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Post by piratecat on Oct 25, 2017 21:06:51 GMT -6
rosesquared ice cream sundae costume sounds awesome! peaseblossom55 I can't believe you have a one year old! Happy birthday to her!
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Post by piratecat on Oct 25, 2017 21:07:56 GMT -6
pepperpottsj I love all of her faces! And your dad....... ugh!
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Post by ssm on Oct 25, 2017 21:11:03 GMT -6
Let's get to know each other and hang out here! 1. How old is your LO? Ds1 - 3 almost 4 Ds2 - 5wks 2 days (3 days adjusted) 2. What milestone have you hit recently? What new skills are they working on? I have no idea. Lol. Does survival count? 3. What new challenges are you working on currently? Breastfeeding. We didn't nurse in nicu. We didn't nurse when he came home because I was too focused on him gaining weight. It has only been the past two weeks we have been trying this nursing thing. So, we are working on it. He has been latching better and nursing better. I think much of it is learning and him growing. Flat nipples and preemie babies don't work well together. 4. How are things going for you? Are you back at work? Staying at home? I'm Sahm. I'm still working on figuring out how to juggle 2. Ds1 isn't in any school programs. So it's us 3 all day. Which is rough when you are up all night and then up at 7 with the toddler. 5. Do you have any other questions for the group? Start a thread! 6. And feel free to share pictures! ETA: 7. Are you and the baby dressing up for Halloween? What will you be?
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Post by muscari on Oct 25, 2017 22:23:40 GMT -6
Anyone know how I can change my avatar on tapatalk? I tried to do it but it seems to have only changed in the other place but not here...I don't like sad anonymous avatar person! If you go to the main screen of tapatalk .. click the little head icon to go to your profile. Then click on the avatar thingy and the next page lets you upload an avatar and make changes to your username. 😀
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Post by ssm on Oct 26, 2017 1:01:55 GMT -6
I feel like I recognize several names....I'm not sure if it is from my time on parenting way back when or ttc boards or what. But I see some familiar faces.
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Post by Taitai on Oct 26, 2017 1:18:08 GMT -6
Thanks for the tag piratecat! 1. How old is your LO? 13 days 2. What milestone have you hit recently? What new skills are they working on? Breastfeeding is going really well - so that is a relief. He is starting to have more awake stretches during the day and is enjoying batting at the dangly toys on his kick n play piano. 3. What new challenges are you working on currently? Sleep deprivation and finding a good balance of time between DS1 and DS2. I feel like some nights we get good 3-4 hour stretches, but then last night he was up every other hour to eat. So tired. I also am feeling a little guilty that I haven't been able to give DS1 the amount of attention I used to. I know it will get better, but it's hard now. 4. How are things going for you? Are you back at work? Staying at home? I am feeling okay for 13 days pp. I was on bedrest for about 6 months of my pregnancy, so my body is continually sore as I try to regain lost muscle tone. I also had SPD, and my hips still really hurt. I am on maternity leave until mid-January, and then I go back to work full time. 5. Do you have any other questions for the group? Start a thread! I'll think of something and start one once I have a good idea! 6. And feel free to share pictures! Will post some later. ETA: 7. Are you and the baby dressing up for Halloween? What will you be? Baby is going to be a pumpkin - I have an orange woombie swaddle and a little green hat for him. DS1 will be a doctor, DH will be Dracula, and I'm just going to wear all back - don some cat ears, and be a black cat. Sooooo creative...😅😅
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Post by mikaela20 on Oct 26, 2017 4:55:36 GMT -6
Tagging on tapatalk is harder now. 1. How old is your LO? 8 months 2. What milestone have you hit recently? What new skills are they working on? Two teeth came in and another 2 are coming through! He is still working on trying to crawl and he likes to stand supported alot. 3. What new challenges are you working on currently? Hmm why can't I think of anything? It's all challenging at times lol 4. How are things going for you? Are you back at work? Staying at home? Things are great. Still enjoying my mat leave until March. Not looking forward to going back to work. I'm trying to apply for a new job internally to be closer to home. I'm just not looking forward to interviews either. Eta he is going to be a teenage mutant ninja turtle. But his bedtime is 6:30pm so he will be celebrating in the afternoon. I'm going to send me H outside of hand out can't so my door bell doesn't go off and wake the baby.
