene we’ll probably keep doing it. But if it’s not great we’ll figure which neighborhood to go to.
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Post by Dramaphile on Oct 26, 2017 6:49:22 GMT -6
We get a decent number of drive-in Trick-or-treaters from probably the next town over (which has more lower-income folks) and I welcome it. My street is always hoppin' on Halloween, and I'm glad kids are coming here to have a safe place to ToT. I even give candy to the teenagers who show up, because why the hell should I rain on their enjoyment of my favorite holiday just because they're teens? Kids grow up too fast anyways. People who bitch about it need to get over it or turn their lights off and stop giving out candy.
So in summary, find a street that gives out candy and take your kid and don't feel guilty about it.
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Post by jnu76 on Oct 26, 2017 9:35:51 GMT -6
I live in a neighborhood where people drop their kids off. I have no problem with kids in costumes. My problem is with teenagers not in costume. My end of the bargain is to give you candy, and your end is to amuse me with your costume. I would happily give candy to adults if they were wearing one.
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Post by grumpycakes on Oct 26, 2017 10:07:00 GMT -6
I live in a neighborhood where people drop their kids off. I have no problem with kids in costumes. My problem is with teenagers not in costume. My end of the bargain is to give you candy, and your end is to amuse me with your costume. I would happily give candy to adults if they were wearing one. They’re just kids having fun. I’d rather hand out 10 cents worth of candy to an uncostumed teenager innocently celebrating a last Halloween than have those kids doing any of a number of unsavory activities teenagers are wont to do. |
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Post by mapleme on Oct 26, 2017 11:05:25 GMT -6
Post ToT question: how do y’all manage candy? As much as they want? Set number per day? How about those with little non-candy eating siblings?
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Post by grumpycakes on Oct 26, 2017 11:12:07 GMT -6
Post ToT question: how do y’all manage candy? As much as they want? Set number per day? How about those with little non-candy eating siblings? Intense daily negotiations. Lol. |
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Post by niko8083 on Oct 26, 2017 11:17:23 GMT -6
Post ToT question: how do y’all manage candy? As much as they want? Set number per day? How about those with little non-candy eating siblings? Right now, B is only interested in chocolate. And very specific, such as m&ms, plain Hershey chocolate, so everything else is pretty much up for grabs for DH and me lol. |
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Post by critter015 on Oct 26, 2017 11:18:11 GMT -6
Post ToT question: how do y’all manage candy? As much as they want? Set number per day? How about those with little non-candy eating siblings? Oh, you mean I'm not supposed to give them one a day for a couple of days and then eat the rest myself? |
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Post by charlotte on Oct 26, 2017 11:40:41 GMT -6
Post ToT question: how do y’all manage candy? As much as they want? Set number per day? How about those with little non-candy eating siblings? Oh, you mean I'm not supposed to give them one a day for a couple of days and then eat the rest myself? This is my plan |
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Post by mapleme on Oct 26, 2017 16:46:19 GMT -6
Post ToT question: how do y’all manage candy? As much as they want? Set number per day? How about those with little non-candy eating siblings? Oh, you mean I'm not supposed to give them one a day for a couple of days and then eat the rest myself? Cool, I like this plan. I can’t eat them but we can send them to DH’s work. |
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Post by milano on Oct 26, 2017 17:21:41 GMT -6
Post ToT question: how do y’all manage candy? As much as they want? Set number per day? How about those with little non-candy eating siblings? I just told J that he could have two pieces every day. He seemed fine with that, for now anyway. So that's my plan. |
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Post by stringy on Oct 26, 2017 17:37:18 GMT -6
Wait. How do you keep C from eating candy mapleme? P has sweets radar and anything opened within a 50 foot radius she is on top of. Screeching. ETA: this isn't just sweets. All food. |
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Post by charlotte on Oct 26, 2017 17:39:20 GMT -6
I have car candy. I sneak out to the garage when I need a fix.
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Post by mapleme on Oct 26, 2017 18:23:17 GMT -6
Wait. How do you keep C from eating candy mapleme? P has sweets radar and anything opened within a 50 foot radius she is on top of. Screeching. ETA: this isn't just sweets. All food. We don’t really eat candy here. Sweet things are usually homemade or a parent’s private stash that the kids don’t see. Or it’s chocolate, which M doesn’t like. Generally C is like P and wants all the food things, but she also generally accepts if something is only for someone that is not her (like popcorn or dried fruit). She will flip the eff out if it’s something that she has been allowed to have in the past though. |
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Post by rugger on Oct 27, 2017 6:12:49 GMT -6
Wait. How do you keep C from eating candy mapleme? P has sweets radar and anything opened within a 50 foot radius she is on top of. Screeching. ETA: this isn't just sweets. All food. Yeah both my kids will climb the pantry shelves to get to sweets. R has woken up before the sun to sneak marshmallows. Halloween candy is so not safe from her grabby hands. |
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Post by mimsy on Oct 27, 2017 8:58:11 GMT -6
We also live in a destinations neighborhood for ToT. The neighborhood even acknowledges it and tried to ensure safety since we also do not have street lights. (A has gotten the stink eye for driving down the street prior to ToT- he was coming home from work). They are very serious about making it as safe as possible.
Drive a little bit to take your kid if that is what you want them to experience. You could also see if a church or social club is offering a trunk or treat. I know it's not the same, but it's a little less guilt inducing than going to a random neighborhood.
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