mimsy
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Post by mimsy on Oct 25, 2017 10:38:44 GMT -6
Today's random self wellness topic is... Frustration
What is a current frustration and what plan do you have to ease that?
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stringy
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Post by stringy on Oct 25, 2017 11:05:29 GMT -6
I don't do frustration well. I get frustrated pretty easily, too.
I'm having trouble thinking of an ongoing frustration I'm trying to deal with. Last night both kids were screaming for me when I got home. One cuz she was told tv time was over, the other cuz I hadn't nursed her the moment I walked in the door. For a good hour the big one yelled about all the things, pushed away BM repeatedly - clinged to my leg. The little one got her milk (while big one climbing on me) and then cried anytime I tried to comfort the big one. I quickly gave up the hope of making either of them happy - found some alcohol, and mentally checked out of the situation until putting them to bed asap. All the while wondering what my life had become.
I deal with it in pretty self-destructive ways - so would love suggestions.
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Post by snowmoon on Oct 25, 2017 11:09:55 GMT -6
I've been really frustrated with our living situation. We've been sharing the house with my parents as a short term solution because rent is outrageous here and there aren't a lot of rentals available. Living with my dad though is wearing on me. He micro manages and is condescending and overbearing. I've been so irritable and angry. It's not healthy.
I told them they need to be out by the new year but as far as I know they haven't been looking. Meanwhile I'm saving every penny to have a down payment for our first house. I'm frustrated that it's not happening as fast as I want it to and that the cost of living has gotten so high here.
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Post by charlotte on Oct 25, 2017 11:14:21 GMT -6
I have been really frustrated lately with feeling like I have to yell to be heard over the noise in our house (not in an angry way, just volume-wise). MH and DS are both just SO loud all of the time. No matter where I go in the house I can hear constant banging, thumping, horseplay.
It is fine in small doses, of course, but I just get so over-stimulated and so sick of feeling like I have to yell to be heard.
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Post by Dramaphile on Oct 25, 2017 11:19:44 GMT -6
My biggest frustration is probably my short fuse when it comes to Nugget whining/crying/complaining/demanding things. It grates my nerves so badly and I have such a hard time saying no to her because she is persistent and obnoxious. J wavers between just giving her what she wants and getting mad at me for giving in to her too much. Ugh. Lately I've been trying to distract/redirect her when she does it, or offer her other choices (she wants a cookie before dinner, she can have a healthier snack). Sometimes it works and sometimes I lose.
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Post by critter015 on Oct 25, 2017 11:53:56 GMT -6
I have major husband and kid frustrations lately, which seem to have been magnified because everyone has been sick. E has been awful, SO much crying and hanging on me and really, I can't even go to the bathroom because she's whining and trying to crawl between my legs. O can't keep his hands to himself or stop destroying things. Really? You're 4 and you are still trying to eat the carpet?! DH refuses to put any effort into doing anything at home besides playing Angry Birds lately and I don't know what to do with him. On Sunday I got so frustrated with the kids whining and fighting and DH sitting in his chair being useless that I stormed out of the house and took a walk around the neighborhood. It was so nice to just have a few minutes to myself! Later I tried talking to DH about what the problem was, but I don't think he will ever get over his resentment over me not having a job, even though I keep trying to talk to him about the fact that I'd really like to work, but I need a little support from him to make that happen. I'm so frustrated that I don't have any real skills that are marketable and my anxiety limits the types of jobs I'd be willing to take.
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mimsy
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Post by mimsy on Oct 25, 2017 12:05:33 GMT -6
stringy I'm with you on the short fuse. I get frustrated because any attempt I make at housework I have a not so helpful helper or someone who constantly wants to be in my presence. I cut back on the drinks. It's not easy but I needed to just feel better. The tv time thing is a slippery slope for me. Sometimes I will put on a WindowChannel episode that features just fish swimming in the reefs. There is no music and it's enough to slightly distract her for a while (plus toys) that I can accomplish something. Here is a preview- full version is on Prime
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stringy
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Post by stringy on Oct 25, 2017 12:12:50 GMT -6
mimsy, I don't think M would go for anything that isn't one of her beloved shows - at 4.5 she's much too good at arguing and holding her ground to fall for that. Also can operate the tv/roku. Last night's meltdown was brought on b/c we had to actually take the remotes and put them out of reach since she kept turning it back on. BUT she may enjoy watching that in general, and I know P would and it looks nice and calming so I'll definitely check it out! I don't drink all that much, quantity wise. It's at least something I can do in the kitchen in the midst of the chaos.
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Post by Dramaphile on Oct 25, 2017 12:39:20 GMT -6
stringy I'm with you on the short fuse. I get frustrated because any attempt I make at housework I have a not so helpful helper or someone who constantly wants to be in my presence. I cut back on the drinks. It's not easy but I needed to just feel better. The tv time thing is a slippery slope for me. Sometimes I will put on a WindowChannel episode that features just fish swimming in the reefs. There is no music and it's enough to slightly distract her for a while (plus toys) that I can accomplish something. Here is a preview- full version is on Prime omg why have I never heard of WindowChannel? Nugget would totally love a video that was just fish swimming around.
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