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Post by sleepymonkey on Oct 26, 2017 6:51:46 GMT -6
Hi, ssm ! I know you from way back in our D13 days!
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Post by ssm on Oct 26, 2017 7:16:11 GMT -6
Hi, ssm ! I know you from way back in our D13 days! we keep bumping into one another in random boards! I KNEW I recognized your name. But then I got confused because my o17 board has a duskymonkey and then i started second guessing myself 🙈 I just need sleep and coffee. Which we all know doesn't happen with newborns 😂
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Post by whitney on Oct 26, 2017 7:25:31 GMT -6
he is a tornado. And thanks! We are on cycle 2, but month 3. I'm on a forever long cycle now. Ugh, that's annoying, I always had long cycles. Are your cycles still out of whack PP? Is that a thing? We are trying to decide if and when we are going to start trying again. Eep. sorry I am just getting back to you. Not really, they have been pretty consistent. I think I'm going to start within the next day or two though because I'm cramping and all of the tests are negative
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Post by sleepymonkey on Oct 26, 2017 7:42:03 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? J will be 4 on NYE and O will be 6 months next week 2. What milestone have you hit recently? What new skills are they working on? He got his first 2 teeth 2 weeks ago. Still working on trying to get him to sit up. He doesn't appear to like the sitting position and would much rather just move straight to standing. We also just introduced cereal once a day and are moving on to purees this weekend. He seems to enjoy the act of eating from a spoon so maybe he'll be a better eater than his big sister. 3. What new challenges are you working on currently? Trying to get O to drink more during the day so he will sleep longer at night. He's a good sleeper so I can't really complain but at this point, the max he goes between bottles most nights is 5 1/2 hrs. During the day, he will rarely take more than 4oz at a time which is low for his age. 4. How are things going for you? Are you back at work? Staying at home? I went back to work after 8 weeks so we're pretty solid in our routine now. O goes to my parents' house when we're at work and J goes there 2x a week, is at preschool 2x and on Fridays, either me or H is home with them. When O starts at daycare next year, we may put him in 3 days a week (M,W,F) and switch J to 3 days so we can have the option of having Fridays to ourselves. I feel a little guilty about wanting to send them to daycare when I'm at home but our lives are so hectic, I just feel like I need some alone time every few weeks! 5. Do you have any other questions for the group? Start a thread! 6. And feel free to share pictures! Here's my happy guy! ETA: 7. Are you and the baby dressing up for Halloween? What will you be? J is going to be Supergirl so she decided that O needs to be Superman. We just got him a Superman sleeper with a detachable cape. H is going to wear a Superman t-shirt but I could not find a Supergirl t-shirt that wasn't skin tight and that's just not going to work for me.
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Post by teachermomtobe on Oct 26, 2017 8:35:48 GMT -6
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Post by teachermomtobe on Oct 26, 2017 8:39:45 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 4.5 months 2. What milestone have you hit recently? What new skills are they working on? Rolls to belly all the time, sometimes holds her own bottle, belly sleeps 3. What new challenges are you working on currently? Possibly teething 4. How are things going for you? Are you back at work? Staying at home? I’m good! V starts daycare PT next week to adjust to when I return to work on 11/20. I think she is going to love it and I am looking forward to some free time to get things done (haircut, buy new clothes, lesson plan) before returning to work. 5. Do you have any other questions for the group? Start a thread! 6. And feel free to share pictures! ETA: 7. Are you and the baby dressing up for Halloween? V has a pumpkin onesie. I don’t think she would tolerate a costume and we have nowhere to wear one anyway.
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Post by teachermomtobe on Oct 26, 2017 8:42:59 GMT -6
Still can’t figure out how to post in a comment so I made a second comment. Jeez I’m such a n00b! This is V at her baptism last weekend.
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Post by muscari on Oct 26, 2017 9:14:50 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 9 weeks
2. What milestone have you hit recently? What new skills are they working on? She discovered different sounds and loves to babble. Grabbed a toy for the first time (with some help) and held in to it for a bit. She likes to kick her babygym rattle.
3. What new challenges are you working on currently? She doesn't love tummy time. Her neck muscles seem pretty strong and she holds up her head well while playing airplane (which she LOVES!) and other occasions but seems to forget during tummytime. Also working on getting her to nap in the bassinet rather then on me...
4. How are things going for you? Are you back at work? Staying at home? Things for me are going so so. Been having it superrough with lots of random crying and generally feeling low and like I couldn't breath and was faking this being a mom thing lately Taking things one day at a time.
My maternity leave ends November 1st but I was laid off just prior to going on leave so there will be no returning to work for me just yet. Part of me is still pissed off (and me and my union rep are still fighting work over my severance package as they aren't keeping in line with the law and are jeopardizing my unemployment benefits - which tbh is rather stressful as well even if I try to let it go) but most of me is simply glad I can stay home longer. I don't think I will SAH indefinitely but likely at least for the first year maybe 2? Won't go back to working FT no more tho.
5. Do you have any other questions for the group? Everybody keeps saying it is normal to feel the way I do, cause newborns are hard work and sleep deprivation and what not. Which I know. But where does normal end and not normal begin? Feeling like I am looking down on myself from above and that I am faking it with someone elses baby doesnt FEEL normal to me. Nor does the desperateness and other feelings I struggle with at timew. Should I be worried about PPD/PPA? I have a history of several major episodes through out my life.. this does feel different.. then again never before did I have a tiny human to take care of either. I just can't afford to fall apart so just keep going. Something feels off though but I can't put my finger on it. MH seemed worried earlier this week but then I have better days again and tis like he all but forgets what happened. I just dont know.
6. And feel free to share pictures!
7. Are you and the baby dressing up for Halloween? What will you be? Helloween isnt celebrated here booo (I am in Europe) but friends from the States send us this cute pumpkin onesie with matching hat and I cant wait to put D. in it.
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Post by piratecat on Oct 26, 2017 9:34:18 GMT -6
sleepymonkey, teeth? Standing up?? I'm not ready for these things! I love his smile.
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Post by ssm on Oct 26, 2017 9:48:32 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 9 weeks 2. What milestone have you hit recently? What new skills are they working on? She discovered different sounds and loves to babble. Grabbed a toy for the first time (with some help) and held in to it for a bit. She likes to kick her babygym rattle. 3. What new challenges are you working on currently? She doesn't love tummy time. Her neck muscles seem pretty strong and she holds up her head well while playing airplane (which she LOVES!) and other occasions but seems to forget during tummytime. Also working on getting her to nap in the bassinet rather then on me... 4. How are things going for you? Are you back at work? Staying at home? Things for me are going so so. Been having it superrough with lots of random crying and generally feeling low and like I couldn't breath and was faking this being a mom thing lately Taking things one day at a time. My maternity leave ends November 1st but I was laid off just prior to going on leave so there will be no returning to work for me just yet. Part of me is still pissed off (and me and my union rep are still fighting work over my severance package as they aren't keeping in line with the law and are jeopardizing my unemployment benefits - which tbh is rather stressful as well even if I try to let it go) but most of me is simply glad I can stay home longer. I don't think I will SAH indefinitely but likely at least for the first year maybe 2? Won't go back to working FT no more tho. 5. Do you have any other questions for the group? Everybody keeps saying it is normal to feel the way I do, cause newborns are hard work and sleep deprivation and what not. Which I know. But where does normal end and not normal begin? Feeling like I am looking down on myself from above and that I am faking it with someone elses baby doesnt FEEL normal to me. Nor does the desperateness and other feelings I struggle with at timew. Should I be worried about PPD/PPA? I have a history of several major episodes through out my life.. this does feel different.. then again never before did I have a tiny human to take care of either. I just can't afford to fall apart so just keep going. Something feels off though but I can't put my finger on it. MH seemed worried earlier this week but then I have better days again and tis like he all but forgets what happened. I just dont know. 6. And feel free to share pictures! 7. Are you and the baby dressing up for Halloween? What will you be? Helloween isnt celebrated here booo (I am in Europe) but friends from the States send us this cute pumpkin onesie with matching hat and I cant wait to put D. in it. Fwiw, my ppd felt much like you do. Disconnected and just off. I didn't deal with it when I should have and suffered for months before reaching out for help. Definitely talk to your husband/ob/pediatrician/someone. Get help before it worsens. HUGS! 💗💗
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Post by piratecat on Oct 26, 2017 9:48:45 GMT -6
muscari I'm sorry that you are having a rough time and I'm sure the work/benefits stress isn't helping one bit. My PP "blues" lasted 6-8 weeks before I started feeling better and less overwhelmed. If it doesn't feel normal to you I think it would be a good idea to talk to your doctor, especially given your history. You don't have to suck it up and suffer through this without help. Take care of yourself and there are a lot of us here to listen if you need.
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Post by teachermomtobe on Oct 26, 2017 10:30:08 GMT -6
muscari, being a mom is the most challenging thing I have ever done and I have moments like you describe but brief moments. However, if you are starting to wonder if what you are feeling is “normal” then I think it’s time to reach out to someone. You don’t need to feel that way. A healthy mom both mentally and physically is what baby needs!
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Post by thankfulsnail on Oct 26, 2017 10:54:07 GMT -6
1. How old is your LO? 6 months 2. What milestone have you hit recently? What new skills are they working on? We started sleep training over the weekend (but not night weaning) and have gone from being up every 2.5 hours for 30-60 minutes to only 2 wake ups for about 20-30 minutes. Also started BLW this week since he can sit unassisted now for about 5 minutes (the last milestone we were waiting on before starting). 3. What new challenges are you working on currently? Trying to get on a consistent night feeding schedule so we can start slowly cutting them shorter and eventually night weaning. If he could go back to the 10 hour stretches he was doing at night at 3 months, I would be thrilled. 4. How are things going for you? Are you back at work? Staying at home? I'm working 40 hours a week. DS is in the same in-home daycare as DD. I have know the daycare lady for 2 years so I trust her completely with the kids. It's also nice to know that he has his sister to watch out for him all day, too. 7. Are you and the baby dressing up for Halloween? What will you be? DS is going to be a narwhal. I don't dress up but he'll either go ToTing with DD or he'll hang out at home with me and pass out candy. Will try to remember to get to Tapa when I'm on my pump break to add a pic. Edit: Here’s my big 6 month old boy! PDQ
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Post by sleepymonkey on Oct 26, 2017 10:55:17 GMT -6
sleepymonkey , teeth? Standing up?? I'm not ready for these things! I love his smile. His teeth caught us by surprise. J didn't get her first tooth until just before she turned 7mo but O's first tooth popped in a week after he turned 5mo and the second was exactly a week later. I'm expecting the top 2 to come in any time now. As for the standing, I think he might end up being on the early part of the average. We can put him on the floor and he will hold our fingers and stand for a little bit. He has always preferred to be held upright rather than in a sitting position so I think he's motivated to stand. But if you put him on the floor in a sitting position, he will almost immediately topple forward or to the side. No desire to do that.
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Post by sleepymonkey on Oct 26, 2017 11:08:06 GMT -6
muscari, O was the same way with tummy time. He had great neck strength and head control but the minute you would put him on tummy time, his head instantly went down like he forgot how to hold it up. Only now at almost 6 months does he not mind (much) being on his tummy. As for the way you're feeling, that describes me a lot after I had my first. I felt like an imposter, like I wasn't really this baby's mom and it was all going to go back to "normal" anytime. I also went through a lot of "what the hell did I do?" moments and really mourned my old relatively carefree life. This made me feel really guilty, like I was a bad person for feeling this way, and that made my depression even worse. For me, going back to work after 8 weeks helped me a lot. I needed that part of my old life back, where I could just be an adult and not have to just be "mommy" 24/7. If I didn't have that, I definitely would have been looking into talking to someone about PPD. MH is a therapist and said he really thinks I was suffering PPD (which annoyed me because he didn't talk to me about it at all when I was going through it). Like others have said, no one knows you like you do and if this doesn't feel normal to you, definitely talk to someone. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
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Post by piratecat on Oct 26, 2017 11:19:45 GMT -6
thankfulsnail, J is still waking up every 2ish hours to eat, although it has gotten more sporadic and worse recently, I think with the 4-month regression in addition to trying to transition out of the swaddle. I need to figure out a sleep training situation soon, but I'm glad to hear that sleep training has helped with the wake ups for you. J does usually go down pretty easily for the most part - 30-60 minutes sounds brutal! sleepymonkey, J has been drooling and gnawing on everything for a while that I wouldn't be too surprised if a tooth popped up soon. Gosh, O might be walking in no time!
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Post by piratecat on Oct 26, 2017 11:21:51 GMT -6
thankfulsnail, also I'm hoping starting solids will really help with STTN. Even though J has been gaining enough I feel like he is waking up genuinely hungry at least most of the time since I have always struggled with low supply.
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Post by sleepymonkey on Oct 26, 2017 11:42:38 GMT -6
piratecat, if he tries to walk before 10mo, I'm pushing his butt down! H's nephew walked at 8mo and that is terrifying to me.
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Post by wannamimosa on Oct 26, 2017 12:33:10 GMT -6
Anyone know how I can change my avatar on tapatalk? I tried to do it but it seems to have only changed in the other place but not here...I don't like sad anonymous avatar person! If you go to the main screen of tapatalk .. click the little head icon to go to your profile. Then click on the avatar thingy and the next page lets you upload an avatar and make changes to your username. 😀 I tried that and it didn't change it for this forum, only elsewhere :/ I think I have to get on a real computer to sort it out!
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Post by piratecat on Oct 26, 2017 12:45:21 GMT -6
piratecat , if he tries to walk before 10mo, I'm pushing his butt down! H's nephew walked at 8mo and that is terrifying to me. 8 months, OMG. I'm not even ready for a crawler. I need a house cleaner, stat.
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Post by piratecat on Oct 26, 2017 12:45:39 GMT -6
Oops, duplicate.
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Post by piratecat on Oct 26, 2017 12:46:33 GMT -6
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Post by Taitai on Oct 26, 2017 12:48:14 GMT -6
muscari I can really empathize with how you are feeling - particularly the part about feeling as though you are an imposter mom. I felt that way often after I had DS1. I remember taking DS1 to a kids birthday party for a family friend when DS was 6 weeks old and not identifying at all with the other moms and feeling like I was a "fake" mom. I think I even said as much to my FIL, because it was such a striking feeling at the time. I will say that these feelings gradually got better with DS1, and I felt more "normal" once DS1 reached 1 yr. This time around withDS2, I feel much better...probably due to the fact I have more confidence about the parenting thing, given my experience with DS1. I think there is no harm talking to a doctor about how you feel. Parenting is hard and like others have said, you have nothing to be ashamed of. Feeling "off" is no fun. Big hugs.
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